C-sec vs Normal Birth

Puja - posted on 10/21/2009 ( 281 moms have responded )

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I have completed 35 weeks, this is our first baby- radiolologist and gynaecologist are happy with baby and me, and she is giving me the choice of whether I want to try for a normal delivery or opt for an elected C section. I met the anesthesiologist who spent 15 mins trying to convince me NOT TO go for a C sec. My husband wants me to avoid a surgery ( a surgery is a surgery after all) but also feels empathetic enough to say I wont be able to see you in so much pain.



I met some nurses from the labour room of my hospital when I had gone there for some tests. Each told me they havent seen any normal delivery without a cut given to help baby ease out.. I saw pics of that in a pregnancy book and felt really scared... If they r anyways going to give a cut, isnt a C SEC better?I mean, my qs is, if u r going to go thru pain, n then some anesthesia, then cut , then stitches for a normal delivery, then is it not better to go initially for a C SEC only?



I think Im scared of both. Also, do they routinely give enemas these days or do they give only that tablet the suppository?

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Amii - posted on 10/21/2009

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oh sweet heart i feel so sad for you!!! modern medicine has learnt to treat birth as a medical problem rather than the miracle of life that it should be!! while i appreciate the need for c sections in certain circumstances there is so much that is lost in thoose first few moments of life when this path is taken that i would never advise anyone to do it unless neccesary. Sure natural birth hurts but the moment you look into your babies eyes and meet him or her for the first time you will totally forget it all!!, natural birth releases endorphines that take the pain away and promote bonding between you and your baby. Women that have c sections are in pain for days and even weeks after due to their scars so the idea that it is a pain free choice is misleading, you would be restricted in your movement and ability to care for you new born.

Dont just read the baby books as modern society adds to the tension that women feel (perpetuated by us sharing horror stories rather than recalling blissfull moments!). There is an amazing book by an American midwife called Ina Mays guide to childbirth which taught me to listen to my body and go with the flow, there are parts of the book that tend to be a bit on the hippie side but after reading this book my second birth was almost easy, (did you know that some women actually experience orgasms while giving birth?)

fear is a natural emotion at this moment in your life embrace it and use it to motivate you to be strong, dont let the docters push you around most of them are men and will never experience the power of a womans body to do what it was built to do, when you experience the wave of instant infatuation on looking into your child's eyes you will know that it has all been worth it!

Amber - posted on 10/25/2009

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I had a planned C-Section and I do not regret it one bit. I knew I was going to have a C-section from the time I found out I was pregnant, i have a medical condition that wouldn't allow me to deliver naturally. I would recommend it to anyone. Just remember that once you have a C-Section that if you become pregnant again; most OBs do not recommend giving birth naturally. But either way you decide, congrats and good luck. Its a blast!!!

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My little girl was born on the 25th of February this year. She was born without any drugs, without any cuts or stitches. We birthed her on hands and knees, and I believe this is part of the reason that their were no cuts required.



Do ask your doctor if the hospital will allow for you to stand, or squat, or birth on hands and knees as this is the best position for birth.



I would also like to add that all the woman I know who had to receive stitches birthed on their backs, BUT they took stitches afterward without needing any medication and the healing would sting a little, but did not hurt that much.



On the other hand ALL the woman I know who had C-Sections, could not hold their babies right after, had to take pain meds which made them fuzzy, and complained of pain for months afterward. My one friend said she even felt a sting 6 months afterward every time her car went over a bump.



Ultimately, the choice is yours and you need to be happy with it. Do not avoid a normal birth just because you are scared. Your body knows how.



In closing I will tell you this: All the woman I know who gave birth naturally said they would gladly do it again; All the woman I know who had C Sections, only a third will do it again.



PS - do your kegal exercises and Google perineum massage. We did that as part of our midwife's instructions and, although a little embarrassing at first (you do warm up to it), will help a lot with the birthing as well. If you don't come right and would like to know, message me and I will send you a document with the details.



Good luck!

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Sorry, I can't help but reply to this! As a practicing OB, a primary elective c-section happens in only 2% of the population in the US. The primary C/S rate in the US in a normal uncomplicated pregnancy should be about 11%. The 30% national average includes all complicated pregnancies, multiple gestations and repeat C/S. Episiotomys (incisions of the perineum) are rarely done anymore because they lead to bigger tears, but yes, most women tear some during delivery. Go for a normal vaginal delivery, as long as all else is normal. C-sections are major abdomenal surgery. Each one becomes more complicated and the risks are definitely present (bleeding, transfusion, infection, damage to the bladder, bowel etc. Rare, but possible). Personally, I have had 2 normal deliveries and 2 C sections. Recovery is much easier for the vaginal approach. C-sections win on convenience. Good luck!

