C-sec vs Normal Birth

Puja - posted on 10/21/2009 ( 281 moms have responded )

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I have completed 35 weeks, this is our first baby- radiolologist and gynaecologist are happy with baby and me, and she is giving me the choice of whether I want to try for a normal delivery or opt for an elected C section. I met the anesthesiologist who spent 15 mins trying to convince me NOT TO go for a C sec. My husband wants me to avoid a surgery ( a surgery is a surgery after all) but also feels empathetic enough to say I wont be able to see you in so much pain.



I met some nurses from the labour room of my hospital when I had gone there for some tests. Each told me they havent seen any normal delivery without a cut given to help baby ease out.. I saw pics of that in a pregnancy book and felt really scared... If they r anyways going to give a cut, isnt a C SEC better?I mean, my qs is, if u r going to go thru pain, n then some anesthesia, then cut , then stitches for a normal delivery, then is it not better to go initially for a C SEC only?



I think Im scared of both. Also, do they routinely give enemas these days or do they give only that tablet the suppository?

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Fatima - posted on 10/21/2009

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according to me unless some complications normal delivery is better that elected c-section.in normal delivery mother recover in 15 days normally unlike in c-section mother has to be care full and take a lot of precautions till 3 months.

Liezel - posted on 10/21/2009

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Hi there...wow! what an opportunity to have the best experience ever!!! Natural is suppose to be natural...my little angel decided to arrive at 37weeks (I actually drove myself to the hospital) and the contractions and stuff wasn't funny. But you know what I wouldn't change it for the world! Unfortunately I had to get a C-sec - the "doctor" not my dr take note - I honestly feel she was just tired (2am in the morning) and I was in labour for 10hours prior...
Everything that could go wrong with the C-sec did...The drugs they gave me made me sooooo sick - throwing up that I ended up with a double cut. My arms and legs were blue because they had to hold me down. I had trouble holding my angel because I was shivering so badly. I'm sure this is not normal but if I could go back! I would try normal again. My milk came in the next day and all the other nonsense forgotten! Natural is just so awesome I honestly wish I could have gone all the way.....

Good luck either way - just enjoy your little miracle! your life will change in the most amazing way!

Melissa - posted on 10/21/2009

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I particuarlly don't agree with being able to elect a c-section. I think that God gave you the means to have the child naturally and I think you should unless it is medically necessary to have the c-section. Then by all means go for it. But my sister in law-s both had c-sections because they didn't want to have pain. A c-section takes longer to heal than a natural birth. I was only 20 when I had my son. I'm 5 feet tall and don't weigh very much, and my doctor didn't really have to cut me. I only needed to get one stitch after my son was born. So, not all women need to get cut to help the baby out. I think natural is the way to go. But it is your decision and I wish you and your family the best of luck!!

Sheri - posted on 10/21/2009

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I have had 4 children--3 natural and 1 Csection. Go natural. I had to heal from the episotomy 3 times but much better than healing from 1 Csection.

Stacey - posted on 10/21/2009

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Quoting Ivana:

I wrote a long reply but lost the connection... Now there is no time to repeat (3,5 month old waiting for me!), but I had a c-section bcs she was in frank breech and I WOULD NOT RECOMMEND IT for anyone. it is major surgery, you feel horrible afterwards for days, i was jealous of all the natural birth mothers who recovered in a few hours, even with incisions... Your body is in shock for the first 4 hrs, trembling and shivering incontrollably. You cannot move for 24 hrs, let alone take care of your baby. Breastfeeding is so much harder! I totally agree with Amii. Also check out complicaitons http://www.pregnancy-info.net/c-section_..., I have some adhesions and I am still hoping they will go away, but maybe not... Giving birth is natural, and it is a privilege. Parenthood is full of sacrifices, a few hours of pain at birht is just the beginning. Embrace it and enjoy it, be proud of it as it is a wonderful achievement in life to give birth and to raise children. Finding "the easy way out" is not the point, and there is none anyway, c-sec is definitely the hard way. Read Dr. Sears "The Birth Book", it will prepare you mentally for it.
Good luck, you will do fine! You can do it - billions of women have done it!


Okay, just to let you know, the shivering and trembling Ivana mentions is a normal reaction. You are naked, full of pain preventive medicine, just  had a baby taken from your belly......Your body reacts to the shock of not having a baby there anymore. Lasts for a few minutes. Do not panic. She may have felt horrible for days afterwards, I did'nt. does'nt mean you will or wont! BTW You can still do the normal activities with your newborn; breast feeding, bottle feeding, lay him/her across your tummy w/out pain, snuggle, play, bathe, Hell, I took showers myself first day home from the hospital! It all depends on YOU and how YOU feel! it is YOUR decision and whatever that decision is will be perfect for you and your baby!!!

Trisha - posted on 10/21/2009

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I'm not sure if chosing yourself to go either Natural or CS is an American thing, because you certainly don't have that option in New Zealand, unless there is a medical reason to require a CS..



