Breastfeeding.... how old is TOO old??

Erinn - posted on 04/26/2009 ( 229 moms have responded )

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I recently saw a video of a woman breastfeeding her 8 year old daughter, it was almost tooo difficult to watch... sickening in MY opinion! I was just wondering what other people thought of that.... would you breastfeed your children for THAT long?? I'm curious of other opionions??

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Kerry - posted on 04/27/2009

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I'm studying a degree in women's health and one of our modules is breastfeeding and our tutor explained that before the medicinalisation of birth and the consumerism of artificial formula, breastfeeding was continued till children were 7/8 so they gained the natural essential nutrients that breastmilk provides. The only reason why breastfeeding is frowned upon now is because of the sexulisation of breasts in the popular media, the loss of experience within society and the exploitation of artifitial feeding by companies who produce breast milk. If someone wants to breast feed their child to that age its their choice as it would be if you had you nipples pierced or chose to wear the clothes you pick in the morning. A child loses its ability to suckle after a certain age so you dont have to worry that a 19 year old is going to ask for a bit of bitty.



Breastfeeding is a dying art and provides a best start to a childs life and a mothers life that would take a whole page to list. Perhaps its something you should research through unicef or WHO for more information.

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Quoting Sarah:

I don't think formula feeding a baby and breastfeeding an 8 year old is even in the same category, like Vanessa claims. I think 8 years is a long time. That child (if it was in the U.S.) would be in either 2nd or 3rd grade. I had my first sleep over at that age. I can't imagine playing with my friends then stopping to breastfeed. That seems crazy!


In traditional cultures (where formula isn't an option) the average age of weaning is between 2-5 years. I think that that is why the issue of formula was brought up - why is it that we are so disgusted by late weaning but not by early weaning?



I have no intention of breast feeding my son until he's 8, or even 4 for that matter, but I don't see why the rest of us should be so concerned about the nursing relationship between another mother and child - especially when there's no evidence that this is psychologically damaging.



I guess I see child-led weaning as a parenting choice like co-sleeping or cloth diapering - and the visceral "eww" response (which I got too when I first saw this story) has more to do with cultural conditioning that an actual problem with the practice.

Vanessa - posted on 04/26/2009

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just because something is not culturally accepted in your part of the world does not make it wrong (or as one person put it, "child abuse").



the breastfeeding relationship is just that......a relationship between the mother and child. its not for anyone else to judge. God forbid if i judged a mother formula feeding her newborn!



if allowed unrestricted access to the breast, MOST children will continue to breastfeed untill around 4 years of age. once their needs are met they will stop. most children loose the ability to "suck" by about 5.



i think the case you have brought up Erinn is very extreme, and its very, very unlikely to be the "norm" in any part of the world.

if it makes you sick.......don't watch it!

certain things make me sick......but i said what they were on circle of Moms i would be

seen as being "judgemental, critical and unsupportive".

i think you just want to stir the pot! i don't think you are truly interested in extended breastfeeding.

Lee-Ann - posted on 05/18/2009

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I believe it's up to the mother and what she feels comfortable with. As long as it is being done for the benefit of the child and not to sustain a need within the mother. Funny how western society is so adverse to children over a certain age drinking human breast milk from their own mother yet we quite happily drink the milk from a farm animal. However, because the majority of adult society in the western world puts a bad stigma to breast feeding kids past toddler-hood any mother considering it unfortunately needs to be prepared to face adversity. Kid's don't see breasts as sexual until adults teach them that (or t.v or music videos, internet etc which in my opinion are teaching kids about sexuality at far too a young age).

Personally though all that said and done i wouldn't breast feed that long though i can understand why some would.

Traci - posted on 05/17/2009

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Ew...8??? Personally, I think anything over 2 is not necessary. You want to be close to your kid? Read a book together! Go for a walk, do a puzzle. whatever. In third world countries, they nurse longer because they have to. Here in America where there is a grocery store on every corner, there is no need for breastmilk. Once your kid knows what "those" are, its time to quit. Eight? At that age, its about the mom not being able to let go.

