Monica - posted on 08/31/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
A little history: 3 years with my husband (we just got married in July) and have been helping him raise his 4 children (now ages 6, 7, 9, 12). Moved in together in June after I bought a house. Bio-Mom has not been in the childrens lives much in the last 3 years due to drug issues and being in jail....
Bio-mom is getting out of jail this weekend and the last few months has been talking to the kids more and seeing them (visitation in jail) more.
I have been having issues with the kids more and more recently. Acting out, not respecting me or the house rules. Father has been really supportive and backs our rules with me.
Found out this morning that Bio-mom has been telling them they don't have to listen to me because Im not their mom. Ouch.
After raising them the last 3 years, seeing the youngest off on her first day of kindergarten, holding them when they cry cause they miss their mom, did school shopping this year all by myself, just being there and supporting them.. this hurts!
Advice? How do you get through rebelious kids? How to deal with Bio-parents disrespecting you? My most trouble child is the 7 year old daughter