C-sec vs Normal Birth

Siobhan - posted on 10/22/2009

hi. i have a 5 month daughter. im quite petite but had a normal delivery(f u can call it that) they did hav to cut me aswell .. alot..but its worth the pain. i know my sister had to hav a c-sec and a natural delivery and she said it was less painful for natural birth because the recovery is alot less time. she could'nt do hardly anything for weeks

Alix - posted on 10/22/2009

I am a 35 y/o and recently had my first child by c-section. It was required, not because he was particularly large but he did have a pretty big head. I tried vaginaly for 7 hours before they decided to do the surgery. I did have terrible shakes from the anesthesia and had severe UTI's after for months, but I was up a few hours after walking around. I would not recommend it unless necessary but if you have to...you'll make it

Carmen - posted on 10/22/2009

I have had both a c-section and than a v-back, which is a vaginal delivery. I will tell you a c-section is so much harder than a vaginal birth. I was in much more pain with my c-section and it took alot longer to heal. I was cut a little with my vaginal birth, however it was nothing. I was up 3 hours after my boy was born and did not have any pain. Do what your doctor thinks is best, try for vaginal birth and if it does not work out for you and the baby, than a c-section might be necessary. Don't be scared, you don't even remember the pain afterwards. Make sure you get an epideral, it helps lots. hope this helps you. carmen

Lisa - posted on 10/22/2009

I had a section with my first born (emergency as he was in fetal distress). I would HIGHLY recommend not to get a section if you can help it. I had the worst recovery as my incision got infected and had to go on antibiotics. I am due on Nov 19 with our second child and have gotten the okay to try a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesearian). I am so confident and excited about this as I didn't have the chance to even try with my first. Baby is in the right spot already. Woman were designed to deliver babies, and if you are mentally prepared for it, it can be the most beautiful experience. Please at least try to go through with normal delivery. Most woman wrap themselves up with worries, and have lost the will to deliver babies like way back in the olden days. GOod luck in your decision.

Julia - posted on 10/22/2009

Honestly this is a very personal issue. I have had 2 children and I am pregnant with my 3rd. Both my girls were over 9 lbs (I am not a big person myself I am 5'6" and 130 so the 9 lbers were shockers) both of my daughters also had Shoulder Distocia, meaning I delivered their heads but their shoulders just didn't want to come out! I delivered my first all natural and didn't get cut or even tear. My second daughter was induced so I had an epidural but still no tear or cut. What you decide is all up to you. I do have to say that my mother had 2 natural births and 2 c-sections, whenever she talks to any of her daughters, daughters in law or granddaughters about childbirth she ALWAYS talks to them about natural over c-section. She always says to try and avoid c-sections at all costs. That the recovery time

Dania - posted on 10/22/2009

hi, i have one child but i have seen many c sections because of my line of work. yes its true u feel pain during labour and u might get a cut. I didn't get a cut but when labour is done its done u just have period pains after but with a c section u also have pain because of the cut. Also if u want to have the joy of holding ur baby right after its born normal delivery is the way to go. the fact is with normal delivery u get to bond with ur child quicker. there is nothing to be a fraid of u will see.

what ever u decide im wishing u all the best and when ur baby is born u will find true love if u havent yet u will fall head over heals.

Melissa - posted on 10/22/2009

Do whatever your heart tells you to do. What they mean by a cut for a natural birth is an episotomy and some of the docs make it look like a butcher, but some only do it like a paper cut. I chose not to have one and ended up tearing pretty bad. I would still rather go natural than have surgery. Both are safe when done properly.

Casey - posted on 10/22/2009

I am really surprised that they are giving you the option for your first birth. I have been through both and they each have their ups and downs. I thought it was much more joyful with the vaginal birth - much more exciting. It wasn't so bad because I had an epidural (this was my 1st son). I was really scared beforehand, too. It wasn't too bad until I was about 7 cm and then I got the epidural & it lasted while I pushed (which was hard because I couldn't feel anything, but made it through). I would really recommend going through it naturally. It's what your body was made for. You can do it! :)

Charlene - posted on 10/22/2009

Hi...well first of all its normal to get scared of the possibiities havin to go through so much pain while in the delivery room(that's expected) but not all pregnancies are the same each one is different. Take me for example my last pregnancy i gave birth to an 8pound 1 and 1/2 oz baby boy and i delivered him vaginally without any cut nor did I received anty stiches and in The Bahamas we dont get any epiderals so i had to thug it out staraight through but just stay calm and only push when u feel contractions this will help ease your baby out thats what I did so am passing this info onto you..

Nicola - posted on 10/22/2009

I had a semi emergency c-section, my baby was breech and had almost no fluid left so they took her out 3 week early. I feel like I missed out on a big part of motherhood, the labor and birth process. The recovery was OK, but the first 24 hours were miserable! I told my OB when I went in for my c-section that I wanted her to do anything she needed to so I could try for a VBAC for my next baby. If I had a choice, there is no way I would do a c-section again. I have a big ugly scar from hip to hip and a "shelf" where the incision was and my core muscles are shot, I am 4 months post now and I still feel weak. I would MUCH rather have had an episiotomy, no visible scar, and easier to recover from.

