Breastfeeding or bottlefeeding... which do you prefer and why?

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Sabrina - posted on 04/26/2009

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My first had problems with latching, so I pumped for about 9 weeks and did formula up until 1 year. My second was born a natural nurser. I was only planning on nursing for 6 months, but things were going so well, we are still going. Plan on continuing until 1 year. This has been the best choice for us and an amazing bonding experience. Ethan is a healthy, happy boy and has not been sick one time! It has been very tiring for me being a working Mom and pumping, but I wouldn't change a thing! I would def recommend breastfeeding to anyone.

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Both! I breast fed untill my son was 4 months old but then he started to nip at my nipples because he started teething. He took the bottle easily enough though.
I do wish that i could have breast fed for longer. Maybe with the next i will be able too.

Natasha - posted on 04/26/2009

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i would say that breast is best! i have breast fed 5 children its good for you and baby and you also get a brilliant bond

Mel - posted on 04/26/2009

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bottle feeding all the way baby! makes them gain a good amount of weight and move ahead quicker with development etc. mine would not have survived being breast fed plus all it does it hurt your nipples extremely bad and make it so you cant get any break

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breastfeeding is by far the best way to go.. i bottlefed my first and really did regret it.. i breastfed my youngest from birth untill she was 16 weeks old.. i had to put her onto formula because she was not getting enough from me. i tried everything but to no avail.. i truly prefer breastfeeding x

Jacklynn - posted on 04/26/2009

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I prefer breastfeeding. My son is 8 months old and he's still going strong. For me, the bonding experience that breastfeeding has provided is just wonderful. It was so hard in the beginning, but well worth it for both of us. I had to use a nipple shield until he was 4 months old because he wouldn't latch on. Then one day he just latched on and we were done with it. Of course, there are also great health benefits for the child that cannot be denied, but I disagree with individuals who vilify moms who choose to bottle feed. Formula is a fine choice and provides great nutrition for your baby. I think it's a PERSONAL CHOICE and only you can decide what works best for you and your baby. Also, you might consider trying to pump breast milk and then bottle feed it to your baby if you are leaning that way....if you do this, a hospital grade pump is probably best to keep your milk supply up. I think women and mothers should do a better job of supporting each other instead of tearing each other down.

Kelly - posted on 04/26/2009

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Both, whatever is best for you really. I breastfed for 2 weeks after having my little girl but i got mastisis and she hadnt been drinking as much as she should, she was lazy and always just fell asleep. Now she is on the bottles and gained weight alot quicker and now my boyfriend can do day and night time feeds also.

So i suggest whatever you feel comfortable with, i liked breast feeding but as she wasnt gaining weight and i was getting poorly i knew it wasnt worth continuing. x

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Okay I got less then half way through reading all responds when I descided I was going to reply now.

Breastfeeding is-without a doubt the best for your child. For the first 2 months of my sons life, he only got breastmilk tn my milk started to decline so I supplemented with formula.

To say that only babies that get formula fed suffer from Collic is a load of bull as my son was seeing a Oseteopath for his collic before we introduced formula.

I have the best bond ever with my son. To say you don' t bond as well with your child if it was formula fed compared to breastfed is also a load of bull. I couldn't breastfeed so I pumped. I have the best possible bond I could ever have with my son.

I worked with a woman who fed her 3 kids formula instead of breastmilk, all her kids turned out great and have high I.Q's

It is impossible for me to breastfeed, because of that for some of the five days we spent in hospital, he recieved formula.

To say that formula is expensive- yes maybe,but we buy the best brand for our son that costs us $16.15NZD every 1-2 weeks

Jenny - posted on 04/26/2009

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i chose to breastfeed, it was the most convient and it just felt natural for me to do it, i think that it doesnt matter if u breastfeed or bottlefeed aslong as its given with love i dont htink its overly matters.although i dont like it when parents just prop thier baby up with the bottle and leave them to feed because i believe feeding time wether it be breast or bottle should b a special time when parent and baby have all the attention on one another

Shannon - posted on 04/25/2009

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It actually makes no difference on what you choose to do be it breast feeding or bottle feeding. I've had friends whos children were all bottle fed and they tunred out to be some of the smartest babies I've seen. My son was 6 months old when I stopped giving him breast milk all together, he is the smartest kid you can ever see. he is 10 months only relying on 2 formula bottles a day he eats atleast 3 jars of solids a day. Hes been crawling since 5 months, hes walking like a 1 year old and hes only 10 months. He knows how to say atleast 20-25 different words, he knows what things mean even though he cant say it. He is really smart. For him to be put onto formula at 6 months id say made him stronger since I couldn't produce enough for him everyday.



So it doesn't matter on that mothers choice. Don't hate on them just because they can't handle the pain of the constant knawing of the nipples till they bleed, or the fact that even if they wanted to breastfeed they couldn't. Everyone has there own opinion, but shoving it rudely in someones face that they can't have that awesome bonding with there child is wrong. My son loves the hell outta me and his father because we were both able to feed him the same thing.

