Breast feeding in public

Virginia - posted on 09/29/2009 ( 86 moms have responded )

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there has been a debate going on in facebook about breast feeding in public

now iam for breast feeding where ever and when ever it is needed but there are ppl out there that think its wrong still i want to know what ppl on here think.

is there a way that we can make this easier for mothers out there

when my kids where young i had all types of looks and being the person iam i did not give a s$%^ but i know there are young mums out there that this affects and it makes it hard for them to do what we all know to be natural and very healthy. let us band togeather to make this as easy as possible for all those mums that need us

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Chelley - posted on 10/02/2009

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Not all babies will let you cover them. I don't mean they fuss a little or pull the blanket off... I mean screaming, thrashing around, hitting you with her little fist, kicking, etc. Quite a display, I'll tell you that. Not that I really blame them; I think I'd get pretty ticked if someone kept throwing a blanket on my head every time I tried to eat. She refused bottles, and again, the tough love approach of just holding out until they give into a bottle didn't work with my child. She would just scream for hours until I returned.

As my child got older and other issues started popping up, we had some testing done. As it turns out, she has sensory processing disorder (SPD), which certainly explains that behavior. But of course, when she was a baby, we didn't know that. BTW, she's 4.5 now, and she STILL fusses/cries a bit every time she pulls a shirt over her head. She doesn't like hats or hoods, or even coats (fun in Michigan in the winter). It's just who she is. She still needed to eat, so I fed her in public without a blanket. If you think a normal baby gets fussy when they're hungry, you ought to be around one that has sensory issues. All sensations set them off, especially one as unpleasant as being hungry. Seriously, you have NO idea what it is like to live like that.

Besides, honestly, the only person who I cared about making comfortable was my baby. You are an adult... you can make yourself comfortable by say, looking away. She was a little baby totally dependent on her mom to make her comfortable. Sorry, you lose. My baby = 1; random stranger = 0.

Johnny - posted on 09/29/2009

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The normal, biological function of a breast is for feeding babies. Because they are sexualized, so many people have forgotten this. There is no need to hide, cover yourself, etc. unless that is what makes you feel comfortable. Anyone who has a problem with it is just ignorant to what is actually normal.

I have seen oodles of women breastfeeding in public, it's very common where I live. But I have never seen a woman "whip" her boob out. That sounds painful and people who say that are just silly. Most women I know just discreetly lift their shirt and latch on their child. If they feel better with a cover, then they use one.

And I want your kids to see me breastfeeding. I want them to realize it is normal and healthy and the best thing to feed a baby. Children are not yet warped by our sexual perversions and are not going to associate breasts with sex unless you tell them to. i want them to know how to feed their own babies, so that their children and children's children have the best nutrition possible.

Do the same people who are so offended by breastfeeding in public get offended by women in low cut shirts?

Cathralynn - posted on 09/30/2009

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So I'll just add another dimension. My daughter never latched and so I pumped cause I still wanted her to eat breastmilk, every two hours. I pumped wherever I could find an outlet, in the car, anywhere. You have to do what you need to do. Its hard to keep up supply without ever actually nursing. I covered up, but there is no way to diminish the sound of a breastpump! Can you imagine the looks I got! Who cares my daughter ate bm and I'm so happy she did, for a year. It was rough, and if moms can be understanding, that's a huge part of the population on your side. Please support not judge!

Sharon - posted on 09/29/2009

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Keep it under wraps and I don't care. I don't want to see your boob. Suckling your baby or not and I don't want my kids to see it.



I don't think you need to hide, just be discreet.

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Laura - posted on 07/20/2011

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I shouldn't have to cover myself, and in no way is breastfeeding my child like darting or having sex really how could you even compare those things to feeding a child? It makes me uncomfortable to have a blanket over my son, shouldn't ppl take my feelings into consideration if we are talking about feelings? It also makes me uncomfortable to see an over weight person in summer clothing, shouldn't they know that it bothers ppl and cover up? Or the fact that I am recovering from addiction, you ppl who don't have a problem with it should stop drinking around me and it should be banned from public use because its all about me.ita because we aren't use to seeing women breast feed is why it makes others uncomfortable. It use to make others uncomfortable seeing a woman in pants or to see them ride a horse unless they were side saddling it.I breast feed in public, uncovered to give other women the courage to do it. If no one starts then it will always be "in proper" just like everything else that use to be in heard of . So let's not talk about how natural it is because then less educated ppl start comparing it to bodily functions.

