Sandra - posted on 02/19/2010 ( 62 moms have responded )
i asked a question yesterday about not wanting my 4 month old to spend the night with her grandparents until she is old enough to talk.
i wanted to know why grandparents ask to keep their grandbabies overnight when they are so young.
I got some helpful advice, but a lot of you attacked me on there, and sent me some NASTY personal messages.
I did not feel the need to write the entire situation there because I was only trying to figure out why grandparents want their grand babies to sleep over, because my family wasn't close. I came one here looking for help, and I got attacked...so I would like to explain my reasons for not wanting my MIL to take my 4 month old overnight.
1) she doesn't respect my parenting choices..she believes in CIO and i do not.
2) She keeps trying to feed my baby, baby food, and I am not starting until she is 6 months old (Dr. recommended)
3) She doesn't respect my babys nap schedule (for 3 weeks I have had her on a nap schedule, and MIL tells me to let her stay up and play, which results in her being VERY cranky.)
the biggest reason is because my MIL and her husband are "functioning alcoholics" they drink everyday..She told her husband to come pick us up. (me, baby, and husband)I got in the car and could smell the booze off of him...i got out of the car and called her to tell her what happened, and that he was going to drive me and my baby while he was drunk...she asked him about it the next day, and called me to tell me "he was not drunk" I smelled it!!! (so did my husband for that matter) She tells me "I wont drink with her here, and I trust that she wont during the day, because I have spent full days with her, where she is sober...but at night I know shes going to get drunk, and I cant trust her with my baby.
There you go...my reasons for not wanting my MIL to take my baby overnight.
Please people, when someone comes on here asking a question, please answer them, but if you dont have anything nice to say...try not attack them, because you probably dont know the whole situation.