Ivana - posted on 10/21/2009

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I wrote a long reply but lost the connection... Now there is no time to repeat (3,5 month old waiting for me!), but I had a c-section bcs she was in frank breech and I WOULD NOT RECOMMEND IT for anyone. it is major surgery, you feel horrible afterwards for days, i was jealous of all the natural birth mothers who recovered in a few hours, even with incisions... Your body is in shock for the first 4 hrs, trembling and shivering incontrollably. You cannot move for 24 hrs, let alone take care of your baby. Breastfeeding is so much harder! I totally agree with Amii. Also check out complicaitons http://www.pregnancy-info.net/c-section_..., I have some adhesions and I am still hoping they will go away, but maybe not... Giving birth is natural, and it is a privilege. Parenthood is full of sacrifices, a few hours of pain at birht is just the beginning. Embrace it and enjoy it, be proud of it as it is a wonderful achievement in life to give birth and to raise children. Finding "the easy way out" is not the point, and there is none anyway, c-sec is definitely the hard way. Read Dr. Sears "The Birth Book", it will prepare you mentally for it.
Good luck, you will do fine! You can do it - billions of women have done it!

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Shauna - posted on 10/26/2009

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I say "Go natural" if possible as our bodies were made to be able to do this. I only have one child and had a natural-medication free-water birth and it was 'amazing' I listened to my mid-wife (who was a man, not sure what they are called) and was lucky enough not to tear, because I relaxed and listened when he told me to stop pushing. I would highly recommend a water birth or at least an active birth where you aren't stuck on a bed on your back, as you are fighting with gravity this way.

Good luck with whatever choice you make. Obviously your health and the bubs is the most important thing.

Tomika - posted on 10/26/2009

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Let me tell you something. A c-section is major surgery and a doctor legally isnt suppose to offer a c-section in place of a vaginal birth. I have had 4 children, all vaginal except for my last one. C-sections are for emergancies or if the baby is super huge and you are unable to push it out, or some other contraindications to a vaginal birth. Healing from a c-section is no joke you talk about pain, try and have a BM after a c-section. everything in your abdomen is displaced, your more prone to infection, neverthe less the scar going across your lower stomach. PLease do a vaginal. epidurals are wonderful. and the healing time is so much shorter. If you do end up with a small cut down there and have to get a few stitiches, so what imagine 50 or more stiches or staples going across your bakini line.

Bethany - posted on 10/26/2009

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Puja - I would really think about this and ask all your friends what their experience where. I have three children, my 10 year old came a month early and I was induced and my labor only took about 4 hours total, after he was out I was not in any pain and did not need meds. My twin boys came so fast that I still had a few weeks to go when I went into labor, they came out in about 20 mins from start to finish(that was TWINS). It really depends on your body, everyone is different and not everyone goes through long hard labor. It would suck to go through a C-Section and have a scar and be down with pain for a couple weeks, when you really do not know if you should even go through that because your body might handle labor just fine. Yes it hurts but with my experience it went away after I was done giving birth and I was up and around that same week.

Kerrie - posted on 10/26/2009

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I understand your concerns, it is a really big decision. I absolutely think you should try to have a natural birth. I would highly reccomend that you let your obstetrician know before your delivery that you do not want an episiotomy. Unless it is absolutely necessary to do so. If your skin is stretched so tight that you are about to tear yourself wide open then let them do it. But tell them that you don't want them doing it just to rush your delivery. That is why they are doing it so often these days. They want that baby out as fast as they can get it out, they don't care if they have to cut you to do it. A lot of the time it is done when it really wasn't needed. Its done out of convenience for the docs. So stand your ground and say NO. If they do it against your will it will have negative consequences for them. Every woman is scared of tearing down there and its a legitamate concern, but please remember that NOT ALL WOMEN TEAR. I had an 8.6 pound, 21 inch long baby and I didn't tear at all. My fiance and I did perenial stretches in my last couple months and I believe whole heartedly that it helped me not to tear. If you have questions about perenial stretching I will be a happy to answer them, just send me a private message and we will discuss it.



Why have a surgery if you don't need one? Why go through the pain of the recovery if you don't need to? It seems kind of silly. You would miss out on soooo much if you choose not to have a natural birth. Even if you did tear a little or they had to cut you a little, what a few stitches compared to the amount you would get after a cs? Not only would you have stitches on the inside of your belly to hold your uterus together then you will have the staples on the outside to hold the rest of you closed. Why would you want that?



A few stitches down in you nether regions are nothing compared to that.

I think that electing to have a CS is a cop out. Natural child birth is beautiful and we should embrace it, not fear it.

Michelle - posted on 10/26/2009

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Quoting Erica:

Regardless of everyone's personal feelings on this topic, it is never right to tell a mother that she is "selfish" for making delivery decisions. We all need to do what is right for us, and it is hard for another person to judge what that decision should be from the outside looking in. I do personally think that surgery should be avoided when possible, but that doesn't mean that c-sec are a bad thing to do. I also do not understand all of these comments about not being able to "do things with your baby" during the c-sec recovery. What needs to be done with a newborn other than feed them, love them, change them, and snuggle them? They don't need to go on a jog or go to the park, and all of the basic needs can be taken care of post c-sec baring complications (which can occur with a natural delivery also).
Make the choice that you can live with. You will love and cherish your beautiful baby no matter how they come into this world :)


I don't disagree with you that we about it not being right to call a mother selfish for her choice.  It is her choice and I don't think we are here to judge people like that.  We are here to try to support and help each other.  I wanted to say that I think what some of the c- section recovery talk was about, from my own experience, is that it can be very painful just to go walk across the room to get diapers, to pick up the baby,  or even get up to use the bathroom.  I had my feet swell up (common by the way) on top of all the pain and I could barely walk.  It hurt to do everything and after having such a relaxing and enjoyable recovery from my daughter (vbac) I really felt like I didn't get to enjoy those first 6 weeks or so as much as I wanted to with my son.    I only really know the difference because I've had both.  So as little as a newborn needs in my experience it took away from the whole thing to have to recover from the c section.   