Michelle - posted on 10/22/2009

I tore with my first one (7lbs), and and to get 3 stitches, it was well worth it! My second one (8lbs 13 1/2 oz)was much bigger than my first one so they did have to cut me (episiotomy). I never even had any discomfort from that one. I had an epidural with both first and second but I had my third one (8lbs 3 oz) natural- no tear/ cut needed. I recovered super fast, I actually had an extra amount of energy that I did not anticipate, because I was so groggy with the first 2 I was amazed at this. So I have always said, if the good Lord chooses to bless me with another I will go natural hands down. Although I am 35 and not planning on it.:)

I would never suggest getting a c-section to avoid tearing or an episiotomy. We are talking about cutting a 2 inch section of skin where no one can see it verses a much larger cut, as far as I know it depends on the situation, but I believe it is at least 6 inches, through the skin and muscle as well as the uterus. Which causes scars on the uterine wall. There are also alot of potential problems accociated with them. Hopefully with all these moms experiences and advice you have recieved on here you will make the best decision possible. I wish you luck. :)

Renee - posted on 10/22/2009

Let’s face it: delivering a baby via either method isn’t easy!!! They both have their pros and cons and ultimately it comes down to your personal comfort level, since you have a choice. HOWEVER, the one thing that I would say makes a vaginal delivery the best option is that you get to hold your baby immediately in their first moments in their new world!!! That moment was the most special time in my entire life and I wouldn’t trade it for anything…I can understand your fear...delivering your first baby carries so many unknowns, especially when comparing a vaginal delivery to a C-Section. Just remember that you were made for this! Healing will take a while either way... From my experience, I had a beautiful birth. I had a minor tear and didn't require stitches, my doctor said enemas were antiquated and not used, and I opted for an epidural that rocked! I was exhausted afterwards (I only was in labor for 13 hours from 11:30 pm to 12:28 pm and pushed for 18 minutes!) but I have a wonderful husband who took care of me (as it sounds you would too). I had many people trying to scare me with stories of "I know a woman who...", but honestly, you don't know what you'll be dealt in either situation. I ultimately walked away feeling proud of what I'd accomplished and pleasantly surprised at my newfound strength.

Deborah - posted on 10/22/2009

When I decided that I did not want a c section, I also decided that I wanted to try to go med free—at least for my first child. I prepared myself for the worst, thinking that it would be the worst thing that I could ever go through. I really think that preparing for the worst was key here. Labor was a lot easier than I expected, transitional labor was a whole lot worse. Although its controversial, the nurse was shocked at how quickly I dilated to the full 10cm and mentioned that it probably had to do with not taking muscle relaxers. The amazing thing about transitional labor, though, was that my body entirely took over. Even with my first child, I realized I was pushing after the fact. Obviously, it does require some controlled pushing, and the doctor was able to pinpoint the muscle that I needed to focus on which made a huge difference in how effective the pushing was. Because it happened so fast, i tore a little bit (not as much as an episiotomy) but the endorphins from birth must have overtook this pain, because an ice pack covered it. I had a few stitches, and healed within the six weeks that they ask you to wait.



Contractions are bearable up until the end—they are predictable and you are aware of when they reach their peak, that they will also subside. There is a start and an end to each one, with no remnant of pain. It is forgettable pain. After making it through all of labor and delivery med free I asked for some ibuprofen for the cramping that took place afterwards!



Because it was a natural birth, I was able to hold and nurse my daughter immediately afterwards. Supposedly the instinct to nurse is stronger for babies at this time, and the skin to skin contact is supposed to be really great for the baby. We were both alert, which helped too. As it turned out, she was tongue tied which usually makes it more difficult to latch on correctly. Although she found a way to compensate, it was to the detriment of my breasts—it helped me having all the options of a variety of positions in breastfeeding to make the pain tolerable. The first day, she actually gained weight—and by the end of her hospital stay she had lost only 3 oz, which she quickly gained back within a week.



I left the hospital walking, and I had a quick recovery time. This had a domino effect on my being a first-time mother: the 2 hr feedings, the sleepless nights, the demands of being a mom, the running around I ended up having to do were all affected in a positive way. I imagine that quick recovery time was also part of the reason I made it back into my jeans so quickly! Quick recovery also extended to sex life-you’d think a natural birth would change things, but a woman’s body does some amazing things. Even this bounces right back.



So I chose the worst option, right? All natural, regular birth the way they used to. But, even with the open mind of saying that this would only be the first time and for future births I would do it another way if it was a nightmare—when I have another baby I’ll do it the same way. Did I have a bizarre experience? That’s what the other mom’s are for.

Christine - posted on 10/22/2009

There are only 2 times when a mother should elect to have a C-section. The first is when the baby cannot be delivered vaginally safely (as was with my firstborn; his head was turned sideways in the birth canal and I could not push him out, nor could he be suctioned out), and the second reason is if you have already had a C-section (as I had) for any repeat pregnancies. In your case, I would suggest that you try to deliver vaginally, and then elect the C-section only if absolutely necessary. The pain and recovery time of a C-section surgery (and do not kid yourself, it is major surgery) is not something that you want to do unless you need to. I have not had a vaginal delivery, so I cannot speak to the pain, but I can tell you that the recovery time of a C-section delivery is 8 weeks, no less, and you cannot move for the first 24 hours (at least). good luck in your decision, and remember, it is your body and your baby. Don't let a medical doctor talk you into a C-section just because. It makes no sense for you to have one if it isn't needed.