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Isobel - posted on 08/06/2009

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Quoting Lee-Ann:

I believe it's up to the mother and what she feels comfortable with. As long as it is being done for the benefit of the child and not to sustain a need within the mother. Funny how western society is so adverse to children over a certain age drinking human breast milk from their own mother yet we quite happily drink the milk from a farm animal. However, because the majority of adult society in the western world puts a bad stigma to breast feeding kids past toddler-hood any mother considering it unfortunately needs to be prepared to face adversity. Kid's don't see breasts as sexual until adults teach them that (or t.v or music videos, internet etc which in my opinion are teaching kids about sexuality at far too a young age).
Personally though all that said and done i wouldn't breast feed that long though i can understand why some would.


The point is though, at 16, when you do start seeing breasts as sexual objects, you still have a memory of breast feeding???? Do you not see how this might affect someone's maturing process?

Isobel - posted on 08/06/2009

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Quoting Emily:



Quoting Sara:

If your child can say "boobie" then you can say "no, food"! It's an almost unbreakable bond between mothers and child...but if your child can speak, they should not be breastfeeding!





My oldest child could say "Nurrr" sometime between 6 and 7 months. She certainly was not ready to be weaned.  I find it odd that we spend so much time teaching children how to use their words and ask for something they want but then employ entirely opposite logic when it comes to breastfeeding.





nurrr is not a word...point made

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Quoting Megan:

I just recently stopped nursing at a month shy of three years. I think that when the child and mother want to stop then you should. If you're not comfortable with it after a certain age, the stop. It's not something that should be tainted by any negative feelings. Even though I was ready to quit nursing, I still miss it. It's time you'll never get back so do it as long as you like.



I agree! i was only able to breastfeed for 3wks or so, and I wish I would have been able to keep it up. It made my child and I very close. She is only two now and Very smart. Sometimes to smart. But she knows her momma!



But, I do see both sides of the story. So, I guess you would say I'm on the fence. Because I do think 8yrs old is to old.



Loretta 

MIRIAM - posted on 08/05/2009

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I do think that beyond the ages of four there should be any breastfeeding.That is my opinion though.I breastfed my daughter to the age of two,she did not want anymore and after learning about the milk cup, she stopped breastfeeding.My son is turning two next week and breastfeeding for him is a no.He started saying ahah! no!no! as soon as he started potty training.And i have not breastfed him in ages.

MIRIAM - posted on 08/05/2009

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I do think that beyond the ages of four there should be any breastfeeding.That is my opinion though.I breastfed my daughter to the age of two,she did not want anymore and after learning about the milk cup, she stopped breastfeeding.My son is turning two next week and breastfeeding for him is a no.He started saying ahah! no!no! as soon as he started potty training.And i have not breastfed him in ages.

Amanda - posted on 08/04/2009

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im thinking when my daughter starts to get teeth and bite im gonna stop but i would say that about one and a half is the cut off age at the most really even one is good. once their old enough to ask for it their too dam old to be suckin on it in my opinion!

Angie - posted on 08/04/2009

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Oh man Erinn...this is one touchy subject! :) hahahaha

I think it is very odd to have your children breast feed for that long...there are other forms of food that they can use, that is just as healthy!!!!!!!! I also believe it is more for the benefit of the mother who can't let go! How old is too old, well for me when a child can come up and ask for it...then I think its time for some real cow's milk! :)

YES, the WORLD average is 4, that is counting the poverty nations...If I couldn't supply my child with good drinking water or good food...I WOULD STILL WHIP A BOOB OUT! :) But for the more priviledged who has other resources of foods, I see no need for sucking on the tit!!!!!!!!!

I have also read somewhere that about the 9th month the child gets what he/she needs from the mother...I wanted to breastfeed for a full year, but couldn't so I stopped at 9 months...

Anna - posted on 08/04/2009

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IN MY OPINION THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG. WHY CAN THAT MOTHER CUT THE CORD? THAT IS WAY TOO OLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tinyiko - posted on 05/18/2009

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that is truely disturbing.i think the problem lies with the mother.you have to enforce rules and way of life to your child.these people are not born knowing that it is not normal to cling on mommy's breast past a certain age.so it's up to the parents to share that knowledge.she is mentally damaging the child as well as herself,she needs help.

Tiffany - posted on 05/17/2009

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absolutely not. I think 3 is the max. I planning on nursing to 1 year and then when she and or I am ready to stop we will. I want to try to get pregnant again shortly after she turns 1, so I will probably stop pretty quickly after 1. I can't imagine ever breastfeeding my kids past 18 months or so, but only time will tell.