Arwen - posted on 04/25/2009

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You picked a hot subject! LOL Breastfeeding for me. I did want to say that studies have shown it DOES NOT make babies smarter. On average smarted women breastfeed. The baby gets smarts from his or her DNA. I've seen really smart bottle fed babies, too. Their parents are smart.

Monica - posted on 04/25/2009

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i feel really lucky for being able to breastfeed my child. he's growing quickly and it is because my milk is more nutritious than formula. i had a c-section and still managed to feed him 'football' style. i was scared because he lost 10oz from birth to when we went home but he quickly gained it all back. he did have slight jaundice from my milk and the only supportive person was my pediatrician. most people were telling me to go with the formula so he can get better. i don't think i was selfish to stick with breastfeeding. the doctor and i paid close attention to his condition and after the 2nd month it went away.

breastfeeding was not a pleasant experience for the first month and i was on the brink of quitting. my own will, ice packs, and knowing it was sooo beneficial kept me working through the pain. i went back to work at 6 weeks and started pumping only then. i pump 3 times throughout my work day.

i am a little sad because my size 6 clothes seem to be collecting dust but i know that in time i will get back into them. i just don't want to hurry up my weight loss and lose my milk supply. i only wanted to breastfeed for 6 months but now my baby boy is almost 4 months and i love the time i get when i'm feeding him. something so special that i would hate to lose. nothing can compare and i feel a real sadness for the mom's that physical aren't able to enjoy this and frown upon the mom's that CHOOSE otherwise.

Shannon - posted on 04/25/2009

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Well I breastfeed till he was 3 months he wouldn't stop chewing my nipples which hurt a lot, I tried everything to get him to stop but nothing worked he's a stubborn lil guy lol. Si I decided to go to bottle feeding. When he turned 6 months I stopped pumping breast milk and put him onto formula. I choose to do so, because the stretch marks were getting worse then before from the constant pumping, and the fact that he was already on 6-8 month old foods.

Kayla - posted on 04/25/2009

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breast feeding most of the time, its very convenient but i make sure that my son gets a bottle on a regular basis so he doesnt reject the bottle if i need a babysitter

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Quoting Trina:



Quoting Wendy:




Quoting Trina:

I'm sure this question was not meant to cause a huge debate, HOWEVER I am so tired of hearing asinine comments from breast feeding mothers. Something to take into consideration when you're spewing your holier-than-thou attitude on bottle feeding mothers: regardless of what you choose to believe, NOT EVERYONE IS CAPABLE OF BREAST FEEDING!!!!!! Your comments are hurtful and insensitive and meant solely to make a mother who made a different choice than you feel inferior.








Trina, I'm sorry you feel that way. Many breastfeeding moms are not trying to make "holier-than-thou" statements, however they are trying to express some of the information which research has affirmed.








I'm aware that not everyone can nurse their children. According to the WHO (World Health Organization) 1-2% of women cannot breastfeed their babies. Additionally the WHO, along with some other organizations, have stated the order of child feeding preference: 1) Breastfeeding 2) Breast Milk Feeding (mom's milk) 3) Breast Milk Feeding (from milk bank or screened direct donor) 4) Infant Formula Feeding.








 








Nevertheless, many parents are not told about all the options when is comes to infant feeding. Additionally, I'm not in your circumstance, I didn't go through what you when through and cannot state with fact what I would have done.








However, according to my experiences, education (in lactation) and research I originally answered the question about what I prefer and why. It was all about me and so are most of the other posters comments. You have every right to your feeling, and should be able to express them. However, many of the comments were not meant to be, as you say "hurtful and insensitive and meant solely to make a mother who made a different choice than you feel inferior", they where answering the question with an "I" statements which is bases on their stories and their experiences. ((HUGS))









Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate it. And you're right, not every comment was meant to be hurtful, however there were a few that were intended to be such, which were the ones that I was responding to, but because I can't "reply with quote" to more than one comment, and the fact that I was incredibly livid that someone (Ashley) stated that formula feeding is the worst thing a parent can do to a child, my comment came out sounding like I was lashing out at ALL breast feeding mothers, which certainly was not the case.






Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but far too many people feel that it is their right to talk down to people because of their choices.  My whole point here is that you NEVER know the reason why a mother is bottle feeding, yet all too often I am subjected to comments such as Ashley's and it really wears on a person over time. Every time I have to feed my son while we are out, someone says something about the fact that he is getting a bottle instead of breast when in all reality, they don't even know if it is breast milk or formula in the bottle.






Also, while I'm sure it is not intended, when someone says that they breast feed for the "bonding" that is hurtful because if they believe that then by contrast, they would have to believe that bottle fed babies DON"T bond with their mothers, nor do adopted children - which is completely asinine. To believe that you don't have a good relationship with your mother because you were bottle fed? Preposterous.  I was bottle fed and have a very good relationship with my mother, who was breast fed and has no relationship with her mother.






And you are right, not every mother is aware of feeding options. However, not every mother is made aware of just how difficult breast feeding is in the beginning. Instead, we are fed propaganda every day from the moment we announce our pregnancies about how breast is best and every woman can do it, but nobody talks about those that can't or those that aren't comfortable with it.  At a very young age, girls are taught that their breasts are private, yet the moment we have a child, we're expected to bare them for the world to see - it's no wonder some women are conflicted. 






