Breastfeeding baby doll

Ginny - posted on 04/03/2011 ( 139 moms have responded )

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Just interested in hearing everyone's thoughts about the new breastfeeding baby doll. If you haven't seen it, you can see it on YouTube.

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Jennifer - posted on 04/03/2011

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i honestly have to say i hate the idea of a toy like that, yes it has it advantages, but breastfeeding is something that mothers do with there babies, i dont think that little girls should be introduced to things like that until they are old enough to have sexual eduacation in school (although the school board in canada seems to be movin the age for sex ed, a lot younger than i agree with) i only have a son, but i do have to young neices, and when this toy came on tv one day, i was soo apolled by the fact that someone would even think about giving a toy like this to a child i had to change the chanel, kids dont need to understand what breastfeeding is like until they have hit puberty, thats when their bodies are capable of reproducing, thats when they should be introduced to things like this, not little children, but thats just my opinion, others may disagree

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I must be a terrible mom. Before my baby was born, I talked to my two year old about breastfeeding. She already knew what "boobies" are because she's seen me in the shower and changing clothes...gasp. When preparing her for the arrival of her sister we talked about how boobies are for feeding milk to babies. One day she was talking to the baby in my belly and she said very matter of factly, "Hey baby, drink milk, mama's booby." Now that baby is here, the toddler will immediatly tell her to drink milk when she cries. My toddler hasn't yet immitated the act of breastfeeding. But she certainly knows what it is. Oh and my three week old has been fed in the middle of a church service, while my friends sang happy birthday to me (this included MEN), at two different restaurants, and while I was walking around a plant nursery. :)



I niavely thought that breastfeeding was the norm until I took a childhood development class in college. Why? Because everyone in my family breastfeeds...and does so openly. And to think that there is a correlation between this and sexualizing little girls and making them be "adults" too soon? Bull. I was also niave about sex and didn't understand it fully until a college biology class. And I didn't lose my virginity until I got married. My mom and aunts and cousins breastfeeding in from of me somehow took away my innocence...whatever. More like it normalized a natural, healthy way that moms nourish and comfort their children.

Johnny - posted on 04/09/2011

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Breastfeeding is normal. Breastfeeding in public is normal. Children imitating their mothers breastfeeding is normal. None of these activities are inappropriate, immoral, or wrong. They are normal human behaviors.



This doll is ridiculous though. Who needs an expensive doll for their kid to do this with? Most kids who do it use a normal doll of any kind.



A child breastfeeding a doll is equally as appropriate and just as good a learning action as a child bottle feeding their doll.



And seriously, comparing breastfeeding to sex? Weird. Very weird.

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Wow, this could be great for we childbirth educators and midwives, and AWESOME for "siblings-to-be" to prepare for mama having her arms full.

But @Jennifer Warren, are you really serious? Breastfeeding is one of the earliest things regarding the human body that kids (especially girls) *should* be exposed to!!! There's nothing sexual about it! It's just that philosophy that keeps people from supporting nursing as a normal thing that women DO! Whenever I see someone nursing, I always make it a little nudge of conversation with my kids. I only wish I had MORE of those opportunities!

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Breastfeeding in public is not inappropriate unless bottle feeding in public is also inappropriate.... It's feeding a baby. What? A kid doesn't have the right to eat just cuz Mommy has to be out and about? I don't THINK so!

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Jami - posted on 04/15/2011

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I personally feel more or less indifferent about it. However, I STRONGLY disagree with those here with one-sided views who are lashing out with those with different opinions! I see where this ridiculous doll could cause some major problems whether you think im misinformed about my breasts or not! What happens when your young daughters raise up their shirts in public pretending their baby doll is suckling at their underdeveloped teets and some sexual offender is drooling over them? give them dang bottles and get over mainstream bfing! Its not women falling into the belief that breasts are sexual! Its perverts! And I plan on protecting my children from pervs vs. exposing them to "better society " because some of these women are not realizing how selfish they are acting. period :) I say this from personal experience being sexually abused as a young child ! I think the doll is ridiculous but whatever floats your boats lol.

Ginny - posted on 04/14/2011

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Thank you all for sharing your thoughts on this topic. It was very interesting reading everyone's views on it. Since we got a lot of deferent views, I think I will close this now. Thank you all again for sharing your thoughts

Holly - posted on 04/14/2011

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I think there is no harm in teaching a child how babies were meant to eat. I know some moms didn't/couldn't BF and that could be a good way to teach a girl so she'll have that knowledge and maybe end up BFing her children.

