bed wetting! wot can i do?

Nikki - posted on 01/04/2010

Its a frustrating issue which you cant control, I was a bed wetter until I was 11, just simply such a heavy sleeper I would not wake up to go to the toilet and no matter how many times I went to the toilet before bed or how much mum restricted my liquid intake I still wt the bed at least one every night. After a couple of years they bought me a water bed so they wouldnt have to wash mattress protectors, and air the mattress out.

Diana - posted on 01/04/2010

my father in-law told me what he use to do to my husbands sister when she wet the bed... i no it sounds mean but it only took 3 times of him doing it.... she was 3 or 4 too... when he would get woken up in the middle of the night cause her bed was wet... he would put her in the shower and hose her down... i no it sounds mean.. but tough love and it does help....

Jen - posted on 01/04/2010

I know how you feel, my son is 10 and still wets sometimes. I have gotten him in the habit of pulling off the sheets himself and I taught him how to wash them himself. My youngest son (8) has never wet the bed. I dont know if its psycological, or what but the doctor says there is nothing wrong medically. I think it may be hereditery as my brother wet until 11, and I was told my sons uncle wet until he was 13. I dont make a big deal out of it and Im hoping he will grow out of it.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/04/2010

All of the ladies who responded are awesome! I am so glad to see such support in a group! (Sorry, I just now read everyone's responses ...)

Elizabeth - posted on 01/04/2010

My son was driving me nuts with his bed wetting. You know what I found?

-Waking him at night only caused both of us less sleep.
-He actually is a deep sleeper, and to encourage lighter sleep, I gave him only a very light blanket.
-He wears pull-ups/underjam/goodnights every night (so worth the money when you think of time and stress of washing x amount of sheets/clothes each and every day. Believe me, I did that too!)
-Making him involved in the cleaning up process HELPS! My son is told each night that if he has an accident to change his pull-up, his jammies if wet, and get back in bed. If his sheets are wet, he needs to call for mommy or daddy and he has to help us change those as well as putting them in the wash in the morning.
-If there is no medical reason found, as the first gal who responded said, "They will stop in their own time. they aren't lazy or cruel, and I very much doubt they enjoy this any more than you do. they are old enough to pull their own sheets though, so buy a plastic waterproof mattress pad, extra sheets and blankets and more detergent for the washer. don't blame them or scold them for what isn't their fault."

I used to think that there was something wrong with my son. That the doctors missed something. That I was a bad parent. That my son was lazy. Then I realized that it is what it is. My son is healthy and growing at his own rate. If it means he wets the bed longer than I think he should, so be it. What we do at night helps him to gain awareness of his body and you know what? I actually had 2 nights in a row where he was dry! Of course, I know there will be set backs (growth spurts, etc) but right now, in this moment I know that I am teaching him to be aware of his body and to be responsible for himself.

Jess - posted on 01/04/2010

thanks for the comments ppl amy you have been a great help i dont know if it was a urologist we saw but i am going to find out! i was told to mesure every fluid oz that went in and out was told to to keep a diary of everything they did and drank the even took blood from them both that was a couple of years ago now and they still do it but i think i will chase it up again!!! and sharon i would never shout at them for it i was 11 when i stopped it but thanks for the concern coz i know a few ppl that do go to town on their kids for it so i know not to do it to mine :-) jacqueline it would never have crossed my mined to think it could be stress related thank you as they both have problems at skool with their behavor but sometimes its not them but still get the part blame will have to look into it didnt think this would help but gave it a try and now im glad i did thank you all xxxxxxxxxx

Karen - posted on 01/04/2010

They are probably very deep sleepers. The mattress pads, extra bedding, etc. and having them be able to change their own sheets without feeling punished or guilty is OK. Most kids grow out of this. Watch their sleep patterns and what events happened that day. You might find clues.

Jacqueline - posted on 01/04/2010

I was a bed wetter too, I stopped at age 11 but mine was actually caused by stress in my household the minute my father moved out I stopped wetting the bed. It might not be the same situation in your case but any kind of big change or stress can do it. Also try no liquids before bed time and definetely don't make them feel bad for wetting the bed. Good luck

Hazel Rodriguez - posted on 01/04/2010

I had my youngest that use to wet her bed & her Pants. It drove me crazy. I took her to the Dr & told him what was going on, he ran test well nothing was wrong.I stayed on her buns & asked 100 times a day & started to see a face pattern when she lied, she was just too involved with play & too scared to get up at night. She is 15 now and still is too involved and holds it too long.she doesn't wet the bed any more. I would say 1st step make sure nothing is medically wrong. Good luck.Haze

Amy - posted on 01/04/2010

They make pull ups for kids of their size/age. I have one that IS giving me the same proble. So, instead of him waking up and disrupting the household all night, we bought those for him and if he wakes up wet, his bed doesn't. He changes it himself if it happens. I know it sounds weird, but it is the way we have chosen to deal with it and it works for us. It may not for you. All I know is that my oldest (who's 13) stopped in his own time, and not a minute sooner! Do not punish them, don't even make a big deal out of it, just deal with it and go on until it stops. Making a big deal will just cause them to be insecure, and you don't want that. That will lead to other undesirable behaviors. Be patient, and deal with it, I guess! Good luck! By the way, u said there is nothing wrong medically, so does that mean they went to see a urologist lately and the urologist ruled anything medical out? Just curious.

Dalyn - posted on 01/04/2010

I have to agree. I had brothers that wet the bed til they were 10. And they have all turned out just fine! They are very successful in life. I'm sure it bothers you but if its genetic then there's nothing you can do. Buy them some depends to wear at night so they and you don't have to worry about the wet bed problem in the morning. And i'm sure they would thank you. It can't be very comfortable for them to sleep in and wake up to every morning... Good luck!

Sharon - posted on 01/04/2010

You can't do anything.



Stop panicking. No matter what henny penny says, the damn sky is not falling. translation? They will stop in their own time.



they aren't lazy or cruel, and I very much doubt they enjoy this any more than you do.



they are old enough to pull their own sheets though, so buy a plastic waterproof mattress pad, extra sheets and blankets and more detergent for the washer.



don't blame them or scold them for what isn't their fault.