Please don't get me wrong - I am not anti-breast feeding. I am just a bottle-feeding momma who's tired of being made to feel like I'm harming my child.  I don't go up to breast feeding women and tell them they should be bottle feeding, so why do they feel that it's their duty to tell me that I should be breast feeding? Regardless of whether it was a choice that I made or was made for me, it's nobody's business but my own.






Trina, I just spent half an hour or more trying to post my opinion respectfully and then when my page refreshed there your post was.  I could have spent an hour and not said it any better than you!  Thank you!  You said all the things I was thinking and feeling, but much more eloquently than I ever could have.  Thank you again.  A thousand thanks.

Trina - posted on 04/25/2009

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Quoting Sarah:






Quoting Ashley:






 






I totally understand that sometimes there are legitimate reasons to not breastfeed, but those instances don't happen very often. All I'm trying to say is that it isn't a simple choice. It isn't, hmmm, which do I prefer. There is so much more to the argument than that, Breastmilk is better for your baby than furmula, hands down, no arguments. People should read the research if they don't agree. But, you're right, sometimes milk doesn't come in, or people don't produce enough. I'm sorryif I afended anyone, because I was only talking in the cases where women choose to use formula. I wasn't talking about women who CAN'T breastfeed for whatever reason.  I know I would feel horrible if I couldn't breastfeed my daughter, but I would never not attempt it. Anecdotal evidence is not evidence. People's stories about their kid succeeding or surpassing expectations mean nothing. How would that child have been different if they had had breastmilk? So, definitely, I feel bad for women who try to breastfeed and can't, but women who choose formula over breastfeeding? They are not properly informed.









Choosing not to for whatever reason is legitimate enough. Women can be informed about the differences between breastfeeding and formula feeding, and still choose formula. You chose breast, great for you. Another mother may chose formula, great for them. To say mothers who chose formula aren't proberly informed is absurd.  People can make informed decisions that are contrary to yours. Shocking, I know!!





Right on, Sarah! I couldn't agree more!

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Quoting Amanda:



Quoting Ashley:

I feel very strongly about this. I don't think that breastfeeding/bottlefeeding is a choice or just a preference. I have a degree in psychology and have read numerous studies about the protective benefits of breastfeeding. If anyone took the time to read these, or even listen to to a midwife, they'd realize that bottlefeeding (formula) is one of the worst decisions you can make as a parent. Breastfeeding builds the child's immune system, protects against jaundice, promotes bonding between mother and child by the release of the hormone oxytocin (the some hormone that induces labor and also shrinks your uterus after birth by way of breastfeeding), protects against ear infections, and also children who are breastfed score higher on IQ tests than children who are not. Also, breast milk is the most nutritious food for your baby. All those formulas out there contain too much protein, among other things. Your breast milk is designed specifically for YOUR baby. No formula can provide complete nutrition for your child. Plus, breast milk is free! The American Pediatric Association insists that a child should be breast fed for AT LEAST six months, but preferably a year. Even breastfeeding your child up to two years of age has been shown to be beneficial to the child. Anyway, I could go on and on. That's my two cents.






Well ashley I am sorry but I take offence to this. When I was pregnant with baby number one eevryone said oh you must breast fedd because of blah blah blah blah, I decided to read about it and even went to breast feeding classes offerd by the health unit.the clases explained the corect holds, the perfect latch, had demonstrations, told how to help your milk let down and gave the stats on cancer and everything else you can imagine. I thought I was ready and could not wait to breast feed my daughter. Luck did not work out in my favor, my daughter was born by a natural child birth with no drugs and she was dead, doctors brought her back and she was instantly taken to NICU for 2 weeks where they bottle fed her and tube fed her. I put her to the breast and nothing, she would not latch, so I pumped to keep up the supply while she learned how to nurse properly. 3 months of lactation cunsultants helping me and she still was not interested, she would wail and scream and wanted nothing to do with it so I continued to pump and bottle her exclusivley breast milk for 3.5 months before my milk finally ran out. as you know baby is more effective than a pump at getting the milk. I fealt like a failure that my baby and I could not have that breast feeding bonding thing that everyone talks about.






I said with #2 would be diferent, we tried to breast feed and my daughter loved it but started looseing weight fast, she had the right technique and everything but for some reason we found out when i started pumping that I had NO MILK. I was told EVERY MOTHER CAN BREAST FEED, EVERY MOTHER CAN PRODUCE MILK! I even read of an adoptive mother who took a medication and was able to breast feed, I asked for the meds and took them and pumped for 2 months and still not a drop.






so after all that trying both of my kids were formula babies, I buy the best formula and it has come along way from when we were kids. It is nearly identical to bm except for the antiboties.






maybe baby number 3 will be diferent. but I iknow that if it were not  for formula perhaps my babies would have starved.





