Can a woman put a mans last name on thier childs birth certificate even if the dad doesnt want it?

Courtney - posted on 11/10/2013 ( 63 moms have responded )

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Its an embarrassing story but my fiance cheated and got another girl preggo and he wants nothing to do with her or the baby so does anywhone know if she can legally put his last name on the b.c ?

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Evelyn - posted on 11/11/2013

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Courtney, I just read all these other posts since I was on yesterday. I have not said I support her at all. But I was saying could put the name on the birth certificate and go for child support. If he does want to get out of this and its an option in your state, he can fill out the forms to terminate the rights to the child and in some states he won't be bound to pay the child support but in others he will still pay support per their laws.

As to the question on his cheating on you and if anyone else had been cheated on: YES I WAS. I could not really prove it but for some records on his cell phone bill at the time that he was chatting up a woman on the other side of the state of Tennessee for hours on the time when he was driving his rig on the JOB. Also this was after I found him in a TENT ALONE at night with her at 3 am because I woke up and went looking for him to get him to bed so we could make our trip home the next day with him being fully rested (this had been a camping trip to meet his internet friends who were supposed to bring their families and two of the women left the husbands and kids home.)

I would also like to gently point out something I did not see: Are you two going to work this out though you have also pointed out that in one post one of the kids mentioned that he allowed one of the kids to sleep in the bed with him and that other woman? In all honesty, once a person (man or woman) starts to cheat on their significant other, he/she will keep on doing so. My friend had that happen to her and he married the woman he cheated on her with and later he cheated on that wife too. Just a thought to keep in mind. I know some do work things out but a lot of the time it does not work.

Enna - posted on 11/11/2013

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Your husband made a mistake. I know people say once a cheater always a cheater, but I don't think that's always the case. I know people who cheated once and never again. He's just human. If that's the only thing he does, then I wouldn't worry about it, so long as he knows it's not acceptable, which I'm sure he does. It's more important to forgive him and keep your family together. If it becomes a bigger problem, then you have to take it from there.
I'm sure your husband feels like an @ss now, and he's probably embarrassed that you guys now have to deal with his mistake for the rest of your lives. If the lady's husband is willing to adopt the baby, then that should solve most of the problems. If not, well it's something you just have to deal with.
It's important that the baby has a father. It doesn't matter if the father is your husband or her husband, as long as it's loved and provided for.

Enna - posted on 11/11/2013

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Not sure where you're from so it may be different. In Ohio, the mother has the right to give her kid any name she wants. She could name the kid Arnold Schwarzenegger Jr. if she wanted to. But that doesn't mean it's his kid.
If they're married, the husband is automatically put as the father, and paternity is assumed.
If they're not married, the father's name is put on the birth certificate if both parents sign a paternity affidavit.
If the father doesn't agree, he can be forced by the court to take a paternity test, at which time his name would be added to the birth certificate.

JPatrick - posted on 11/11/2013

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Courtney, very sorry you are going through this. Without any judging about the situation, here are the legal options as I see them (you did not mention where you reside, so I am answering for my locale only - your state may differ):

In NY, when a child is born to a married woman, it is presumed to be the child of her and her husband. Since that man is incarcerated, I am not sure if that presumption still applies. However, I do not believe she can automatically put your fiance's name on the b.c. without either a) a signed acknowledgment of paternity (which I am not sure they would allow and your fiance will not sign anyway) or b) a paternity order. To get an order, she needs to start a court proceeding, fiance and the baby will be DNA tested, and the judge will make a ruling establishing paternity (an 'order of filiation'). Once paternity is thus established, she can seek child support, and he can seek visitation/custody (though it sounds like he does not want it). She can probably seek to amend the b.c. to add him as father, although if she's getting support $ she may not care to do this, especially if she has full custody. Of course, if she and her jailbird hubby want to adopt the child as their own, they may seek judicial approval to do so and your fiance could sign a voluntary relinquishment of parental rights (so he would not have to be responsible for support but also could never seek custody/visitation), although sounds like she wants his $ so is not likely to even attempt this and court may not allow it anyway.
Best of luck to you!

Hannah - posted on 11/16/2013

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First of all, the birth certificate can be changed if it turns out he's not the dad. I just went through a very similar situation. Second, the child's last name doesn't even have to match either of the parents'.

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Amy Joy - posted on 11/15/2013

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In the state of MN the mother by law has every right to put the fathers last name on it so it really depends on the state of which you live in, but I am sure there is some way on the internet you can look that up and research it in your state.

