baby sleeping on me

Kathryn - posted on 06/13/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My 4 week daughter will only sleep on me, I can not get her to sleep in a crib or bassinet . I think shes in a deep sleep, then put her down and instanlty wakes crying and it takes an hour to get her back to sleep. any suggestions?

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Brianna - posted on 06/21/2010

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i had that same problem what i did was sometimes i would just let her cry it out it may sound mean but it worked after like 5min of crying she usually fell alseep i wouldn't let her cry to the point of being stressed out but i did have to play the tough love also if u keep it up putting her in the crib when shes good and sleep she get use to it or my sister bought her this duck we called mr. waddles and i had him sleep with me and kept him on me so it had my sent when i tuck her in i would wrao him in with her and she started sleeping that way

Hayley - posted on 06/21/2010

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Hey kathryn - forget about what anyone else says to you - ask yourself - DOES IT BOTHER YOU??? I have four children and I absolutely LOVED the stage where they snuggle into you - of course, youdo have other things to do with your life - I found that for the first few months, my babies LOVED their rocker - this meant that you could do paper work or read and rock the baby with your foot - very helpful when you have a two year old that wants your attention - lol!! I dont know what other people do - but i have found that this is what worked for me. If it does bother you then you could ask a sleep expert and have a very rigid routine - which personally never worked for me.

Best of luck to you and I hope you get some helpful suggestions from somewhere!!

Angie - posted on 06/21/2010

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I have two sons 24 & 16 and one daughter 20 years. But never they slept with me because they had a big cradle and I went to the bed with each one of them. When they slept, I went to my bed.

Christine - posted on 06/21/2010

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take to lying down by her side when she is dowsing and stop cradling her constantly after feeding her place her on a seat comfortably or on a mattress then she'll get used to that

Lyndsay - posted on 06/19/2010

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Give it time. We went through this with my daughter and made ourselves crazy trying to get her into her crib. I had a minor breakdown and my six week follow up with my OB and she said, "My youngest son slept in his car seat next to my be for the first three months of his life because that was where he would sleep." She's young. Right now, what matters is that everyone gets some sleep in a safe place. Just keep trying the crib. One day at eight weeks old, my daughter decided to go to sleep in her crib and she's slept through the night ever since.

Megan - posted on 06/18/2010

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Try swaddling her nice and tight. I also used a book "Good night sleep tight" It was really helpful for my kids. It takes persistence but it has steps and doesn't require you to listen to a hysterical baby. It'd be good to start it early.

Emily - posted on 06/18/2010

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Just give it some time. Your baby is still so young. She will not have to sleep on you forever, even if you wanted her to!

Joanna - posted on 06/18/2010

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Of course they like to sleep on us... we carried them in our bodies for 9 months, so sleeping on us probably makes them feel safe. I enjoyed when my daughter would sleep on me (until she started getting too heavy), but when I wanted her to sleep at night or on her own I swaddled her, and it was a lifesaver (just like Sarah M said). Also, someone else suggested sleeping with a baby blanket to get your scent on it, I did that with the swaddling blanket which helped. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 06/18/2010

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Have you tried a swaddle???
Swaddles were a total life saver for me with my two! It keeps them all wrapped up so they feel nice and secure.
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This depends on if you are going to be a SAHM or a working mom. If you are a SAHM, like me, try using a baby sling. I got a really comfy, nice one from sleepywrap.com. I used to put her in that and let her sleep while I did my chores. I hardly noticed her. As she got older I am now able to put her down after she falls asleep. I enjoyed the closeness and, I figured, as her mother I am there for her comfort at that age.

Karla - posted on 06/15/2010

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I had this problem while my son was teething, I graduated to a swing too. Sometimes he would sleep there all night. Eventually he went to the crib. I think they miss the comfort of our heartbeat.

Catherine - posted on 06/15/2010

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I had the exact same problem with my son for awhile. Eventually he started sleeping next to me, which was a huge improvement. I also found that he slept well in his car seat.