Amanda,  Thank you for sharing this with us.  Your post brought me to tears.  This has been a really sensitive subject for me tonight...actually since the day I gave my son his first bottle when he was 6 weeks old.  I felt like such a failure, like I didn't try hard enough, like I was letting him down, like I was letting generations of breastfeeding women down....I felt like I was letting everyone down.  It was my heart's desire from the moment I found out I was pregnant to breastfeed.  Sometimes, for different reasons, it just doesn't work out.  And what I wish people would understand is that not all of us are CHOOSING to go to formula.  Some of us go to formula out of necessity and we feel every drop of pain that comes with it.  Some women choose formula for the convenience and you know what?  That's their right and their decision and no one should be judged on anything unless they are neglecting their babies.  Formula works.  My son is 18 months old, breast fed for the first 6 weeks and formula until 1 year.  He's never been sick with a cold or anything other than diahrreah from me giving him too much fruit that day or a fever caused by teething.  So all these mothers who strictly breastfed (good for them, honestly), is my son LESS intelligent?  Is my son LESS healthy?  Is my son LESS than anything from yours?  I doubt it.  Studies show, studies show, studies show.  The same people who do the studies are probably the same companies that make the formula.    



In the end it's all about making sure our babies are fed and healthy and happy.  I just wish that some people (not saying all, because most breast feeding moms agree that it's whatever's best for baby and mom)...I just wish that some people would lay off and get off their high horses when it comes to how we feed our kids.  We ALL try to do what's best.  I made my own baby food for my son from the minute he was able to handle table food.  But does that mean that the Mom who buys jars of Gerber is doing less for her kid?  NO!  Everyone has different ways of getting to the same  place and it would just be nice to be respected, rather than just tolerated.  Us moms who were unable to breastfeed, trust me, we have our own self hatred on that subject.  We don't need to hear it from anyone else.  Again, thanks for posting Amanda.  Sorry it came to a boil with me here tonight.  I usually don't post when I'm angry, but this got me. 

Linda - posted on 04/25/2009

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Breastfeeding, hands down!



1. I'm super, super lazy: no dishes, no shopping, no nipple shape/material issues, no warming, no shelf-life, no waiting, no spoilage, no water-safety worries...



2. poo -- because of the difference in iron absorbsion and intestinal flora, breastfed baby poo does NOT smell like adult poo... artificial breastmilk substitute poo sure does!!! For 2 whole years of diapers--- eeeeeewwwww!!!!



3. NEC: rare, almost always fatal, ONLY available to artificial breastmilk substitute-fed babies -- the long words are necrotizing (that means 'flesh eating') enterocolitis (in the intestines)... yes, that's flesh-eating internal bacteria, ladies. Usually only in premies -- but seen in babies up to a year... 100% death rate in premies, only 50% in year old babies... 'nough said.



3. cost: omg -- I seriously just about fainted, 20 years ago, looking at the cost of a case of formula. It was more than 3/4 of our MONTHLY grocery budget for 2 adults. Srsly. I thought 'well, kid, you can figure out how to breastfeed or starve, there are no other choices.'



4. bonding: I'm not going to pretend that the ONLY way you can bond with another human is through breastfeeding (I'm bonded to my husband and I promise, he was NEVER breastfed, by me or anyone else!).. but breastfeeding, and the close relationship it laid the foundation for, is definitely the single biggest factor in how wonderful mothering has been these last 20 years. Yes, my eldest is 20 next month... and I know her SO well, I respect her SO much, I have trusted her completely her whole life because I have known her SO well... she is a joy, a delight and one of the brightest lights of my life, and I attribute a HUGE part of that to the wonderful, intimate, connected and calm start we had because of breastfeeding. I *know* we could have connected without it... but it was SO easy to connect, so inevitable to connect with it... truly, I had no idea how much it was possible to love, to be connected and to really understand another person until I was in that relationship with that girl.



Yeah... breastfeeding: so many benefits, zero downsides.

Sarah - posted on 04/25/2009

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Quoting Ashley:



 



I totally understand that sometimes there are legitimate reasons to not breastfeed, but those instances don't happen very often. All I'm trying to say is that it isn't a simple choice. It isn't, hmmm, which do I prefer. There is so much more to the argument than that, Breastmilk is better for your baby than furmula, hands down, no arguments. People should read the research if they don't agree. But, you're right, sometimes milk doesn't come in, or people don't produce enough. I'm sorryif I afended anyone, because I was only talking in the cases where women choose to use formula. I wasn't talking about women who CAN'T breastfeed for whatever reason.  I know I would feel horrible if I couldn't breastfeed my daughter, but I would never not attempt it. Anecdotal evidence is not evidence. People's stories about their kid succeeding or surpassing expectations mean nothing. How would that child have been different if they had had breastmilk? So, definitely, I feel bad for women who try to breastfeed and can't, but women who choose formula over breastfeeding? They are not properly informed.





Choosing not to for whatever reason is legitimate enough. Women can be informed about the differences between breastfeeding and formula feeding, and still choose formula. You chose breast, great for you. Another mother may chose formula, great for them. To say mothers who chose formula aren't proberly informed is absurd.  People can make informed decisions that are contrary to yours. Shocking, I know!!

