Can anyone help? I am having trouble with my 10 month old son sleeping at night?

Tarsha - posted on 03/18/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )

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he only takes short cat naps during the day, and he doesn't sleep well at all at night he wakes up at least 2-3 times a night for a bottle and to play?

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Elizabeth - posted on 04/11/2009

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im not sure if this has been mentioned yet but lavendar and chamomile are great for helping babies sleep......im not saying it will crash him out, but i would try an oil burner in the bathroom while giving him a warm bath.....it may help to calm him.

Tia - posted on 03/19/2009

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Quoting Tarsha:

Can anyone help? I am having trouble with my 10 month old son sleeping at night?

he only takes short cat naps during the day, and he doesn't sleep well at all at night he wakes up at least 2-3 times a night for a bottle and to play?


There is a book "Moms On Call". In the back, is a GREAT section about getting your child to sleep through the night. My 12 month old has been sleep through the night since she was 12 weeks old. It pretty much talks about using white noise, and reducing feedings throughout the night. You can try that.

Erin - posted on 03/19/2009

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I feel your pain! I have 6 month old that won't sleep at all either.  He wakes up at least every 2 hours to eat if not more than that.  He will maybe take 2 15 or 30 minute naps during the day.  Does your son have acid reflux?

Krystal - posted on 03/18/2009

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My son just turned 9 mo. this week, but he just started sleeping through the night about a week ago. My oldest son started sleeping through the night at 4mo old. So, to have my second go til 8 mo. old was driving me crazy. But all I did was started giving him a bottle with water in it instead of formula. He actually took it for a few nights and went back to sleep. (You have to be careful bc they will choke on the water more easily than formula, so don't go far if you just give it to him to hold.) Now he hasn't been waking up at all, so I am keeping my fingers crossed that he keeps sleeping through the night. I was getting scared that he would be waking up for something to eat in the middle of the night for the rest of his life. lol. As far as letting him cry it out, it did work for my oldest when we were trying to get him to go to bed without being rocked, however, it was earlier at night. We live in an apartment, so I couldn't just let my youngest cry it out when he would wake up at 1am or 2am. Good luck!

K - posted on 03/18/2009

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It's normal for babies to wake at night. It's normal for babies to be hungry at night. Try reading the The Happiest Baby on the Block: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer by Harvey Karp and The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley and William Sears. Both books were extremely helpful for us, parents who were not interested in having our baby cry it out. Quick notes that were very helpful were establishing a regular night time routine, including a bath just before bed and swaddling. We swore by swaddling; there are some great easy ones with velcro on the market. It's not weird or wrong for your baby to be up 2-3 times a night for bottle. They're all so different!

Dawn - posted on 03/18/2009

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Each of my kids has been different and has needed different things to sleep through the night.  I personally don't agree with allowing them to cry it out for hours at a time at this age, but I know many who do and it has worked for them.  My second child was the hardest.  She would nurse every two hours around the clock.  This went on for 10 VERY LONG months, then gradually started to lengthen out.  She slept all the way through the night for the first time at 18 months old--when I stopped breastfeeding her.  She is now 3 years old and my BEST sleeper of the three.  My current baby (just turned one) is still up once a night to nurse, then goes right back to sleep. 



 



The biggest thing I would say to try is to keep the disturbance to a minimum if and when you do go in to feed him--don't turn the lights on, don't talk to him, and don't change the diaper unless absolutely necessary.  Good luck! 

Penny - posted on 03/18/2009

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I would just make sure you have a set bedtime so he gets used to going to bed at the same time. Put a teaspoon of cereal in his formula before bed to fill up his belly so he sleeps better and of course isn't hungry in the middle of the night. Don't worry Tarsha, everything will work out ... I know it's very frustrating!

Colleen - posted on 03/18/2009

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Torture, but it works! Let him cry it out. Establish a bedtime routine of cuddles, bottle and quiet time with mommy (and or daddy). Remind him the first few nights that its nighttime and everyone else is sleeping. After he intiailly falls asleep and you have settled for the night, when he wakes, don't go in..... its really hard but it works! This comes from a mom whose daughter cried for like 3 hours the first few nights but afte that she got the message. Babies aren't stupid and they know how to gett what hey want, don't give in... you'll be a better mom with rest and he'll be an easier baby!

Good Luck!!