Tamara - posted on 05/17/2009

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While 8 years old is out of my range of comfort, I honestly miss not being able to nurse my 19 month old. With any luck, I'll be able to nurse my next to at least 2.

Lee - posted on 05/03/2009

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why is there a video on the internet of a mother and childs special time together? I find this the more worrying thing, rather than breast feeding an 8year old. It is a breech i-of that childs privacy in my view.why would you put something obviously controversial on the net?

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I have watched this video or one similar and was, actually, very intrigued. I was unable, due to complications at birth, to BF my daughter. I tried everything to get my daughter the nutrients from me but nothing worked. I feel, IN MY OPINION, that 8 MAY be a bit too old. However, in the video I saw the child did not nurse all the time. She only nursed like once a day if that.(not sure if that's accurate) The video also depicted a mother sitting on her couch with the child nuzzled close. I don't care if your child is 1-3-7-9-13 that is a precious moment being shared between a mother and child. Who are we to judge how a child feels. Obviously these children need that bond/connection/closeness. In my experience BF has been given this horrible stigma. Think back when formula wasn't invented. Would it be wrong then? Or during "The Great Depression"? We aren't a 3rd world country and I am sure women BF their children longer than "usual". I just don't get why people care so much about a woman who, from the looks of it, had a very healthy child physically and emotionally. That child was given the choice and is still given a choice. How is that not letting your child be independent?

Sorry for rambling but it's that sort of topic.hehe

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I have watched this video or one similar and was, actually, very intrigued. I was unable, due to complications at birth, to BF my daughter. I tried everything to get my daughter the nutrients from me but nothing worked. I feel, IN MY OPINION, that 8 MAY be a bit too old. However, in the video I saw the child did not nurse all the time. She only nursed like once a day if that.(not sure if that's accurate) The video also depicted a mother sitting on her couch with the child nuzzled close. I don't care if your child is 1-3-7-9-13 that is a precious moment being shared between a mother and child. Who are we to judge how a child feels. Obviously these children need that bond/connection/closeness. In my experience BF has been given this horrible stigma. Think back when formula wasn't invented. Would it be wrong then? Or during "The Great Depression"? We aren't a 3rd world country and I am sure women BF their children longer than "usual". I just don't get why people care so much about a woman who, from the looks of it, had a very healthy child physically and emotionally. That child was given the choice and is still given a choice. How is that not letting your child be independent?

Sorry for rambling but it's that sort of topic.hehe

Lindsey - posted on 05/02/2009

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i think in the US 1 year is more common because of the looks people might get looking at normal (not breast feeding kids) who are age 3 eating normal food and kids breast feeding i think if the kid is old enought to say im hungry they should be eating real food not sucking on mommy..if breast milk is that important to you pump it out put in the the fridge and give it to them in cereal or something bc a BIG kid should not be breast feeding if they are that big...LET GO!

Barbara - posted on 05/02/2009

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Quoting Vanessa:

Cindy, ofcourse i have sex in private.....but i don't always eat in private.
why should my baby have too?
nourishing my baby/child at my breast is NOT offensive.
anyone who thinks it is offensive......hummm.....well....to bad.
thank god in my part of the world we have laws that allow breastfeeding anywhere!


I agree.  I think that people have been made to feel like nursing is this dirty little secret for too long.  The more visible it is, the more accepted it will become, the more people will realize that it is not and cannot be equated with sex acts of any kind.

Vanessa - posted on 05/02/2009

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Cindy, ofcourse i have sex in private.....but i don't always eat in private.

why should my baby have too?

nourishing my baby/child at my breast is NOT offensive.

anyone who thinks it is offensive......hummm.....well....to bad.

thank god in my part of the world we have laws that allow breastfeeding anywhere!

Jaime - posted on 05/02/2009

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In response to Cindy who said: "I find it funny but also sad that someone asked for opinions and all she got was a bunch of arguments and finger pointing"...the arguments are normal as they coincide with debating an issue when differing opinions are exposed. As for finger pointing...I don't think anyone has pointed fingers, even those people who are dead set against extended breastfeeding have not pointed any fingers to suggest blame in one form or another. And Barbara said it perfectly when she commented: "Of course there are going to be disagreements, but by the end of it there is more understanding as to how people on the other side came to those conclusions. It helps people form more educated opinions, and that is a good thing".



And dare I say again...freedom of speech?!