Trina - posted on 04/25/2009

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Quoting Wendy:



Quoting Trina:

I'm sure this question was not meant to cause a huge debate, HOWEVER I am so tired of hearing asinine comments from breast feeding mothers. Something to take into consideration when you're spewing your holier-than-thou attitude on bottle feeding mothers: regardless of what you choose to believe, NOT EVERYONE IS CAPABLE OF BREAST FEEDING!!!!!! Your comments are hurtful and insensitive and meant solely to make a mother who made a different choice than you feel inferior.






Trina, I'm sorry you feel that way. Many breastfeeding moms are not trying to make "holier-than-thou" statements, however they are trying to express some of the information which research has affirmed.






I'm aware that not everyone can nurse their children. According to the WHO (World Health Organization) 1-2% of women cannot breastfeed their babies. Additionally the WHO, along with some other organizations, have stated the order of child feeding preference: 1) Breastfeeding 2) Breast Milk Feeding (mom's milk) 3) Breast Milk Feeding (from milk bank or screened direct donor) 4) Infant Formula Feeding.






 






Nevertheless, many parents are not told about all the options when is comes to infant feeding. Additionally, I'm not in your circumstance, I didn't go through what you when through and cannot state with fact what I would have done.






However, according to my experiences, education (in lactation) and research I originally answered the question about what I prefer and why. It was all about me and so are most of the other posters comments. You have every right to your feeling, and should be able to express them. However, many of the comments were not meant to be, as you say "hurtful and insensitive and meant solely to make a mother who made a different choice than you feel inferior", they where answering the question with an "I" statements which is bases on their stories and their experiences. ((HUGS))





Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate it. And you're right, not every comment was meant to be hurtful, however there were a few that were intended to be such, which were the ones that I was responding to, but because I can't "reply with quote" to more than one comment, and the fact that I was incredibly livid that someone (Ashley) stated that formula feeding is the worst thing a parent can do to a child, my comment came out sounding like I was lashing out at ALL breast feeding mothers, which certainly was not the case.



Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but far too many people feel that it is their right to talk down to people because of their choices.  My whole point here is that you NEVER know the reason why a mother is bottle feeding, yet all too often I am subjected to comments such as Ashley's and it really wears on a person over time. Every time I have to feed my son while we are out, someone says something about the fact that he is getting a bottle instead of breast when in all reality, they don't even know if it is breast milk or formula in the bottle.



Also, while I'm sure it is not intended, when someone says that they breast feed for the "bonding" that is hurtful because if they believe that then by contrast, they would have to believe that bottle fed babies DON"T bond with their mothers, nor do adopted children - which is completely asinine. To believe that you don't have a good relationship with your mother because you were bottle fed? Preposterous.  I was bottle fed and have a very good relationship with my mother, who was breast fed and has no relationship with her mother.



And you are right, not every mother is aware of feeding options. However, not every mother is made aware of just how difficult breast feeding is in the beginning. Instead, we are fed propaganda every day from the moment we announce our pregnancies about how breast is best and every woman can do it, but nobody talks about those that can't or those that aren't comfortable with it.  At a very young age, girls are taught that their breasts are private, yet the moment we have a child, we're expected to bare them for the world to see - it's no wonder some women are conflicted. 



Please don't get me wrong - I am not anti-breast feeding. I am just a bottle-feeding momma who's tired of being made to feel like I'm harming my child.  I don't go up to breast feeding women and tell them they should be bottle feeding, so why do they feel that it's their duty to tell me that I should be breast feeding? Regardless of whether it was a choice that I made or was made for me, it's nobody's business but my own.

Amanda - posted on 04/25/2009

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my bottle fed daughter could talk at 9 months, knew how to count to 20 and the numerical value associated with the number at 18 months, knew her colors and shapes at 13 months, she is 4 now and knows all her provinces on an unlabled map, knows her phonetic alphabit , can spell at a grade 3 level, read at a grade 2 level can add and subtract double digits , she knows how to skip count by 3s and 2s and is learning to multiply and divide.

My formula fed daughter did this so no one can say that breast fed kids are smarter because it is individual

Joyce - posted on 04/25/2009

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I bottle fed 3 children and all 3 are grown and healthy. I was just more comfortable doing this. However I always held during feeding { did not prop bottle} and rocked and sang to them alot I always say do what you are most comfortable doing. Do not let either side bully you into doing what does not feel comfortable to you. trust yourself!

Ashley - posted on 04/25/2009

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Quoting Abby:

Ashley, stating that bottle feeding is one of the worst things you can do makes some women feel awful....i had no choice i produced NO milk and therefore my child STARVED for the first few days. my child and i have an amazing bond but he is extremely outgoing too. his father and granny got to bond with him too because of bottle feeding. my child is an extremely intelligent child, he hit all his milestones long before he should, he crawled at 5 months, smiled at 16 days.
so please dont say those things, sometimes breast feeding is not possible and people who go round saying things like you do hurt women who tried theur hardest and struggled for months feeding with a bottle as my child hated it.