Ellyn - posted on 10/22/2009

Let baby come when baby is ready. The only way to do this is by opting for natural delivery and waiting until you go into labor. Your baby will be heathlier as a result and so will you. Vaginal births are also cheaper. You can also talk with your doctor about the necessity of "being cut" during vaginal birth. While many women need this help to avoid tearing, not all women do. So talk with your doctor about assessing you at the time of delivery instead of planning on an episiotomy (sp?). You may be one of the many women who don't need "the cut" as you may be more stretchy. My first baby was delivered by C-section (for medical reasons after 24 hours of induced labor). My doctors were amazing, my care was wonderful, my scar is almost unnoticable and my baby was perfect. There was a certain sense of relief in knowning my baby was finally coming and I didn't have to guess how much longer I'd be in labor. But, I had a lot of trouble breastfeeding because my body was tramatized - I'd just had major surgery and I hurt afterwards. Since I was planning on breastfeeding, they coudn't give me much for the pain and my pain I'd guess was a little greater than the body aches and general fatigure that come with natural birth. I am now pregnant again and most likely will have to have this baby c-section, though vaginal birth can be done after a c-section. The risks are greater because you already have scar tissue inside which can tear and bleed or the placenta can attache it's self to the scar on your uterian wall, tear and bleed. So a c-section I will likely have again as it is now safer (though I'm still talking it out with my doctor). But this adds a who new level of worry. Will my baby be ready when he's born? Will he develop respriatory problems if they take him too early (boys are prone to this)? How will I tend to my 18 month old when I can only lift 10 pounds? Go with your gut feeling. Pray or meditate on it if you are a spiritual person. You'll know what is right for you and your family. There are pros and cons to both sides of your decision. I hope my thoughts and experience will help.

Kayla - posted on 10/22/2009

No no no, DON"T DO THE C-SECTION!

I had an emergency c-section in february with my son, and I'm so upset I did. The episiotomy is going to hurt alot less than your c-section. If you want to have another baby, the risk is greater of uterine rupture and complications than if you have a vaginal birth. You will be in pain while getting a c-section too, and it's not as accomplishing as a vaginal birth would be. You can ask for an enema, but they aren't routinely done. You are going to regret the 6 weeks of pain and inability to do anything than the hours tops' pain of labor. Not every woman needs a cut and stitches. plus, getting back in shape is so much more easy with a normal birth than a c-section.

Linda - posted on 10/22/2009

Go for natural for the first, at least. I had 3 c-sections for my 3 kids. With my first, my dr said the baby was going to be big, and she didn't want me delivering a big baby. So she induced me a week early. After 3 days of induction, there was nothing. She said I had the option of waiting it out ('the baby wouldn't grow any more'-like right!!), or doing a c-section. I was scared that the baby would grow more, plus my husband and mother already took time off to be with me, so I didn't feel like waiting a possible 3 weeks. So I chose c-section. I do very much regret it because they scheduled a c-section on my date for my 2nd, and the third they wouldn't let me go v-bac. I do regret not being able to know what labor was... never had any pains, although with a c-section, my 'down there' is intact with no stretching, etc. There are pros and cons, but if I could do it again, I would try for natural labor for sure!! I healed well after all my sections, and my husband was really great in helping around the house. My MIL came as well to spend time and help with the kids. So if you have a c-section, make sure you have a good support system.

Emma - posted on 10/22/2009

i have 2 boys and with both have had natural delivery, my first was 10lb 9oz and understandably i tore a bit and it was uncomfortable but not painful cos you dont feel it!! i dont know why they are trying to scare you but the tear healed after a week a c section is about 6 to 8 weeks due to knowing relatives who have had them, they said they would never have them again, too much risk of infection!! my second son was easy and had no problems, so dont let it scare you it, im sure it will be fine and avoid unneccesary pain and i would deliver naturally!! but its up to you, and if the worse does happen you will have a c section anyway but i was never offered a c section, but i would go with natural its the best way in my opinion, well i hope it helped x

Rohsaan - posted on 10/22/2009

I begged for a c/s but as I was a public patient they wouldn't give me one. I suffered incredably with my last two, during labour. I have 4 kids btw. I am still so traumatized but the horrible, unstoppable suffering I experienced with #4 that I still feel utter panic whenever the subject of birth comes up. They refused to give me an epidural when I was in labour with #4, although they promised it to me in the months leading up to the birth. Almost every one will try to talk you out of having a c/s except the women who have had horrendous births (like me) and large babies (like me) and fast birth (me again). It's often the women who have small babies (under 8 and a half pounds) who are all pro-vaginal birth. I litterally would kill myself if someone said I had to go through the agony I experienced again. But hey, it might be different for you. :-)

Melanie - posted on 10/22/2009

One thing I would like to point out that I think you should consider is the recovery time from a C-Section is a few weeks in which you can do nothing more than lift your baby and even that may be difficult. I know that Child birth is scary, I'm approaching my 26th week for my first child and I'm preparing myself but we were made to do this, we have been doing it since creation, back in the day when we were lying on a cold cave floor and chewing off the umbilical cord with our teeth. It is of course your decision but don't choose one because you're afraid of the other. My suggestion would be to do some more research educate yourself, it always helps settle my mind when I have a clear understanding of what could happen, and then make a decision that you're completely happy with. Keep in mind too that once you have a C-Section it can weaken your uterin wall which can lead to a woman never being able to experience a norrmal vaginal delivery which again is what your body was made for. Also, I have several friends that have had normal deliveries with no cutting whatsoever and no tearing. It is possible. This is just my take on it, I'm just trying to promote women educating themselves on what will be one of the most important and profound things you will ever experience. It's more beautiful than scary. From my mind to yours. Namaste

Bonnie - posted on 10/22/2009

Just to add to what I had before. By having a c-section I lost out on the labour part. Most mothers I know have these wonderful stories about how they went into labour and what they went through. None of then had any bad comments about the delivery and because you have a baby in the end they also forgot about the pain. I only have a story about how I got admitted, then prepped for surgery, then got to hold my baby about 1/2 hour after he was born.