I had a natural delivery with using a TENS machine as my pain relief, which i would highly recomend, (get it on from the first contraction and you need time to build up to cover the intensity of the contractions- noticed a big difference when i took it off to have a bath - got it on as soon as I got out) One other bit of advice told to our Ante-Natal Group by our Birth Instructor, was that you heal a hell of lot faster if you tear naturally than if you get cut.. I had a 2nd degree tear as my little one wanted a hand out at the same time, but had no trouble with No1 or 2's and within 2 weeks and only Paracetamol for pain I was feeling pretty good.. Another lady in our group had to have a CS as her baby was Breech and you are looking at the 6 week mark before you feel like you again... but then again everyone is different, just like our little ones..



I agree with Amii, once you have pushed her/him out, any pain disappears straight away, all you can see is your new gorgeous baby.. just enjoy the moment, evening though there is pain, its still a moment in life you will never forget...

Margie - posted on 10/21/2009

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I had one emergency c-section, one planned because of size of baby, and two natural births and would not recommend a c-section if not necessary. The emergency one was much worse to recover from - couldn't get up for two weeks without help and severe pain along with my feet being like bags of water that sloshed when I walked. The second was much better probably because it was planned and I was not totally knocked out with IV fluid and pain killer and anesthesia, just an epidural so I was awake during it but couldn't feel anything. However, the scar from both which is a low down cut so it won't show with a bikini still feels strange and results in extra skin and fat hanging over the cut now which is a constant battle to find clothes to hide that.
But more than enough said about that, my main point is that there should be natural childbirth classes such as LaMaze given by your hospital or they could recommend them. I took them with all 4 of mine because I am a big chicken about pain and they worked so well. I have even used this focused breathing technique when I have had to endure pain on other occasions such as getting cramps or injuries. You will also learn from the class everything to expect and that will happen so you can help know when it is time to go to the hospital and to push or not. No one at the hospital believed that I went through labor so fast and was ready to deliver but the knowledge from this class helped me know so I could insist to be taken to delivery room when I was ready . . and I was right.

Sheena - posted on 10/21/2009

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I understand your situation. I had a normal vag birth with my daughter. I would suggest that to any mom to be. It is the best feeling in the world. Yea it comes with a little pain but think about what you get in return. here are some things to think about: a little tear/cut is nothing compaired to being stuck in the bed with major abdominal pain/surgery. You are down and out for a few weeks with a c-section. With a vag birth if you tear, you don't feel it happening. you are usually sore for a few days when you go to the bathroom or try to stand up off the floor or the tub. But I sat on a pillow in the chair most the time. I was able to attend to my little girl like I wanted to. Most of my friends that had to have a c-section felt like they couldn't do anything with their babies for a few weeks. I would suggest a normal vag birth.

Lora - posted on 10/21/2009

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There are a lot of myths being perpetuated here, please do your research before you believe everything you read.



It always amazes me how much people who have never had c-sections think they know about having a c-section. I recently had a c-section and it was fine. The doctors were amazing. My c-section was elective but it was because I had a lot of fibroids in my uterus. By having a c-section my doctor was able to take out my fibroids and I'm healthier because of it. Healing took a few days and discomfort was gone within a couple weeks. I've never heard of someone without complications being sidelined for six weeks because of a c-section. My baby is perfectly normal, we bonded immediately, I never had any trouble holding or feeding her, and my doctor says I can have as many children by c-section or vaginally as I want.



By the way, having a c-section seemed pretty normal to me so maybe you could say "vaginal birth" instead if "normal birth." Thank you!



Finally, episiotomies are an unnecessary practice. Natural tearing is normal and safe.

Sharon - posted on 10/21/2009

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No a C-Sect is not better.



If pain is an issue - take the epidural. Jodi is sooooo right. I'm not against elected c-sections though. A good friend opted for one because, like me, because of past accidents there was a worry her pelvis wouldn't open up. I opted for a vaginal birth with a surgery team on standby and she went with a planned c-section. We both turned out fine. However, lol she was able to hire a part time nanny & a maid to help her out!



I had 3 epidurals and I loved them. Here in the US they do not routinely do enemas anymore.

Stacey - posted on 10/21/2009

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Quoting Erica:

Regardless of everyone's personal feelings on this topic, it is never right to tell a mother that she is "selfish" for making delivery decisions. We all need to do what is right for us, and it is hard for another person to judge what that decision should be from the outside looking in. I do personally think that surgery should be avoided when possible, but that doesn't mean that c-sec are a bad thing to do. I also do not understand all of these comments about not being able to "do things with your baby" during the c-sec recovery. What needs to be done with a newborn other than feed them, love them, change them, and snuggle them? They don't need to go on a jog or go to the park, and all of the basic needs can be taken care of post c-sec baring complications (which can occur with a natural delivery also).
Make the choice that you can live with. You will love and cherish your beautiful baby no matter how they come into this world :)



I have to agree with Erica here,  Every pregnancy is different. My C-sections were both easy to recover from; does not mean that every one is. There are complications some great, some small, some not at all! I also think you should do what is best for you not based on what these wonderful mothers are saying! You will know when the time comes!!