Cindy - posted on 05/02/2009

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I find it funny but also sad that someone asked for "opinions" and all she got was a bunch of arguments and finger pointing. To me it was just a bunch of childish behavior. We are all adults and should be acting like one.



The questions was what age was too old for breastfeeding? Too many of you made this personal. It didnt need to go there. So there are some who find this gross and there and some that are ok with this. Thats fine it should have ended there with your own opinions.



Some mentioned that breastfeeding is biological normal and that its ok to do out in public.....I agree that it is but so is sex and menstrual cycles. Do you care if people have sex out in public or change there tampons in public? You would say no because you dont want to see it. Thats the same for some people they are for breastfeeding they just want to see it and would appreciate if the mother to cover it up. It really comes down to what is acceptable in "our" society. It use to acceptable for people to sell their daughters to the highest bider or for girls to marry as soon as they could reproduce. In our society today that is not acceptable. Thats why so many people look down on teenage pregnancy.



For those of you who are for the extended breastfeeding but themselves would not go to the age of 8...Why? You seem so passionate about this that you have turned into an argument instead of just an opinion. The mother that has turned this into such a heated debate isn't even in our country and this action might be acceptable in her society. who are we to judge and point fingers at her for this.

Kinsey - posted on 05/02/2009

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I understand up to 2, personally I wouldn't do it that long. After that I question it. I mean really??!! BF an 8 year old?! That's just sick if you ask me. I was aiming for 6 months with my son but he was done completely by 4 months, he just became disinterested in it and wouldn't do it anymore. I was sad because it was a special time for just us two, but looking at him now (he's 2) there's no way I would still be nursing him even if he wanted!

Barbara - posted on 05/02/2009

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I think it's good to have discussions over sticky issues like this, even if they do get a little heated on occasion. Of course there are going to be disagreements, but by the end of it there is more understanding as to how people on the other side came to those conclusions. It helps people form more educated opinions, and that is a good thing.

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Erinn, on a second read, I think the comment I posted was too harsh. Of course I have no idea what you were thinking when you posed the question, and I shouldn't have claimed so.
However, I do stand by the assertion that asking us to pass judgment on another mother's choices based on a video on youtube is almost certainly going to get out of hand.

Erinn - posted on 05/02/2009

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Honestly i'm wishing I had never posted this question..... if I had known it would get THIS out of control I never would've..... I HATE arguments and negatively heated debates of any kind... just ask my husband!

Mel - posted on 05/02/2009

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it is good for a debate your right Jaime. unfortunately as you know there are morons on here that get way to nasty. but as long as its discussed in the right way i guess its alright, but personally i still believe it was started for bad reasons :)

Erinn - posted on 05/02/2009

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I understand how people would think I posted this to cause conflict... although that honestly was not my intention. Obviously people will think whatever they will about me, BUT it was just a question. I was just curious of what other people thought about how long babies/ toddlers should be breastfed..... I had no clue it would get this carried away... that is the honest truth.

Jaime - posted on 05/02/2009

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I can see your point Jenifer, and while I don't intend to start a debate as it seems this word suffers negative connotations, I still feel that freedom of speech is the overlying rule here. It doesn't matter how the question was asked, it clearly peaked a lot of curiosity and interest so I believe that makes it worth discussing. The differing views are normal and as long as no one is slinging mud on a personal level, what really is the harm in participating?

Mel - posted on 05/02/2009

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your right Jenifer. it was posted just for attention and to get a debate started. anyone who logs onto this site regularly can see that and i am on here in the morning and at my girls arvo nap time. im sorry to say but the person who posted this is always posting attention seeking threads or ones seeking sympathy. but anyway most of us would agree it is not right to breast feed an 8 year old and those who dont thats ur personal choice. the how long should you breast feed everybody wil have different views just like with solids just like with cereal in bottles etc. get over it if you dont like what someone says , say what you think and what you believe and move on.

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Actually, Jamie, even though I've posted to this discussion, I agree with Michelle that is isn't really an appropriate topic - I think it was posted simply to cause an argument. You're right, 'Circle of Moms' is a discussion forum, but there are different types of questions one could post. For example:

"Should I try breastfeeding my newborn?" is a completely different question than "OMG I knew a lady who never even tried breastfeeding! - I think that's lazy. What do you think?" As you can imagine, the purpose behind (and the responses to) these questions would be completely different.