Marie - posted on 04/14/2011

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haven't seen the doll, but really? who cares? how is bf ever a bad message to send kids? i bf my 2mo old w/ a 6yo girl and 9yo boy at home. they sit next to me and talk to baby while i nurse him. it's a normal part of our lives. i wish everyone could see it hat way. i wouldn't buy the doll, but seriously, they shouldn't learn how bodies function till puberty? Come on, little girls ( and boys!) imitate everything their mommies do from putting on makeup to making a grocery list and , of course, feeding their babies.

Billie - posted on 04/14/2011

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And Cheryl, I do not think that a breastfeeding doll would make a child want to have a baby too soon...that is plain ignorance. I think that the way baby dolls are now, they feed into a child's fantasy about how easy and cute babies are to take care of. Having a breastfeeding doll will not change that.

Billie - posted on 04/14/2011

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I think it's just as natural as having a baby that pees. What's so wrong with having a breastfeeding doll when you have baby bottles designed specifically for babies? They're both forms of feeding, there's nothing disturbing about a breastfeeding doll. Before my sister spent the summer with me 2yrs ago when I was still breastfeeding my firstborn, she didn't know what I was doing because she had never heard of breastfeeding. I was so happy to be able to introduce her to it. We have to teach others and show more support.

Jenni - posted on 04/13/2011

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@Aleah- yeah I forgot how gross and perverted breastfeeding is. We should all be ashamed. Our daughters should learn to be ashamed of it too.

Heidi - posted on 04/13/2011

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I think everyone is allowed their own opinion on the subject, I personally would not allow my daughter to pretend to breastfeed, as said before I would explain to her how this is something grown up mommies do with their babies, and not something little girls do with their dollies

Aleah - posted on 04/13/2011

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I Do not agree with the idea of a breast feeding doll its the dumbest idea I ever heard this is why lil girls are to grown now I wish somebody would buy my daughter that doll it would go right in the trash and to all the mothers on here that think its right y'all are sick!

Kim - posted on 04/13/2011

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Not crazy about any dolls that drink, pee, or do other things. BUT I was charmed watching my daughter nurse her baby dolls as I nursed her baby brother. Someone else objected to girls even pretend nursing but girls emulate mommy. They pretend cook, take care of babies, pretend clean and all the rest, so why not nursing too. She also sometimes called her daddy "honey." I guess it's a good thing I call him nice names. ;) I would not worry that they want to be mommies too soon. It's not about that. It's about the person they adore most in the world--mommy--and doing what she does. Women save their most personal acts for behind closed doors and so little girls don't even know about them, hopefully, until we are ready to introduce them to those ideas. But nursing is not hidden. Or at least it wasn't in my house. Yes I used a modesty blanket, but my girls knew what was going on. There were conversations about brother having lunch and in few minutes we will have lunch. It was just another of the many activities that mommies do to take care of the family.

Cyndi - posted on 04/13/2011

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Maria Angeles, I totally agree with you. I don't mind the concept of the doll, it's the nursing vest that puts me off to it. I hope I have made a positive influence on my 2 boys and girl that breast milk is best and perfectly natural:)

Maria Angeles - posted on 04/13/2011

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The name of the doll is Bebe Gloton by Berjuan, a Spanish toymaker. It has been on shelves for 2 years in Europe, this spring it will come to the USA. It can be viewed on You Tube. I saw the viewing on You Tube "breastfeeding baby doll shown on Good Morning America", which is where I first saw the controversy. They have a panel of three little girls voicing their opinion, which in their innocence saw nothing wrong and liked the doll. They also showed some parents, a representative from the toymaker, and a psychiatrist. To confuse this doll to teaching a child about sex, pregnancy, and labor pains is ridiculous. In my opinion, a Barbie doll is more sexual than this doll. Don't take me wrong, I bought my young daughters Barbies. In my earlier post (yesterday) I forgot to mention, that besides being too pricey, I did not like the vest with 2 flat disc flowers, that the little girl puts on to make the baby doll start sucking. Unlike the baby bottle, that have a nipple and areola to simulate the human breast, the flowers lay flat on the vest. I do not care for the vest, nor for the doll itself either. I had recently bought a baby's first doll for my grand daughter, which was very similar. It made loud sucking noises when you put the bottle to the doll's mouth; then burped loudly when you patted it. To me, it is just a way to make you spend your money. Like I said before, my daughters were imitating me nursing their younger siblings by using an ordinary doll. I did not teach them to do the nasty; they were just playing mommy nurturing their babies. Little girls were doing this way back in time. Those mother's that are worried that their child will learn about sex, simply don't have to buy the doll. There are more things to worry about, like the pervert that I caught staring at me the day I was bringing my baby home from the hospital, and I was fumbling with the blanket to cover myself. I agree with those mothers that don't bother to use a cover on themselves while they nurse their babies. I wish I was so brave. I always covered in restaurants or public places is just because I know there are perverts and waiting for the opportunity to stare. BUY IT IF YOU LIKE IT, THOSE THAT FOR SOME REASON THINK IT'S NASTY THEN JUST DON'T!