Laura - posted on 07/20/2011

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I shouldn't have to cover myself, and in no way is breastfeeding my child like darting or having sex really how could you even compare those things to feeding a child? It makes me uncomfortable to have a blanket over my son, shouldn't ppl take my feelings into consideration if we are talking about feelings? It also makes me uncomfortable to see an over weight person in summer clothing, shouldn't they know that it bothers ppl and cover up? Or the fact that I am recovering from addiction, you ppl who don't have a problem with it should stop drinking around me and it should be banned from public use because its all about me.ita because we aren't use to seeing women breast feed is why it makes others uncomfortable. It use to make others uncomfortable seeing a woman in pants or to see them ride a horse unless they were side saddling it.I breast feed in public, uncovered to give other women the courage to do it. If no one starts then it will always be "in proper" just like everything else that use to be in heard of . So let's not talk about how natural it is because then less educated ppl start comparing it to bodily functions.

Tristan - posted on 10/17/2009

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oh & to those who say they don't want their children to see breasts it's so silly!! if we want it to become more accepted then children being around it is part of it!! if children see it they will have a better understanding of what it is and because kids are impressionable they CAN HANDLE BEING AROUND it. they are better at accepting it as natural then most adults don't be silly!!

Tristan - posted on 10/17/2009

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Stick together! if we don't give in to those who are offended by it they WILL get over it. I've been asked in public to cover myself by an employee of the restaurant (she was an older woman, not that it matters how old she was but I have noticed more often then not it's the generations before us who tend to still think its indecent) but I told her sorry, he doesn't let me put blankets over his head & the rest of my breast wasn't showing anyway......she got over it! JUST STICK WITH IT!! don't let anyone tell you what to do it's not illegal for a reason ladies!! BUT one thing I do to minimize how much skin I'm showing I always wear a loose tank top on underneath my shirt for out in public, that way when I feed I pull up my top shirt and just bring one breast out over the top of the loose tank then let the top shirt slip down to his face covering the rest of my breast. I love to be fashionable & the layered look is so in anyway that I can easily still pull of cute outfits.

Sharleen - posted on 10/17/2009

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Quoting Amy:

I work in a Children's Museum so there are always mothers looking for a place to breastfeed. We encourage them to do whatever is comfortable, but also provide a private space if needed.

I was not able to breastfeed for medical reasons, but I am all for it. However, I do feel that you should be covered. There are a lot of things we do that are natural, but we still don't put them on display. It's natural to have sex, we do it in private. It's natural to have hair on our legs, many (probably most) of us still shave it, or hide it when it's there. It natural to fart, or pick a booger, we still try not to do it out in the open and on display.

My biggest issue is moms who just whip out a boob wherever they may be with complete disregard for the people around them. Mom's who don't cover, even in a family friendly, or family geared, place end up with ten year old boys staring at their boob before they get a baby there. The kids don't understand, all they see is a boob.

Again, totally, PLEASE breastfeed wherever you may be. But, I think it's important to use a cover just to be polite. It make some people uncomfortable to see your boobs, and just because you are comfortable with it does not mean that other people's feelings shouldn't be taken into consideration. Most people don't have an issue with it, and they certainly don't think poorly of you for breastfeeding, they would just like if you were more polite about it.


This couldn't have been said better. I respect any mother who breastfeeds. It takes a lot of committment or dedicaiton to give the time it takes to breast feed a baby. It's not always convenient. Baby's can be very demanding. If you have to luxury of not having to work outside the home, enjoy every minute with your baby. I didn't breastfeed and there were times I considered it through my 4 boys, but I was concerned with what society said and passed on the opportunity. It's a beautiful, natural experience that all of us don't get. God Bless You.

