Can anybody suggest ways to get a 6 year old to go to sleep before 9 pm? my daughter is just not tired, but its wearing me and my hubby out !!

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Amy - posted on 03/09/2009

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Honey -- my son's 7, and I've been dealing with the same thing for about 3 years. His Dad and I are both night owls, and Isaac seems to be the same. Our rule is that he's in bed and the lights ore out at 8:15 (which is a challenge!), then the sleep timer on his TV is set for 15 minutes. I tried removing the TV entirely, but it didn't make any difference, and I think he actually goes to sleep a little better, although a lot of nights he is still in there talking to himself, or playing with his cars or trains, but as long as he's physically in bed, I let it go. Other than drugging him or knocking him over the head, there's no way to MAKE him go to sleep and I was just making myself crazy. It was difficult to get him to stay in bed at first, but once he understood that sound travels, and when I heard him get out of bed he lost a toy, he got the picture and he stays in bed. I just make sure he has a glass of water or any other percieved emergency need next to his bed so he has no excuse to get out. It took about a week, but he stays there now.

Helen - posted on 03/09/2009

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Quoting Christene:



Turn the TV off by 6 - the light is a stimulant for them. - dim  the lights around the house as well.  The earlier you can turn off the lights the easier it is to calm a child down. No reason for the child to not have quiet time in their rooms to calm themselves down.  Also get a cd of soothing music to have them listen too.  Just my suggestions






hi thanks will try this to see if it helps my other two aren't really any bother so thanks x

Amy - posted on 03/10/2009

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Is she showing signs during the day that she's not getting enough sleep? If not, I would just make sure that she knows to stay in her own room, no tv, no lights (no nothing that would make it fun to stay awake) and try really hard to ignore it. Bedtime has never been an issue with my kids, but even at nap time, my 4 yo is starting to NOT sleep as much as he used to. I don't make a big deal of it - he can play quietly in his room until his sister gets up from her nap. But I think it's important that your kids go in their own rooms at a certain time/ have a routine. Even if you have to explain that mommy and daddy need time together with no kids around so that YOU can wind down. She'll go to sleep when she's tired. I promise. lol.

Peggy - posted on 03/09/2009

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My boys used to have a very hard time going down at bedtime. We put them on a really structured scheduled and did the same things every night and now they go down without any problems. The exact same routine seems to trigger something in them that it is going to be bedtime soon. If you have tried that already and it doesn't work try enrolling her in an extra curricular activity such as swimming that will really work all of her muscles and tire her out. My oldest is very hyper and swimming wipes him out. We have found that we must keep them as close to their normal schedule as we can so they get the triggers that it is time for bed. My oldest now gets the priviledge of reading in his room for 15 minutes at bedtime that way he feels like he is up later than he actually is. Hope you figure out what works for her. She may just be a night owl.

Rabecca - posted on 03/09/2009

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I suggest doing it gradually. Lower her bedtime by 15 minutes everynight, until you hit the desired bedtime.



I liek to feed the girls dinner by 5:30, give baths/showers. Then we sit quietly in the living room and watch TV together as a family. At bed time they go in and brush their teetha nd go potty. Then its hugs for everyone. The youngest picks out who she wants to read her bedtime story (Me or Daddy) and then she gets ONE story. We turn on a classical music CD, her VERY dim nightlight, and the humidifier. Lights out and she either goes to bed like a "big girl" or she doesnt get a story the next night. If she gets up more than once after bedtime, we start taking 5 minutes off her bed time the following night. We do this without yelling or getting worked up. One of us will escort her back to bed, tuck her back in a and leave without saying anything but "no story tomorrow, or that five minutes off tomorrows bedtime" that way she not riling us up and in turn we're not freaking out on her, but she knows that she has been punished so its not a surprize the next night.



My 12yo has ADHD so it was harder with her, cause she didnt care about story time, or spankings, or taking away toys.



We finally had to take everything out of her room that she could get up and play with and put it in the garage/storage area. All she had left was a bed and pillow and blanket, and clothes in her dresser. When she didnt have anything left to play with she slowly started going to bed with less of a fight. every time she went to bed "right" we would give her back one item for her room. By the time she had her stuff back, she was pretty much set in her rutine,a nd knew we were not afraid to take everything away again if she couldnt do what she was supposed to. (Drastic I know, but some kids need drastic)



My 5.5 year old goes to bed at 6:30pm (She asked for an earlier bedtime) my 12 Year old goes to bed by 8:30pm. (She wants to stay up later, I want alone time with my hubby)



OH! And I have done the running your child out method. It works really well after family gatherings where your kids have been handed junk food and soda by every loving relative on the planet.