CHERYL - posted on 04/13/2011

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I have not seen it yet, nor do I care to. I think it is sending the wrong message to little girls. I breastfed my kids, but there should not be a doll out there for them to do this. This could make them want to be a mom too soon. It is sending them the wrong message.

Viki - posted on 04/13/2011

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Mmmmmm I've not seen this my daughters only 15 months so not quite at the dolly stage bit yet, I am all for breast feeding I fed all three off mine for as long as I could, but not sure about this one!?? I think children need to be children for longer they grow up too quickly as it is but suppose they need to bring out new ideas all the time these toy companies.... Not sure..... But if Mia wants one I wouldn't not buy it I suppose :0)

Jenifer - posted on 04/13/2011

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When I was bf my son, a 3 yr old girl at church who noticed did indeed put her doll under her shirt to feed her. The other mom and I thought this was cute and cool with both of us. I was surprised that when my daughter was born that my son, now 3, did the same with one of his stuffed animals. I have no problem with either. He did ask me when he would have milk to feed his baby, and I said that daddys do other important jobs for a baby, but only mommies make milk. He said "oh" and went on playing. Pretending to breastfeed a toy is normal, but don't need a special doll to do it.

Heidi - posted on 04/13/2011

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You are right, I stand corrected this would be parenting skills and not sex ed. And as a mother to a 4 year old little girl, I have to say that I do not think that at her age she needs to worry about how to properly breastfeed a baby. Pushing one in a stroller, laying it down for a nap, fine. Sticking its head in her shirt to act like she is breastfeeding not ok with me. She has never done this and if I ever saw her do it, I would talk to her and explain that this is something grown up mommies do with their babies, not something little girls do with dolls.

Jenni - posted on 04/13/2011

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Well then, is it safe to say you're against all baby dolls? But at least that I can agree with. Not having breastfeeding compared to intercourse.

And little girls and boys have been pretending to 'mother' dolls for the last 60 million years. It's not some new phenomenom. As many women have pointed out on this thread that breastfed, their daughters would imitate the behaviour.... which is natural. But most of us also agree that they don't need a 'special doll' to do it.

Feeding a baby is not the same thing as sex education. It has to do with parenting. So if you're against children being taught parenting skills before they hit puberty, so be it. But don't catagorize breastfeeding with sex ed. It is no more a sex ed topic than bottlefeeding, changing a diaper, pushing a baby doll in a stroller, putting it down for a nap etc. Let's be clear about this.... Those are PARENTING SKILLS... Not sex education. I've taken sex education and I've taken parenting classes. They did not teach about breastfeeding in sex education. They taught it in a parenting class.

Heidi - posted on 04/13/2011

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I would like to say that I do still stand by my comment "To say that it is natural for a child to pretend to breastfeed is like saying it would be natural for them to have dolls that can simulate intercourse. It's inappropriate." I think that you misunderstood because I did not mean that breastfeeding your child is like having intercourse with them. What i meant was just as it would not be natural for a child to pretend to have intercourse, it is NOT NATURAL for a little girl to pretend to breastfeed.

Heidi - posted on 04/13/2011

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I apologize for the confusion I do not see breastfeeding as sexual in anyway, my statement was referring to the fact that breastfeeding is not a thing for a child to perform just as sex is not a thing for a child to perform, just as imitating being pregnant would not be a thing for a child to do. These are ALL things that are for people who are at an age of understanding what these things mean. Again I DO NOT see breastfeeding as sexual, thats sick. Breastfeeding is a very natural thing for a mother and her child, and a great bonding experience. It has great benefits to both a mother and the child as far as medically. Again this is a natural thing for A MOTHER and HER CHILD, it is not natural to see a young girl press a doll to her chest and ACT as though the baby is suckling from her.

Heidi - posted on 04/13/2011

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I am fully supportive of breastfeeding mothers and their right to feed their baby in public. In fact I dealt with this issue myself when BF my son. I remember an instance where my family and I had gone to a restaurant for dinner. My son was hungry, so i proceeded to feed him right there. Of all the people to say something my HUSBAND (now ex) asked me to take our son to the restroom to feed him, to which I replied only on the condition that when your food gets here you take it to the restroom to eat. However a woman BF her child and a little girl pretending to do it are two very different things, why encourage your daughter at such a young age to want to be a mother. This is something she should not be considering at this time. I agree with those of you who say that the time to learn about this is when they hit puberty, and are being taught sexual education, this is the age at which this is appropriate.

