Boys and Girls.. is there any major differences in bringing them up are boys harder than girls etc etc..

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Eileen - posted on 02/28/2009

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I think there are definately differences.. One I have noticed is that boys are naturally rougher than girls. I don't see though how a certain sex could be any harder than another to bring up though. It seems to be that all children are different and every parents experience of bringing up their child will be different to anothers :O)

Alesa - posted on 02/28/2009

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I have 2 girls - both are grown and my oldest is a mother of 4. By far, girls are more difficult to raise. My first grandchild is a boy and he was soooo much easier than either of my girls. Of course so much depends on the personality and each child is unique. I made the mistake of thinking I KNEW what I was doing when my oldest married &I had 1 left at home. NOT TRUE - these 2 girls could not have been more different. I suggest much prayer! I'm serious. But that goes for both girls and boys

Shelly - posted on 02/28/2009

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Catherine,



  As a mom of 3 boys and one foster daughter give me boys any day you don't have the drama with them like you do the girls...The only time it gets hard is when the boys hit about 12 or 13 when the hormones start racing through thier bodys then it starts getting fuzzy b/c as a mom we will never understand exactly what they are feeling thats were a man in thier life becomes important wheather it be thier dad or any other man that can help them through what they are feeling.  As moms of girls when they start going through the hormonal thing we have been there done that and can at least have some understanding on what they are feeling....so it's all a wash in the end as long as you don't bury them in the back yard when they turn into these crazed beings that you don't reconize!!!! LOL

April - posted on 02/28/2009

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My daughter is so much more motivated to learn and do new things. My son could care less. He just gets distracted by one thing after another...and he's kind of lazy...

Annie - posted on 02/28/2009

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i think boys are alot harder than girls.I have 11 year old twin girls and i don't remember them being as hard as my son is now.He' s very hiper, does not seem to want to do what you want him to do, and screams alot and throws tantrums when he doesn't get what he wants.I know alot of kids do that wether they are boys or girls, but my son seems to do it on purpose to make us mad.

Amie - posted on 02/28/2009

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Well in my own opinion it depends on their age. Boys do develop more slowly than girls and are just a pain in the behind mostly when their small (5 and under basically). I have 2 girls and 1 boy. I also have 2 younger siblings (sister and brother) I was a teenager when my mom had them. It went along the same lines pretty much. My daughter and sister are 7 years apart and good lord are they are like twins. Everything my daughter is starting to do now I can remember my sister doing. I love my kids! Don't get me wrong but wow, as girls get older they become a handful. My boy will be 5 this fall and he's slowly starting to out grow his stubbornness. He's by no means a momma's boy either, dad is his idol in all aspects. My girls are closer to me than they are to dad. But that's just our family. They are all a pain in the butt at one point or another but overall it evens out to them being the same difficult, independent, turning my hair silver and heart stopping kids. Just depends on the age. Our oldest is starting puberty too so that I know is part of the issue. My best friend laughs cuz she only has boys. She just thinks it's hilarious we're going to be having so many hormonal women in the house. =) I kicked her in the butt so it's alright. LOL!

Shelly - posted on 02/28/2009

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They each have their challenges.  When they are small, girls seem to be much easier.  They typically don't get into as much trouble and are more compliant.  However, I am told that when they reach the teen years, boys are easier.  They aren't as dramatic during those horrible years of puberty.  I have 2 girls and 3 boys.  They are all under 9 yrs old, so I am a bit worried about the next ten years myself!

Kelly - posted on 02/28/2009

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OOOH, Lori, I just read that you have a Diva too! Something will make my 7-year-old mad, and she will stomp, stomp,stomp down the hall and SLAM! her bedroom door. We just look at each other and shrug our shoulders; we never had anything like this with the boys! Makes me wonder what it'll be like when the hormones kick in.

Kelly - posted on 02/28/2009

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In my experience, with boys you are always saying, "now where are those kids and what are they up to?" and what they are up to is usually something you'd rather not have seen, or you're going to laugh and go grab a camera. With girls you never have to wonder what they are up to; they are always under your feet. Right from the very start, the boys are drawn to "boy" things (the very first time my first little baby boy played with "lego" type blocks, when he was not even two, he said "yook Mommy, a pow-pow!". He had made a gun. We are not gun nuts; my husband doesn't even hunt. Somehow he just KNEW to make a gun. Practically from birth, the boys liked cars, dinosaurs, and anything that could cause physical harm. The girls loved baby dolls and dressing up. I think these stereotypes came about for a reason. For example, how they would play with stuffed animals. Even as tiny tots, the boys would have one animal chasing another; the girls would wrap it in a blanket. I would not say that either sex is easier, or better. There are so many joys with both, and to have both is a huge blessing. But I know that they are wired different; it doesn't all come from environment. I will just say, because I feel strongly about it, that my guys are both very athletic and competitive in sports, but not physically "rough and rowdy" too much now, because I have never allowed it. I can't stand to see teenage guys that are always pushing, knocking down, or in some other way physically abusing each other for fun. This has always been a pet peeve of mine, and just recently in our state, a boy (I think he was 12) was accidentally killed in front of his school, because a friend accidentally pushed him in front of a bus. Kids get hurt all the time because of stuff like this. This is the type of thing I just don't see in girls (of course mine are young yet, but even in friends of my boys). Girls can be very mean to each other but its usually not physical. Well, thanks be to God for all types of kids right?