" I bet you cant run around the whole house in less than 2 minutes. Why dont you try Ill time you! I bet you cant beat your time! GO!"



If all else fails, and your child likes money.. We once brided our youngest into behaving. For everyday you dont get into time out, and you listen like a big girl you earn $1. (this was a preschool issues..she was the class clown) but it might work for bedtime. If she does good all week its only 7 bucks, and $7 is totally worth the quiet alone time with your man in the evening!



Hope any of this helps! GOOD LUCK!

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Helen - posted on 03/10/2009

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hi thanks everybody for your advice,



 my daughter goes to beavers on a monday night and does karate on a tuesday,



 we have no films in the week only at weekends and she shares a room with her sister who is 4!! the youngest is quite often asleep within 15 mins of going to bed.



we also walk everyday to school, she just doesn't appear to be tired.



 she does not nap in the day she stopped that at 18 mnths, think she is just a night owl and perhaps i need to relax a little more. but thank you everybody for your advice i will definately try some of these technics. x

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I wind my daughter down....I go for a walk with her two hours before bed time (830-9ish) then I completely stop liquids and food at around 7-730ish finally bath and then a short movie or story and shes out.   whatever it is it should be consistent.  Good luck

Shelly - posted on 03/09/2009

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Helen,



  I don't know if she is still napping but if she is it sounds like it's time to cut them from the schedule.  If she's not then you need to find some physical activitys for her were she can get rid of some of that extra energy.  I don't know where you live but if you are near a YMCA get her into a swimming class or a play time class with kids her own age they can be very fun...Good luck

Amber - posted on 03/09/2009

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I have a 1-1/2 yr old who would rather turn the lights and TV on and off than go to sleep. Unfortunately his older brother can't go to sleep until the "baby" does (they share a room). Try putting the lights and other things in her room on a timer so they go off at bedtime and that's that. My 4 year old had trouble sleeping and would be up until atleast midnight every night until I did this. He's asleep within 10 minutes 95% of the time now. Good luck!!!!



 



 



 



 



 



 



 

Kirsty - posted on 03/09/2009

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i dont have this problem yet as my baby is only 8 months old but my niece hated going to bed until my sister got her a pink canopy to go over her bed, now she looks forward to sleeping in her "princess bed" lol.
you could also try new pj's or bed cover or something like that?

Dina - posted on 03/09/2009

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My son is very Hyperactive, he just goes all day and never stops as well, but with being hyperactive its very important for a child to have a regular routine.



 After Dinner He Plays to burn off some enegry, 7:30 is bath time, right after bath a snack (if wanted kids fall asleep better on a full belly), then its time to crawl into bed, read a story or two.



It took a week for his body to realize yes it is bed time, and of course in the start he didn't fall asleep right away, but now he is sleeping by 8:15 the latest every night without a porblem...Just keep to consistancy, and her little body will get used to falling asleep earlier.

Kathy - posted on 03/09/2009

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Do the bedtime routine........Not sure if you ever seen Supernanny but you may have to do a technique like that. She is old enough to know bedtime is bedtime. It will be hard but you will have to say nothing and keep walking her back to her bed until she realizes it is bedtime. That alone will wear her out and you for that matter. This really works if you stick with it. Good luck!

Helen - posted on 03/09/2009

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Quoting Kamalei:



You know I babysit two very hyper twin boys.  I hate to say that I do this, but I tell them to run around this tree in my front yard as many times as they can without slowing down....lol.  They do it, and eventually slow down!  Their mom said they went right to bed the other night!!






lol thanks not sure this will have any affect but shall give it go anyway anything has got to be better than what we are doing at the moment x

Helen - posted on 03/09/2009

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Thanks for your help, she just doesn't seem to wind down, we have done the bed telly soothing baths story times nothing seems to work, shes had the light on and of and also a night light, we walk to school which is 2 miles away near enough so you would think she would be exhausted xx

Kami - posted on 03/09/2009

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You know I babysit two very hyper twin boys.  I hate to say that I do this, but I tell them to run around this tree in my front yard as many times as they can without slowing down....lol.  They do it, and eventually slow down!  Their mom said they went right to bed the other night!!

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