Sharleen - posted on 10/17/2009

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This couldn't have been said better. I respect any mother who breastfeeds. It takes a lot of committment or dedicaiton to give the time it takes to breast feed a baby. It's not always convenient. Baby's can be very demanding. If you have to luxury of not having to work outside the home, enjoy every minute with your baby. I didn't breastfeed and there were times I considered it through my 4 boys, but I was concerned with what society said and passed on the opportunity. It's a beautiful, natural experience that all of us don't get. God Bless You.

April - posted on 10/17/2009

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I have breast fed all 3 of my children, and never once have I been worried about what other people thought about it. If you choose to feed your baby formula out of a bottle that's fine, but I have chosen to breast feed. I do try to cover my chest for the most part but I will not cover my childs head, I don't eat with my head covered by a blanket so she should'nt have to either it's hot and I think it's mean :( People need to grow up, how do they think children where fed before thay had bottles????

Alexi - posted on 10/17/2009

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I sooooooo love breastfeeding debates!!!

What on earth is there to debate ladies?
a MOTHER HAS TO FEED HER CHILD!! fact.
Whether by breast or bottle is irrelevant. if we cannot be supportive of each other as woman/mothers, then we have no hope in getting the rest of society to support breastfeeding.

I am a breast feeder. I am on my 4th baby. And I a fed them all by breast. Now, my daughter, age 6 months now, always had a problem latching on. She was a great feeder but it took some time to get the latching on right. because of that, i stayed at home for the first month to practise, only going out between her feeds. She was very regular with feeding so i was lucky. but now, i can feed her anywhere and everywhere. i am discreet, as are most breast feeding mothers. I really truly do not understand the problem surrounding breastfeeding!!! It has me stumped.

Kelly - posted on 10/15/2009

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I think you use your discretion about where your comfortable. I personally feed my baby when and where I find he needs and have only had two incidents I felt uncomfortable - dinner with my great uncle (English) and urology waiting room (lots elderly men). I think there is another issue about the older a baby gets the more distracted and difficulty to feed - thus perhaps needing quiet space. It is fantastic if there is somewhere provided and the mum can choose. Also who really wants to be around an upset baby and if feeding is the answer - who wouldnt want that?

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I breastfeed my son, and I have no problem whether other mothers cover or don't... when i'm in public, it depends on my surroundings as to whether i even bother to cover up. But, my son hates not being able to see while he eats, so even if I do cover up, the blanket usually gets yanked off. As far as I'm concerned, do what's comfortable for you. Society today is so screwed up about breastfeeding. It is the most natural thing for your child. You wouldn't cover up a cow nursing it's calf or a dog nursing her puppies. Why is it "dirty" to nurse your child?

Antonett - posted on 10/13/2009

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nobody blinks when you give a child a bottle, nursing is Gods way natures way and if you good with it sc--w everyone else :) Gabriel is 17 months old and we aren't shy unless it's a modest place, but then a blanket is all you need

Tiera - posted on 10/04/2009

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Nobody forces others to look. I don't want to flaunt my breasts, but if my baby needs to eat I'm going to nurse where ever I feel comfortable.

V - posted on 10/04/2009

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I believe that a mother has the right to breastfeed her child anywhere. but i also believe that the people around her have rights as well. I cover up when breastfeeding. my breasts are for my child, not the world.

Kait - posted on 10/04/2009

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I was unable to breastfeed my first daughter once I went back to work, but was able to breastfeed my second daughter until she was 13 months old. I am a VERY VERY modest person and felt more comfortable covering up; I always made sure I had a blanket with me. When daughter #2 got tired of being covered, I found that dressing rooms work very well, and one of the malls near me has a breastfeeding room. I think there are enough advances in nursing wear (including shirts and bras) that even without a cover the casual observer doesn't see much, if anything. Not to mention the slings and carriers now available that allow moms to have the baby at any angle.