Carol - posted on 11/15/2013

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It depends on the state. My boyfriend and I have a handsome 3 month old boy and when filling out the paperwork I wrote his last name on everything. Sadly when we got his social security card two weeks later we found out my last name was used instead. We now have to go to the hospital's internal records department so he can sign a paper saying he is the father and is refusing a paternity test to fix his name before we buy his birth certificate.

Courtney - posted on 11/15/2013

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Lol and again i apologize for all the grammer issues...odk why it does that on Circle of Moms...

Courtney - posted on 11/15/2013

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Ughhh....Jodi your absolotly right...and banys due in April...So no matter how much i tell myself this is gonna work or maybe hes gonna go back to her theres just nothing i can do so i believe the best thing i can do is live life as if nothing happened while focusing on my own children and when April gets here...handle it then...Although its not my plqce to handle thier situation it is my place to handle ours at home so hope u all will wish me the beat with this and hopefully its not his...i kinda feel bad for saying that bt then again who WOULD want it to be? Thank u all for the encouragement and much love to all of us mommies...We are truely blessed to have our lil anhels:-)

Jodi - posted on 11/15/2013

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Courtney, I think you are basically going to have to wait until the baby is born. Get your fiance to demand a DNA test. That is the only way he is going to know if he is the father.

Courtney - posted on 11/15/2013

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Hannah! Wow..sooo are u saying that even if he turns out NOT to be the father that she can STILL put his last name on the b.c???!??? Thats just insane!

Courtney - posted on 11/15/2013

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Sandra i havent mentioned this bc...well just because bt i pray this isnt his...if anyone is wondering why i may think its not? Ok-Like i mentioned she is a whore indeed..i wasnt saying that bc ahes the "other woman" i said that bc while my sweet loving fiance (rolls eyes)was cheating he got a taste of his own medicine not once but twice he found her with the same guy...the ONLY reason we are kinda set on him def.being the father is bc her mom found ovulation test and she was with him the night she found out she was ovualting...bit theres always that chance..This isnt ur average woman and man cheating...This girl told me "iv always told Jarred(my fiance)i wanted a baby with him if i couldnt have one with my husband"..wtf right?...sooo some of u may see or may not see but she had a plan up her sleeve...NO I DONT BLAME HER FOR ALL OF THIS...im simply saying she couldve given a s*** that he had a baby otw at home and a fiance and two more kids all while she was saying "leave her...iv been looking for u for ten yrs...u were my first love" hence she is most certantly as Erin said a sneaky botch and since the last time i wrote here we saw her downtown Durham NC with a car full...packed to the back literally...of dudes....Now im not saying shes a bad mom..just bc she was with dudes...however-as a mother and a fiance..i dont think imo that any woman should be hanging out with a bunch of low lifes preganant and married ...thats just me..

LalaBoom - posted on 11/15/2013

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No she cannot.

What I mean is, they were not married, so there's no presumption of paternity. Which means, HE has to sign an acknowledgement of paternity upon the baby's birth. Without this, and legally, she cannot list the baby's father.

What she CAN do, is name the baby whatever she wants- that includes using his last name.

Hannah - posted on 11/14/2013

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Legally, she can put any name on the birth certificate for the child. She can even list him as the father. He has the right to ask for and challenge paternity. If a paternity test comes back stating he isn't the father, he can petition to have his name removed from the birth certificate.

Cecilia - posted on 11/14/2013

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Nellie, that might be one of those laws that depends on the state. If she was married to the step-father during the time of the birth that could be one reason the state choose to do it the way they did. Or they are simply telling her that she has the burden of proof. She has to prove through DNA that he is (or isn't) the father.

Nellie - posted on 11/14/2013

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I made a mistake sorry. the baby's biological father.sorry for the inconvenience.

Nellie - posted on 11/14/2013

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It's funny because I know this woman name Jessica and her biological father was never in her life; however, Jessica's boyfriend took the responsibility of caring for the child for 9 years. Jessica cannot get child support for her daughter; however Jessica ended up breaking up with the baby's step-father and she went to court to see if the biological father can pay for child support. The court told her that because the step father's last name is in the child's birth certificate he has to pay child support. When she told me this, i was in total shock. I don't understand why the biological father couldn't pay for child support for his own child. Whether or not the step father's name was on the birth certificate; it was the biological father responsibility to pay for the support. That is why a lot of men's get away that bull crap.

