Can a single mother raise a male child to be a real man?

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Tommie - posted on 06/12/2009

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I know it can be done! I raised my son all by myself and he came out absolutely great. He is so caring and thoughtful and is still so masculine. He is currently in Iraq but will be home in August. I myself think he became a better person being brought up without his dad because he didn't follow in his dad's footsteps because he wasn't around. I was able to show him how to treat women and be so caring. Every girlfriend he has had told me that I brought up such a wonderful son. I was told that he admits that he's a mama's boy, and he's so thoughtful and caring because of me. I thank the Lord for having such a wonderful son!

Helen - posted on 06/12/2009

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yes you can. i've brought my son up on my own since he was 3 years old, he is now 17 and he has turned out better than alot of my friends kids who have had 2 parents all the way through. my dad has been a big influence to him as well as a good friend of mine who has helped to steer him in the direction his career is going in. most of my friends remark they wish their son was like mine..so i must of done a good job!! its all about family values, stick to them and you can achieve anything.

Michelle - posted on 05/31/2009

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i think you can. just because the father might not be around dosent mean he cant grow into a "real man". if your father is around or you have brothers or uncles or male friends, try to get them involved in his life so he has a positive male rolemodel. one of my friends was only sixteen when she had her son and he seems to be fine. who knows, you might do a better job, haha you might even teach him to put the toilet seat down and teach him how to be a gentlemen and do a better job then us women with a partner!! good luck hun xoxo

Nikollete - posted on 03/26/2011

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I believe that a mom (that has the correct mindset and head on her shoulders) can raise a man to be a better man than a father ever could.

Kegan - posted on 06/12/2009

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Hi there I raised my son with the help of my parents and he is fantastic very creative and sensitive loves talking and he is first team rugby hang out with friends with boys.

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Heck Yeah You can raise your son by yourself and make him one of the best people in the world!! I raised my son by myself, on disability and he is currently a United States Marine!!! You don't necessarily have to have a "male" presence around all the time. My son had his Football Coaches when he got into high school. Just let him be a boy and don't "baby" him, especially in front of his friends when he gets older. My son also will give me kisses and hugs in front of whomever is around and he never hangs up the phone without telling me that he loves me!! Yes, you can teach him how to be a gentlman without a man, my DIL absolutely loves my son and she can't believe how romantic he is!!



But first and foremost, if you are Christian, make sure that the Good Lord comes first in everything you do with your son.

God Bless And Take care

Trina - posted on 06/11/2009

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I raised my older 2 boys alonew/ their 3 sisters by myself 4 the most apart & they truned out great, they both r wonderful fathers & husbands, hard workers, family comes first 2 them, I am very proud of them. Now I face the samething w/ my youngest, my husband now drives a truck & isn't home very often, n 3 1/2 months he's been home 6 days. I worry cuz now @ home it's my younger 2 teen grils & my 3 yr old son. My older 2 boys & my oldest daughter don't live around us. We don't have any family around, don't have any friends really here where we live, so no male role model around much. Except when his daddy comes home but that isn't 2 often. The only thing that makes me feel ok is cuz I look @ my older boys & they turned out great!!! So yes it can b done.

Gemma - posted on 06/11/2009

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im doing the same thing hun , and i think im doing a pretty good job hes only 2 but is very polite and is quite well behaved. he has his moments like all children do. SINGLE MAMS CAN DO THIS !!1

Terri - posted on 06/11/2009

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Absolutely. Sometimes the most of the most well adjusted men I know were raised without a father present. The level of respect they have for women is incredible.

Ashlee - posted on 06/11/2009

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Check out the book Raising Boys from Dr. Dobson. It is Godly based but it has a lot of truth.

Zelda Ann - posted on 06/11/2009

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Yes! I have been raising my 17 yr old alone since he was 13 mths old. As long as you give them the time for anything they are interested in; sports, cartoons, comics, etc.; try to be involved in these things, give them guidelines to follow to be a respectable human being, you can do it!

Jennifer - posted on 06/11/2009

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Most definately! Young boys learn to be men through the experiences they have wacthing and learning from those men around them. Young boys do not have to learn only from their father, but from grandparents, uncles, neighbors, teachers, and those in various clubs or organizations they may be part of. Exposing young boys to all aspects of positive role models can make a huge difference!

Mary - posted on 06/11/2009

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Yes you can! Keep your son around positive men role models and be a good example yourself. Your son is watching everything you do and say. Take him to church regularly and get him INVOLVED in any ministry that you can

and stay faithful. Also, stay involved yourself, remember, he's watching YOU!