Kathy - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting judith:

after all thats what god gave us breasts for not to be ogled at but to feed our offspring, the best and the easyiest way it wasnt made for mens pleasure, at all, but for the soul purpose of feeding, my daughter is brest feeding and good on her more people need to do this ,balls to anyone that thinks its it is crude ,,etc.


Thank you for that, Judith. Whenever my husband uses that male term for bravery (balls) I tell him it takes more guts to have ovaries. LOL! You ladies are proving that for sure!

Kathy - posted on 10/04/2009

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Unfortunately one of the Eurocentric facets of our society has been to sexualize breasts which are not sex parts. How can it be and why should it be that using breasts for the most wonderful reason they were intended be wrong? Using breasts for sexual titilation in public is wrong. Using breasts for the way God intended is very right. When the tension of public scrutiny is added I do believe that this is what keeps young mothers from nursing as long as they should and make sit difficult for others to start in the first place. I read somewhere that it is best for a child physically and emotionally to be able to nurse until about 3 but in the US we have a tendency to stop at between 6 months and a year. I was a working nursing mom and I nursed my now 23-year-old until she was 2 1/2. When she was a tiny infant I used a little blanket or cloth diaper in nice quiet places. I had those fantastic nursing bras and a couple of shirts where the pockets had a Velcro strip. No one seemed to mind. Or maybe I had a most intimidating look that kept them away. LOL! When she was an older baby, she seemed to sense these places and that best most comfy place for the both of us was on our big comfy sofa. My mother was most concerned. Being from the older generation where solid food ASAP was a must to fatten up babies and formula companies pushed formula down their throats had her thinking I was out of my mind and leaving her and my dad out of the feeding process for their first grandchild. I had to explain breast pumps to her.

Cindy - posted on 10/03/2009

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My baby is 1 1/2 years old. I still breast feed. I dont care what ppl say, think or comment. It's your choice. Who ever does not like it $%@%%@%!!

Kathryn - posted on 10/03/2009

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as far as breastfeeding in public its what makes you comfotable .my granmother said in her day they use too have too put a hankie over the hole breast when they feed because they never had the clothing @etc that we have today an it was never a dissuson about where they did no one took any notice which i think its quite funnie because in that era they had alot more morals @princeable than we have or they ues too think they did ,so why has it became such a issue .where spose to be such a more liberated socitey THINK ABOUT IT GIRLS anyway you see more bobs on beach these day than some one feeding a BABY so are we all going to stop going too the beach because [as aussie ]would say look out white pointer s are about.

Jamie - posted on 10/03/2009

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Quoting Chelley:

Jamie - that's illegal. Your DCP is 100% wrong on that.


 



Yeah I know that, but I had no idea what to say. I just felt very uncomfortable. After that I was like you know what I am going to let anyone make me feel like I can't breastfeed my daughter in public. I did it anywhere whenever she was hungry. I did cover up b/c I was more comfortable that way.

Brenda - posted on 10/03/2009

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Quoting Alyssa:

The bottom line is that those of us that choose to cover up and those of you that don't will never agree. It's really just a personal preference and no amount of arguing will change either group's mindset. The most important thing is that we're doing the best we can for our babies in giving them the healthiest and most natural food available.



AMEN!!!

Brenda - posted on 10/03/2009

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I breastfed my youngest son and did it in public. If you do it under a blanket I see no problem with it. You are not showing anything to the public and with practice you can become very discreet. People won't even realize your doing anything.



I suggest practicing at home.

Jamie - posted on 10/03/2009

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I just had my first child in Jan of this year and I breastfeed her. I felt uncomfortable in public feeding b/c ppl would give me weird looks and I was once going to breastfeed her before I left her at daycare and I was told I couldnt breastfeed in public and I had to go to a room by myself. I didnt know what to say, so I went to another room. There is nothing wrong with mothers breastfeeding there children. It is a natural thing.