Stacey - posted on 10/21/2009

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Okay dear, I have read all the replies to your post. I had 2 c-sec's because I happen to have a narrow birth canal and my first baby was a 9lb baby. So I was terrified when my doctor told me he would have to go in after her!! My mom was the only one that had had surgeries before, she was my life-line. I was scared for nothing. I had a "bikini cut" I felt only the chill from the knife FELT NO PAIN!! I would tell anyone to go for the c-section over the vaginal delivery. I had an epideral and felt most of the pain as i tried to push before i knew of the c-section!! I had a taste, didnt like it!! My 2nd birth was also a c-section; planned this time around:0) I had the spinal this time which is just a shot at the base of your spine that numbs you from under your breasts down to your toes. It is not a cathadre line up your spine like the epideral. Much better! My recovery was 1 day hooked to a piss bag...the lovely little things we go thru...the next day I was up walking around, I was in pain NOTE TO SELF your stomach/abdomen muscles have been cut, you will hurt but you must get out of bed and walk! Better than your crotch being all stretched out and having to sit on a pad everytime you have to go potty or just to sit. I had stitches inside /outside and staples. The incision is right above the pubic hair line about as long as the hair line. Do not get the other incision which is from your naval down to your hair line. once that heals it is virtually impossible to get rid of it! I didnt have enemas, I dont think they do that anymore! A week at home, slept in an incline position, took lots of walks for 2wks then felt great. Tender for 6wks or so but cleaning my house after 2wk check-up. As long as you are careful and do not over do it, your recovery will not last long at all. C-Sections are considered a normal option for delivery now when they used to be considered as a last resort. It lasts for 15 minutes, you still see your baby before they clean it up. You still have a strong bond, I held both my babies from the operating room to the recovery room. I think you would be very surprised of how easy a c-sec is. I truly hope you consider the pros and cons of each option. Whatever works for you!!! Congrats on becoming a mommy!!!

Zenia - posted on 10/21/2009

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Hi there:

I just had my first little one in January 2009...normal delivery but with forceps. They had to make a bigger cut due to the baby's size. I was in mild pain for about a week and then up and about. In addition to the faster healing with a normal delivery, nursing a baby witha c-section cut is painful. I have a friend who had a c-section not out of choice but because of complications and it took her a few weeks before she completely healed.

You can always get an epidural to get you thru labor pains and from my experience i forgot about the pain completely when i saw my son :).

All the very best to you. Oh by the way i was not given an Enema i don;t think it is routine here.

Ashley - posted on 10/21/2009

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amen i totally agree with and have gone thru the same thing.. 2 c-sections and wanted to have them naturally..  medical science has improved to help mothers like us who weren't able to deliver naturally and to save our lives..  it shouldn't b takin lightly or as the easy way out its supposed to be a "no other way" option



 



Quoting Shana:

I had both of my boys via c-section. The first was an emergency c-section after 36 hours of unprogressed labor and the second was a "scheduled" c-section that came early as an emergency because of the reasons I had to have the first and due to an umbilical cord issue. With that said, I don't know why anyone would OPT for a c-section. I wanted a natural birth in the worst way...that's what our bodies are made to do. Both of my c-sections were difficult to recover from and even now, a year after my second, I have some residual pain and numbness. It sounds to me that medical intervention is becoming too much the norm and the "easy way out". Let your body try what is intended for...





 

Ashley - posted on 10/21/2009

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amen i totally agree with and have gone thru the same thing.. 2 c-sections and wanted to have them naturally..  medical science has improved to help mothers like us who weren't able to deliver naturally and to save our lives..  it shouldn't b takin lightly or as the easy way out its supposed to be a "no other way" option



 



Quoting Shana:

I had both of my boys via c-section. The first was an emergency c-section after 36 hours of unprogressed labor and the second was a "scheduled" c-section that came early as an emergency because of the reasons I had to have the first and due to an umbilical cord issue. With that said, I don't know why anyone would OPT for a c-section. I wanted a natural birth in the worst way...that's what our bodies are made to do. Both of my c-sections were difficult to recover from and even now, a year after my second, I have some residual pain and numbness. It sounds to me that medical intervention is becoming too much the norm and the "easy way out". Let your body try what is intended for...





 

Alexandra - posted on 10/21/2009

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I had a c-section because my baby's heartbeat was slowing down when i had a contraction and the stronger the contractions got the worse she got so they had to do an emergency c-section and i wish i had a normal delivery! It's so hard to take care of ur baby when u can barely move and when u start moving it's so hard to do simple things... i dropped a bottle of meds on the floor and couldn't bend down to pick them up and so i had to wake my husband up at 4:30am when he had to work in a few hours to clean up after me... my husband ended up having to sleep in another bed because i was in so much pain and he was afraid of hurting me while he slept... try to avoid a c-section!!!

Shana - posted on 10/21/2009

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I had both of my boys via c-section. The first was an emergency c-section after 36 hours of unprogressed labor and the second was a "scheduled" c-section that came early as an emergency because of the reasons I had to have the first and due to an umbilical cord issue. With that said, I don't know why anyone would OPT for a c-section. I wanted a natural birth in the worst way...that's what our bodies are made to do. Both of my c-sections were difficult to recover from and even now, a year after my second, I have some residual pain and numbness. It sounds to me that medical intervention is becoming too much the norm and the "easy way out". Let your body try what is intended for...