My mom had her first three with epidurals, and the last two with nothing and wishes she had never even had an epidural. The fear of what will happen is usually worse than what does.

Trocia - posted on 10/22/2009

I must say that I wish i had a natural birth however in my case it was emergency. I had severe preclampsia. preclampsia is when your blood presesure is so high during pregnancy which could cause complications with the child. I was glad that the doctors did a very good job in my C-section. I still to this day suffer from hypertension but if nothing was done me and my baby would not be here today

Dangelys - posted on 10/22/2009

Keagles will take care of the vagina dont let sex decide whether you should do natural or c section bc you have to wait a longer period of time to have sex w a c section due to the incision*.

Marykaye - posted on 10/22/2009

Coming from someone who has had two medical necessary c-sections and another one in two weeks...If I only knew what I knew back then I would have totally tried everything I could to have a vaginal birth. Unless you have to, I would opt for a vaginal birth. C-sections can be hard to recover from, infection and bleeding is ALWAYS a concern, recovery is longer and it limits how many children you choose to have. Not to mention the stress it is for the baby to be yanked out of the womb. Birth is scary the first time, but it will come naturally to you. Good luck.

Tamara - posted on 10/22/2009

I would go with a natural birth. I have had three children in three years. All three of them were a vaginal delivery. Yes it hurts but it goes away very quickly. I had an epideral with all three and before I had my first I was scared to death of getting one but believe me it is not that bad. I think you take a huge risk with a c section and unless it is for medical reasons it should be avoided. My first was born four weeks early and had to be transfered to another hospital so ten hours after I had him I was up and out of the hospital to go to where he was. I would not have been able to do that with a c sec. Also you risk lung problems with a c sec if you go even a week early. My friend had to have a c sec so she scheduled it two weeks early and her daugher had to spend an extra week in the nicu.

Caroline - posted on 10/22/2009

i think normal delivery is better coz even if you get stitches you cant compare the pain..when t rains or when ts cold, that means trouble coz u wl be in pain, even if ts twenty years after that caesar

Shelley-Ann - posted on 10/22/2009

Hello Puja Ohri: Every woman's experience will be different, and quite frankly you'll find advice would go both ways with strong reasoning for natural and equally as strong for c-section.



In my case I had both normal vaginal deliveries, no stitches, no tears, no cuts. Also in both cases I had enemas, although it was my choice since enemas help avoid making a bowel movement during delivery and can assist with the birthing process. In the case of my second baby, she was born at 3:15am and I was home in my own bed at 1pm. Labor started at midnight, and I didn't feel any pain until about 1:45am. Altogether it was just 1 1/2 hours of pain, but it was excruciating because I opted not to have an epidural. Even with that experience I would never opt for a c-section for two reasons: cost, recovery time, and the fact that delivery is not something to avoid simply because it's painful.



I went natural all the way but I know that my circumstances weren't necessarily the average and I believe in the end the choice is ultimately yours. Whether you experience pain due to c-section or pain due to vaginal delivery, the pain will pass and you'll be able to enjoy your baby and new family in time. I attribute my birthing experiences to extremely competent doctors and a very supportive husband. The level of support you receive from these two most important people during the time of delivery makes all the difference, regardless of whether you're having a c-section or not.



In either case, the best approach is to remain as calm as possible, try to relax by thinking of the joys of holding your baby. I found this website to be particularly helpful in preparing to give birth: http://www.givingbirthnaturally.com/



After reading some of the other posts, I'm sure you realize that there's a lot of love out there for you and yours, and you should know that there are quite a number of people hoping you have a wonderful experience as you bring your little one into the world.

Natalie - posted on 10/22/2009

i had a natural birth and didn't need stiches. the way i looked at it was are a normal birth your a bit sore but you can get up straight away go for a shower and do normal stuff. however c-sec you can't you are extremely restricted to what you can do. and honestly i've forgotten how intense the pain was

Kim - posted on 10/22/2009

NO!!!! csections are much much harder to recoup from not to mention the wonderful scar. I wanted to have my child naturally but had to go for an emergency csection and it was at least three weeks of recovery my sister went in to have her baby naturally and was back to almost normal in about a week. if possible go with natural even if you need to get some extra help using meds or whatever.