Jaime - posted on 05/01/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

I think it is hilarious that there is even any conversation on this. Who gives??



What is the point of a comment like this?  'Circle of Moms' is a discussion forum where mothers can ask questions and get the opinions of others...if you don't want to be part of this discussion, no one is forcing you.  But, should you have an opinion to add to this discussion I'd be happy to read it.

Jaime - posted on 05/01/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

I think it is hilarious that there is even any conversation on this. Who gives??



What is the point of a comment like this?  'Circle of Moms' is a discussion forum where mothers can ask questions and get the opinions of others...if you don't want to be part of this discussion, no one is forcing you.  But, should you have an opinion to add to this discussion I'd be happy to read it.

Michelle - posted on 05/01/2009

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I think it is hilarious that there is even any conversation on this. Who gives??

Jaime - posted on 05/01/2009

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Quoting Carla:

An 8 year old!!! Have to be concerned for the childs self-esteem? We are not in a third world country were it would have to be life sestaining. No, our society requirs our children to have self worth,self-confidence, & independance(to a certain degree). I've BF all mine until they were two & felt that was long enough! They have to be tought independance. Mom will always be there, no need to raise more children with more insecurities in an insecure world.



Although we are not a third world country and our children don't depend on our breast milk as their sole source of nutrients, I am having trouble correlating breast feeding with self worth, self confidence and independence.  Show me how breast feeding can be destructive to the social abilities of our children.  The last I checked breast feeding was the number one recommended, above all for nourishing a child...and along with the nourishment are the benefits of close contact, bonding, security and contentment (how is this a bad thing?).  A lot of us have trouble when we hear about an 8 year old being breast fed because we have been taught that independence is essential for success in the future.  Independence can still be taught to a child that is breast fed.  Teaching a child to dress himself, tie his shoes, comb his hair, brush his teeth...these will not be made more difficult if a child is breastfed past the age that society has deemed "too old" and "inappropriate".  If a Mother is comfortable breastfeeding her 8-year-old daughter and she is confident that her daughter is able to achieve independence and self confidence then she is not wrong or disturbed or irresponsible for continuing what she believes is a shared bonding experience between her and her daughter.  If a Mother feels un comfortable feeding past a certain point that she has deemed for herself to be inappropriate, then she is making the choice to stop of her own free will--with no pressure from society telling her it's too soon and will ruin her child's life.  This is another topic that, like many, comes down to personal choice.  I would not breastfeed my 8-year-old child, but that's because it breeches my comfort level...not because I feel it is wrong.

Kelly - posted on 05/01/2009

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I think once they have a full set of teeth , then its time to stop. I breastfed only until my girls started solids, they were happy to start trying a bottle and different liquids.



I followed no rules, my children were wonderful babies, ate slept and weaned and potty trained perfectly. However, they are now 7 and 9 and my baby (7) still has accidents and they are by no means PERFECT children.



There are days when I could just throttle them, but I never knew how much I could love til they came along.



I think parenting is the hardest and greatest job in the world. You do the best you can at the time and every child is different, its all trial and error.

Jackie - posted on 05/01/2009

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i stopped breast feeding aaron when he was 18 months he took a bite out of me and that was it

Jillian - posted on 05/01/2009

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I'm a breast feeding peer supporter and think that by one they can have cows milk and as a mum i think i'd want my body back well before then but think one should be the cut off point or pump i think breast feeding very good and would reccomend anyone to do it but it's all personal oppinion:)

Jillian - posted on 05/01/2009

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I'm a breast feeding peer supporter and think that by one they can have cows milk and as a mum i think i'd want my body back well before then but think one should be the cut off point or pump i think breast feeding very good and would reccomend anyone to do it but it's all personal oppinion:)

Mel - posted on 05/01/2009

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hmm just read the last few comments that breast feeding after one is bad,,, sorry but that is just silly.its just fine to breast feed a one year old baby if thats what the mother choses to do. im shocked.

Tracyee - posted on 04/30/2009

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I am so happy to know I am not strange. My in-laws keep pressuring me but my daughter is no ready to ween and I am not ready ween her. I weaned my other daughter around 2 1/2 that was a good time.