Candice - posted on 06/10/2009

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well u know what its possible but hard let me tell you

if u have ur own issues in between it could get messy

he wil be at school where alot of the children have dads and other not so i guess he wil adapt eventually.

i was a single mother 4 my childs fist 10-11months and it was hard

i reunited with the daddy and i don't have to really depend on him because i have done it for a while on my own

it's best to be able to be independent in taking care of your child

that child trust in you only ,men are not always there and they are not always willing to take the punch of this kind of life either

but al the best luck and keep in touch

xx00

Kayleigh - posted on 06/10/2009

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of course you can! ill bet in the long run he will be very respectful and will apprieciate women more as he will in the future be aware of how you raised him single handledly.he will be more of a gentlemen and we eed more of them men around. i would worry im sure your doing a fine job otherwise you wouldnt have been worried in the first place. im sure he grow in to a fine young man regardless of whether there is a man around as his mother loves him and thats all he needs. just relax and enjoy your time with him and it will all come naturally x

Jessica - posted on 06/10/2009

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Absolutely! I think you WILL simply because it is obviously something you care about!

Sheryl - posted on 06/10/2009

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Yes it can be done, those that have gone before us raised with single moms I refer to when my young adult sons think they have an excuse not to excel! Lance Armstrong is one of them, and since he was raised locally I tend to remind the boys they always have the strength within them to succeed!

Kim - posted on 06/10/2009

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YES!!! Most definitely. My brother is one of the most amazing men I know and we had no father growing up and no good male role model. And now he's the best father that a child could ever ask for. If you show your child that you are there for them and are a good role model for them they will learn from you. You'll do just fine. Just believe in your self!

Kim - posted on 06/10/2009

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Ive been raising two boys single handed for past 6 years, oldest is nearly 13, can cook a proper dinner, knows how to budget, loves diy and good at it. Youngest is 10, plays football, cricket. Both proper boys. To be honest i thik if they had a dad around they wouldnt be able to do half the things they can. YES A BIG POSITIVE CAN BE DONE

Sherry - posted on 06/10/2009

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Yes if you teach him responsiblity at a young age, wash dishes, clean his room, wash own clothes when he gets old enough, teach him a good education and work ethic, have positive males in his life. If their are bad male role models try to overcome the bad with good. Show him lots of love and that you are there for him no matter what and that he can talk to you about anything and you'll be there for him.

Veronica - posted on 06/10/2009

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I am sooo encouraged by the responses I read. I'm a newly divorced mom of 2 boys (8, 3) and 1 girl (6). I have those same fears. But after reading this, I also got some great ideas and advice. Thanks ladies!

Veronica - posted on 06/10/2009

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I am sooo encouraged by the responses I read. I'm a newly divorced mom of 2 boys (8, 3) and 1 girl (6). I have those same fears. But after reading this, I also got some great ideas and advice. Thanks ladies!

Tanjala - posted on 06/10/2009

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Yes you can I done it for 7years and my sons are great. Try to get a man involved will also help you out so you will not feel alone GOOD LUCK

JENEEN - posted on 06/09/2009

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Ilene I believe it can be done. Does he not have ANY male figures in his life?? Uncles, Grandfathers? I am sure he will find a rolemodel (we all hope is a good one) that will help him. My bff was was a single parent of 3 boys and a daughter, she made sure she did the "family" thing as she would of if she were married, meaning they went camping, bowling, etc. Then whenever one of the boys had a a birthday, it was his day to do what she could (with finances) that they could do together, out to dinner a "boys" movie. She made sure the boys did have a male rolemodel, got them envolved with big brothers, big sisters and had good family male figures.

Nadia Sophia - posted on 06/09/2009

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sure you can....all it takes some hard and tough love...first u have to realize that as much as u want to b his friend(mother), you also want to be the disiplinarian....be firm and let him know that as much as u love him u have to be firm......girl i think u can even do it better without a man....

Maureen - posted on 06/09/2009

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You bet--just sent my 30 year old son- a pediatrician and his Dr. girlfriend to Harvard--doesn't get much better than that!

Maureen - posted on 06/09/2009

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You bet--just sent my 30 year old son- a pediatrician and his Dr. girlfriend to Harvard--doesn't get much better than that!

Kathy - posted on 06/09/2009

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Most definately! The thing to remember is to always no matter what stand firm and don't back down. Boys think that they can push mom around and we as a mom tend to let them cause their male. But we have to think and act as a male would at times because we're in this alone. I raised 2 sons on my own for 17 yrs. They both were active in many things at school (which helps keep them out of trouble!) I always knew their friends, where they lived, who their parents where and had a contact number and most importantly we stayed in church! They are both job holding, college going adults and I'm very proud of them.

Kathy - posted on 06/09/2009

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Most definately! The thing to remember is to always no matter what stand firm and don't back down. Boys think that they can push mom around and we as a mom tend to let them cause their male. But we have to think and act as a male would at times because we're in this alone. I raised 2 sons on my own for 17 yrs. They both were active in many things at school (which helps keep them out of trouble!) I always knew their friends, where they lived, who their parents where and had a contact number and most importantly we stayed in church! They are both job holding, college going adults and I'm very proud of them.

Laura - posted on 06/09/2009

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Of course you can. I have a son that is 8 and a half and I am a single mom. My son is great and I think he is doing pretty good. I am lucky my family lives close and he visits with his Grandpa every day. I think that some male influence is good but not like you really need it. If you teach your son to treat others with respect and just do the best you can do I am sure he will be just fine.