Deanne - posted on 10/26/2009

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It is better to have your birth vaginally, much better for baby too. It is best for your baby to 'squeeze' out the fluids they have in their body from being in the womb. Less chance for ear infections, etc than C-section because of that. Check out my Chiropractor's facebook page and shoot him an email, he will explain why vaginal birth is better than C-section if you have a choice. His name is Dr Matthew Alvord. Good luck!

Darlene - posted on 10/26/2009

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I had two deliveries one a so called normal delivery and the second was a c section and I recovered from the c section quicker. I and my 1st born had some serious complications. But it depends on you and your baby it is all individual.

Adrijana - posted on 10/26/2009

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Ok, the regular delivery with episiotomy or without is still better than a full blown C-Section. You can always request for them not to cut you because when they do that it's kind of like cutting a small slit in a t-shirt and then tearing it, which will make you tear faster if you are going to tear. However, if you can't control your push and you push too hard you can tear that way as well. They say that the vaginal area heels very quickly and not to worry about tears and episiotomies. I have several friends who have had regular deliveries and some had a very easy recovery and some had a 3 to 4 week recovery period because the tears were extensive. I myself had a C-Section. I went through the whole labor, pushed for an hour, my baby got stock and I ended up on a nice little ride to the operating room. In my experience, I had a wonderful recovery. In 2 weeks I was almost completely back to normal. I didn't have very much pain at all, I refused the heavy pain meds afterwards and an 800 mg Motrin took care of the pain that I had and I didn't even take anything after I came home 2 days later. So I hope this helps you make a decision. My mom has had a C-Section and a VBAC and she said that the C-Section was easier recovery and she only had 4 stitches with her VBAC. So, I don't know. C-Section is a major surger still.

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OK last comment...lol..... all i have to say is i agree with whoever said that opting to have a c section is cheating... i get a kick out of people who want a section... over all it is the worst of the two birthing methods. like i said i have 2 boys both natural births... i think that just wanting to lay there and let the dr cut the baby out is not really giving birth because u didnt deliver your own baby a dr did it for u...i understand if you have to have one... its out of your hands but to choose a section is taking the lazy way out and for what? a longer and harder recovery? I was out the bed just hours after my deliveries and home the next day like had the baby at 5:37p and was home sitting at the kitchen table at 8:00p the next night :) choose natural birth i watched my sister in law struggle with 2 sections having to holler at some one to come get the baby out the crib for her cuz she couldnt move and and couldnt mother her child like she wanted to she wasnt able to hold the baby for hours after the baby was born then she was so drugged for the birth that she can hardly remember it... i had both babies natural and wasnt all drugged up to where i couldnt remember my childs birth... i was fully aware and alert... and i was able to hold my babies while my husband cut his sons cords and with a section u arent gonna have that and baby's dad is not gonna be able to cut the cord.... believe me if u opt for a section you are cheating your self out of the experience of a life time but in the end it is your decision


I'm sorry, but I find your comment to be, quite frankly, rude and out of place. First of all, you've never had a C-section, so I don't think you can comment on what the recovery time is like. Your sister-in-law sounds like she just whined. I've actually had a c-section, and it's not "cheating" and I did deliver my own baby-in the safest possible way for the two of us. You can say until you're blue in the face that you support them for medical reasons, but if you turn around and saying things about it being cheating and women who have sections not delivering their own babies, then you are insulting ALL women who get sections-not just those for elective purposes. It's insensitive. I wanted to try a natural birth-but I couldn't because I had PreE and my BP was far too  high. I was walking around a day and a half after the section, though-would've been the day after, but I still had magnesium hooked up to keep me from having a siezure. Even with the magnesium drip and all the pain meds, I remember the birth-I remember seeing my son for the first time. I left the hospital 3 days after delivery and went to my apartment, where I walked up 2 flights of stairs to get inside-and yes, my doc said that if I felt like doing it, it was ok. There are lots of myths being perpetuated in your post and many others. It does not take every woman weeks of being laid up in bed to recover from a section. Yes, it's worse for some than others-but just like it's worse for some, it's easy for some. The most trouble I ever had was that every once in a while when I first got home I would get a burning sensation around the scar when moving around that my doc said was just the muscles healing. Personally, I didn't get to hold my baby after because he was rushed to the NICU, but most women are able to hold their babies while being stitched up, and then after an hour of recovery they can have the baby in the room again. Unless you have an overly large baby, you're also told upon leaving the hospital, "don't life anything *heavier* than the baby." In other words, you can actually pick up your own baby. I believe 10 pounds is the limit. I know women who have had both expieriences, and each pregnancy is different and each woman is different. There's no point scaring the OP about either natural childbirth or a C-section. I don't see that an elective C-section is beneficial, and as someone who really wanted to try it the natural way it bothers me a little that some people won't even try-but there's really no point brow-beating or using scare tactics to discourage her from either path. And there's definitely no reason to be so rude to those of us who have had sections. You may not have meant to be, but those comments were insensitive to ALL of us C-section moms-you just called us cheaters and said that we didn't have our babies, the doctors had them. Bullshit.