Jenni - posted on 04/13/2011

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Heather, I was referring to this: "To say that it is natural for a child to pretend to breastfeed is like saying it would be natural for them to have dolls that can simulate intercourse. It's inappropriate."

Sorry, I should have clearly stated what or who I was referring to.

Heather - posted on 04/13/2011

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My post did not state that it was ME who compared breastfeeding to ANYTHING SEXUAL... My mind is not in the gutter, but it IS on the safety of my daughter and the undenyable FACT that there ARE too many SICK people that exist that will see it as just that. Please be VERY CLEAR that I do not see breastfeeding as anything other than a very natural thing between a mother and baby as well as a bonding experience. I breastfed BOTH of my children, so therefore I DON'T see it as anything sexual!! This isn't about me as a mother and the act of breastfeeding, this is me being a concerned mother and how it may impact my child in public, where it is not exactly a real safe place anymore... Everyone is entitled to their opinions and feelings on the matter.

Jenni - posted on 04/13/2011

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Again, it's sick, sick, sick when people compare breastfeeding to intercourse. Are you saying when I breastfeed my children I'm having intercourse with them?!! That's disgusting, get your mind out of the gutter.

Heather - posted on 04/13/2011

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I, personally, don't like the idea at ALL!! I have a daughter who is almost 5, and even though I do agree that breasteeding is a very natural act between a mother and baby, I DO NOT like the idea of my daughter having a doll that she is going to want to take with her places and performing the act of breastfeeding. It is unfortunate, but in case you haven't noticed, there are more and more things happening with serious child sex offendors. The LAST thing I need is for my little girl to want to take her doll somewhere in public and have some sick and twisted person see it as something it shouldn't be! It SCARES me! That being said, I would certainly NOT purchase one for her because I know that she would want to take it places, and I just don't think at her age, it is something that should be happening in public. That is just my opinion.

Emily - posted on 04/13/2011

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I think kids will imitate what they see at home. This morning my little girl decided to "nurse" her baby doll. But she didn't need a specially-marketed one with a halter top to do it. And she's barely 4, so we're still learning the particulars of modesty. I agree with the idea that it's great to make breastfeeding as natural (if not more so) in our society than bottlefeeding, but I won't be buying this doll.

Kimberly - posted on 04/13/2011

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I dpon't see the ppoint. With The teen pregnancy rat in this country, our girls DO NOT need anymore encouragement

Heidi - posted on 04/13/2011

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To say that it is natural for a child to pretend to breastfeed is like saying it would be natural for them to have dolls that can simulate intercourse. It's inappropriate. Little girls do not have breasts because at that age they are not needed. Just like little girls do not have periods because they physically are incapable of carrying a child, or do you think we should make toys that simulate being pregnant and allow young children to pretend this as well, again how far is to far. I say all this with the utmost respect, as a mother of 2 who breastfed my first for 6 months and my second up until being told she was lactose intolerant and therefore unable to breastfeed anymore. I strongly encourage all women with the option to breastfeed, I do not encourage teaching little girls about it.

Cyndi - posted on 04/12/2011

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When my son was 3 he used to pretend to breast feed dolls and stuffed animals. I admit it was strange to see, but it was perfectly natural to him. He was learning how to take care of a baby by watching me with his sister. With that said, I guess I don't see a need for a specified doll for it.

Kacie - posted on 04/12/2011

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I have to say my kids were bottle fed so they know nothing about breastfeeding..My children knows what boobies are and thats all i want them to know until they are older and understand the whole concept..

Marcie - posted on 04/12/2011

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I breastfed both my boys, I do not think they need a" special" doll for breastfeeding, as many said above kids preen without having a doll actually suckle, its a bit weird to me. You can buy dolls without bottles or through them out.

Jenni - posted on 04/12/2011

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@Charmain This isn't America... It's COM. ;) The doll won't just be sold in the USA.

All people from developed countries enjoy freedom it isn't just an "American" thing. But yeah, I agree with everything else you said!