Erica - posted on 10/21/2009

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Regardless of everyone's personal feelings on this topic, it is never right to tell a mother that she is "selfish" for making delivery decisions. We all need to do what is right for us, and it is hard for another person to judge what that decision should be from the outside looking in. I do personally think that surgery should be avoided when possible, but that doesn't mean that c-sec are a bad thing to do. I also do not understand all of these comments about not being able to "do things with your baby" during the c-sec recovery. What needs to be done with a newborn other than feed them, love them, change them, and snuggle them? They don't need to go on a jog or go to the park, and all of the basic needs can be taken care of post c-sec baring complications (which can occur with a natural delivery also).

Make the choice that you can live with. You will love and cherish your beautiful baby no matter how they come into this world :)

Stacey - posted on 10/21/2009

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After just giving birth to my 2nd child a week ago, both vaginal deliveries, I would advise that you go for vaginal, less recovery time.  I wasn't cut with either of mine, I did tear but the stitches dissolve and have already started to heal.  With a section, you have staples and its harder, longer recovery.  Everyone birth and every labor is different, its worth a shot!

 



Quoting Puja:

C-sec vs Normal Birth

I have completed 35 weeks, this is our first baby- radiolologist and gynaecologist are happy with baby and me, and she is giving me the choice of whether I want to try for a normal delivery or opt for an elected C section. I met the anesthesiologist who spent 15 mins trying to convince me NOT TO go for a C sec. My husband wants me to avoid a surgery ( a surgery is a surgery after all) but also feels empathetic enough to say I wont be able to see you in so much pain.

I met some nurses from the labour room of my hospital when I had gone there for some tests. Each told me they havent seen any normal delivery without a cut given to help baby ease out.. I saw pics of that in a pregnancy book and felt really scared... If they r anyways going to give a cut, isnt a C SEC better?I mean, my qs is, if u r going to go thru pain, n then some anesthesia, then cut , then stitches for a normal delivery, then is it not better to go initially for a C SEC only?

I think Im scared of both. Also, do they routinely give enemas these days or do they give only that tablet the suppository?





 

Heidi - posted on 10/21/2009

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It's better to go natural if there's no medical risk. Rent the movie The Business of Being Born if you can, it explains a lot of the hospital procedures, if you're informed and have a supportive husband you can decline whatever you don't want (like getting cut, it's rarely necessary, doctors often do it for mere convenience of delivery). Stitches from minor tears are no big deal, as someone already posted you'll be pretty numb down there by the end of labor anyway.

Naomi - posted on 10/21/2009

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Why go through a major surgery if you don't have to?? If you're afraid of labour there is always an epidural and then you won't feel anything, but also won't have to be cut open with a 6 week recovery period. I had a vaginal delivery with an epidural, was not cut and just had a small tear that had to be stitched and I didn't even feel the tear or the stitching. I was pain free from the tear a week later, instead of 6 weeks later. You also get to see, hold, and feed your baby right away if you have a normal birth, which you won't get with a c-section.

Ashley - posted on 10/21/2009

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you still get a lot of pain medicine with a c-section and they give it to you in a spinal. same way you get an epidural.. and you spend 6 weeks recovering and probably the reason your friends say the recovery wasn't that badis cuz they prescribe u perkoset and ibuprofen 800 mg to help with the pain

Camie - posted on 10/21/2009

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Before I gave birth, I read a lot about c-sections. I decided it was not the best way for the baby if there were no compiications. Also from what I read, episiotomy was notneccessary. I would do as much reading as I could and make an educated decision. Then you will feel better about it. Everybody has a different birth experience. Congratulations!

Ashley - posted on 10/21/2009

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have your baby naturally if possible.. that is how nature intended it.. Just get an epidural (I promise it don't hurt they numb you) and you will be fine.. I wish I had been able to have my 2 kids naturally to experience natural childbirth and I hate that if I decide to have another kid (which would have to be my last time) I will have to have another c-section..I love my children with all my heart, and having them by surgery has in no way changed the love that I have for them, but I would've loved to have had the experience, cuz like it has been said on previous comments any pain you might have will be forgotten when you hear your baby cry and hold him/her for the first time :)

Jane - posted on 10/21/2009

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I am really sorry that you have got so scared. I would say a natural birth every time. I did have a difficult natural birth - but despite many complications, I was "up and running" after 2 weeks. Childbirth is a natural process - at least let your body try. But please try remember that by staying as relaxed as possible before and during natural childbirth will make it easier. Good luck.

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Hi Puja- I had my son in Jan 09. He was 3 weeks early & my water broke, no contractions. To make a long story short, I ended up in 27 hrs of horrifically painful labor, even with the epidural and while I didn't get cut (episiotomy), I did tear and had to be stitched up. I guess my doctor didn't think cutting was necessary because my baby was small (5 lbs 13 oz) but not small enough not to tear me. While I didn't feel the tear, I certainly felt the 2 hours of pushing. I felt like the epidural had worn off...maybe it hadn't but it hurt worse than any pain imaginable! My doctor is very 'au natural' and even afterwards when I asked her why she didn't recommend a C-section for me, she said c-sections are more painful afterwards during the recovery period. HOWEVER, I have since spoken to several friends of mine who have had c-sections and they all say the recovery isn't bad, it was easy and not to be scared of c-sections. If I had a chance to do it again, I would've opted for the c-section and dealt with the possible pains of a surgery rather than ever doing natural birth again. Not to mention, they had to pump me with SO MUCH medication - between the epidural (which is painful because they put the needle in your spine) and the pitosin (to start my contractions...which by the way pitosin also prolonged my labor & birth). I would've rather had surgery. Talk to some woman you trust you have had a c-section. All the doctors and nurses are going to tell you not to do it and I don't know why. Hope this helps.