Erin - posted on 10/26/2009

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Well, first of all, congratulations! I have had two boys and because the first had to be a c-section because he was breech, the doctors in my area would not allow a v-bac (vaginal birth after c-section) for my second son because of the chance of uterine rupture if I were to procede with labor. A few questions to ask yourself are: How many children do you want to have? Do twins or multiples run in your family? Are you prepared for the pain of healing from a surgery?



The number of children is critical because in many cases you can only safely have up to three c-sections. I can only have one more child now, but my original ideal number was 4. The c-sections limit you.



The question about multiples is because once you have scar tissue on your uterus from a c-section, the risk for uterine rupture is greater with each c-section, (which is why you can't typically have more than 3) and if you were to carry more than one baby the risk is even greater. I have read and the doctor told me that in a case of uterine rupture, they only have 5 minutes to get the baby out, and the risk of the mother bleeding out is great... most women can't even make it to the hospital that quickly, so that is scary.



I am going to be completely honest with you... I wanted very badly to give birth to my sons naturally, but the choice was taken out of my hands. I do have a pretty strong threshold for pain though, so I wasn't really worried about that part. After my first c-section, however, I was in a lot of pain... I felt like I had been chopped up and then shoved back together and stitched up. It was tough. After the second c-section, I wasn't in nearly as much pain, but I had a different doctor. The hardest part for me was not being able to hold my babies right after they are born... after the surgery you have to be secluded in recovery and it is a lonely place... I wanted to be out there holding my baby, but I was flat on my back in a room by myself. The other hard part was being strapped down to a table and not playing an active role in the delivery... I felt like I had cheated or something.



I don't tell you any of this to scare you. I only want you to be fully aware of what you are getting into should you choose to have a c-section. It isn't as simple and painless as it seems. Either way you go, there will be pain. It is just a matter of whether it will be during the delivery or after it. Many doctors would discourage optional surgeries because it is just that... an optional SURGERY... and with surgery comes risk. They are much safer than they used to be, but in the past, c-sections were extremely dangerous...



Whatever decision you make, I wish you and your family the best! In the end, whatever is best for your baby is the best decision... and having a happy healthy mommy is best for him! Good luck!

Shaleena - posted on 10/25/2009

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Don't go for a elective c-sec... Try for a natural delivery first. C-sec should only be used if you medically need it not just because you don't want to or as the saying goes too posh to push. Where i am in Australia we don't have the choice to have an elective c-section it is only there for mum's who have already had a c-sec or if they medically need one... I have 2 wonderful boys both born naturally. My first son was born after 2 hrs 26 mins NO drugs at all. No tears no cuts. Second was 2 hrs flat had the gas to help me focus and again no tears no cuts. If you listen to the OB/GYN midwives and doc you should not tear, nor should you need to be cut. You can start now by massaging the area with a little olive oil and that should also help. My best advice would be to follow your body and what the OB/GYN midwife is telling you. I never had a enema with either of my kids and these days they let your body take care of it. you will prob find when you go into labour your body just goes to the toilet and you might even find you vomit as well this is your body telling you it's ready to push the baby out. in Australia we don't give enemas at all anymore - it has not been done for about 5 yrs or longer....

Also just because those nurses had not seen a birth with no cut or tear does not mean they don't happen... There is NO guarantee you will not tear but you can't compare that size of cut and stitches to a 15 cm plus size cut, staples and stitches. You have been informed you will need help for the first few days and you will not heal for up to 7 weeks.... listen to the Anesthesiologist...... if you don't need to put yourself through it why do it??? We are made to have babies to put it simply that's what our bodies were designed to do.. Try not to worry, the whole experience can be quite scary but it need not be...

Blackwood - posted on 10/25/2009

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From what I always understood, you only have a c-section if needed for whatever reason. Why would you want to go through a 6-8 week recovery? Not every woman is "cut" during labour, but even if you were, you would have the small cut versus a 6 inch incision? I had a c-section and didn't have a bad experance, but I'm not sure why someone who could have a vaginal delivery would choose not to have it?

Coby - posted on 10/25/2009

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Go natural. Way better. I have had four girls, three were vaginal deliveries with an epidural and once I got the epidural I was in no pain. My last little girl was delivered by emergency c-section and it was awful. The recovery afterwards was terrible and I totally missed out on the bonding right after she was born. Those first few minutes are amazing. Yes a natural birth in essence is more work, but totally worth it. After my c-section I could do nothing for six weeks. Whereas with my vaginal births, I was out and about within three days. I only tore with my first and it was a little tear that only required 3 stitches, nothing compared to the almost 20 cm scar across my lower abdomen. Coming from someone who has done both, I would rather go through 10 labours and deliveries than go through another c-section.

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i would go with normal birth. i have had two children. the first was an emergency c-section and the second was a normal birth. the healing time for a c-section is much worse than a normal birth. so during that healing time it is challenging to take care of your newborn.

