Butt wipe

Tarah - posted on 04/17/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My Five year old daughter will not wipe her own butt after pooping. She wont even try! She says she just cant do it.... or she doesn't feel like, or I do it better. WHat the heck! next thing I know she is going to be 45! I don't want to be wiping a 45 year old womans butt! lol I need help please I really dont know what to do, II've done the "Your a big girl now you can do it" talk! and I'm alway very encouraging, I even ask whos going to wipe their butt today?!? lol and she will tell me "Not me Mommy!"


Oh and she can wipe after going just potty, not poopy......

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Jodi - posted on 04/17/2011

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Tarah, by helping her, you are actually enabling her behaviour. See how you go when you refuse to help. She NEEDS to do this herself. I am sure she will probably whine and complain she can't do it herself, but just ignore it and make it clear that this is not an option. At 5, she is old enough. I haven't wiped butts since my kids were about 4. My daughter started pre-school just before she turned 4 and was fully capable of doing this herself then.

Medic - posted on 04/17/2011

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If you are potty trained you are big enough to wipe your butt. I do not wipe my sons and have not since before he was 3. You are allowing her to do this. By being there to "rescue" her when no one else will you are telling her that you will do it for her. If she does not wipe her butt well then she has to deal with what happens when your butt is gross.

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You won't be wiping her butt at 45. My girls 'made' me wipe their butts til 5 or 6. Their baby brother was born when they were 6 and I refused to be wiping 3 butts. ;) They did it all on their own (and would wipe if they pooped at school just fine at an earlier age).

What happens if you just leave her to sit there? If you don't come to the rescue, eventually she will get bored enough to wipe herself.

Firebird - posted on 04/17/2011

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It might help encourage her to do it herself if you tell her that the other kids her age don't need mommy to do it.

Jodi - posted on 04/17/2011

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Well, no-one is going to wipe her butt for her when she starts school......and practice makes perfect, so I made my kids wipe their own butts. When they first started out, I checked they did the job okay, and helped them out, but they made the effort themselves to start with.

And I agree, wet wipes are the way to go when they are learning.

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Carmel - posted on 03/20/2012

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I'd say don't wipe her bum for her any more. If she has a favourite character like Dora, you could also tell her that Dora wipes her own bum. She knows you will give in and you've got to reestablish that you're the boss and not her. A five year old is certainly too big to have their bum wiped unless they are physically impaired or developmentally delayed.

Tarah - posted on 04/17/2011

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She is in School, she go's befor school, and if she has to while in school, she will wipe, but doesn't do a very good job. but none the less she does do it, and like I said befor I do encourage her. and make up songs. I'm going to try something new tongiht, and see if it works. I'm going to not help at all, and make her do it all on her own befor bath time. and see how she does.

Tarah - posted on 04/17/2011

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yeah, we only use the wet wipes by cottenel, the ones with the little puppy on the package. I can't stand to not feel clean..lol know what I mean, so I wouldn't want her to feel that way.

Jennifer - posted on 04/17/2011

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One thing that really helped my older two, was I bought those flushable wet wipes (usually in the baby section). They liked using those, and they make it a little easier at getting the bum clean. Plus the added bonus of not having to worry about them using an entire roll of paper at one time was great for me.

Tarah - posted on 04/17/2011

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Awesome! so it is just a age thing. lol She wont go poop at school for the reason I'm not their to ckean her, and Daddy will not wipe her anymore. he says she is to old for him to be wiping her butt. I just laugh at him and walk away.

Kate CP - posted on 04/17/2011

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My daughter does the same thing. I figure eventually she'll get embarrassed that Mom's still wiping her butt and she'll tell me to stop. *shrug* Not the most regal or rewarding of jobs in the mommy-world, but it won't last forever. ;)

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