I totally understand that sometimes there are legitimate reasons to not breastfeed, but those instances don't happen very often. All I'm trying to say is that it isn't a simple choice. It isn't, hmmm, which do I prefer. There is so much more to the argument than that, Breastmilk is better for your baby than furmula, hands down, no arguments. People should read the research if they don't agree. But, you're right, sometimes milk doesn't come in, or people don't produce enough. I'm sorryif I afended anyone, because I was only talking in the cases where women choose to use formula. I wasn't talking about women who CAN'T breastfeed for whatever reason.  I know I would feel horrible if I couldn't breastfeed my daughter, but I would never not attempt it. Anecdotal evidence is not evidence. People's stories about their kid succeeding or surpassing expectations mean nothing. How would that child have been different if they had had breastmilk? So, definitely, I feel bad for women who try to breastfeed and can't, but women who choose formula over breastfeeding? They are not properly informed.

Amanda - posted on 04/25/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

I feel very strongly about this. I don't think that breastfeeding/bottlefeeding is a choice or just a preference. I have a degree in psychology and have read numerous studies about the protective benefits of breastfeeding. If anyone took the time to read these, or even listen to to a midwife, they'd realize that bottlefeeding (formula) is one of the worst decisions you can make as a parent. Breastfeeding builds the child's immune system, protects against jaundice, promotes bonding between mother and child by the release of the hormone oxytocin (the some hormone that induces labor and also shrinks your uterus after birth by way of breastfeeding), protects against ear infections, and also children who are breastfed score higher on IQ tests than children who are not. Also, breast milk is the most nutritious food for your baby. All those formulas out there contain too much protein, among other things. Your breast milk is designed specifically for YOUR baby. No formula can provide complete nutrition for your child. Plus, breast milk is free! The American Pediatric Association insists that a child should be breast fed for AT LEAST six months, but preferably a year. Even breastfeeding your child up to two years of age has been shown to be beneficial to the child. Anyway, I could go on and on. That's my two cents.



Well ashley I am sorry but I take offence to this. When I was pregnant with baby number one eevryone said oh you must breast fedd because of blah blah blah blah, I decided to read about it and even went to breast feeding classes offerd by the health unit.the clases explained the corect holds, the perfect latch, had demonstrations, told how to help your milk let down and gave the stats on cancer and everything else you can imagine. I thought I was ready and could not wait to breast feed my daughter. Luck did not work out in my favor, my daughter was born by a natural child birth with no drugs and she was dead, doctors brought her back and she was instantly taken to NICU for 2 weeks where they bottle fed her and tube fed her. I put her to the breast and nothing, she would not latch, so I pumped to keep up the supply while she learned how to nurse properly. 3 months of lactation cunsultants helping me and she still was not interested, she would wail and scream and wanted nothing to do with it so I continued to pump and bottle her exclusivley breast milk for 3.5 months before my milk finally ran out. as you know baby is more effective than a pump at getting the milk. I fealt like a failure that my baby and I could not have that breast feeding bonding thing that everyone talks about.



I said with #2 would be diferent, we tried to breast feed and my daughter loved it but started looseing weight fast, she had the right technique and everything but for some reason we found out when i started pumping that I had NO MILK. I was told EVERY MOTHER CAN BREAST FEED, EVERY MOTHER CAN PRODUCE MILK! I even read of an adoptive mother who took a medication and was able to breast feed, I asked for the meds and took them and pumped for 2 months and still not a drop.



so after all that trying both of my kids were formula babies, I buy the best formula and it has come along way from when we were kids. It is nearly identical to bm except for the antiboties.



maybe baby number 3 will be diferent. but I iknow that if it were not  for formula perhaps my babies would have starved.

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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting Wendy:

Breastfeeding and there are SO many reasons why I would not choose any other way. However, I will name a few:

1) Breastfeeding is more than feeding my child. While breastfeeding I'm also meeting my child's emotional, physical, social and psychological needs.

2) Foe every 6 months that I nurse, the chances my me developing postmenopausal breast or cervical cancer drop! Additionally, studies show that a woman who has BF a total of 7 years has 0% chance of developing postmenopausal breast cancer!

3) Not BF puts my child at a higher (life long) risk of developing: Diabetes, autoimmune diseases, gastrointestinal disease, etc!






My grandmother was born a premie (this was before N.I.C.U or formula was around) and couldn't hold milk down (allergy maybe) and didn't have the sucking reflex. She was fed by sucking water that had beans cooking in it, off a rag. She is very healthy and in her 70's. My mother was fed canned milk, water, and karo syrup mixed together, along with all of her siblings. She and her siblings are healthy, and have a great relationship with my grandmother. I was breastfed, have a good relationship with my mother, and I am the only out of all those people I mentioned with an auto-immune disease. Weird don't you think?






I think anyway a mother decides to feed her baby is right for her. I have done both with my 4 children. I am close with all of them. All of them have developed and hit their milestones just as they should.  I also meet my children's emotional, physical, social and psychological needs. The fact that your breast is able to accomlish all that is amazing! Some of us use other ways to give our children just as fullfilled lives.