Elisa - posted on 10/25/2009

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I had a natural delivery with my first and a C-Section with my second. I would say the experience of a natural delivery is a beautiful thing. As soon as my baby was out, I no longer felt plain. You will feel a little discomfort for several days from the stitching but it does not compare to the C-Section.

Jude - posted on 10/25/2009

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I had an emergency c sec 12 weeks ago and im still struggling to get back to normal, my advice go for natural and only have the c-sec in an emergency. I wish they would have let me go natural now.

Brittany - posted on 10/25/2009

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You should definitely go for natural birth. I had a C section because my doctor measured my baby to be about 10 pounds and he asked me if I wanted to do it naturally or do a C section. I elected to do the C section because I was starting to get high blood pressure and I did not want to cause any trauma to my baby. I have to say that I was up and walking around as soon as they let me and my recovery was not hard at all but I still was not able to do everything I wanted, I couldn't even hold my baby to breastfeed because it hurt my scar.

Amanda - posted on 10/24/2009

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I had a C section and I am so glad. Don't let anyone make your mind up for you. Whatever you feel comfortable with with your own body and to set your mind at ease is what you should do. If you have good insurance and can do the C section that would be my choice to take advantage of that. You will have a longer recovery period but then again if you aren't chasing around a toddler that doesn't really matter. The only thing is the gas is very painful for about the 1st 3-4 days after the surgery. But I'd personally rather have the stitches on my belly for 6 weeks than "down there" with all that irritation and burning... just my opinion. I am glad I had my C section! Your child does not care how he/she is born, only that their mommy is there to hold them when they arrive!

Elizabeth - posted on 10/24/2009

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I have had both a C-section and a natural birth...And I would say to go with the Natural birth...With a C-section...when my son was born he was my first child and they told me when I got pregnant with my second child there was a possibility that i would have to have another c-section but that chance is 1 in 10 women...And there is a possibility that if you have another child after csection that your uturas can rupture I dont want to scare you child birth the natural way is wonderful so I would go for it and not the csection unless you have to have it...

Susie - posted on 10/24/2009

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I just had a vaginal birth two weeks ago, and I would honestly not would have not wanted to do it any other way. I almost had a c section because my son was face up...and I was quite upset! My best friend had two c sections, and the recovery time is so long that it was horrible.

But no matter what people say, you have to do what you think is right for you.

Good luck :)

Diane - posted on 10/24/2009

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One more thing....my mom had 4 natural and her 5th was a C Section due to my brother being transverse breech.....if he was only breech the Dr. was going to pull him out by his feet since my mom had already delivered 4 babies. Well she got a nasty infection from the surgery and decided NO more kids for her after the C Section. It was a nightmare. She wanted more children but got spooked.

Also if you do have a C Section a lot of insurance companies won't cover a VBAC because of the increased risk of complications from VBACs especially ruptured uterus which can be fatal....Not trying to scare you but please understand your risks.

Diane - posted on 10/24/2009

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What is wrong with the medical community today....THEY are asking if you want a C Section because it is more money for them and also more convenient. I had 3 kids in 3 years all vaginal AND all super easy labor and births. Please try and go vaginal. Having a C Section is MAJOR surgery with all the risks that come with surgery. You will have scar tissue and if you are having more children you will more than likely be "scared" into having subsequent C Sections. Gals.....birthing is easy....I know some labors are harder than others but YOU get a beautiful baby out of the deal :) Good luck to you. Don't be scared of having a baby. My grandmother had 10 with no drugs or surgeries. It can be done!

Stacia - posted on 10/24/2009

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c-sections great! First one no option had to have second one my choice ,if i ever had another child,which I won't because I had a tubal during my last c section, but I would have a third c section if necessary.

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Please Puja--DO NOT HAVE AN ELECTIVE C-section. I had one 6 months ago because my baby was breech and the recovery is very painful. Like you, I was also scared of "the cut" and stitches down there, but that is just tissue or light muscle. A C-section is through skin, fat, muscle, and your organs!! (uterus) It is much more painful. You wont be able to walk for a couple of days and it takes a few months to be back to normal. Also, you will have a scar for the rest of your life. Listen, my baby was fine thank g-d and the C-section was not the end of the world but natural birth with epidural is much easier so please think about it! Also, breastfeeding makes your uterus contract so after a C-section this is very painful. Emailme if you have more questions about my experiences. cassandradadi@gmail.com

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Please Puja--DO NOT HAVE AN ELECTIVE C-section. I had one 6 months ago because my baby was breech and the recovery is very painful. Like you, I was also scared of "the cut" and stitches down there, but that is just tissue or light muscle. A C-section is through skin, fat, muscle, and your organs!! (uterus) It is much more painful. You wont be able to walk for a couple of days and it takes a few months to be back to normal. Also, you will have a scar for the rest of your life. Listen, my baby was fine thank g-d and the C-section was not the end of the world but natural birth with epidural is much easier so please think about it! Also, breastfeeding makes your uterus contract so after a C-section this is very painful. Emailme if you have more questions about my experiences. cassandradadi@gmail.com

Stephanie - posted on 10/23/2009

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I've given birth to four kids. The two girls were both natural births. They didn't cut me at all. :o)

Heather - posted on 10/23/2009

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My son was 7lbs and vaginal. I ended up with a fourth degree episiotomy. I would much rather have had a c-section because the healing from his birth has been horrible. I'm still not completely healed up and have to a specialist now for it. It is your choice, I had a feeling the whole time I was pregnant that a vaginal birth was going to be bad for me and it turns out I was right. So the best advice I can give is go with your gut feeling about it.

