Breastfeeding.... how old is TOO old??

Erinn - posted on 04/26/2009 ( 229 moms have responded )

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I recently saw a video of a woman breastfeeding her 8 year old daughter, it was almost tooo difficult to watch... sickening in MY opinion! I was just wondering what other people thought of that.... would you breastfeed your children for THAT long?? I'm curious of other opionions??

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Amanda - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Amanda-Lynn:

How is breastfeeding at 8 years old any different from an 8 year old drinking from a sippy cup, sucking their thumb, drinking from bottles?


I love it make one statement, and its assumed that I am ok with an 8 year old breastfeeding. Btw I am not ok with my 8 year old doing this, BUT after that being said I never see mothers in an up roar about these other actions. Think about it, I am sure each of us know a mother whos 4-8 year old who is still drinking from sippy cups, using soothers, thumbs or bottles for comfort.



I am an mother who believes in child lead weaning, I have breastfeed one child until 3 years old, I will breastfeed my 10 month old until she decides when its enough. It floors me to read mothers claim child abuse, and how disgusting it is to breastfeed past the age of one. It is reactions like these why mothers give up on breastfeeding so early. It is also why our little girls and boys are raised to believe that boobs are sex objects, and not feeding tools. We need stop pushing our own sexual issues on others, and just maybe mothers will not feel the peer pressure to start weaning children at 6 months old.



So I guess my opinion on a mother breastfeeding an 8 year old is, leave her be, she could be doing worse things like beating her child.

Amanda - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Kalie:

Do you know what gets my goat? People become to disgusted when someone breastfeeds an older child.. (8 is up there i agree) But breasts are for babies, they aren't for men, they aren't to sell cars or hang up on billboards. Yet people get so disgusted when they see even a 1 year old breastfeeding. That's a lil strange to me.


yes breast are for babies they are not however for children of 8 years old

Hannah - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Barbara:



Quoting Hannah:




Quoting Amanda-Lynn:

How is breastfeeding at 8 years old any different from an 8 year old drinking from a sippy cup, sucking their thumb, drinking from bottles?







Well...what they have in common is, that its totally inappropriate for their age. Those things are NOT learning to grow up, cope with life, be independant.








And the differenence is that its a tit. Again-not learning to soothe yourself and being coddled when you are old enough to see that life is about growing and maturing.Your whole attitude towards breasts would be frickin WIERD if you were raised suckeling them when it was no longer about getting food.








Its about a mother who wants to keep their child their baby. And a child that doesnt mind having boobie. Wouldnt it be nice to curl up against mom and be so completely safe and loved sometimes? BUT we gotta grow up, eh?









I hear and understand what you are saying, and as a member of the same type of society that you are a member of I can totally see why you would feel that way.  I have to assume however that you haven't experienced child led weaning, or been around many older children who still nurse.  If you had, perhaps you would have seen that it does not automatically result in an attitude towards breasts that is "frickin WIERD." Unless  of course you consider not seeing breasts as sex toys but as functioning and useful body parts to be frickin wierd.






I actually think that the opposite lesson is usually taught, children grow up thinking of "boobs" as these funny things used in sex and in low brow jokes.  Please correct me if I am misspeaking, but I sense that you may share that type of disdain for "tits" by your response. That is definitely not something I want to teach to my son.  






 






 






 





  My dear, assuming makes an ass out of you and me.



Excuse me. I have experienced these things and this is where I am getting my opinion from. Im not saying its sick to nurse 3 or 4 year olds (though for me its pushing it) Im saying breastfeeding an 8 year old is sick. 



And, to the point about 3rd world countries and extended nursing-I already said; that Its sick when it stops being about food. If an 8 year old child is still nursing because there is nothing else to eat or because of some bizarre health thing; then thats TOTALLY different. Here, in America, Canada, where ever else you ladies on computers are....breastfeeding an 8 year old is so unnesessary.



I am not knocking extended breast feeding I am knocking the question at hand-need I remind you again-nursing an 8 year old.