Tamie - posted on 10/21/2009

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I have a 19 month old little boy. This was my first pregnancy & delivery. I personally would not opt to have a c-section unless you or your baby is in distress. This is your body and you have a right to decide what to do. It is easier to heal from a tear during delivery then it is to heal from them cutting you. I had a doula and she explained to me that a cut is like cutting material after you have a cut it is easier to ripe more where as a tear can heal quickier. It is best for you to have a birthing plan of things you want done and things you do not want done to you and the baby. I put on my birthing plan that I did not want cut, I would rather be stiched up from a tear. Take in mind the birthing plan could change when d-day arrives depending on your feelings that day and if there are complication that could change everything. My labor and delivery was long but I had a natural delivery with one ripe. I did not plan to go natural but I just kept on until I could not stand it no longer and by that time I needed something they told me I was almost done, so I knew I could finish it. My little boy was 8 lbs and 3 oz and 21 inches long. If the doctors are saying the baby is big you still do not have to have a c-section. There has been tons of babies borned natural that were 10 lbs and mommy & baby survived. Also the ultrasounds could be 2 lbs over or under the weight that the baby will be. It is best to do as much research as possible and make decisions that are best for you and your new family. I wish you the best.

Julianna 'Julz' - posted on 10/21/2009

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I was scared to get cut (or let myself rip) as well. But I went in to have my baby and My husband and I wanted to go as natural as possible, but due to my hips not wanting to move or seperate for my baby's little 13" head, as well as after 13 hours of full blown back labor, I gave into the c-section. but it was because my hips weren't moving. I've been blessed in that everything went well with my c-section, I've healed awesome and I haven't had any complications. With c-sections you get to spend more time in the hospital, and moving is very slow to begin with. but after the first 6 weeks I was back to normal (but my husband was still cautious and making me behave). LoL! So do what you think is best and your pain threshold, But I would suggest to atleast try to go natural, but only if you are comfortable with it. I'm sorry, I'm probably not much help. lol.

Adrienne - posted on 10/21/2009

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I'm not sure why any doctor would even offer an elective c-section unless there is good reason to think that you might need it. I was in labor for 36 hours before we needed to do a c-section (because my daughter's heartrate kept dropping). A C-section is MAJOR surgery with implications and possible complications for future pregnancies and deliveries. An episiotomy, if you need it is a minor cut a couple inches long (max). I'm expecting again and I will go VBAC if I can. The epidural helped a lot for the discomfort of labor pains, the medicine they gave me for the C-Section combined with them 'pushing' the baby out, made me throw up. I would say go vaginal, unless there is a medical need for a cs.

Deborah - posted on 10/21/2009

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im all for natural. the biggest benefit is after the birth, in a day you are able to be up and about with your little one, but after a c section, its at least 6 weeks. and those first weeks are the most precious. i did not need to be cut and didnt tear - thanks to perenial massage (spelling?). they offered me an enema, but i didnt go for it, and didnt need it at all, but you can ask for it.

good luck

Corinna - posted on 10/21/2009

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Why would anybody go for a C section when it is not medically necessary? A C section itself is surgery and requires recovery time. You will not be able to fully look after your Baby without help. And let`s face it: childbirth is painfull and let`s not forget to mention natural. And as far as the cutting is concerned, that`s a whole lot of bologne. I had two Baby`s, no cutting. The majority of my friends did not need to be cut. It depends on your Doctor, a lot of them like to cut to make it faster. And that has more to do with there choice than with yours. And by the sound of it the nurses you were talking to, seem to have that same kind of mentality: Let`s cut to make it quick. I should mention that I had midwifes and they encourage natural childbirth and they give you choices as to how you would the birth of your Baby to play out. As long as there are no complications of course. And as far as the enemas are concerned: they don`t give them anymore, at least not here in Canada. The same goes for the suppositories. And you can always refuse, it is your body.

Lynda - posted on 10/21/2009

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I have delivered both ways....if you can have the baby vaginally---do it! Recovering from a c-section is A LOT more painful and takes longer!

As for the enema....never heard of them giving you one.....

Erin Darby - posted on 10/21/2009

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I had a c-section with my first child and a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) with my second child, so I have experienced both. I can say with 100% conviction that vaginal birth is the way to go. The recovery was a breeze whereas after a c-section I was in terrible pain and restricted from doing a lot of day-to-day activities for months. Not to mention the difference of the setting in which your baby will be born. The OR is bright, cold, filled with lots of people covered in masks and scrubs most of whom you will have no idea of their identity or purpose for being in there. In delivery, you will have your OB and one or two nurses and your husband. After delivery, your baby will be in your arms and on your chest within seconds. It is so rewarding and emotional. A beautiful moment you will treasure forever. After a c-section, you may not get to hold your baby for long time. After my c-section, they had to knock me out to stitch me up and I didn't get to touch or hold my baby for 2 1/2 hours. I was heartbroken over this - that my daughter was deprived being with her mama for so long.