Tabatha - posted on 06/09/2009

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that is controvesal but i think yes depends on the mom and what the mom does, i raised my son til he was 5 by myself altho he may have been a moms boy he is very manly now at 13 i have single mothers who have 18 yr old sons she raised by herself and he is manly and striaght.

Tiffany - posted on 06/09/2009

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I agree with Micelle Slatter. Having a male figure around will help but use the resources you have. I am a single parent and the male figure my son relates to the most is my brother. That makes me smile because I grew up with my brother being the male of the house. As long as you have good people, male or female, with good intentions around your son he will grow up just fine!!. Good question I used to ask myself that and then I realized I have what I need to help him grow.

Annette - posted on 06/09/2009

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i dont think so im a single parent of boy and girl like i def notice things he is lacking in i

Julie - posted on 06/08/2009

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yes u can!! i myself is single raisin my son..granted my father and my brother is around.but all u gotta do is teach the male child how you want to be treated and you'll be fine.. :0) women have the power!!

Tiffany - posted on 06/08/2009

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I think there is no better example for a son, then to see his strong mother making it and being a perfect example for him. I feel that when a son see's how hard his mother works to provide for the family and teaches how to be a responsible member of sociey he would then want to grow up and be that type of example for his children. To show them resposiblity and how to truely respect a woman, because of the good example he had as a child.

Sophia - posted on 06/08/2009

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Of course you can, and you can do it successfully just look at our current President. He was raised by a single mom until her death and look at the man he is. He loves his wife and children openly without missing a beat. He is respectful of all people friend or foe, and a single mother raised that Bi-racial man child in a time when things in this country were so much harder for their situation. I'm doing it and so too can you and any other woman who finds herself in the same position. Build a support system and find positive males that he can also bond with for the little things that he'll need a mans touch with... He'll be fine trust in yourself and he'll be just fine.

Misty - posted on 06/08/2009

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sure you can. to make him a REAL man teach him to love a respect women. and to be kind to others. and teach him about God and Jesus the rest will come.

Misty - posted on 06/08/2009

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sure you can. to make him a REAL man teach him to love a respect women. and to be kind to others. and teach him about God and Jesus the rest will come.

Erica - posted on 06/08/2009

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i agree with heidi. i'm raising a little boy myself. and i now that he will grow to be a good man. just be confident in yourself.

Jen - posted on 06/08/2009

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Quoting Beatrice:

I believe a single mother can raise a male child to be a real man. If she is tuff enough to handle all the hard work it will take. Ive seen alot of men grow up to be very successfull and respectfull without a man in the house. Being a man is something I believe boys are born to be its just up to someone to nurture it out of them. Remember God created the man to be a man



I think Beatrice nailed it!!!  Sounds like a smart woman. 

Jen - posted on 06/08/2009

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YES!!!! Absolutely!!! A real man is one that is confident and caring, strong and sensitive, smart and witty. I have a few friends that have raised boys on their own some with dads on the weekends and others with no dad in the picture at all. They have all done wonderful jobs as moms and I think their boys are much more respectful of women in general. I think those boys I have watched grow up are better off in many ways than some of the ones that have known or been raised by their fathers. Moms have that extra special way of using emotion to teach that dad's dont use frequently with their boys. It is not all macho ya know!!!

Teyaka - posted on 06/08/2009

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Yes she can. a single mom can show her son how to treat a woman. He can learn from watching his mom exactly how hard it is to raise a child on your own. He may also learn how to maintain a relationship.

My little brothers were raised by my mom pretty much by herself. She made it a point to teach them how to treat a girlfriend, establish good relationships, and deal with hard times.

Diane - posted on 06/08/2009

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Absolutely. I have three boys that I have raised on my own. My eldest son became a dad at the age of 18. He is a very caring, loving, giving father to his son. He is also very much so towards myself. He shows every bit of affection to his son as a father should. My younger boys are also very affectionate and respectful of their mom for providing them with the foundation of being a loving individual. As long as you show them that you are a strong individaul they will become one also. I always tell my boys that a "real man" is one that owes up to his mistakes and responsibilties. Hold your head high and be proud of who you are.

Kathy - posted on 06/08/2009

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Yes, you can...I believe that a woman can be a single mom raising a male child to be the best he can be. The child learns from what he see and hears. So if you want him to be the greatest, let him see you be the greatest. Start with being the greatest mom. When punishing, make sure he knows that your not punishing him because you dont love him, but just the opposite. Let him know that you DO love him and that is why you punished him. You dont want him to think it is right to do things you know your self is wrong. So be the great mom and he will be the great man you want him to be. Hope it helps.

Beatrice - posted on 06/08/2009

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I believe a single mother can raise a male child to be a real man. If she is tuff enough to handle all the hard work it will take. Ive seen alot of men grow up to be very successfull and respectfull without a man in the house. Being a man is something I believe boys are born to be its just up to someone to nurture it out of them. Remember God created the man to be a man

Andrea - posted on 06/08/2009

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Yes, my husband was raised without a dad and he is a good man and a good father

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