Tambudzai - posted on 10/22/2009

i personally thinks a woman should giv birth naturally. i gav birth recently and it was natural even though i had a cut, i was discharged the sam day. the stitches i had healed perfect without a problem. wen u hear people saying they ended up having infection its bcoz of one thing not taking care of the wound properly. i used to sit in salty water 4 times a day mornin, noon,dawn and wen goin to bed, if u go to wee dry urself with clean towel or tissues. the type of salt i used was bathing crystals sea salt written postnal and relaxing muscles. by the way the moment the baby is out the pain wil disappear. good luck

Angel - posted on 10/22/2009

I had planned on having my first via V-delivery. My doctor did not allow me to choose a c-section at first because of the high risk associated with major abdominal surgery. Because of complications during birth, I had to have an emergency c-section after 18 hours of labor. It was scary, but at that moment, I felt as though I would do anything to keep my baby safe. I have a choice now whether or not to elect a c-section for my pregnancy this time (I am 2 months along) I have not decided either. I can tell you that I had the epidural when I thought I wa sgoing to go V-birth, and I hardly felt a thing through labor. Even when it came time to push. I am not afraid of the pain of V-birth, because I would have the epidural again, but I can tell you the pain of a C-section recovery is very real, and the complications are serious. (They nicked my bladder during the first one. ) After all, they ARE cutting through 7 layers of tissue and reproductive organs and pulling out a baby in less than 2 minutes. But, no matter what happens, at that moment when this little miracle is coming, whether v-birth or c-section, you don't care about the pain or what is going on down there.

Holly - posted on 10/22/2009

You should do whatever you think is best for you and will ease your nerves. It will make your big day a lot easier. Your intuition is usually dead on and no one should make you feel bad about the choice that you make. I always figured I would want to have an elective c-section and while pregnant I seemed to hear more horror stories about natural birth which made opting for a c-section that much easier. It's really not as bad as people make it out to be, but everyone's experience is going to be different. My c-section was 8 weeks ago and I couldn't be happier with the choice that I made. I wasn't even in the hospital 48 hours and the day they released us I was doing a lot of walking. (that helps your recovery and you aren't as sore) I was doing laundry and a few other things around the house that same week. The scar where the incision was is numb, but I've never had any pains. They didn't give me an enema or suppository, but I did have a catheter. If you do opt for the c-section, make sure you have some help because you will be sore and moving slow. You also wont be able to drive for a couple of weeks and can't lift anything heavier than your baby. Good luck!

Holly - posted on 10/22/2009

You should do whatever you think is best for you and will ease your nerves. It will make your big day a lot easier. Your intuition is usually dead on and no one should make you feel bad about the choice that you make. I always figured I would want to have an elective c-section and while pregnant I seemed to hear more horror stories about natural birth which made opting for a c-section that much easier. It's really not as bad as people make it out to be, but everyone's experience is going to be different. My c-section was 8 weeks ago and I couldn't be happier with the choice that I made. I wasn't even in the hospital 48 hours and the day they released us I was doing a lot of walking. (that helps your recovery and you aren't as sore) I was doing laundry and a few other things around the house that same week. The scar where the incision was is numb, but I've never had any pains. They didn't give me an enema or suppository, but I did have a catheter. If you do opt for the c-section, make sure you have some help because you will be sore and moving slow. You also wont be able to drive for a couple of weeks and can't lift anything heavier than your baby. Good luck!

Mary-Frances - posted on 10/22/2009

Alot of people say c-sections are major abdominal surgery and I guess they are, but that sounds alot scarier then the outcome/experience...When you hear this, you have images of them hacking through your muscles and everything...they don't cut through the muscle...they move them to the side. My tummy and muscles are exactly how it has always been following the c-section. The incisions are actually quite small...same goes internally.



Although respecting other people's DIFFERENT experiences, I am shocked when I hear stories that women couldn't walk up stairs, drive cars, or pick up their babies for weeks after c-sections!! This was so not the case for me. I remember this being one of my fears (because of reading threads like this) which I told my doctor about when considering c-section...He seemed extremely surprised, laughed, and assured me this was so not the case. He assured me I would be walking around carrying my baby no problems. He was absolutely correct. I could easily walk up stairs the day after...and EASILY pick up my baby. Although lying down, I was picking up my baby from the bassinet just a few hours after the c-section. I wouldn't recommend running up stairs or jumping around, but it definitely wasn't the way people describe! This makes me feel like women are not going to very good doctors for c-sections. My doctor was very confident in assuring me it is quite the painless procedure, and all of these things I was hearing/reading were simply incorrect...and so was true for my c-section.

Jenny - posted on 10/22/2009

Girl I wanted to do a natural birth soo bad! I went thru all the contractions, dilated to ten adn even pushed for about 45 minutes but my daughter's head got stuck. My birth canal was too small ..So I ended up having a c section..I was given the choice as well @ 35 weeks and I said natural. I'm honestly glad the c section happened because the epidural did not work on me. Its natural to be scared. Its your decision! Neither choice is a bad choice! but i dont want you to be worried if you do have a csection they may strap your arms down. you wont notice it cause of the drugs but just in case i thought i would let you know. its not bad at all i promise and if you do get a c section walk walk walk afterwards.