As for an episiotomy (cut), yes, I had to have one, but it wasn't bad and I barely noticed it. It healed quickly and as far as I am concerned, was a non-issue. Compared to the c-section scar that 4 years later still feels strange (slightly numb) when I touch it and shows a noticeable indent in my abdomen.

Don't worry - I know it seems scary since it is unknown, but you will be fine. A vaginal delivery is a wonderful experience! Oh, and by the way - I didn't have an enema with either of my kids and no poop stories to tell here!

Good luck!

Tristina - posted on 10/21/2009

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Just remember birthing is a natural and healthy way of life. You are the one person who is soley responsible for the outcome of the way you want your birthing experience to be. You should do lots of research to help you make the best informed decision on how you want this special experience to go. Make a birth plan!



"Most women hope to have a vaginal birth. Many also want to have a natural birth.



Evidence shows that for healthy moms and babies, natural birth is definitely preferred over a birth with interventions.



Many women today remain in the dark as to why natural birth is the best for most moms and babies.



They're told that interventions do not affect their babies or their bodies, and that cesarean section is just as safe as vaginal birth. These are lies.



You know that there are some situations where c-section is safer for mother and child. In a small number of situations c-section are lifesaving. The same is true of interventions with vaginal birth. However, the vast majority of women and babies are safer with a vaginal birth and no interventions.



Risks of Cesarean

One of the best ways to review the benefits of natural vaginal birth is to examine the possible risks of having a c-section.



On the most basic, primal level, c-section can be a violation of your body. It is cutting you open. If the reason is not a valid one or not explained to you, you can feel betrayed and violated. The "what if's" may haunt you and you may feel like a failure as a woman.



With a cesarean rate approaching 30% in the USA, it's troubling to think that so many women are going through surgery that may be unnecessary and emotionally damaging.



A c-section is also physically damaging. It is a major abdominal surgery. All cesareans involve a wound across the abdomen and the uterus. There is also risk of damage to organs around the uterus, including the possibility of nicking the bowel. Babies can also suffer accidental cuts from cesarean operations.



There is a higher risk of blot clots following a c-section than a vaginal birth. Hysterectomy is more common after cesarean. The risk of maternal death is higher.



The risk of uterine infection is much higher after a c-section than it is after a vaginal birth. There is usually a longer hospital stay for the mother, and she is at a higher risk of being re-admitted to the hospital later for complications.



The severity and length of pain after a cesarean is much greater than after a vaginal birth. You may feel more pain during a vaginal birth than you would during a cesarean. But shortly after birth most of that pain will be gone (unless you receive intervention such as episiotomy). Pain from cesarean surgery continues on into the early weeks and for some women, months.



Risks for Baby

As was already mentioned, there is a risk of cuts on the body of your baby from cesarean surgery. Babies born by c-section are much more likely to have respiratory problems than babies born by vaginal birth. They are also at much higher risk for developing asthma later in life.



Babies who are born by cesarean section may have a harder time breastfeeding. The first nursing session is almost always delayed and it may be harder for the mother and baby to establish the breastfeeding relationship. This is not an insurmountable problem - however the risk of a baby not being breastfed is much higher for cesarean section than for vaginal birth.



Risks for Future Pregnancies

Women who have cesareans suffer from more infertility than women who have vaginal births. This infertility is related directly to the physical effects of the surgery. Women who had c-sections are also less likely to want to become pregnant again.



The risks for ectopic (tubal) pregnancy, placenta previa, placenta accreta, and placental abruption are all higher for women who've had cesarean surgery. These conditions can endanger the life of both mother and baby.



Future babies are more at risk for preterm birth and have an increased risk of stillbirth. It is also possible that they may be at risk for more malformations or more nervous system damage while growing in a scarred uterus.



Emotions

It is true that a cesarean section can leave you with complex emotions. You may feel angry or you may feel like a failure. You may feel both.



You're more likely to develop postpartum depression. Women who have negative birth experiences can even develop post traumatic stress disorder. A cesarean section increases the risk of a negative birth experience.



Women who have a c-section can face reduced self-esteem and can have more trouble functioning socially. It's a major surgery that can have long-lasting consequences.



Weighing the Risks

It's clear that a cesarean holds many risks. Vaginal birth is much safer for both mother and baby in most situations.



There is some dispute about vaginal birth posing great risks to a woman's pelvic floor. Evidence shows that this is most likely from unnecessary intervention during the pushing stage (forced pushing, episiotomy, pushing down on the baby while it's being born, etc.).



Some women may experience incontinence related to vaginal birth, but it diminishes with time and there is no evidence that late life incontinence is related to vaginal births in a woman's younger years.



Discuss a cesarean carefully with your care provider if one is suggested during pregnancy. Feel free to research for yourself and seek second opinions. If a cesarean is proposed during labor, try to gather as much information on all the options as you can. Ask what the risks of doing nothing would be. You have the right to second opinions.



Some babies will need to be born by c-section. If you have a cesarean don't feel guilty about it. Do what you need to do to process through the experience.



Take the time to allow your body to heal. Having an excellent diet will help you to heal and it will help ensure a healthy pregnancy for any future babies that you will have.



I highly recommend that you read the free booklet on c-section at the Maternity Center Association's webpage. It's an easy read and has extensive references.