Sandra May - posted on 11/14/2013

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yes she can, my tip would be if you receive c.s.a letters demanding money request a d.n.a test before making any agreements. i have been were you are and luckily it was proven the child wasn't his so we legally had his name removed. good luck

Nellie - posted on 11/13/2013

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Yes she can do it especially if he's the biological father. Don't worry about it and let God do the work. I am pretty sure you and your family will be fine. Things happen for a reason and just because he got another girl pregnant doesn't mean he's a bad person....Mistakes will happen because we are all not perfect but Jesus himself. But at the end of the day, we all learn from our mistakes and go on in life making more mistakes. It happens. Don't worry things will work out for the best.

Nellie - posted on 11/13/2013

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Yes i did accept my husband's name as well. besides i got tired of my old last name...lol. It is what people chooses....God bless you all and have a blessed night.

Nellie - posted on 11/13/2013

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I totally agree with you. I have been with my husband for 22 years and trust me it was all worth it. Yes we go through our ups and downs but what married couple doesn't. I also came from a broken down family and I myself was raised through homes, group homes; etc. I know what it feels like to come from a broken family. I do understand you. Just remember that you are married to the most loving person whom you said yourself. Make it last forever...God bless you and your family...

Erin - posted on 11/13/2013

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So sorry you have to go through this but you deserve better. He is an asshole for bringing your children into this infidelity too. Your newborn should have been home with you considering he is a newborn, but we all make mistakes and I am not judging just pointing that out. She seems like a sneaking bitch. Yes he should pay child support because it's not her money, it's the babies money. I have issues with my ex~husband with child support, inconsistency with my son, etc. That baby deserves a good Father and from what it sounds like her husband isn't a great guy if he is in jail. You fiancé shouldn't want his baby around someome like that. I would kick him out and see what he does. Will he go to her or continue to show you he cares and to your kids as well. I know it's hard but it's a way to figure out where he really stands. Your children already know about it and your son sees that is ok behavior, and it's not ok.

Jennifer - posted on 11/13/2013

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I believe you can put ANY name you want on your childs birth certificate. It doesn't mean that you have to put him down as the father, you can invent a last name if you wish. But REMEMBER this, this baby will be with his or her Mother, she may be emotional right now and thus she is not thinking about what her child would want down the road or what she may want down the road. I am a single woman I only wish I had insisted on keeping my daughters last name as my own because now it is very difficult to change. My daughter deserves a name that is respected, with loving member in her family and to feel proud when she learns to write that last name! She is welcome to do anything she wishes, and the right decision is different for all of us, however I lovingly suggest that she consider stepping back emotionally from this man and thinking about her and her baby's names perhaps since the father is not in the picture her child may want his or her Momma's last name! There are no wrong choices...best wishes!

Michelle - posted on 11/12/2013

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No I didn't stay with him, that's why I called him my first husband.
I am now married to the most amazing man that would never do anything like that. He loves me just as I love him, with absolutely everything. We have never argued and love to spend our time together with the children. He has completed me.
I Didn't realize that marriage could be easy and wonderful before I met my current husband. I came from a broken home and I just accepted that arguing was part of being married. I can be very different when you meet the right person.

Cecilia - posted on 11/11/2013

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Nothing can be done about her giving the child his last name. Like I said, she can name it what ever she wants. The only reason we actually use a family name is tradition. It doesn't even hold much legal firepower any more. That being said my child can have a different last name than the father (and my own) and it does not change the legal obligation that will be proven through DNA.

I think honestly giving the child the father's last name is out of respect. Might not be her view on it. Just as when I got married I choose to take my husband's name, out of respect. I could keep my own last name and it wouldn't change anything in the aspects of the law.

Nellie - posted on 11/11/2013

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Back in the day, nope. but now you can put any last name that you want. My middle name is Acevedo and my last name is Torres. Acevedo is my half brother father's name..The reason it was put in my birth certificate was because my mother was married to my brother's father at that time so they had to put my name as Acevedo...Very weird but true. Back in the days; it was different and if you were legally married back then the hospital has to take that into consideration and mark it as the baby's name. Very very crazy....but very true and it does happen...

Evelyn - posted on 11/11/2013

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Thanks Courtney. Its been over 11 years ago but makes me wonder at times since he covered his tracks so well but for that cell phone bill. I have long since moved on though. I have not dated or remarried but have focused on my two kids this whole time and now I am also a grandmother 1x but expecting another in spring.