Kate CP - posted on 10/03/2009

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I breastfed in public all the time. I tried to cover but Sam would just pull the blanket off. I actually ended up exposing myself MORE if I tried to use a cover-I would just pop open my shirt under the cover and when Sam latched on she would yank the blanket off. Hello, boobies! So I stopped covering. I don't think people even knew what I was doing most of the time. At one point I was nursing her while shopping (I had a baby sling) and my husband came over and stroked her head asking if she was sleeping. I said no, she's nursing right now, and boy he was surprised. He couldn't even tell. As long as you're calm and comfortable with it most people won't even notice. It's when you're nervous and acting unnatural that people try to see what you're doing.

But, yea....if you don't want to see me nurse my baby then don't look. :)

Elizabeth - posted on 10/03/2009

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I breast-fed 5 children for about a year each. In all that time I only recall being desperate enough to BFd while on a bench at the mall. Babies don't 'latch on' well in a crowded environment or if Mom is uncomfortable, so naturally we seek a quiet/ private place. When that's not an option, try to be both as discreet and as natural as you can.

I never got the whole blanket thing, but wearing a nursing bra and pulling my shirt out of the way-babies head seemed to be all the cover I needed. Practice at home,etc. There are always opportunities where a mother can chose to leave a gathering for privacy or stay and chose discretion. My 4 sisters all BFd too, so it was a common thing during visits and gatherings.



Don't ever let anyone make you feel uncomfortable about breastfeeding. I never changed a diaper in public if I could avoid it-and never fed in public IF I had a choice....if ya have no choice, don't feel awkward-just do it.

Judith - posted on 10/03/2009

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after all thats what god gave us breasts for not to be ogled at but to feed our offspring, the best and the easyiest way it wasnt made for mens pleasure, at all, but for the soul purpose of feeding, my daughter is brest feeding and good on her more people need to do this ,balls to anyone that thinks its it is crude ,,etc.

Judith - posted on 10/03/2009

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Quoting Virginia:

Breast feeding in public

there has been a debate going on in facebook about breast feeding in public
now iam for breast feeding where ever and when ever it is needed but there are ppl out there that think its wrong still i want to know what ppl on here think.
is there a way that we can make this easier for mothers out there
when my kids where young i had all types of looks and being the person iam i did not give a s$%^ but i know there are young mums out there that this affects and it makes it hard for them to do what we all know to be natural and very healthy. let us band togeather to make this as easy as possible for all those mums that need us


 

Cindy - posted on 10/03/2009

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I think you're wonderful and very gutsy to do what's right for you and your baby, regardless of the general public's view. If you are covering your bare breast while you feed the baby, who should care??? I breastfed the last two and had a hard time keeping the receiving blanket I used over me properly. Now, having seen a better solution to that from seeing my friend's daughter-in-law and her son, they have created a poncho that is simply slipped over the mom's head. You're covered, no dropping the blanket, etc., and you can feed your baby in private.

Pam - posted on 10/03/2009

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my husband (at the time) really was insecure about my breastfeeding in public, so it made it very awkward for me. we lived in italy, and i always had to find a restroom or an out of the way place. i even missed seeing the "pieta" in rome because i was nursing while everyone else went to see it. i will probably never get over those bad memories and i think it carried forward to my children, because they both naturally stopped nursing at 6 months. so, if you want to nurse, do it with pride. i'm not saying flaunt your breasts. be modest, but it is godly and natural. we shouldn't have to hide or be made to feel awkward or ashamed!

Allison - posted on 10/02/2009

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If your baby is hungry now, do you make it wait until everyone else is more comfortable or do you feed on demand to ease their aching tummys? I feed on demand, support breastfeeding in public places. Here, here.

Samantha - posted on 10/02/2009

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breastfeeding=good. creepos=bad. natural=yes. puritan ideals=something we'll deal with till time ends. but feed on! yea, be cool, cover up if you can. my babies outweighed any weirdos or uptighty types, but i tried to cover up when i could. i loved feeding my babies! if you can't or don't want to, that's cool too. but boobies rock!

Tamara - posted on 10/02/2009

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Before there was formula every woman had to breast feed in public! Let other people think what they want! People are too judgemental. Just let the babies eat!!!