If you're interested in preparing for birth in a way that leaves you in control no matter what happens I highly recommend The Pink Kit - the PK method will allow you to truly prepare for birth and know your body. You'll go into labor confident that you can handle any situation that may occur. PK skills can be used for a vaginal birth or for a c-section birth."

Krystal - posted on 10/21/2009

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As a mommy who has been through both births, try for a vaginal delivery. Yes, you can ripe or tear, but the recovery is so much easier. A c/s is a major surgery, and has great complications as well. It is also better for the baby to come down the birth canal. Unless there is a medical reason to have a c/s I would always recommend a women try for a vaginal delivery.

Jennifer - posted on 10/21/2009

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I believe a natural delivery is best! I never had that choice and had to have an emergency c section after 18 hours of labor. Not all women have to be cut during labor but if you do that scar will heal and it will heal fast! C sections leave a permanant scar and if you have any bell fat at all its hard to loose your belly afterwards. Also it can cause some never damage and chane the way sex feels to you later. Child birth was meant to be done vaginally only do the surgry if you have too! Its also a much longer healing process, trust me I have done it 3 times already. I wish I could have delivered the right way!

Lena - posted on 10/21/2009

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Quoting Sylvia:

Where do you live where enemas still happen?? In the US I think that is mostly a thing of the past along with shaving the pubic area and mandatory episiotomies. I had 3 kids naturally (no pain meds) but if you are worried about the pain, go for an epidural. A c-section is there for emergency reasons not convenience. If my doc gave me a choice about an elective c-section on my first baby, I'd get a new doc---35 weeks isn't too late. Remember, in most places, once you've had a c-section, you can't ever have a vaginal birth later (here in AZ some docs will do it but it is a lot of work finding one).



Totally agree with this...its true.  C sections are for emergencies, when complications have already arison.  Because complications can arise from just having a c-section, and any surgeries should be used for emergencies, not luxury.  Child birth is amazing.  Just know you are blessed to have everything healthy and ready with you and your child that you have the opportunity to do it the way nature intended.  and yes it is dangerous that your doc has suggested this with you.  Be careful.  Go with your instincts.  The baby will come when its ready. 
thats the way life is ..all things in due time.  Good luck.

Lena - posted on 10/21/2009

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I had a c section, and yes it was less painful than a regular delivery, but the recovery was a longer process, baby doesn't get milk right away, and you tummy takes longer to heal. When my son was 8 days old I hemorraged due to an infection that was unavoidable, as my body did not take well to having foreign instruments used during the surgery. The infection devoloped in my uturus, I lost so much blood I almost died. I had to have a blood transfusion, then remain in hospital for another 6 days while my family cared for my son. I was in coma for 2 of those days. Then my milk dried up and I wasnt able to breastfeed, even though I was pumping, my body just couldnt yeild anymore. Finally when he was 17 days old I returned home, a wopping 30 pounds lighter, very weak, and on medication that caused me to throw up.



I obviously survived.



Then When my son was 8 months old my girlfriend had her baby girl. I was her coach, and the experience of being apart of her delivery brough up alot of stuff, because all of the natural things that should have happened to me that happen to every mother and child during a natural delivery became very real to me. I realized that a natural delivery is the most beautiful thing. The pain is immediatly forgotten, with the joy of seeing your child.



I did not have the choice as my baby turned breach at 8 months, and he was near 9 1/2 pounds in the whom at 36 weeks. I am a small woman, and was not able to deliver.



If you have the choice go with the way nature intended it, you will not regret it. And remember that if you choose c section now there is a chance you will have to deliver your next c section also. What ever you choose to do, remember its your choice. Having a baby is natural, having a c section is something man invented for cases in which the mother and child are at risk in a normal delivery. If it were a 100 years ago, I would have lost my life giving birth, so in my case I am lucky, but I still really missed out on the beautiful experience that comes with giving birth to a child.



And it was because I had a c section. For me it was a double edged sword, but for you its just a choice. So excersice your womanhood, and enjoy being a mother, and if you can drink in all aspects of what that is. I would have if I had the choice. Good luck and congratulations.



and yes natural delivery is safer if all is well with baby and mom, and baby is sitting right and its not to big!

Cassie - posted on 10/21/2009

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I had to have a c-section because my daughter was in the Frank breach position. Personally, I was walking the next day and back to normal the following week. I plan on having our second child via c-section as well. It's all about getting up and trying to walk but not pushing yourself too far.

Kelly - posted on 10/21/2009

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Hello. I'm a Mom who has experienced both. My first daughter was born via section and my second daughter a natural birth. I will take natural birth over a section any day! It was pain (although limited with drugs) for a short time versus over six weeks of pain from the section. I did everything I could in my power to not have a section the second time around and I'm so glad I did, it made a huge difference. The section is abdominal surgery, it hurts to cough or laugh and you move very slowly. Don't get me wrong there is some discomfort with the natural as well, but I was up and walking around and playing with my 2 year old the next day. Had I had another section I would have been nervous to get out of bed. I wish you the best of luck. It is very daunting, but in the end it's a wonderful thing which ever route you chose.

Gayle - posted on 10/21/2009

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natural child birth is the most amazing process and you are truly blessed to experience it. Don't approach it with fear, but faith. You can do it.