Leela - posted on 11/11/2013

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Hi Courtney. I'm sorry you're going through this. The greater question you should ask yourself is 'is this a situation I want to be in'? Your finance has shown you who he is - irresponsible, disrespectful and a cheater. Are these the qualities you want in a husband? This situation is going to get messier and I'm getting the impression you're trying to fix it. You didn't create it, thus you can't fix it. Step back.....Btw once a DNA test shows he is the father, then his name will go on the birth cert. Every child deserves a father and you deserve a man who will treat you with respect.

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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ha! love it...and congrats! 23yrs is a long time and i pray the day i do marry my marraige last that long..:-)

Shawnn - posted on 11/11/2013

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Ok, wow. Just WOW. Courtney, that line is the oldest in the book!!!

"Oh, honey, I'm so sorry, it was a mistake, we didn't realize that we still had sexual feelings for each other". BS.

But, it's your life. If you truly feel that you can work it out, without it being a problem for your kids as they grow up...go for it. Personally? He slept with someone that wasn't you, while he was in a committed relationship with you. For me, that's always been game over.

Although, to be quite honest, I found that men stopped cheating on me when I gave them a choice: You cheat, I castrate, stuff your balls and hang them on my wall. You don't get a divorce, but you no longer get sexual enjoyment either.

My husband of 23 years hasn't even considered it.

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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michelle-did you stay with him? and see normally women or men rather blame it on the sex life bit to be quite honest we had the BEST sex life so thats what gets me..no prob there and no serious issues with our relationship..thus-why im confused and belueve his story tjat he and her got old feelings back when he ran into her the first time in a decade and they just realized it wasnt meant...i know what that sounds like to others bt like i said i know my relationship ..

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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and @ evelyn im sorry to jear that...i ask bc i wanted to know if i was getting opinions from women who were cheated on.

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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theres no dought im afraid and deep inside worried alot BUT i do have faith so all i can do now is try and until i see any other proof.and as far as getting independent? in means of financially stable we are ok..we as in me and my kids making it without him..

Michelle - posted on 11/11/2013

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I was cheated on by my first husband. I was pregnant with our first child and his excuse was he wasn't getting enough sex from me.
I didn't find out until about 2 years later and I was devastated. The person he cheated on was actually my brothers GF and they were living in our house!!! Yes he did it under my nose. During the time she was living with us I had to take her to get an abortion, we all thought it was my brother's child but looking back I now wonder if it was my husband's.
I know some women can forgive their husband/partner if they have cheated but I never could after that. You need to see if you could ever trust him again, not just with her but with any other woman.

Shawnn - posted on 11/11/2013

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Honey, I hate to have to say this, but she's smart to not believe he's going to pay. She needs orders in place so that the child is supported.

Yes, its a messy situation, and it ain't gonna get any cleaner. You and he need A LOT of counseling before you take that marriage step, because anyone who can claim that they had "closure" issues with their ex, and that's why there's another child in the picture is NOT HONEST. Especially not if he's trying to not have anything to do with her now.

I'm failing to see where anyone's passing judgment on you, Courtney, but you do need to do a bit of growing up. Your life just got a whole lot more complicated because of your man and his actions. It's going to be intertwined with this other woman for the next 18 years or so. Men (NOT ALL, BY THE WAY) who lie about having sex with someone outside of their relationship will continue to lie, cheat, walk away.

I'd recommend that you start taking steps to be independent of him as well. He is willing to walk out on that baby. What's to stop him from walking out on you?

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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i meant his last name yes...but i honestly believe she ONLY wants to use his last name simply for getting child support but he has told her over n over n over again he will pay c.support bt she just doesnt listen...im confused myself bc one min shes saying jer n her husband are raising the baby yet she wants to use his last name? idk..its wiers considering her husband wants full responsibility...he cannot have children so one would only think theyd want his name..idk.very messy

Cecilia - posted on 11/11/2013

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I didn't read all the responses, but it does depend on the state. Although being named on it means very little in the whole mix of things.

I do know in PA that if he does not sign it, it doesn't go on. My husband claimed my daughter wasn't his because I left when I was 3 months pregnant.

He was responsible for paying child support even without his name on that paper, even before DNA testing.


Now when you say legally put his last name, do you mean give the child his last name? Yes she can. She can name her child whatever she likes. If she wants a "Rainbow Sunshine Forrest" she can do it. There are no laws on what isn't allowed when it comes to names, as far as I know.