Cherelle - posted on 06/15/2010

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I also had that problem with my son until he was about 5 weeks old.The best thing i found was to put him in his chair when he was asleep and if he woke up then cuddle him, but put him back in his chair after. He soon got used to sleeping in his chair. I then started putting him in his moses basket when he was asleep and eventually he got used to it. You could try doing something similar, or even putting her in her buggy and rocking her to sleep. Good luck

Phyllis - posted on 06/14/2010

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I slept with a crib sheet as my "blanky" for a couple nights to give it my scent, then put it on my sons mattress. Having my scent helped him stay calm.

Kathy - posted on 06/13/2010

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My daughter was like this also-I didn't mind when I wanted a nap. I found she slept good in her swing also. She spent many a night in her swing her first couple of months. When she was around 3 months she started sleeping in her crib. She would also nap on the couch when she was a newborn. I would place her on the spot I was sitting-all snuggled up against the back on her side with a blankie rolled up in front of her. Maybe it was my left over warmth but she would snooze good like-my son did the same when he came along. Of course, when they get older and more mobile-the couch becomes off limits!

Good luck finding her other happy place!

Julia - posted on 06/13/2010

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My youngest daughter who is now almost 9 months never started napping well until almost 6 months old.

Amy - posted on 06/13/2010

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That's how my daughter who is now 3 months started out. My husband would end up sleeping on the couch with her asleep on top of him. Now she sleeps from 9 to 9 waking maybe once or twice to feed at night, she puts herself to sleep a night! She's still a really bad napper but I would rather have a baby that sleeps through the night!

Melanie - posted on 06/13/2010

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I get emails from parents magazine and at three months I got this one, its awesome and it really works if you can be strong, it took my son about a week to completely learn to sleep by himself, but now he is a good independent sleeper, he will even fall asleep on his own when I put him down at night awake check this out, hope it helps you! http://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues...

Jennifer - posted on 06/13/2010

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I only had this problem when my girls had ear infections. In fact, it was the only way that I learned that they had ear infections since they didn't have the tell tale signs of pulling at the ear, fever, crying, etc. Otherwise swaddling them and putting then in the corner of the crib works for my girls. I've heard for other babies the swing, vibrating bouncy chair, putting clothes with your scent in the crib or bassinet and using the bears that simulate a heart rhythm all work. Try what you can try and make sure you talk to her pediatrician about what's going on. They've heard it all!

Julia - posted on 06/13/2010

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I had the same problem, I didn't want her only sleeping on me though because at some point they have to sleep in their crib and I never got a good sleep. I just continued putting my babies in their crib when I got them to sleep and if they woke up we would try again. It made for some long nights in the beginning but paid off when they started sleeping well in their cribs.

Sarah - posted on 06/13/2010

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i would not let her sleep on you! especially if you are planning on sending her to daycare! if she is used to only sleeping on you then when she is at daycare she will only sleep on someone there! if your daycare has more than just her there it will make it really hard on your daycare provider because they will either have to hold her and not be able to take care of the other kids or they will have to let her cry it out (which can cause them to get frustrated and really stressed!) i think the only thing you can do is try to get her to sleep on her own! if a child is tired they will fall alseep no matter where they are, she may cry because its new to her and she'd rather be held but sometimes letting her soothe herself to sleep is what works best or its what will only work! i would just keep working at it, like i said if she is really tired it won't matter where she is... she will fall alseep where ever! hang in there!

Jessica - posted on 06/13/2010

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I had this problem as well when my son was born...for about the first month he only wanted to sleep on me. Then I got him to sleep in his swing, which was one that was really comfy & rocked side to side. And it plugged into the wall, thank goodness because I would've gone through so many batteries!! :) Then eventually as he got older he moved to his bassinet, now he's in the crib. Just had to take baby steps. Maybe try the swing thing if you have one & see if that helps!!

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