Krista - posted on 10/21/2009

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I have two beautiful children that were born naturally, I personally do not agree with elected c-section, but you should decide what is best for you, your body and your baby. I do suggest that ANYONE getting ready to have a baby, whether its your first or 15th or even know someone who is having a baby, please watch "The Business of Being Born" It is a very informative documentary about all of it. Thanks!

Sylvia - posted on 10/21/2009

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Where do you live where enemas still happen?? In the US I think that is mostly a thing of the past along with shaving the pubic area and mandatory episiotomies. I had 3 kids naturally (no pain meds) but if you are worried about the pain, go for an epidural. A c-section is there for emergency reasons not convenience. If my doc gave me a choice about an elective c-section on my first baby, I'd get a new doc---35 weeks isn't too late. Remember, in most places, once you've had a c-section, you can't ever have a vaginal birth later (here in AZ some docs will do it but it is a lot of work finding one).

Nina - posted on 10/21/2009

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It is really up to you...I started out doing the natural birth and labored for 26 hours (yes, that sucks), then ended up having to do a C-section. My next one is already planned to be a C-section and I am pretty stoked about it. Yes a C-section is a major surgery, you are laid up totally for 2 weeks and 6 weeks to recover mostly. Since it is your muscles getting sliced it takes quite a while until you are fully recovered (like for sprinting a marathon and stuf flike that), but for just normal life it really isn't that bad. I would much rather give birth by C-section because I think I handle pain better when it is anywhere else on my body. But that is a personal choice. Knowing it is a major surgery and the consequences if a C-section scares you less than birth, then why not. They bring the baby over to you right after, then they take it to clean it up. I went to my room, then they brought the baby over and I bonded just fine (as if it was right when it came out). I know I went through surgery as well, but I don't remember it now....so I think that either way you won't lose any on the experience. So do what feels right for you and don't let anyone tell you that one way is right and the other is wrong....they are different and everyone feels differently about it, it's a personal choice and as long as it is an educated one it is the right one.

Sharon - posted on 10/21/2009

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Congrats on the coming birth of your first baby, what joy and pleasure! I am a 1st time Mommy as well. I developed gestational diabetes in my 3rd month so my doctor felt a C-Section was the "safest" way for the baby to come and less stress on my heart. Simply remember, with all the advice out there, NO 2 births are ever alike. Yours will be truly unique no matter what. If you and the baby are A#1 healthy, natural is probably your best bet. Some women receive a little surgical help for either way. I also believe that an enema was a thing of the past (but don't be afraid to ask your doctor anything, you may be surprised to find that he/she prefers that as preparation in their office), believe me, when you are delivering your little onel, your shyness will go down the drain. I would have loved to have gone natural myself, but this time around, it was not the safest choice for me. I hope whatever ensues, you will be holding your amazing little baby and you'll never think twice that you made the wrong decision.

Shelly - posted on 10/21/2009

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i have never been cut! dont let them!! NO WAY I also have never ripped down there natural birth all the way, but I still had epidural for 3 out of 4. So I would do my reasearch on episiotomsy they are not needed! I had enimas but it doesn't work if you are in labor for so long don't worry about that believe me no one cares! I also had a midwife not a doctor and theses are exactly the reasons why????

Burke - posted on 10/21/2009

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Normal birth for sure!! Unless there is a medical reason why that wouldn't be possible. A C-section is NOTHING like tearing down there. If pain is what you are worried about, then opt for one (or more!) of the many drugs that they offer that eases the pain.
I have had a C-section after trying to go natural (due to complications) and I would tell anyone that natural is the way to go!

Jamial - posted on 10/21/2009

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I think just bringing a baby into the world is a beautiful thing no matter what way you have to do it so that it is safely born. I had to have my son, currently 6 months old, by emergency c-section and I do think back and wish I could have had the painful yet strong beautiful natural birth, but whatever got him here safely....... I'm grateful.



P.S. He was 8 lbs. and 0.4 oz--- that's why he couldn't come out my petite 5'3" 130 lb. body. I'm 18 and I felt I was my strongest on that day. No matter what people tell you that scares you everyone's experience is different. When I went in labor I was exercising, taking a long brisk walk, and I didn't realize I was going in labor!!! The contractions didn't hurt me and I was talking and having fun and laughs throughout all of it. The time after the birth is the hardest when they do all those checks and press on your sore areas and things. That's rough! Well for me!

Melissa - posted on 10/21/2009

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Hi, I was forced to get a C-section because my little boy was breach so I was kind of relieved. I will say the recovery is long. Its nice ot stay in the hospital for 5 days, but your stitches are far more intense- I beleive there are 2 sets- 1 on your uterus and one set on the outside. I actually felt better after 2 weeks then started bleeding again because I did too much. I have read that natural birth is better because the whole process helps squeeze alot of fluids out of baby. I have had friends that tore and got cut and they were in pain but still able to walk around and do things. it seems like their recovery was faster. I think I will try Natural next time. my only advice is to really think about what is better for you. Do not worry about the pain- many moms have said that you just do it and handle it because it becomes your job- you become calm. and I have to admit once I found out about my surprise c section ( I was originally scheduled 2 weeks later) I was a different person, calm and ready to do whatever it took. We women are amazing so you will be okay with whatever you choose.

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