Sonja - posted on 10/22/2009

O dear,

I am reading all the replies below, and they all have a good point, but are also from a personal point of view, as mine will be ... too :) . I gave birth in Bosnia where they do not give drugs for the natural delivery and there is no epidural. Everything else is great. This is not a third world country, it is just the way it is. Anyway :) ... I have an 18 months old son and I HAD to have a C section because he wanted to come out with his butt first :). I did not know that until the last minute (here you do not have an option ... you can only have a C section if you have to) . In any case I had never been sick or i ll prior to giving birth. Very active, fit and bla bla bla ... After giving birth (and my pain tolerance is extremely high) I could not get up for days, had to stop breast feeding after 17 days, and to this day have really bad "phantom " pains where my scar is. I do not know how it is to give natural birth, but would have liked to have been given an option. All of my friends from the US had given births the natural way with the epidural (some would say that is not natural, but I do not care, the baby is coming out where it is supposed to be coming put :) ) and all do not remember it being painful. One said it was hard pushing and you feel the baby coming out and all, but it is not as painful as she expected it to be. In any case do what ever you feel like, DO NOT FEEL GUILTY either way you decide. You love your baby and yourself the most and let no one convince you otherwise! The last thing you need is post pardum depression. All the best!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 10/22/2009

I wanted a C-Sec and was convinced by my doctor and midwife to try for a natural birth. Ended up having C-Sec anyway after first having painful contractions 49 hours earlier. I could have avoided days and nights of unnecceasry pain and trauma for myself (and my Husband, and the rest of my family...) if only they had let me have my baby the way I wanted to. Many times it comes down to the financial cost of the operation vs giving birth "naturally", nothing at all to do with what you feel is best for you.



It turns out my little girl was nearly 10 pounds so giving birth to her "naturally" would have involved definite third degree tears for me and possible dislocated shoulders for her. Not to mention the pshychological and emotional damage done to me just wanting the pain to be over.



Now tell me vaginal delivery is always safer than C-Sec!

Kathryn - posted on 10/22/2009

When I had my first baby he was two weeks early. Of course your going to be scared but very excited cos your about to see your child that you've been carrying for 9months. I had a natural, 3 pushes and he was out. I didn't want drygs until right at the end when i had abit of gas and air. It is painful but look what you get at the end, a gorgeous baby. I had one stitch but it didn't hurt cos your to busy looking at your baby. Its better to have your baby naturally unless there was some concern about the baby. U will feel great when you have your baby. A feelin i can't describe.

DeeDee - posted on 10/22/2009

a couple of things. first not everybody has to get cut. My doctor's just let me tear if baby wasn't in any danger, you could ask your doctor to do the same, if the baby happens to get into trouble on the way then they can still cut if they have to. I did have an epidural and it was kind of scary at first but I loved it and went back for another with my second.

Second, with a C-sec they are cutting more than just a little skin, that cut goes deep enough to allow baby to come out that is why it is surgery while an episiotomy( cut to ease baby out) isn't really considered surgery.

I had 2 boys, both over 10lbs and feel confident that it was the right choice for me to deliver naturally. I love the fact that there is the option for a C-sec if needed but that wasn't the right choice for me. So no matter what you choose, make sure you are comfortable with it and that your doctor understands how you feel about being cut.

Plus if you want a little more control of when baby comes they really could induce you, that is what I did. My 2nd was due on my birthday so we induced a week early and so our birthdays are happily spaced a week apart.

Cari - posted on 10/21/2009

Sorry, I can't help but reply to this! As a practicing OB, a primary elective c-section happens in only 2% of the population in the US. The primary C/S rate in the US in a normal uncomplicated pregnancy should be about 11%. The 30% national average includes all complicated pregnancies, multiple gestations and repeat C/S. Episiotomys (incisions of the perineum) are rarely done anymore because they lead to bigger tears, but yes, most women tear some during delivery. Go for a normal vaginal delivery, as long as all else is normal. C-sections are major abdomenal surgery. Each one becomes more complicated and the risks are definitely present (bleeding, transfusion, infection, damage to the bladder, bowel etc. Rare, but possible). Personally, I have had 2 normal deliveries and 2 C sections. Recovery is much easier for the vaginal approach. C-sections win on convenience. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 10/21/2009

A c-section is MAJOR ABDOMINAL SURGERY. The healing time is much, much longer than that of a vaginal birth. Most hospitals do not do episiotomies any more (though sometimes they are done). Most women are allowed to tear naturally nowadays. Not all women tear. Comparing the tear of an episiotomy or vaginal tear to that of a c-section is like a paper cut compared to a huge gash. Also if you have a c-section, you will not get to experience your baby right away, it'll take about 1 hour after you deliver to resew the many layers of tissue cut to get the baby out. If you have a vaginal delivery, the baby most likely will be put onto your chest right away. There are also other risks that come with c-sections. As a nurse, I would recommend a vaginal delivery over a c-section any day.



I opted to give myself an enema prior to delivery because I was horrified at the possibility of pooping on the table (it happens a lot). It really isn't that bad, just a little fluid and some time in the bathroom. You don't have to have one though.



It is normal to be scared for either delivery. Just concentrate on how beautiful that baby inside you is and how lucky you are to have him/her.

Michaelina - posted on 10/21/2009

My son is 5 months old and I had a natural birth. I can't tell you how rewarding it was to know that I endured the pain and exhaustion for hours and hours in order to give birth to him. I'm not implying that C-sections are bad, because in some cases they are medically required. I just feel like you get such a greater sense of achievement if you have your baby naturally. You're so much more involved in the process of bringing that beautiful child into the world, at the end you're just so proud at what you've accomplished! After seeing my sister in pain for weeks after having her children via c-section, I would say avoid surgery unless it's necessary. I did tear with my son but since I had the epidural I couldn't feel the Dr. stitching me up. Yeah it was a little uncomfortable for about a week, but after that I didn't even notice it. The key thing was that I was able to pick up my baby and take care of him when we got home, whereas, if I would have had a c-section I wouldn't have really been able to. In fact, I was able to walk around my hospital room right after I gave birth, and was released from the hospital the next day. I say go natural.