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OK last comment...lol..... all i have to say is i agree with whoever said that opting to have a c section is cheating... i get a kick out of people who want a section... over all it is the worst of the two birthing methods. like i said i have 2 boys both natural births... i think that just wanting to lay there and let the dr cut the baby out is not really giving birth because u didnt deliver your own baby a dr did it for u...i understand if you have to have one... its out of your hands but to choose a section is taking the lazy way out and for what? a longer and harder recovery? I was out the bed just hours after my deliveries and home the next day like had the baby at 5:37p and was home sitting at the kitchen table at 8:00p the next night :) choose natural birth i watched my sister in law struggle with 2 sections having to holler at some one to come get the baby out the crib for her cuz she couldnt move and and couldnt mother her child like she wanted to she wasnt able to hold the baby for hours after the baby was born then she was so drugged for the birth that she can hardly remember it... i had both babies natural and wasnt all drugged up to where i couldnt remember my childs birth... i was fully aware and alert... and i was able to hold my babies while my husband cut his sons cords and with a section u arent gonna have that and baby's dad is not gonna be able to cut the cord.... believe me if u opt for a section you are cheating your self out of the experience of a life time but in the end it is your decision

Christina - posted on 10/23/2009

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I couldn't read all the replies so I don't know if this is repeated, but...



Think of all the benefits a vaginal birth offers you and your child - shorter recovery time, loads of endorphins, fewer or no scars (I have a giant stretch mark that splits my bush that wasn't there until delivery :P ); the baby gets squeezed in a good way - the amniotic fluid is pushed from his/her lungs and healthy probiotic bacterium are introduced from your vagina to his/her mouth and therefore digestive system. It really just is the best start, if it's not unsafe due to medical reasons.



I was not cut, I teared a little and got two stitches. Massage your area plenty (I slacked a lot) to increase elasticity and you're likely to be fine. I did not get an enema and I don't know why you would bother... Even if you poop, there are bigger things happening so who cares? Yes, it's the most pain I've ever felt, and yes, I want to do it again. Next time I will try to go without even the Stadol (though that stuff is AWESOME!)

Lolly - posted on 10/23/2009

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I had to have an emergency Csec with my first, and I gave birth naturally to my second. In terms of recovery a natural birth is better for you both (as long as you have no medical reason for a Csec). With a natural birth the "cut" (episiotomy) you dont even feel (if you have to have one) and yes it can be a little uncomfortable for a while after, but with a Csec they cut through 7 layers of skin, muscle etc which take a lot longer to recover from and restricts what you are able to do when you leave hospital.



Dont think about the cut and what it may look like - my husband was trying to give me a blow by blow account of what was happening and what it looked like, I told him to keep quiet, I didnt want to know - I just wanted to distance myself from those thoughts. It is all scary, especially the first time around - but what ever you decide feel safe in the knowledge that you are surrounded by professionals that will keep you safe.



As for enemas, they didnt give me one (each country/hospital can be different) - accidents happen, it is a little embarrassing but nurses handle it with care and dignity.

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the reason the Dr. gives an enema is to clear out any bowel to make it easier for delivery...because your birth canal and colon run parallel to one another if the poop is out of the way it means your colon will lay flat making it easier for baby to pass

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I know it's scary to have a baby natural I've had 2 but at the same time, half of the experience is the delivery and the satisfaction of knowing that you as a woman have the strength and power to push a baby into this world. It's just phenomenal!!! I would say to go natural... because after the c-section its gonna be much harder for you to get around to see about the baby. So many women want to go natural because thats the way babies were intended to enter the world... I really think that Sections should only be used in emergency cases... not to mention VBACS(vaginal birth after c section) are difficult so if u elect to have a section for this birth and then decide to have another baby later on you might not have the chance to experience natural child birth... and if its any consolation, the second u see your child all memory of the pain just seems to fade away...

Krista - posted on 10/23/2009

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And if I can add to my post. My daughter is 8 1/2 months old and I still feel my incision site. It is a bit red still and puffy.My energy is also not a 100%, meaning in some ways the surgery perminantly altered my body. I think accupuncture on the site will help, but probably need at least eight weeks of accupuncture to heal the fact that my stomach was cut. My stomach muscles took at least 6 months to recover, my stomach was numb up until then and I had an incredibly hard time getting out of bed for over six weeks and turning over was a challenge. I went through 50 hours of labor and was on my feet for over 4 days straight, but would do it again in a heart beat over c-section. In the end I couldn't have her naturally and had no choice but to have a c-section. Our bodies can recover from surgery, but why put it through it unnecessarily. If your worried about pain you can always have an epidural. But educate yourself before hand because intervention is a slippery slope, even when simply adding an eppy.