And you did misspeak. Allow me to correct you. I have more than respect for my breasts and those around me. Breasts sustained my life as they did that of my daughter my sisters and all my other loved ones.  Dont assume-(ass: u and me.)

Sarah - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Sheryl:

Whose to say there isn't evidence of psychological damage from mothers breasfeeding their children for too many years. In my opinion a child shouldn't be on the breast or the bottle when they are able to eat and drink their nutrients. Most children are well able after one year of age to eat just about any table foods and drink out of a cup of some sort.



I agree that we don't know if there is psychological damage being done or not. I watched the video that I think the original post was about. For fun these two girls like to draw pictures of breasts       and nipples, they have different names for their mothers boobs, and they like to touch them and talk to them. I can't imagine that is beneficial psychologically given the society that they live in. I know if my son drew a picture of my breasts at school, issues would certainly arise with it.

Kalie - posted on 04/27/2009

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Do you know what gets my goat? People become to disgusted when someone breastfeeds an older child.. (8 is up there i agree) But breasts are for babies, they aren't for men, they aren't to sell cars or hang up on billboards. Yet people get so disgusted when they see even a 1 year old breastfeeding. That's a lil strange to me.

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Quoting Hayley :

i dont think its being judgemental asking for peoples opinions, i think 8 is too old, the kid cant have much self esteem if she is the only one in the year at school still doing it. it is the preference of the mum and kid not others, but then could you really imagine being brestfed while at school. its not the worst case ive heard of... a few years ago there was a woman who breastfeed her 11 year old daughter for her birthday, because she wanted it. i cant imagine after that amount of time there are many health benefits.
im not against breastfeeding but personally i couldnt do it



I recently saw something like that on Tyra. The Mother of the 11 year old defended her actions, but I personally think that 8 years and beyond is way too old.



 

Lori - posted on 04/27/2009

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I just stopped bf my 3rd baby a 2yr and 5mo old son this month. The last 6mo have been a bedtime feeding only. It was the perfect way to let him relax and unwind safe and warm with mom. Anything after 3 would be too hard to break I would imagine. My first one was 4mo and my second was 22mo.

Barbara - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Hannah:



Quoting Amanda-Lynn:

How is breastfeeding at 8 years old any different from an 8 year old drinking from a sippy cup, sucking their thumb, drinking from bottles?





Well...what they have in common is, that its totally inappropriate for their age. Those things are NOT learning to grow up, cope with life, be independant.






And the differenence is that its a tit. Again-not learning to soothe yourself and being coddled when you are old enough to see that life is about growing and maturing.Your whole attitude towards breasts would be frickin WIERD if you were raised suckeling them when it was no longer about getting food.






Its about a mother who wants to keep their child their baby. And a child that doesnt mind having boobie. Wouldnt it be nice to curl up against mom and be so completely safe and loved sometimes? BUT we gotta grow up, eh?





I hear and understand what you are saying, and as a member of the same type of society that you are a member of I can totally see why you would feel that way.  I have to assume however that you haven't experienced child led weaning, or been around many older children who still nurse.  If you had, perhaps you would have seen that it does not automatically result in an attitude towards breasts that is "frickin WIERD." Unless  of course you consider not seeing breasts as sex toys but as functioning and useful body parts to be frickin wierd.



I actually think that the opposite lesson is usually taught, children grow up thinking of "boobs" as these funny things used in sex and in low brow jokes.  Please correct me if I am misspeaking, but I sense that you may share that type of disdain for "tits" by your response. That is definitely not something I want to teach to my son.  



 



 



 

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I can't believe some have compared it to abuse. What about moms of children in third world countries, who ONLY have nursing to feed their children? Do you still see it as disgusting then? Who cares how long other women nurse their children? Just like YOU know what's best for YOUR child, THEY know what's best for THEIR child. The only "damage" I can see from nursing a child that long is that she won't view breasts as a sexual object, like so many others do. Oh, the humanity!

Andrea - posted on 04/27/2009

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By the time your kid moves into their college dorms, I think it is probably time to wean.





Honestly? Who cares that much. Extended nursing isn't developmentally surpressing or otherwise abusive.