A-FRIGGIN-MEN SARAH!

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I wanted to breastfeed with both of my children, but couldn't with my daughter because of the meds administered after the birth and with my son I had an emergency c-section and my milk only came in about 1 week after the birth so he was formula fed as well. I don't think there is anything wrong with either method....I think you must chose what is most comfortable and fesible for yourself, your lifestyle and your baby.

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Quoting Wendy:

Breastfeeding and there are SO many reasons why I would not choose any other way. However, I will name a few:

1) Breastfeeding is more than feeding my child. While breastfeeding I'm also meeting my child's emotional, physical, social and psychological needs.

2) Foe every 6 months that I nurse, the chances my me developing postmenopausal breast or cervical cancer drop! Additionally, studies show that a woman who has BF a total of 7 years has 0% chance of developing postmenopausal breast cancer!

3) Not BF puts my child at a higher (life long) risk of developing: Diabetes, autoimmune diseases, gastrointestinal disease, etc!



My grandmother was born a premie (this was before N.I.C.U or formula was around) and couldn't hold milk down (allergy maybe) and didn't have the sucking reflex. She was fed by sucking water that had beans cooking in it, off a rag. She is very healthy and in her 70's. My mother was fed canned milk, water, and karo syrup mixed together, along with all of her siblings. She and her siblings are healthy, and have a great relationship with my grandmother. I was breastfed, have a good relationship with my mother, and I am the only out of all those people I mentioned with an auto-immune disease. Weird don't you think?



I think anyway a mother decides to feed her baby is right for her. I have done both with my 4 children. I am close with all of them. All of them have developed and hit their milestones just as they should.  I also meet my children's emotional, physical, social and psychological needs. The fact that your breast is able to accomlish all that is amazing! Some of us use other ways to give our children just as fullfilled lives.

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Yes I've tasted it, and I tasted my own breast milk too and it's also nasty tasting to me. But then again, so is just about every food sold for babies. The only "tasty" jarred food I found were the fruits. That's why I made my own. I'm sorry but what you said just hit me wrong and I might have over reacted but it just felt like a dig to me.

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Quoting Joy:



Quoting Allison:

Breastfeeding, hands down. It was anything but easy for my daughter and I, but I was absolutely determined to NOT give her any nasty formula, and we worked through all of our problems. I aimed at nursing her for 12 months, ended up nursing her for 16 months!






nice dig...not tooo passive aggressive






Formula's not so nasty when it's all you can do.  I'm really glad you were able to breast feed as long as you did but some problems can't just be "worked through".  Like I said, nice dig at all of us who did the "nasty formula" thing.





Its not a dig, as I meant it literally. Have you tasted formula? It tastes nasty.

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I love dbreast feeding its so personal and felt lovely i still miss it. My son had a few bottles as i had to have an operation and i found it was a bit of a nightmare with all the mixing sterilising keeping warm and cold etc so much easier just to sit down and latch them on whenever and wherever they are hungry.

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Quoting Allison:

Breastfeeding, hands down. It was anything but easy for my daughter and I, but I was absolutely determined to NOT give her any nasty formula, and we worked through all of our problems. I aimed at nursing her for 12 months, ended up nursing her for 16 months!



nice dig...not tooo passive aggressive



Formula's not so nasty when it's all you can do.  I'm really glad you were able to breast feed as long as you did but some problems can't just be "worked through".  Like I said, nice dig at all of us who did the "nasty formula" thing.

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I loved breastfeeding. I nursed/pumped for 9 months, then started supplementing w/ formula while he was at the sitters. I was able to continue nursing at least once a day for a full year, and I loved it! I am thankful that I was able to nurse for that long, but I also know that nursing is not the only way you can build that bond w/ your baby. Simply snuggling w/ him while he's eating his bottle can build an amazing bond!

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Breastfeeding, hands down. It was anything but easy for my daughter and I, but I was absolutely determined to NOT give her any nasty formula, and we worked through all of our problems. I aimed at nursing her for 12 months, ended up nursing her for 16 months!

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I have breastfeed all 4 of my children. It was easy, always the right temperature and no waiting around to warm a bottle in the middle of the night. I could nurse them anywear and I did not go to the nearest bathroom to feed my child.( This is a pet peeve of mine. Why do people think you need to feed your child in a washroom if you are breastfeeding a baby? You can nurse a baby without making yourself a spectale in public rather than feeding them in a dirty bathroom. Do you eat your dinner in the bathroom stall at a restaurant? Why should I have to.

If you choose to bottle feed that is your choice. I made my choice on what was right for me and my children. Go with you gut. You know yourself and your child best.

Good Luck with what ever you choose. It will be the best decesion for you.

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Breastfeeding. It is better for the baby. So much more benefits and it is so much more convient and you don't have to sterlize or wash the bottles. It may be hard at first but after a couple weeks to a month you should get the hang of it.

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If you think you would try to breastfeed, then go ahead! I attempted twice but was it didnt turn out to be a good experience for me. I will warn you it is an extremely emotional experience. I was extremely depressed after both failed attempts. BUT I would urge to to try it and if it works, then wonderful for both you and the baby. Bottlefeeding is just as good.