Krista - posted on 10/23/2009

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Yes birth is hard, but i have to say I am surprised by your doctor's suggestion to opt for a C-section before you even have complications. Chances are the reason why she is suggesting it has several positive bonuses for her. 1) Less of her time is spent on your case. 2) She doesn't have to work at night and can be home for dinner. 3) She gets paid more. Please trust your body. Your body knows how to do this! You do not have to be cut in order to have your child naturally. I have been through a normal birth that lead to a c-section. The recover was very difficult from the c-section and birth is something that everyone should experience once if they so choose and are able. Watch some birth videos that are pro birth and become educated. I would suggest watching the video that Ricky Lake made along with several others.

Maria - posted on 10/23/2009

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Eventhough I already have four grown children ages 27 - 16 all by natural birth and if i had to do it again i would go for natural.



C-section is too painful and your limited to your movements, my niece had a c-section a year ago. Eventhough she was going for a vaginal birth which she did try for god only knows how many hours the doctors finally decided to do a c-section due to the baby's heart rate. So you see it could go both ways. They could also give you an epidural if the pain is too strong. You should ask your doctor about that if you try to go natural.

Jamie - posted on 10/23/2009

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i had a normal delivery, and i didnt get cut either. im only 17 and had my son completely natural. and it didnt hurt that bad or for long.

Jamie - posted on 10/23/2009

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i had a normal delivery, and i didnt get cut either. im only 17 and had my son completely natural. and it didnt hurt that bad or for long.

Linda - posted on 10/23/2009

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To recover from a c section - it is about 6 wks. I had 90 degree cut with my first child - yes it was not pleasant, it hurt like hell - BUT i could nurse my child straight away. I could have driven if i wished, I could hoover the carpet - all those things would have really bothered me if i couldnt have just done them and feel normal - it doesnt matter what the labour islike if you feel in control. it stops as soon as u deliver. |I felt in control after deliver cos i could do these things. Everyones labour is different - i have had 3 - all so very different. My first was not nice - but many friends of mine had perfect lst labours. It your choice - u decide- not him. If he sees u in pain - what is wrong with that?? My husband is a farmer and sees that all the time with animals - but he couldnt cope with me in pain. I think they need to learn a fair lesson - it wont hurt your partner - just make him love you more. Make u decision for your own reasons, xxxxxxxxxxxxxx Get the support u deserve .

Trena - posted on 10/23/2009

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I had to have an emergency c-section with my first child (high blood pressure) and at the time thought it was the greatest thing since sliced bread! That was until I had to try to get out of bed, I was in an incredible amount of pain, my staples were taken out too early and replaced with that tape they use instead of stitches. I ended up with an infection that requied antibiotics for 2 weeks and it took me 8 weeks to heal. When I found out I was pregnant with my second (5 years later) I insisted on a VBAC. Labor was what I expected and ended up getting an epidural at 8 cm. I had no tearing and was able to get up and walk around that same night. I even went camping 5 days after having my baby. If you have the choice, I would say not to opt for the csection, that's just my personal opinion and you need to do what you're comfortable doing.

Gail - posted on 10/23/2009

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I have had two natural deliveries and a c-section. With my first I had a significant tear and with my second a small cut to avoid a tear, both requiring stiches. My third was a c-section due to the position of my baby. With the first two there was some discomfort but this was nothing compared to the agony of recovering from the c-section. I did not feel the tear or cut and was not even aware they had happened. Giving birth is an amazing experience and my personal opinion is given a choice I would choose natural vaginal birth over a c-section any day. If you are worried about the pain there are many options available. At the end of the day it is your choice. Best of luck to you!

Andrea - posted on 10/23/2009

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I have had two children...the first was a c-section, the second was a vaginal water birth. I would take a natural birth any day over a c-section. I was in the hospital for four days with the c-section, not to mention two plus weeks of painful recovery.

The water birth was wonderful. I had no major complications, and my recovery was very fast. I was out of the hospital the next day. I tore a little because the baby had his arm up by his head. The recovery was way easier with natural birth. I highly recommend natural birth, and a water birth if they offer it. The pain of labor is tolerable because it is temporary....C-Section recovery pain lasts a lot longer.

Nicole - posted on 10/23/2009

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Never opt for a c/s. I've had three. Not by choice. They suck. Do everything you can to avoid them. They're not allowed to give you an episiotomy w/o your consent anyway. Just tell them no.

Emma - posted on 10/23/2009

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Please try & have a normal delivery,I managed to have a vaginal birth for my first baby with only gas & air, no epidural. Keep moving do not lie down & work with the pain. It does sting a bit but I did not tear & did not need to be cut. The first few weeks with a new baby are exhausting enough without the pain of major surgery. A C section should only be an option in an emergency. Good luck & remember we are built to do this.

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try not to worry about what ever delivery you have, i kept very calm about my labour as there isn't much you can do about it, the baby has to come out, lol, seriously though just go with it. i gave birth naturally to my daughter with only a little tear and she weighed a whopping 11lbs 5oz, i didnt need any stitches and had onlt gas and air. remember everyone is different x

Shani - posted on 10/23/2009

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I had 5 natural births and was never cut. And even if you get a little snip nothing compares to forcing something to happen that shouldn't. You may want to look into the recovery time because within a day or so I have always been able to move about. Verses others who have C sections and have to have assistance and pillows on their stomachs. Be patience, remain calm and prepare your heart for the bundle of love that will soon be here.