Kimberly - posted on 04/27/2009

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While I would not choose that option and would have reservations, I think the one doing the breast feeding should be the one who decides. I don't think breast feeding that long is the healthiest choice, but that is just my opinion

Jessie - posted on 04/27/2009

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I have always been an advocate for breastfeeding and through my studies I learned that if you are going to support and advocate that babies be nursed then you cannot put a limit on it. We can all, of course, have our opinions on what is too old but for the most part I think that children will wean when they are ready.

Dawn - posted on 04/27/2009

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Unfortunately, I could not breastfeed any of my kids, but it definitely was in the plan for the first one. I think 2 would be the oldest I would allow for my self. If the doctor recommended that my child stay on breastmilk due to nutritional needs, I would pump or find other means for nurishment for my children.

Sheryl - posted on 04/27/2009

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Whose to say there isn't evidence of psychological damage from mothers breasfeeding their children for too many years. In my opinion a child shouldn't be on the breast or the bottle when they are able to eat and drink their nutrients. Most children are well able after one year of age to eat just about any table foods and drink out of a cup of some sort.

Sheryl - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Jenifer:



Quoting Sarah:

I don't think formula feeding a baby and breastfeeding an 8 year old is even in the same category, like Vanessa claims. I think 8 years is a long time. That child (if it was in the U.S.) would be in either 2nd or 3rd grade. I had my first sleep over at that age. I can't imagine playing with my friends then stopping to breastfeed. That seems crazy!





In traditional cultures (where formula isn't an option) the average age of weaning is between 2-5 years. I think that that is why the issue of formula was brought up - why is it that we are so disgusted by late weaning but not by early weaning?






I have no intention of breast feeding my son until he's 8, or even 4 for that matter, but I don't see why the rest of us should be so concerned about the nursing relationship between another mother and child - especially when there's no evidence that this is psychologically damaging.






I guess I see child-led weaning as a parenting choice like co-sleeping or cloth diapering - and the visceral "eww" response (which I got too when I first saw this story) has more to do with cultural conditioning that an actual problem with the practice.





 

Sheryl - posted on 04/27/2009

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I have never posted anything on here at all. However, reading your posts I couldn't help myself. You are accusing this other person of "stirring the pot". Yet you seem to be the one with the issues. Otherwise why keep going on and on about it unless you are trying to attract attention yourself.

Amanda - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Amanda-Lynn:

How is breastfeeding at 8 years old any different from an 8 year old drinking from a sippy cup, sucking their thumb, drinking from bottles?


it is not any diferent. an 8 year old should be drinking from a cup, not a bottle or sippy cup and they should not have a pacifire at that age either.



An 8 year old does not need to breast feed, the only way I can see this apropriate is if this mother and child were in a very poor country and she did not have access to other milk for her child.



In north america there is NO reason to breast feed an 8 year old, a 3rd grader!



I would say to begin weaning around 2 but to let the child be the guide. If they want to nurse until 3 I see nothing wrong with it but once they start to get to the age where they are old enough for preschool school than it is time to stop.



I do not see any psychological damage from breast feeding a child under 4 but an 8 yr old I believe there would be damage in our culture.

Amanda - posted on 04/27/2009

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When mom or baby or both is ready to stop. For me, that was 3 1/2 years. I don't worry about what other moms do as long as they and their children are happy.

Hannah - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Amanda-Lynn:

How is breastfeeding at 8 years old any different from an 8 year old drinking from a sippy cup, sucking their thumb, drinking from bottles?


Well...what they have in common is, that its totally inappropriate for their age. Those things are NOT learning to grow up, cope with life, be independant.



And the differenence is that its a tit. Again-not learning to soothe yourself and being coddled when you are old enough to see that life is about growing and maturing.Your whole attitude towards breasts would be frickin WIERD if you were raised suckeling them when it was no longer about getting food.



Its about a mother who wants to keep their child their baby. And a child that doesnt mind having boobie. Wouldnt it be nice to curl up against mom and be so completely safe and loved sometimes? BUT we gotta grow up, eh?