Vanessa - posted on 04/30/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:

I'm sorry but I enjoyed breastfeeding my children,,.,,but on their 1st birthday...thats it! Time to cut the cord! I think breastfeeding is a natural and beautiful thing but when your child can come up to you and pull your shirt up....NO! That is borderline Porno!! I think at 1 thats it...you still want them to have the breast milk.....PUMP!!!!



so at 11 months of age breastfeeding is a "natural and beautiful thing" and at 12 months of age breastfeeding is pornographic???????????????



that is the most absurd thing i have ever heard!!!!

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Quoting Jennifer:

I'm sorry but I enjoyed breastfeeding my children,,.,,but on their 1st birthday...thats it! Time to cut the cord! I think breastfeeding is a natural and beautiful thing but when your child can come up to you and pull your shirt up....NO! That is borderline Porno!! I think at 1 thats it...you still want them to have the breast milk.....PUMP!!!!


Ok, nursing your child doesn't have ANYTHING to do with sex.  The fact that someone could find a way to classify breastfeeding of any kind with porno is just really sad to me.  Doesn't it make you want to change that picture?  A person can eat a banana suggestively, does that mean we shouldn't give our kids bananas? 



There are people out there who have some strange ideas about what is sexy.  I am not saying that you are one of those people, but why alter your life for them?  I am not going to let their twisted ideas impinge upon me and my son's (who is past one and nowhere near being weaned)  breastfeeding relationship.

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I have seen that video too. The thing that is really disturbing about it is that the 2 girls (one was bf until 5 & the other is currently 9 or 10 & still bf) are completely fixated on breasts. They constantly talk about bf, breasts, & draw pics of their mom's breasts, even named the breasts. The one who is still bf even said that she thinks that everyone should bf forever & said she never wants to stop. IMO- That is dysfunctional. At that point it is abuse b/c it has obviously become a crutch for the mom & a way to keep her daughter a baby for as long as possible. And what kind of normal relationship can she hope to have w/ anyone? Sorry if I offended anyone, but I do think it's wrong at that age and disgusting.

Carrie - posted on 04/30/2009

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I breast fed my daughter until she was a year old. According to her doctor there is NO benefit after a year for a child. I have a neighbor who's son asks her for boobie, sorry if they can ask for it then it's time to give them a sippy cup. It's either one of two things, the mother wants to baby her child or is just to lazy to wean them. Not to even mention my daughter is now six and has tons of memories as far back as when she was two. Breast feeding is a beautiful thing when what you are doing is the most healthiest thing for your child.

Charity - posted on 04/30/2009

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I think that brestfeeding an 8 year old is a little much in my opinion. Don't get me wrong I am all for breastfeeding a baby, but I just think at some point there has to be a cut off. And that cut off point has to be when the child and the mother no longer feel comfortable and enjoy the exchange between the two of them. Also, I think whenever a child can say mommy I am thirsty he/she should no longer be on the boob.

Jennifer - posted on 04/30/2009

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I'm sorry but I enjoyed breastfeeding my children,,.,,but on their 1st birthday...thats it! Time to cut the cord! I think breastfeeding is a natural and beautiful thing but when your child can come up to you and pull your shirt up....NO! That is borderline Porno!! I think at 1 thats it...you still want them to have the breast milk.....PUMP!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 04/30/2009

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I'm sorry but I enjoyed breastfeeding my children,,.,,but on their 1st birthday...thats it! Time to cut the cord! I think breastfeeding is a natural and beautiful thing but when your child can come up to you and pull your shirt up....NO! That is borderline Porno!! I think at 1 thats it...you still want them to have the breast milk.....PUMP!!!!

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Quoting Millie:

The 8 y-o may have special needs we cannot imagine!! Don't be too quick to judge by appearances! Weaning should happen when the child is ready. Whether Mom is ready is unimportant-she is obligated to follow the needs of your child, providing she can continue lovingly. The world-wide average age of weaning is 7 years old. The Native Americans had a specific guideline; a child should not be weaned until he/she is old enough to reach one arm over his/her own head and grasp the opposite ear. that's about age 6 years. American Moms usually wean their babies by age 12 months, so you can see that our viewpoint is a bit skewed! Teeth? No problem. There are gentle an effective ways to teach baby not to use those new teeth on Mom! If this is an issue for you, contact your local La Leche League group. These gals are the absolute Experts on the subject; they've been helping moms & babies for over 50 years.



Interesting.  Is that Native American guideline specific to a certain tribe/area?  Curious. 

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