Bobbi - posted on 10/02/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

I think that it's completely fine to breastfeed in public, babies have to eat. I do however believe that covering up and being a little modest is also important.


I agree totally. I did breast feed but could most of the time go out of the public eye to do it. But if it has to be done in public I think it should be covered up.

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Jaqueline - posted on 10/02/2009

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My grandfather once told me to go nurse my baby in the bathroom (we were out in public). I told him "why do't you go eat your sandwich in the bathroom". why should you hide feeding your baby? I think the whole thing is obserd. Nursing is the most beautiful and natural thing.

Stephanie - posted on 10/02/2009

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I breast feed all 3 of my children. It did not matter if we were in public or not, just use a thin blanket. It is natural after all.

Annelise - posted on 10/02/2009

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I personally was unable to breastfeed and yes like everyone else has said it is quite natural and if you feel that you’re comfortable doing it in public then go ahead just have some demureness about it.

Carissa - posted on 10/01/2009

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When I was breast feeding with my first, it felt weird doing it in public and I found this thing that goes around your neck so it hides the baby and your boob! It was great, now that I'm pregnant with my second I'll be able to nurse in public right away since I saved it!

Stephanie - posted on 10/01/2009

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how ironic that breastfeeding discussions become so hostile among MOTHERS. i have yet to see such spirited and spit-laden talks between women about our "the more cleavage, the better" fashion culture. We parade around, scantily clad, competing with one another for the attention of men, and then berate each other for feeding our children. how would the world change if we, instead, used our valuable time and energy looking for ways to support each other?

Kylie - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting Sharon:



Quoting Lisa:

Breasts feed babies. Their purpose is not to titilate men. Expecting a mother to cover herself to nurse just feeds subconscious negative feelings that breasts are dirty.

I second Carol- kids NEED to see breastfeeding mothers. Maybe eventually some future generation won't be so backwards as this one in our western culture.

This article is excellent- our culture could learn a thing or two: http://drmomma.blogspot.com/2009/07/brea...






You're wrong.






"I" am their mother.  "I" decide what my children may or may not see.  Not you.






 






Again - I don't think BF'ing moms need to hide in dark rooms or closets or, god forbid, bathrooms, a bench in the mall is fine, as long as they are covered up.  My kids have asked what the woman was doing and I've answered honestly that she is feeding her baby.






 






My kids have seen more BFing than they have formula feeding babies - as far as I can tell.






 






But to the woman who pulled her shirt off her shoulder and down below her breast - she's a dirty bitch for exposing herself in public.  If that was the only shirt she had to wear that day - she should have found elsewhere to breastfeed and I don't give a shit how hungry her baby was.





well i fed my baby in public that way today..whats the difference whether you pull your shirt up or down. I expose more flesh at the gym or beach. My bubs was crying and hungry, my top was stretchy and easy to pull off the shoulder so what the big deal, it was a 5 minute feed in the corner of a cafe..I'm certainly no dirty bitch!

Stefanie - posted on 10/01/2009

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I don't let it bother me, and don't notice if I get looks. I actually get possitive comments. Unfortunatly, my son (6 1/2 months) doesn't like to be covered up anymore, so I have to go out to the car to BF. Hopefully he gets over that, since the snow is coming soon!

Breast is Best!!!!!

Alyssa - posted on 10/01/2009

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The bottom line is that those of us that choose to cover up and those of you that don't will never agree. It's really just a personal preference and no amount of arguing will change either group's mindset. The most important thing is that we're doing the best we can for our babies in giving them the healthiest and most natural food available.

Jennifer - posted on 10/01/2009

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I am confortable BFing my son in public but 9 times out of 10 I use a cover becuase I know it makes others uncomfortable. But I really only do it for the benefit of others. His body covers pretty much everything and when he pulls off I can cover my nipple pretty fast.