~Jennifer - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Amanda-Lynn:

How is breastfeeding at 8 years old any different from an 8 year old drinking from a sippy cup, sucking their thumb, drinking from bottles?


Thumb sucking......don't know, never had issues with that.  However, an 8 year old should be off the bottle and the sippy cup, barring any developmental problems. The spouts / nipples are bad for their teeth. 



Would you send your 8 year old to school with a bottle in their lunch box?  



Sorry, I just don't see the connection.



 

Hannah - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Amanda-Lynn:

How is breastfeeding at 8 years old any different from an 8 year old drinking from a sippy cup, sucking their thumb, drinking from bottles?


Well...what they have in common is, that its totally inappropriate for their age. Those things are NOT learning to grow up, cope with life, be independant.



And the differenence is that its a tit. Again-not learning to soothe yourself and being coddled when you are old enough to see that life is about growing and maturing.Your whole attitude towards breasts would be frickin WIERD if you were raised suckeling them when it was no longer about getting food.



Its about a mother who wants to keep their child their baby. And a child that doesnt mind having boobie. Wouldnt it be nice to curl up against mom and be so completely safe and loved sometimes? BUT we gotta grow up, eh?

Amanda - posted on 04/27/2009

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How is breastfeeding at 8 years old any different from an 8 year old drinking from a sippy cup, sucking their thumb, drinking from bottles?

~Jennifer - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Hannah:



Quoting Barbara:

Boy, girl, what's the difference?

And to me, nursing a 13 year old would be like having a 13 year old who still slept with a blankie or sucked his/her thumb. Highly unusual, but certainly not morally wrong or abusive.





Thats really weird.






a 13 yr old shouldnt be sucking their thumb either. Your right its the same thing...and a sign of disfunction and mental issues.






I believe that moms should do whatever is best for them and their babies/children....however I also believe that breastfeeding an 8 year old or a 13 year old is totally unnesessary and can make for an awkward childhood.






For me there would be a huge difference if it were a boy vrs a girl. BF the girl until she was 8 is still bizarre and pretty gross, but with a boy? That simply disturbs me. Seriously.






Again-I love nursing my daughter and when I have another child, if it is a boy I will nurse him to. But not until he is 8, no way. I think it would create 1) an insufferable mamas boy, 2) Wierd complex about breasts.






Theres my 2 cents.





 Honestly, that's what I think too, but not a sign of issue with the child.  I can see the point being made....but it's a stretch for me.



I think that if a child can walk up to you, dig out your boob from your shit, and STAND UP to 'feed'.....they might just be a 'little' too old.    All I can imagine is something like:



"Mom, I finished my Algebra, can I get  some milk?"



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Hannah - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Barbara:

Boy, girl, what's the difference?

And to me, nursing a 13 year old would be like having a 13 year old who still slept with a blankie or sucked his/her thumb. Highly unusual, but certainly not morally wrong or abusive.


Thats really weird.



a 13 yr old shouldnt be sucking their thumb either. Your right its the same thing...and a sign of disfunction and mental issues.



I believe that moms should do whatever is best for them and their babies/children....however I also believe that breastfeeding an 8 year old or a 13 year old is totally unnesessary and can make for an awkward childhood.



For me there would be a huge difference if it were a boy vrs a girl. BF the girl until she was 8 is still bizarre and pretty gross, but with a boy? That simply disturbs me. Seriously.



Again-I love nursing my daughter and when I have another child, if it is a boy I will nurse him to. But not until he is 8, no way. I think it would create 1) an insufferable mamas boy, 2) Wierd complex about breasts.



Theres my 2 cents.

Shelley - posted on 04/27/2009

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Hi Im a NZ girl with a 6 year old daughter and I stopped feeding her when she was 6mths old reason for this was at birth she was 10lb 3oz so as you could imagine she was a well sized baby, at the age of 3mths all she wanted was solids, when your baby follows your fork with her mouth thats the sign of wanting food, the breast milk was not enough or her although I had plenty of it. Personally I would stop at 12mths any more than that is not right, and yes I have seen programmes like that to, there is going to be one playing on Thursday night here in NZ, very SICK. hope this helps

~Jennifer - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Barbara:

Boy, girl, what's the difference?