I didn't have an enema. I questioned the doctor and he told me that most places don't do them anymore.

Linda - posted on 10/21/2009

I have two kids, both born through natural birth. With my first baby, i was given enema to clear my system then after a few hours i was given the tablet to bring the pains. the labour was not long and delivery went well. I was given a cut but trust me, you will not even feel it when the cut is made. its better to have the cut then tear during delivery coz it might be a bad tear. My second baby was bigger, the labour and delivery was also not long. I was not given enema this time round. C section looks really tempting compared to the pain you feel during labour but my opinion, just go for the natural birth its pain that any mother would handle. Good luck and may God be with you.

Michelle - posted on 10/21/2009

So my first son was a c- section. Long story short his head was too big. Recovery was painful and hard (especially because my husband had to leave town for work 3 times in the first 6 weeks). I had to stay in the hospital longer. There is scarring on your uterus (scar tissue from your uterus can actually attach to nearby organs and cause problems for you later). I think if I had had known that I would have tried harder to deliver my son vaginally (although even my doctor said she didn't think all the pushing in the world would have done it). My daughter was delivered vaginally. Recovery was much quicker and the whole experience was really better. Having done both I would say vaginally is a much better experience overall. Also I found out when I was pregnant with my daughter that there are many doctors who won't do more then 3 c- sections on a patient. I don't know how many doctors actually do that since it's up to them. But those things are all things you should take into consideration. You would do fine with a c- section and the birth experience will be quicker and less painful. But the long term recovery is a lot more painful. I wouldn't suggest it as your first course of action.

Natalie - posted on 10/21/2009

I tried to have a natural birth that ended up being a caesar, and all I can tell you is the pain of being in Labour the whole night was Nothing! compared to the pain of waking up after the caesar. I thought they amputated my legs along in the process..:)

But I guess the up side to a caesar is its so quick and you know your baby is out quickly. Another thing is you dont tear and damage anything down stairs! which i think is every womens fear....but I have heard it heals quikly.

All I know is the day after the surgery I was on morphine and so out of it i feel like I missed out...missed her first bath etc...

If it was me I would try for a natural first (have an epidural) and if it doesnt work out you have a caesar, at the end of the day what will happen will happen!

But it is a blessing and dispite the pain one of the best days of your life, Good luck.

Nicole - posted on 10/21/2009

I have 2 children. I REALLY wanted to deliver vaginally. I pushed for an hour and a half and developed a fever and they didn't want to risk it being an infection so they did the c-section. Of course at that point I knew they had to do whatever was best for my baby. I am an active person and it took me a while to get back to the physical shape I was happy with. My abdominal muscles have never been the same.

With my second I had a vbac. I was so happy to deliver vaginally. Right after I was at odds with which was the better way because I was in so much pain. But thinking back I was in just as much pain from the c-section just in a different area and the recovery time was cut in half (at least) for the vaginal birth.

I would not have an elected abdominal surgery unless medically necessary. I did get stitches because I tore on top of the epis and it healed very quickly.

Every ones experience is so different. Not everyone tears. Do what you think is best for you!!

Mary-Frances - posted on 10/21/2009

Quoting Mary-Frances:

Quoting Kerri:

Quoting Mary-Frances:

...oh...(sorry I keep replying)....as for losing the weight. Baby is now 6 months...I'm skinner/weigh less than I was before I had him, and I couldn't breastfeed with him. Yes I had to work to get it off...but you can't expect it to come off without doing anything no matter what way you go about it. I don't have over hanging skin over the scar either...it is very flat. The key is finding a good doctor who knows what he is doing.

I only "quoted" your last response, because there wer several, but...I'm sorry but pretty much everything you said was a load of bs NOT us who say c-sections take a long time to recover from.  If you had one and recovered quickly good for you, please do not assume that your case is so for every other woman out there.  EVERY woman is different and so is their situation.  I had a c-section in 2006 and one in 2008 NOT ten years ago, and it took me a long time to recover, I was in a lot of pain, I had trouble breastfeeding for two months, my incision became infected...there were several things.  

And about your sex life, I can not believe you would put that before the well being of your child.  What do you say to yourself, " yeah I know this is way better for my baby to deliver naturally but just so my vagina can stay as tight as it used to be I think I'll opt for a c-section????"  I'm sorry but my sexlife and husband's level of pleasure(although important) would take a back seat to my child.  We are SUPPOSED to have babies that way.  Men can deal with it if their wives aren't as tight anymore.  Any truly loving man would anyway. 

 

Ha Ha! I knew my previous post was going to lead to a heated response of some kind.  Women are always going to defend their own method, aren’t they?  Let me just emphasize that my previous post was not meant to encourage one to choose one method of birthing over another, but rather support “the choice” for women.  Years ago, there would be no doubt in arguing natural over c-section due to the higher serious risks associated with c-sections at that time.  Things have changed now, and although I cannot argue that c-sections have less risk, I can argue that the risks are extremely rare and very comparable now to the risks of natural hence the popularity of this debate in recent times.  We have come to a point in which the risks are so similar, it is definitely worth considering a change of mentality in regards to c-sections.