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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every bit of what u said is pretty much how we both feel and although i now have trust issues i agree with tje fact he feels like an ass and as messy as all this sounds i believe in him..your right qb being only human..iv made my mistqkes in life as we all have ...like i said until i have any furyher proof hes screwing up again i refuse to waste my time nagging and ?ing him all the time simply bc that will make our relationship have issues...thank ypu

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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ok and thats how you speak to a non arguemenative heartbroken woman? you wont get bany mpre "excitement"from me beyond this comment bc thats not what i use circle of moms for...im clearly not the one who needs to grow up with that being said.

Jodi - posted on 11/11/2013

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Oh for goodness sake, Courtney, no-one is judging you. Grow up.

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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may i ask to those who have commenyed...have any of you ever exp.being cjeated on? or is thos just your opinions from what iv said?

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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as sad as this is thats how i found out ab her and him...he took the kids to nc to visit for the weekend and when they came home my son told me my newborn slept in the bed with "dad and another girl" id NEVER allow my kids arounf another woman before i knew her hiatory...this all happened over a two day stay away while i recovered at home hence i did not send my kids or allow them around her

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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sorry ab the mishaps in my spelling.. for some reason on circle of moms when i type i cannot see what i type til after i post.

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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idk why reading that makes me tear up bit im geussing its bc i saw my therapist ab this and he ask "why do u blame yourself for him cheating" my response was nc i thought maybe id gotten too fat in the pregmancy...je said bc i wasnt fat tjat wasnt ot bt theres literally no issues w us...with the exception of now of course...he says it was "closure they never had"..bullshit bt its been 5mo now and she still tries to mess w him bt he doesnt respond..it may be easy for anyone on the outside to say hes prob seeing her but we are a whole state away amd je works within walking dostance so even though i still have trust issues im positive he hasnt seen her..but not so sure what will come in april when the baby is born...for now im not going to waste my time stressing ab it until i have proof..we do have kids and right now im looking out for them.period.

Jessica - posted on 11/11/2013

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No one is blaming you, but we are trying to get you to see that you need to be VERY cautious of this man from here on out. I'm not saying get rid of him totally because he is the father of your children and they need a dad, but like others have said and even you said 'every single day I question if he might do it again'. The answer to that is MOST LIKELY. Also, I would keep that lady away from my babies...why is she around your newborn anyway? That's dangerous territory. Cut her out of your life - you have ZERO ties to that woman...so don't even communicate with her. And please consider ditching the guy...again...not from his kids...but romantically.

Jodi - posted on 11/11/2013

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Yes, it does help to have the full story, BUT it doesn't change the fact that your husband made a poor choice and cheated on you, fathered a baby with her, giving her every right to put him on the birth certificate and have him pay child support. A lawyer won't be able to help you with that, because you can't refute a DNA test with the argument that she trapped him. He shouldn't have been having sex with her in the first place. The trapped argument is BS because it indicates he is a brainless moron that can only think with his dick.

You shouldn't be embarrassed. This isn't your fault. BUT if I were you, I'd fix whatever is wrong between your fiance and yourself that led to him thinking cheating on you was a good idea. Fix it before he becomes your husband, because he clearly has some sort of self-control issue.

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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no no nooo..lol..if i came across that way like hes so awesome i sooo didnt mean to.i simply stated he .although messed up bad..wasnt a horible man in general..and every single day i ? if he might do it again...so i agree when u say he may screw up...it just felt as if i were being attacked when im the only one in this mess that did nothing wrong.and lol..i assumed u meant martyr as in a killer...my apologies

Shawnn - posted on 11/11/2013

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LOL...Do I know what a martyr is???

Actually, no, I wasn't making fun of you. A martyr (in one definition) is one who has suffered much, yet still moves forward.

You're acting as if your man is the most upstanding, honest, wonderful man around, yet he doesn't want the 'other woman' putting his name on the birth certificate of a child he fathered. This leads me to wonder, if he's that quick to step back from one of his kids, what's to stop him from leaving the rest in the lurch.

You should be thinking that way as well, rather than defending him, and accusing her of "trapping'' him into sex.

Simple answer, as I said before is: YES she can put his name on the kids birth certificate, because he is the kid's father. There's no way around it. He's the kid's dad, and his name needs to be on the bc whether he wants it there or not. Seriously. If he wanted "nothing" to do with her, he wouldn't have had sex with her.

