Jeannette - posted on 04/17/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )
Hi all. My son is 17 months and just recently when my husband and I have put him down for bed, he sits and plays with his Scout toy and cries/yells sporadically for 40 minutes or so before falling asleep. I never really know for sure if he is tired or not, but a good indication is him rubbing his ear, then after I see that, I'll say something all the lines of "playtime was so fun, it's bedtime everyone" (I got that from one of his book) just to see if he will cry, meaning he isn't ready for bed or just sit there rubbing his ear. I usually try to go by if he woke up at 7, I put him to bed at 7. But now that his sleeping pattern has changed, if he wakes up at 7, I put him to bed at 8-8:15 and he's still up. I never did cio, he started sleeping 12 hours a night on his own at 9 months. The longest my husband and I let him go when he is crying is 10 minutes. But if he is sitting in his crib playing and only sporadically crying, then we leave him go.
Anyway, the main point of this post is I feel bad if he is still awake and playing for all that time, then he finally falls asleep. I feel like he's thinking, "hey, I'm awake and crying, but my parents won't get me." So then he just falls asleep. I know, I know, that probably sounds stupid. But then sometimes when I peek on him, he's just sitting in his crib, staring, not even playing and I feel sooo bad, I usually go get him. On a normal day, he wakes up at 7 naps from 1 to 3/3:30 and falls asleep at around 8:40 ish. But we put him down at like 8/8:15, if he starts showing sleepy signs. Should we just wait and put him down later?