And to me, nursing a 13 year old would be like having a 13 year old who still slept with a blankie or sucked his/her thumb. Highly unusual, but certainly not morally wrong or abusive.


I  can see your point.  Not easily, I'll admit....lol....but I can see it. 



I just wonder where the line is, you know?

Barbara - posted on 04/27/2009

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Boy, girl, what's the difference?

And to me, nursing a 13 year old would be like having a 13 year old who still slept with a blankie or sucked his/her thumb. Highly unusual, but certainly not morally wrong or abusive.

~Jennifer - posted on 04/27/2009

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just a thought.....

How would you answer if she was nursing her 8 yr old son?
Or a 13 year old?

Barbara - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Rebecca:

i was never faced with the question of what's too long because I dried up when my son was just 8 months old. I THINK what I believe (without having had to make the decision) is that when you baby is old enough to start pulling at your shirt and asking for it they are probably also old enough to remember nursing when they are older and that's kind of creepy to me. If you are doing it for health benefits, pump and feed with a bottle. If it's for bonding, there are many other ways to bond once your child is that old.


If it creeps you out, then it isn't for you.  However, I DO remember nursing and I love those memories.  They don't creep me out in the least.  There are other ways to bond, but breastfeeding is a really great bonding experience too.  If the mother and the child are still enjoying it, why stop?

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Well ladies when I saw this question posted I just knew it was going to be an interesting one to read about and it was !!!

Really don't know why people have to pinpoint someone out by name and argue with them over something written on the internet though, would these be the same people who vocally argue at great lenght about a carpark or something as equally trivial?

It is just a posting and someone who has an opinion. State your case girls and move on , please don't name others and argue over something , it makes it less pleasant for others to read.

Carrie - posted on 04/27/2009

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Both of my sons only bf until they were around 7 months old. They both self-weaned butI had intended on breast-feeding until at least 2 as W.H.O. recommends. However as stated by MANY on here. Breast feeding an how long to do so should be completely left up to the parent. Why is it anyone elses business?

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i was never faced with the question of what's too long because I dried up when my son was just 8 months old. I THINK what I believe (without having had to make the decision) is that when you baby is old enough to start pulling at your shirt and asking for it they are probably also old enough to remember nursing when they are older and that's kind of creepy to me. If you are doing it for health benefits, pump and feed with a bottle. If it's for bonding, there are many other ways to bond once your child is that old.

Lisa - posted on 04/27/2009

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I breastfed both my kids til they were 2 and 2 1/2 years old.I don't think that other people should decide how to raise YOUR child.I let my children show me signs that they were ready.I figure to each their own.

Sara - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Kerry:

I'm studying a degree in women's health and one of our modules is breastfeeding and our tutor explained that before the medicinalisation of birth and the consumerism of artificial formula, breastfeeding was continued till children were 7/8 so they gained the natural essential nutrients that breastmilk provides. The only reason why breastfeeding is frowned upon now is because of the sexulisation of breasts in the popular media, the loss of experience within society and the exploitation of artifitial feeding by companies who produce breast milk. If someone wants to breast feed their child to that age its their choice as it would be if you had you nipples pierced or chose to wear the clothes you pick in the morning. A child loses its ability to suckle after a certain age so you dont have to worry that a 19 year old is going to ask for a bit of bitty.

Breastfeeding is a dying art and provides a best start to a childs life and a mothers life that would take a whole page to list. Perhaps its something you should research through unicef or WHO for more information.



I totally agree with you Kerry!  Sexualization of breasts is also why people get so worked up about breastfeeding in public, but that's an entirely different conversation!



 



On a personal note, I was breastfed until I was 5.  There is nothing wrong with me, I'm not damaged or screwed up.  I admit, I do get embarrased sometimes  but only because of people's reactions to it, not because my mom chose to breastfeed me that long.  I did not breastfeed my daughter that long, nor would I, but that is MY choice.