Lori - posted on 02/28/2009

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I believe that are "different' times that things will be harder, but, overall, I believe that girls are more difficult because they tend to have more "attitude". My children are girl, 7, boy, 6 and girl, 3. My son is so easy, but, as he gets older, there will certainly be discussions that will be left to Daddy. Thankfully, even though we are divorced, he plays an active role in his life. Otherwise, I will be buying a lot of 'raising boys" books. The girls, I think I can handle just about any situation that they bring my way. BUT, I can do without my 7 year olds DIVA attitude ;)

Amanda - posted on 02/28/2009

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Well both my kids are still young but I have a boy (2 yr.) and a girl (7 mo.). Here is my opinion so far.....my daughter has been much more needy as a baby. I mean when she wants something she wants it NOW and will go from zero to ticked off in 2 seconds flat!!! My son as a baby was very laid back and just went with the flow. He is still a very laid back child and doesn't mind change. However now that he is a toddler he is full of energy all the time, always on the go and never stops until nap or bed. It will be interesting to see if my daughter is a little less energetic as a toddler because my friends little girl is 2 1/2 and she is much calmer than my son is. Now this could be boy v. girl or just the personality of the child who knows.

Heidi - posted on 02/28/2009

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I am the opposite of Kerry, I have three girls and one boy. I will have to say that from my experiences so far that my girls have been much harder. Girls, at least mine, are much more detail oriented and moody. My boy has much more dramatic tantrums than the girls ever did but on everything else he could just care less. I can set clothes out for him to wear to school and without question he will get dressed. I can do the same for my girls and I will gut nothing but guff from them about everything from color to texture and back again. For reference my girls are aged 3,9 and 10. My boy is almost 8.

Catherine - posted on 02/28/2009

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Quoting Heather:



Quoting Catherine:




Quoting Heather:





I have one of each... my daughter is 8 and my son will be 5 in a few weeks... I don't think it is fair to try and say one is easier than the other... Situations are all different. For me my daughter has been more difficult but I believe that is due to her father and I being divorced and we both remarried. She has had a lot of life changing events in such a short time and that is difficult for her. I think moms may think boys are easier because boys just love moms better. Girls love their dads more and therefore give moms extra strife over things. Just one moms opinion.










 










 













Hi Heather








Yes and thats all im looking for, peoples opinions from experience....Im not suggesting that one is EASIER than the other!!









I apologize if I sounded rude... perhaps fair was the wrong choice of word.





Hi Heather



no problem, i am just very curious about it, i myself have 2 little boys 17mths and 2mths and i  sometimes feel like im going stir crazy with the older one. He is so wild sometimes i think he's possessed or something..lol... and then think are girls like this "i wonder" and my mum always say "boys are harder than girls" so just thought id put the question out there

Patricia - posted on 02/28/2009

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My own experience is boys are a lttle harder when they are younger, my son was always climbing up on the couch and then just throwing himself off he was always getting hurt - where my daughter's were much more cautious, but i'm noticing that now that my one daughter is older (she just turned 10) We are starting to deal the hormones and the moodiness that comes along with puberty- which is tough! So I think boys are a little harder as babies and girls are a little harder as they get older.

Heather - posted on 02/28/2009

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Quoting Catherine:



Quoting Heather:




I have one of each... my daughter is 8 and my son will be 5 in a few weeks... I don't think it is fair to try and say one is easier than the other... Situations are all different. For me my daughter has been more difficult but I believe that is due to her father and I being divorced and we both remarried. She has had a lot of life changing events in such a short time and that is difficult for her. I think moms may think boys are easier because boys just love moms better. Girls love their dads more and therefore give moms extra strife over things. Just one moms opinion.








 








 










Hi Heather






Yes and thats all im looking for, peoples opinions from experience....Im not suggesting that one is EASIER than the other!!





I apologize if I sounded rude... perhaps fair was the wrong choice of word.

Lisa - posted on 02/28/2009

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I have a boy thats is 4 and my little girl will be 2 in May so I havent gotten to really notice many differences. They both learned to walk and talk at about the same age. My daughter though is already being potty trained, she is so much easier than my son was. I think a lot of that is she watched the process of my son being potty trained and now she seems to think she is such a big girl because she is doing it now too. My mom has always told me boys are easier than girls. She had 8 kids, 4 boys and 4 girls and she said theres not much difference when they are young its when they are teenagers that you notice it. I agree that it may have something to do with mommas boy and daddys girl, I notice that a lot with my kids.

Catherine - posted on 02/28/2009

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Quoting Heather:



I have one of each... my daughter is 8 and my son will be 5 in a few weeks... I don't think it is fair to try and say one is easier than the other... Situations are all different. For me my daughter has been more difficult but I believe that is due to her father and I being divorced and we both remarried. She has had a lot of life changing events in such a short time and that is difficult for her. I think moms may think boys are easier because boys just love moms better. Girls love their dads more and therefore give moms extra strife over things. Just one moms opinion.






 






 






Hi Heather



Yes and thats all im looking for, peoples opinions from experience....Im not suggesting that one is EASIER than the other!!

Heather - posted on 02/28/2009

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I have one of each... my daughter is 8 and my son will be 5 in a few weeks... I don't think it is fair to try and say one is easier than the other... Situations are all different. For me my daughter has been more difficult but I believe that is due to her father and I being divorced and we both remarried. She has had a lot of life changing events in such a short time and that is difficult for her. I think moms may think boys are easier because boys just love moms better. Girls love their dads more and therefore give moms extra strife over things. Just one moms opinion.



 



 

Linette - posted on 02/28/2009

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i've got 2 boys one 7 and one at 20mths they can be difficult at times but aren't all kids, but i get a great pleasure from them both i've heard girls are worse than boys but i don't think that, i think it's how a parent raises them and the enviroment they're in.



hope that helps..



                                            linette.x

Kerry - posted on 02/28/2009

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i have 3 boys and 1 girl. my little girl has picked up things earlyer than my boys she walked and talked and done all the other things months earlyer than the boys did. plus she was so easy to potty train. yet my boys are less hypo and dont seem to get up to half the naughty things she does.

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