Heather - posted on 12/02/2008 ( 61 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been invited to a wedding 6 hours from where we live. We told the couple that we couldn't come unless we brought our 3-month-old with us. (I'm pregnant now and the baby will be 3 mos at the time of the wedding.) The wedding and reception are being held inside the hotel, so I planned to pop in and out of the reception (with the baby in it's carseat carrier) when it was sleeping or quiet. When the baby starts to fuss, I'd go back to our hotel room to hang out and breastfeed. Our 4-yr-old daughter will be spending the night at Grandma's house, but I feel that a 3 month old is too little to leave for an overnight trip. The couple getting married just told us that the reception is adults only. I explained that we couldn't be overnight away from a baby that small, wished them well and said that we'll be thinking of them on their special day. Since then, my husband has gotten several emails asking us to reconsider, asking us to leave both kids with my parents, asking us to bring a sitter along with us, etc. I'm willing to respect their wishes for an adults only reception... am I crazy in being annoyed because they're making US feel like bad guys for not coming to their wedding? (If it were only a couple of hours away, I would leave the baby w/my mom for the day, but not overnight.) Have any of you experienced anything like this? If so, how did you handle it?