 

Saying that I chose my vagina over the health and safety of my child is absolutely ridiculous and a bit insulting I might add.  Partners most certainly should love their woman regardless of any physical changes resulting from childbirth…and please do not think my husband was in my ear demanding a c-section for such selfish reasons that you suggest.  My husband was supportive of whatever decision I chose, and held no preference either way.  Both of us had done our research and saw that serious risks for both methods were different according to which method, but more importantly quite rare in either case.  That is the point.  I read just as many research articles that showed risks associated with natural childbirth…there is no procedure that goes without risk of some kind.  However, there is a reason why the mortality rate associated with childbirth has decreased so dramatically over the years, and that is the advancement of modern medicine.  Why should we ignore the advancement in c-sections?  Interesting that you think a c-section is more risky for the baby.  There are hundreds of thousands of babies delivered naturally who endure extreme amounts of stress being delivered the old fashioned way…(me included) as I was born with a heart murmur due to the long labor suffered and the stress it put on my body as a baby.  When my baby, however, was pulled from my tummy, he basically came out smiling.  I’m not suggesting there were no risks at all, but there are risks with any birthing method…its just a case of choosing which risks you are willing to take.  But I say, thank god that we live in an age where we have a choice!

 

Do forgive me for giving the impression that ALL c-sections are easy procedures.  Mine was extremely easy, but yes there are more difficult cases as in what you describe.  However my doctor said that the majority of c-section he delivers are “easy breezy”…such was the case for me.  Same goes for natural…some women breeze through it no problems, while others (such as my family member mentioned in previous posts) suffer with lifelong problems as a result.  It all comes down to the choice, and I’m glad modern medicine has now given us this ability. 

 

As for the sex and the vagina issue…this was a concern, but not the reason I chose c-section.  I DO value my sex life, and don’t feel as though women should feel as martyrs sacrificing their pelvic floor and the lifelong problems that can result to deliver a large baby, especially if the risks associated with c-sections have become so comparable to natural anyway…nor do I feel it is okay for a women to feel pressured to have a c-section for the sake of their vagina! My point is giving people the choice!!  I would never have chosen a c-section if I felt as though my baby would suffer as a result.  Assuming natural childbirth is not difficult and stressful on a baby is just wrong!  Once again, the reason for such a debate is that current research shows a comparable outcome...healthy happy babies and mothers!

 

Kristin - posted on 10/21/2009

My personal opinion is that C-sections should be for emergencies ONLY! the pain of a normal vaginal delivery is 100% NORMAL...yes its probably gonna some, and NO not everyone women needs and receives a"cut" during delivery. I had a small cut and trust me it was nothing to fear...but beleive me...it was my first baby, i was all nervous and tense and trying to push her out, and my doctor decided to cut me BUT he numbed me so i didnt even feel it....and then you get a coupld stitches....that is SUCH a greater recovery than a c-section.

its all normally, im pregnant with my 3rd and no books or stories or anyones opinions will ever fully pre-pare you for the experience you will have. it may be a few hours of pain but once its over you don't even think about it. a c-sections has SO many risks and a hard recovery, you may not being able the hold your baby right away and full get the experience of the first coupld days with a new baby.

Please please please don't opt for a c-section unless medicall necessary!!

Dangelys - posted on 10/21/2009

Quoting Ramona:

Hi! Understand that you feel a anxious,but a normal delivery are absolutely best for both you and the baby because you don't need any epidural which can be risky in it self (ask the doctors about more info) and also the fact that the delivery via the birthcannal is very good for the babys lungs. I needed a C-sec due to my babys position,but I wished I could have had an normal delivery even tough my C-sec went ok,except for that they wen't in to far with the epidural needle in the epidural space and thereafore I got the "spinal headache" which was awful. The scar and the pain after the C-sec wasn't to bad,but I've heard that some women got rather much pain from the wound post delivery and you need to remember to be carefull to lift heavy things the following weeks post delivery...so you need more help from your husband ;o)...and it's always a risk with infection of the abdominal scar site. It will be scary no matter what you opt for and you need to really think it trough,but the best for both you and the baby in the long run is a normal delivery...the professionals (the anesthesiologist) do know what they talking about,even if the nurses you met off course are right in the fact many women need a cut in a normal delivery anyway,but it's up to you. Good luck...it's the most fantastic thing in the world to become a mother,so you can really look forward to it a lot ;o) R*

I completely agree. My expierence was good but not all turn out so good and not everyone makes it up and out of bed and going like normal in 3 days. I would do it again just because im a control freak as my BFF would say lol. i like to know when, where, and how. But its definetly not for everyone.

Ramona - posted on 10/21/2009

Hi! Understand that you feel a anxious,but a normal delivery are absolutely best for both you and the baby because you don't need any epidural which can be risky in it self (ask the doctors about more info) and also the fact that the delivery via the birthcannal is very good for the babys lungs. I needed a C-sec due to my babys position,but I wished I could have had an normal delivery even tough my C-sec went ok,except for that they wen't in to far with the epidural needle in the epidural space and thereafore I got the "spinal headache" which was awful. The scar and the pain after the C-sec wasn't to bad,but I've heard that some women got rather much pain from the wound post delivery and you need to remember to be carefull to lift heavy things the following weeks post delivery...so you need more help from your husband ;o)...and it's always a risk with infection of the abdominal scar site. It will be scary no matter what you opt for and you need to really think it trough,but the best for both you and the baby in the long run is a normal delivery...the professionals (the anesthesiologist) do know what they talking about,even if the nurses you met off course are right in the fact many women need a cut in a normal delivery anyway,but it's up to you. Good luck...it's the most fantastic thing in the world to become a mother,so you can really look forward to it a lot ;o) R*