Kerry - posted on 04/27/2009

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I'm studying a degree in women's health and one of our modules is breastfeeding and our tutor explained that before the medicinalisation of birth and the consumerism of artificial formula, breastfeeding was continued till children were 7/8 so they gained the natural essential nutrients that breastmilk provides. The only reason why breastfeeding is frowned upon now is because of the sexulisation of breasts in the popular media, the loss of experience within society and the exploitation of artifitial feeding by companies who produce breast milk. If someone wants to breast feed their child to that age its their choice as it would be if you had you nipples pierced or chose to wear the clothes you pick in the morning. A child loses its ability to suckle after a certain age so you dont have to worry that a 19 year old is going to ask for a bit of bitty.



Breastfeeding is a dying art and provides a best start to a childs life and a mothers life that would take a whole page to list. Perhaps its something you should research through unicef or WHO for more information.

Barbara - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Sara:

If your child can say "boobie" then you can say "no, food"! It's an almost unbreakable bond between mothers and child...but if your child can speak, they should not be breastfeeding! The mother has taken it too far..not willing to let go. It's a quiet time between the two when the mother can look down lovingly at her child, enjoy the peace, and most of all I think it is the mother "needing" to be "needed". I absolutely love breastfeeding, but it's to be done until the child can eat whole foods...to me, you get past two and its time to consider your mental status and why your really still doing it, because at that age, it's no longer a need.


What about breastfeeding a child that can read, which is what my mother did for me! ( I weaned just before my fourth birthday.)



The WHO reccommends nursing until your child is a MINIMUM of two years.  That is the minimum amount of time, mind you.  There is no maximum time, because it is always a benefit to the child.  Our western culture may tell us that it is wrong to nurse an older child, but that is just a custom.  There are a lot of crazy customs throughout the world that people take seriously.  But a custom is just a custom, and they differ from family to family. 



The world average for weaning is 4 years old.  That is factoring in our culture which doesn't nurse very long at all, so you know that somewhere there are a lot of older nursers evening things out.  Just because it doesn't happen where you are, doesn't mean that it is "WRONG."

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I think that could cause some psychological issues for that child to be nursing at that age. I think no older than 2yrs. And even then, only once in the evening to help them go to sleep.

Barbara - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Jenifer:

Sarah, I quoted your post because you said that formula feeding and breast feeding and 8 year old are not comparable - I think they are. Formula feeding is not the biological norm, neither is breast feeding an 8 year old. Both are outside the average weaning of 2-5 years. But since neither have long term psychological implications, I don't think we should be so worried about what other moms choose to do. To call this "abusive", as many poster have, seems extreme to me.


I agree totally.  To me, an eight year old who still nurses is like an eight year old who still sleeps with a blankie.  It is certainly abnormal, but not really harmful. 



 

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Quoting Sara:

If your child can say "boobie" then you can say "no, food"! It's an almost unbreakable bond between mothers and child...but if your child can speak, they should not be breastfeeding!


My oldest child could say "Nurrr" sometime between 6 and 7 months. She certainly was not ready to be weaned.  I find it odd that we spend so much time teaching children how to use their words and ask for something they want but then employ entirely opposite logic when it comes to breastfeeding.

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If your child can say "boobie" then you can say "no, food"! It's an almost unbreakable bond between mothers and child...but if your child can speak, they should not be breastfeeding! The mother has taken it too far..not willing to let go. It's a quiet time between the two when the mother can look down lovingly at her child, enjoy the peace, and most of all I think it is the mother "needing" to be "needed". I absolutely love breastfeeding, but it's to be done until the child can eat whole foods...to me, you get past two and its time to consider your mental status and why your really still doing it, because at that age, it's no longer a need.

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Quoting Vanessa:



Quoting Sarah:




Quoting Jenifer:





Quoting Sarah:

I don't think formula feeding a baby and breastfeeding an 8 year old is even in the same category, like Vanessa claims. I think 8 years is a long time. That child (if it was in the U.S.) would be in either 2nd or 3rd grade. I had my first sleep over at that age. I can't imagine playing with my friends then stopping to breastfeed. That seems crazy!