Nathalie - posted on 10/23/2009

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Here it goes...I've had 4 yes 4 C-sections...and I would do it all over again. The first one was 15 yrs ago, then 7 yrs, 5.5 yrs and the last one 15 months ago( he was a miracle/surprise!!!) I have "in my eyes" the BEST ob/gyn. I had him for all 4 pregnancies and I ALWAYS ALWAYS recommend him to everyone! And everyone has always been so happy to have choosen to go see him!! So make sure you have a good Ob/gyn. But anyways I had the first C-section because she was breech and yes the Doctor tried to turn her because he's not big on C-sections...but she wouldn't budge..she kept turning back up...we found out later it was because I had a septum seperating my uterus into two sections...which I had removed later.......anyways that 1st C-section was the BEST decision for me because it turned out she would have came out feet first...and the cord was wrapped around her leg and neck...so I don't even want to think what would have happen had I had her vaginally...the dr. even had to cut me more then the norm because she was taggled up good...so instead of the approximately 17 to 18 staples I had 28 staples...and I had 28 staples for all four C-Sections and they were all on the same exact spot!!! AND you barely see the scar also...As for the pain part...sure it might hurt more for a bit afterward and your down for a longer then normal delivery...But I get up and walk around the same day..about 8 to 9 hrs later.......of course it hurts...but not that much for me...I have a high tolerance for pain and I HATE having people fuss over me or to come and touch me.... examine me..whatever they all do in the hospital...so the faster I can walk around and have the catheter out also ...the better for ME..BUT not everyone is the same.



But I have to tell you....I also would have like to experience at least 1 of my pregnancies natural birth...I did ask him for the last baby I had...but after 3 previous C-section it's asking for the impossible. And you know you don't have to suffer during normal child birth they do have drugs to give you for the pain. Oh and I forgot to say....I did have 4 C-sections...but it was NEVER NEVER up to me...it was all for medical reasons...I really think that if you have no problems whatsoever and everything looks good....YOU should really go for the vaginal birth it is way less problems or pain once it's done...and no cut that you have to MAKE SURE to keep clean and dry...and you can go home the next day...but with a C-section your in the hospital for at least 3 days and YOU NEED someone with you at home for the first little while..especially this being your first little bundle of joy...SO even though I would do my 4 C-section all over again...I still would recommend for you to really try vaginal birth if you have absolutely no problems!!! Natural is ALWAYS the first BEST Choice!!! Don't worry about the episiotomy..YOU might not even need one at all...EVERY pregnancy is different for everyone!!! You say you saw pictures/video of an episiotomy...have you seen a C-section? Not just the cut and out comes baby...but the whole thing.....they have to move everything around in there to get to the uterus then cut the uterus to get the baby out...You know...do your homework...research...look at videos online and talk with your ob/gyn about what feels RIGHT FOR YOU!!! not her but YOU..that's what it all comes down too. And like someone already wrote...a cut in your vagina area is way less invasive..less dangerous then a C-section! It comes down to what feel right for you and no one else. As for enemas I have never had one before my C-section!!!



All the best to you and your husband...... AND which ever way YOU decide to go.... once you hold that little miracle in your arms...all the pain will have been ALL WORTH IT!!!



Happy Delivery!!!

Vieve - posted on 10/23/2009

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Hello, I had a natural, vaginal delivery. I tore a little and received some stitches. Some people opt to have an episiotomy (spelling?) (cut), but you can request to just go natural and see what happens. To me, there is a big difference between tearing and getting a few stitches and having your stomach cut open. Having said that, everyone has a different threshold for pain. And, whatever birthing process you choose is a personal decision. You have to do what is right for you--bottom line--and it does not matter what anyone else thinks. I have heard people say there is no pain with C-sections and have also heard people say it was the worst pain ever. Also, I don't know about enemas vs. suppository. I had laxatives after birth, which did wonders. Good luck :)!

Alexia - posted on 10/23/2009

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I have never had a c-section so I can't comment too much on that. I recently had my first child (vaginal delivery). It was painful, but not nearly as painful as I had thought it would be. Everyone told me how horrible vaginal deliveries were and got me all worked up for no reason. Early in my labor I didn't even know I was having contractions, I barely felt anything. Of course as I progressed the pain got stronger, but one the baby came out it was over immediately. They did not cut me, but I did tear a little and had to get a couple of stitches. I didn't have any type of discomfort after the birth. I suggest you try to do it vaginally, and only get the c-section if medically necssary.

Jordan - posted on 10/23/2009

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I've had 3 children, 3 c-sections and I'm happy that way. Vaginal delivery has never appealed to me. Yes, it takes longer to heal, but 6 weeks is over-kill. They say that more for your benefit, because, should it actually take that long, you were prepared for it. If not, then you feel as though you're one of the lucky ones. I'm completely biased, though, as I never wanted a "natural" delivery and I think any delivery where you end up with a healthy baby is about as "natural" as it gets. The only thing I would reccommend is to look into possible allergies or sensitivities you may have to the spinal they'll give you. I ended up getting nauseated and vomiting in the recovery room because the medicine they gave me during the second one made me sick. I warned the anesthitist ahead of time on my third, though, and had no problems. Good luck!

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