Jess - posted on 10/01/2009

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Well, I think that it should be up to the individual. I was very unlucky with my oldest I couldn't get him to attach properly, so only fed him bout 2 weeks on breast. My youngest I tried my hardest to feed but again after a few months had to add bottles, the thing is with my youngest I felt that if I fed out and about with a blanket over me, ppl would look down upon me or just stare so this made me feel as if I had to find somewhere where I had privacy. I am a young mum and I think wow I had a blanket and a babies head covering it, but if I was in a bikini no1 wouldve looked twice and the babys head covers more than a bikini does, let alone with a blanket.

What is the problem people?

I actually respected a mum on the bus today her baby was hungry and she discreetly fed her child while on the bus, it was so discreet at first I just though she was cuddling her child and this was without a blanket discreetly.

Dana - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting Amy:


My biggest issue is moms who just whip out a boob wherever they may be with complete disregard for the people around them. Mom's who don't cover, even in a family friendly, or family geared, place end up with ten year old boys staring at their boob before they get a baby there. The kids don't understand, all they see is a boob.

Again, totally, PLEASE breastfeed wherever you may be. But, I think it's important to use a cover just to be polite. It make some people uncomfortable to see your boobs, and just because you are comfortable with it does not mean that other people's feelings shouldn't be taken into consideration. Most people don't have an issue with it, and they certainly don't think poorly of you for breastfeeding, they would just like if you were more polite about it.


It's not disregard.  If you don't like it, don't look.  If your son doesn't know that's what boobs are for, that's your problem and not mine.  Teach your son that breasts are for feeding babies and not for gawking at and the issue is gone.



I don't understand this "oh, sure, breastfeed in public but OMG COVER YOURSELF" thing.  It's not in public if I have to cover myself.  Not to mention, some babies will not tolerate a blanket over them while they're eating.  I know I certainly won't, why should my baby?



Whenever we talk about this subject someone invariably brings up the "pooping/farting/peeing/having sex" argument and that's absolutely ridiculous.  It's FOOD.  I'm feeding my child.  I wouldn't cover my child when bottlefeeding or spooning food into her mouth and I certainly won't when she's breastfeeding.  If you don't know the different between food and urine, remind me to never eat at your house.

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LOVE IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If they want to get offended then why are they paying enough attention to see enough to be so! if baby is feeding then there isn't even a nipple to be seen get over it world At 19 I hid in dressing rooms and everything at 27 I bare them to world whhhooo hooo and breast feeding boobs are not attractive lol well mine aren't lol So look out granpa cause you'd be the only one interested ha ha ha

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Personally, after having my son in February and breast feeding him from then to the present that nursing a baby in public is fine; HOWEVER, be polite about it. I've seen too many moms that expose themselves no matter who is around. If you're in mixed company or simply with other women that are uncomfortable with it, use a blanket or covering. It's not that difficult. After all, we all know of a situation that someone else had made us uncomfortable and a little consideration for others goes a long way.



Also, as a wife, I don't want my husband seeing another woman's exposed breast, just as I don't want him to see a woman with skin tight clothes and massive cleavage bouncing out of her shirt. Nor, do I want to be the woman that causes another woman's man to look at me.



Oh, and as a breast feeding parent, my children will be well acquainted with the use of a mother's body. I don't need my children seeing some one else's.

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when the baby needs to eat, the baby needs to feed...I did not want to imprison myself to just staying at home everytime I breastfed? what's the point to that. I always just carried my breastfeeding shawl and wipped it out every time I needed to nurse. One time a young lady gave me a dirty look, it made me feel awkward, but I chalked it up to immaturity and lack of experience. Let's just keep nursing these babies Lady!

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I think that it's completely fine to breastfeed in public, babies have to eat. I do however believe that covering up and being a little modest is also important.

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It's funny to me how some women, including a few on here, get sooo offended by public breastfeeding, because their children might see it. Oh gosh, your kid saw a boob. Seriously, compared to the violence all over society, people walking around with gang tattoos and the like, scantily clad women, and inappropriate slogans on t-shirts, a breast being used to nurse a baby is the strangest thing to get worked up about. It is not as if she's engaging in a sexual act. I have only once seen a woman expose her whole breast while nursing, and I just thought she was a weirdo, not something that I worry at all about having my children see (they see plenty of worse things).

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