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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im sorry? did i just get called a martyr? do you kbow what that means? thats kinda harsh....anyway idk why so many of u are acting as if IM the bad person here...we all have different views on life but i honestly thought ppl would be a bit nicer ab this.... im a sweet girl and refuse to argue but i did not ask for anyones input on how "good" or "bad" of a man he is...also i never said this was to blame all on her...its obvious its both thier faults....just asking a qeustion and wanted a simple yes or no...not such harsh comments and at that made towards ME of all ppl?! thanks fo those who said what they knew.ill close for now :-)

Shawnn - posted on 11/11/2013

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“this isnt the average "oh i got a girl preggo n now i wqnt to walk awy"p.o.s guy...he has every reason to walk...hes my fiance and we have 3kids one being a newborn”

First, ARE YOU SERIOUS??? This isn’t the average guy who would walk, because he’s already got kids with you? No, he’s a narcissistic asshole who can’t keep his pecker in his pants. And since he can’t keep his pecker in his pants, he now has 4 kids instead of 3, and is responsible for all 4, regardless of the fact that she’s married.

ITS CALLED MANNING UP. He was such a man that he could sleep with two women, and impregnate both, so now he gets to pay the piper.

“ she KNEW he was engaged and had a baby otw”. AND HE KNEW that he was in a relationship with kids too. AND he knew that she was married. Guess what? Didn’t mean a damn thing to either of them. THIS IS NOT JUST HER FAULT. It takes two to screw, and if he was that ‘upstanding’ of a man, he wouldn’t have let it escalate to a level where they were having sex.

Bottom line is, YES. His name should be on the birth certificate, and he darned well should be paying support for that kid. “I don’t know of any other wo man who has stated as strong as I have and helped the ‘other woman’” Well, honey, neither do I. You’re a martyr, for sure. Doesn’t change the fact that your man slept with another woman and conceived a child. If he wants to step out of that kid’s life, how long before he finds a ‘good’ reason to abandon you and your kids as well?

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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and the child will have a father..her husbqnd..the fact hes ok with all of this and has called my fiance a "sperm donor"says alot...again-its a crazy n messy situation..oh and IM the one who is all for child support and IV been the one talking/texting back and forth with her guiding her bc she came to me scared not knowing what to expect in this pregnancy ...what im saying is i dont know of any woman who has stayed as strong as i have and helped the "other woman" rather than resulting to being arguemenitive...it gets me nowhere bt since we recently discovered the ovulation test i just cannot believe whats happening therefore i fear this girl may have other plans up her sleeve.Bit yes i am all for child support.

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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ok wowww...evelyn please read my last post...i know i didnt add all the details last night so i can see where you would say that BUT how could you or anyone for that matter say such things and take up for a woman who has hurt me AND all of our kids?! she KNEW he was engaged and had a baby otw and the first weekend i let him take the kids he said and she owned up to this ...but my newborn Mason cried so she took it upon herself to put MY son on HER tit thinking it would relieve him!!!! Im sorry but please dint give a cheating adultry committing 24yr old lil girl any credit to the one woman wgo was the victim in all this! T

Courtney - posted on 11/11/2013

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ok so i didnt give all details like i said its embarrassing and iv been very hurt so to those who are saying "good for her"...no.Yes he cheated and is very wrong but he will most certaintly and has EVERY intention on paying child support.this girl is married.her husband is in jail.its very messed up situation and even i am confused but this isnt the average "oh i got a girl preggo n now i wqnt to walk awy"p.o.s guy...he has every reason to walk...hes my fiance and we have 3kids one being a newborn.shes married n tried 3yrs to get preggo w her husband.he goes to jail she runa into my fiance which btw use to be h.s sweethearts so they knew each other THEN she uses him.....her mother and his grama found ovulation test in the trash and one in her car...one word...ENTRAPMENT...soooooo this is why i ask....he will pay for his wrongdoings but wants 0 to do with her obviously and the baby bc her husband will be home soon and yes knows ab all of this and get this..HES TOTALLY OK WITH IT! ughh anyway its ridiculous bt looks like we will have to get a lawyer.she is crazy and im thibking she wants his name for child support.So this is why i wonder if she HAS or even CAN use his name even when hes more than willing to pay c.s

Jodi - posted on 11/10/2013

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Why doesn't he want to be on the birth certificate? Is he worried that he will have to pay child support? Because he will be obligated to pay that anyway. The child has a right to have its father listed on its birth certificate, so if the mother chooses to, then good on her.

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