Charmain - posted on 04/12/2011

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@J.Warren....it seems as if u are saing breastfeeding is "Sexual"&u are appalled? :( Breastfeeding is natural ,thts why we have breasts&we produce milk to nourish our babies.Breasts are Not here to look good or for Sexual Gratification/Satisfaction.on anothr note, I agree w/the other Moms Threads tht a child can&do pretend to Breastfeed w/ baby dolls&or animals.&This Is America.. a parent/guardian can Choose or Not Choose To Buy this baby for their child. That's the Freedom we have as "Americans". ~God Bless&Support Our Troops~

Maria Angeles - posted on 04/12/2011

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I saw the doll being discussed on tv. I don't see anything wrong with it, except that it is a bit pricey, and that is the reason I believe this doll was created, anything that makes money. This is the reason I would not buy it. Little girls have been breastfeeding with ordinary dolls. Breastfeeding is very natural, and anything sexual applied to it is the way that we are raised. I was a breastfeeding mom, and was surprised when I saw my three year old daughter imitating me nursing her younger sibling by nursing her dolly; later some of my daughters did the same and they would also use the bottle. In my experience, I have seen some people react with dirty minds, as obscene, sexual...I was always careful to cover myself carefully, so as not to expose myself whenever I was in public if I was unable to find a secluded place to feed my babies. In other countries it is considered very natural and acceptable, That is why God, our creator provided us with breasts. They are also part of our sexuality, but that is an entirely different matter, nothing to do with the nursing aspect of it. I say buy it if you can afford to spend that much money, but children are creative and an ordinary less expensive doll is good enough. Just don't tell a child that it is shameful or dirty because it is not.

Shannon - posted on 04/12/2011

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I won't be buying one! I think it's taking things a bit far. My daughter "nursed" her dolls as she watched me nurse her baby brother. It was very natural; we didn't talk about it or make it a big deal. I think we take away the spontaneity and creativity that children have when we give them such "detail specific" dolls. I'll save my money and let my little girl pretend to nurse her $20 dolls.

Cassandra - posted on 04/12/2011

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I think its great. My daughter used to lift her shirt when she was little and pretend to breastfeed her babies and I thought it was adorable. Good for her to reach for what she was given instead of what man made. And I was and always will be one of the moms that NEVER hid my baby under a blanket. If you are so worried about my boobs doing what they were made for YOU HAVE ISSUES not me. See a therapist and get with the program. We are so freaking prudish in this country when it comes to women's bodies we all need a wakeup call. One of my favorite photos from the 20's is a mom sitting in the front row of church with a line of kiddos beside her while she breastfeeds uncovered. That is what we should all strive to emulate!

Dana - posted on 04/11/2011

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I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. Anyone who finds breastfeeding "sexual" has serious issues. I bf all of my children and all three of my daughters at one point or another pretended to nurse their baby dolls...just like mommy. Although, I do not think its necessary to purchase a $90 doll just for that reason. They can pretend with any doll.

Margie - posted on 04/11/2011

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I breastfed all 3 of mine but I did not flaunt them. I usually tried to throw a diaper or or something over shoulder and it hung down and covered most of breast unless baby popped loose to look around .Although i believe babies do quiet well on the bottle, however think about it. When anyone has a newb orn you either have to dry the milk up or breastfeed. God made us this way for a purpose, and it should never be made out to be something ugly. Children don't have to understand all about, just that God made mommies that way to feed their babies if they so choose, and if they can. Some Mothers for one reason or another cannot breast feed, but it should be admired rather than enbarrassing. .

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I don't think the act of breastfeeding is something I would mind my sons seeing, but the fact that I have seen in person some women just let the entire breast hang out without even trying to cover themselves is just a little much. This is why I made the comment about modesty. I don't believe breastfeeding is sexual in any way. It's a wonderful thing and my son saw me try to breastfeed my youngest. It's just the fact that some women don't care or think about what someone else may or may not want their children to see - that's an entire breast of another woman complete hanging out with not breastfeeding her child.

Christina - posted on 04/11/2011

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I think the idea is cool. I breastfed all my kids and breastfeeding my eighth month old now and when my second was born my oldest pretended to breastfeed her babies. I would love to have more kids grow up and be ok with breastfeeding instead of the world looking at it in a wrong way. I would not but the baby though it is too expensive and my kids do just fine with a regular baby.

Kimberly - posted on 04/11/2011

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As a breastfeeding mom, I think it's a nice idea. However, if it bothers you then spend your $90 elsewhere.

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BREASTFEEDING IS NOT A SEXUAL ACT. IT IS A WAY TO FEED A CHILD.
You should be more offended at your child looking at a billboard showing bras THAT'S SEXUAL!

Jeannine - posted on 04/11/2011

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I think it's a great idea, I think if girls have support for doing the natural thing that when it comes time for them they know that this is the norm and not some modified cows milk - which isn't as perfect as breast milk. Women give up far to quickly on breastfeeding due to lack of knowledge & lack of support.

Sonia - posted on 04/11/2011

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Ya I just think that there is nothing 'sexual' about breast feeding that little girls need to be protected from.

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