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I THINK BREASTFEEDING IS THE BEST WITH MY FIRST TWO I SUPPLEMENTED WITH FORMULA AND WINGED THEM AT SIX MONTHS BUT WITH MY LAST I BREAST FED UNTIL SHE WAS TWO YRS OLD... I KNOW IT SOUNDS BAD BUT SHE NEVER SUCKED A PACIFIER AND I PUMPED FOR HER SO I COULD WORK. SHE STARTED WALKING AT 9 MNTHS AND WAS POTTY TRAINED AT 14 MNTHS VERY SMART NOW SO IT REALLY IS A GOOD WAY TO GO. ALSO WITH BREASTFEEDING I THINK THEY RARELY GET SICK BECAUSE MY CHILDREN RARELY GET COLDS OR ANYTHING MY KNEE BABY JUST GOT SICK THIS YEAR FOR THE FIRST TIME HE HAD A STOMACH VIRUS AND THOUGHT HE WAS DYING. WITH THAT BEING SAID I THINK IF U HAD A CHOICE ATLEAST TRY BREASTFEEDING FIRST ITS NOT FOR EVERYONE.

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Breast-feeding, i did it with all three of my kids and loved the special bond it created between myself and each of them. However, it is extremely hard at first and wears on the mom, so ultimately it is what you can handle.

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Breastfeeding all the way! For some great information read Dr. Jack Newman's book and it will totally open your eyes to so many things. There is really no downside to breastfeeding and it is so good for the baby.

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Quoting Wendy:

Breastfeeding and there are SO many reasons why I would not choose any other way. However, I will name a few:

1) Breastfeeding is more than feeding my child. While breastfeeding I'm also meeting my child's emotional, physical, social and psychological needs.

2) Foe every 6 months that I nurse, the chances my me developing postmenopausal breast or cervical cancer drop! Additionally, studies show that a woman who has BF a total of 7 years has 0% chance of developing postmenopausal breast cancer!

3) Not BF puts my child at a higher (life long) risk of developing: Diabetes, autoimmune diseases, gastrointestinal disease, etc!

4) The release of oxytocin (called the mothering hormone) when my child nurses helps to relax me when we are having a hard day, so after the nursing session we can "start" again....

There are SO many reasons why I feed that BF is the only way I will feed my child (unless for some horrible reason, such as illness or death) I cannot!



 





great post Wendy!



HUMAN MILK FOR HUMAN BABIES.



 

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Quoting Ashley: If anyone took the time to read these, or even listen to to a midwife, they'd realize that bottlefeeding (formula) is one of the worst decisions you can make as a parent.


I don't think it is "one of the worst decisions" a woman can make as a parent.  I've seen plenty of women drink alcohol or take medicine that is not okay to take while breastfeeding and then continue to breastfeed.  I think that that is a pretty bad decision.  No matter which choice woman make, neither makes anyone a bad mom.  Most of us probably weren't breastfed, and we turned out just fine!



 

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ok first of all dont let anybody scare you into doing something because they say bottle feeding is the worst thing you can do for your child because its not. I left it up to my child I tryed breastfeeding but she just wouldnt take to it so we ended up bottle feeding and my child is extremely healthy she has only been sick twice in her life and she is 3.5 and she is very advanced for her age. she started preschool at age 2. so if you are comfortable breastfeeding and your child takes to it then enjoy it but if not then you will just have the options for other people to feed your child.

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I have a hard time trusting what's not natural/organic. Unless, I can't breastfeed for any emergency/critical/"have to" reasons and not just because, there's just no reason for me to bottle feed if I can produce milk for my babies. I don't see anything negative in breastfeeding beside that I'll get some weird stares in public or a few people will ask me to go use a private room to breastfeed. But, why? It's what nature intended. Why do we put a negative connotation in this. The benefit of breastfeeding is too good for me to pass up, so I encourage it.

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Breast feed for the first few weeks, then start introducing the bottle, because if you wait too late for the bottle, the baby might not want to take it.

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Quoting Tiffani:

A week or so after my baby was born I was fat and baggy and sore and dirty and sleepy. I had never looked worse in my life. When I looked down at my breast feeding daughter, I had never felt more beautiful.
There is no wrong way to feed a baby. I am healthy and very close to my mom and I was bottle fed. If she had served me rock candy with a sling shot I might have had some mommy issues : ) Have a beautiful day



ROFLMAO!!!

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No worries Erinn! It's just a very passionate subject and some feel very strongly about it on both sides. Personally, I like to see the suportive comments made by both women who breastfeed and women who bottle feed. It's nice to see mothers being kind to each other, no matter that they have made different choices for different reasons :)

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A week or so after my baby was born I was fat and baggy and sore and dirty and sleepy. I had never looked worse in my life. When I looked down at my breast feeding daughter, I had never felt more beautiful.

There is no wrong way to feed a baby. I am healthy and very close to my mom and I was bottle fed. If she had served me rock candy with a sling shot I might have had some mommy issues : ) Have a beautiful day

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