In traditional cultures (where formula isn't an option) the average age of weaning is between 2-5 years. I think that that is why the issue of formula was brought up - why is it that we are so disgusted by late weaning but not by early weaning?










I have no intention of breast feeding my son until he's 8, or even 4 for that matter, but I don't see why the rest of us should be so concerned about the nursing relationship between another mother and child - especially when there's no evidence that this is psychologically damaging.










I guess I see child-led weaning as a parenting choice like co-sleeping or cloth diapering - and the visceral "eww" response (which I got too when I first saw this story) has more to do with cultural conditioning that an actual problem with the practice.












I'm not sure why I was quoted in your post but Vanessa was not comparing late-weening vs. early weaning. She was talking about passing judgement on mothers breastfeeding an older child and passing judgement on mothers who formula feed in general. I don't believe the two are comparable.









i WAS comparing late weaning to early weaning.......thats was exactly the point.






it is completely 'biologically normal' for a newborn baby to suckle at its mothers breast.






it is not 'biologically normal' for a newborn to be drinking formula from a bottle.






western culture  isn't allowed to pass judgement on a mother formula feeding her newborn.






SO what makes you think you can pass judgement on a mother breastfeeding her child beyond 2 years of age....?????    it may not be CULTURALLY NORMAL but it is BIOLOGICALLY NORMAL.






thank you to those who understand my point.






i will definately not be breastfeeding any of my children at 8 years of age. but i don't care who does, and i certainly don't think its helpful to make a freak show out of breastfeeding children (as opposed to babies)......its perfectly natural for children who can talk to want to breastfeed, if thats how their mother has mothered them.





 



Vanessa, obviously you are the one "stirring the pot". There was no debate until you showed up guns blazing. Anyway we all agree thats too old. Erinn is just starting a discusion, whats wrong with that? You started a whole argument about it. JEEZ.

Kim - posted on 04/27/2009

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Im a very strong believer of breastfeeding, but with that comes these types of questions.

I also believe that a child needs to be off of formula and or breastmilk when the turn no older than 18 months. There are other foods out there that the child needs to grow. If you talk to any pediatrican, they will say its up to the mother, but they will also say that after the age of 12 to 18 months a child needs other nutriants to help with the childs development.

I only breastfeed until my son desided he didn't want it any more. Usually stopped at about 8-10 months.

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I think 8 is way to old. I have seen that video its on you tube. I think that it was ment to be a nutritional way to naturally feed your baby and the baby forms a bond with the mother and its comforting for them, in my opinion 3 years old give or take a couple months is pleanty old enough for the bennifits that breastfeeding offers. Personally I stopped nursing my son at 22 months I wanted him to be done by the time he was 2, but it really depends on the mother and child, most children will wean themselves somewhere between 12 and 36 months.

Hayley - posted on 04/27/2009

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i dont think its being judgemental asking for peoples opinions, i think 8 is too old, the kid cant have much self esteem if she is the only one in the year at school still doing it. it is the preference of the mum and kid not others, but then could you really imagine being brestfed while at school. its not the worst case ive heard of... a few years ago there was a woman who breastfeed her 11 year old daughter for her birthday, because she wanted it. i cant imagine after that amount of time there are many health benefits.
im not against breastfeeding but personally i couldnt do it

Sara - posted on 04/27/2009

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I think it's wrong to just people based on how long they have chosen to breastfeed. I also don't understand why you would post a video of it on the internet...that is what seems sick to me, not the breastfeeding part.

Emily - posted on 04/27/2009

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I really could not care less how long other people choose to nurse be it two minutes or eight years. I am not comfortable going beyond four years, just because nursing an older child is annoying. I don't think that later weaning is damaging to the child especially if they have been taught how to drink from a cup, self comfort to an extent and respect mom's boundaries by not demanding to nurse at inconvenient times. I have a six year old who nursed for quite a while and I can honestly say she is fine with remembering breastfeeding but at her age she wouldn't want to be the kid whose mother is posting a video of it on the net.

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