Liz - posted on 03/18/2009

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I have to agree with the cereal! My aughter was a 10 pounder and she cried all the time until I started putting cereal in with the formula. She was two weeks old I put 3 table spoons to 8 ounces of formula and that was all it took. She was a very happy and satisfied baby. Now she is 13 yrs old happy and healthy.

Heather - posted on 03/18/2009

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Cereal Cereal Cereal. There's no reason for him to cry. Aww...My little guy slept through the night for the first time at 7 weeks and has been ever since and I can't believe it but he sleeps nearly 11-12 hours every night!! (and even naps normally during the day) I'm always running in there to check him just in case. But cereal before bed. Do it! Try it at least! I can't imagine that it wouldn't work. I've told my girlfriends the same thing, they try it. Bid-a-dee Bob-a-dee Boo! You can thank me later :)

Heather - posted on 03/18/2009

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Cereal Cereal Cereal. There's no reason for him to cry. Aww...My little guy slept through the night for the first time at 7 weeks and has been ever since and I can't believe it but he sleeps nearly 11-12 hours every night!! (and even naps normally during the day) I'm always running in there to check him just in case. But cereal before bed. Do it! Try it at least! I can't imagine that it wouldn't work. I've told my girlfriends the same thing, they try it. Bid-a-dee Bob-a-dee Boo! You can thank me later :)

Heather - posted on 03/18/2009

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I have a 3 month old and I have done daycare for 5 years with my mom. My mom is AMAZING with children. Her advice would be to put cereal in the bedtime bottle. Fill that tummy up. He's waking up because he's hungry right? Well there ya go!

Sammy - posted on 03/18/2009

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My son would wake up 2 or 3 times a night. At his 9 month checkup, his peditriacian recommended that I do my normal breastfeeding (5-7 X/day), solids, and....ADD formula (6oz after breakfast and 6oz after dinner) to his meal plan -- maybe that was why he was waking up at night.



He also asked me if I was getting any restful night, and I told him not really. He suggested with the new meal plan, I can stop the nighttime breastfeeding. That way he won't be dependent on me everytime he wakes up. He sleeps in his own room. He'll squirm a little but will put himself back to sleep. If you stay strong and keep at it, he'll get use to the new routine and mommy can sleep peacefully.



Now, my son is 1.

Fara - posted on 03/18/2009

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Sorry to say... you are going to have to let him cry it out. In the long run he will be happier since he will be getting the sleep he needs,

Tricia - posted on 03/18/2009

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I am a mom of 5 and I can tell you that at this age it is all about fun and games.  He is ok- you've got to let him cry it out.  It usually takes three miserable nights for everyone until he figures out that he's supposed to stay asleep.  I learned this from my pediatrician with my first baby and had to do it with every one after! 

Tarsha - posted on 03/18/2009

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thanks so much for all your feedback I will definately start tonight!! wish me luck

Tarsha - posted on 03/18/2009

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This is new to me this is my third son and my oldest is 14 and my middle son is 6 1/2 and both of them came home from the hospital sleeping all night! Ok thanks I will try to eliminate the feedings during the night and see what happens.

Kim - posted on 03/18/2009

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I would eliminate the feedings during the nght. My 4 month old sleeps through the night. She goes to bed at 9pm and doesn't wake till 7:30 for the most part. Yes, occasionally she'll wake up at 5:30-6 and need a bottle but for the most part it is no earlier than 7-7:30. I follow the same schedule each night...this is very important. Then I put her in her crib completely awake. She has learned to put herself to sleep. If she cries I wait a minute or 2 before going and checking on her. She has a mobile and a musical light show in her crib and seems to really calm her and let her know it's time for night-night. If she does let a cry out in the night I wait a few minutes to see if she calms herself or if I need to go in. Normally, if I wait 2 minutes she is back asleep without any intervention.

User - posted on 03/18/2009

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Quoting Tarsha:

Can anyone help? I am having trouble with my 10 month old son sleeping at night?

he only takes short cat naps during the day, and he doesn't sleep well at all at night he wakes up at least 2-3 times a night for a bottle and to play?



Hi Tarsha,



I had that problem with my kids also, and the answer is to wean him off of his night time bottles.  The way you do it is to give him one ounce less every night with each bottle for a week until the last night he gets none and then let him fuss (he may not--mine slept through the night after that) and cry until he falls back to sleep. 



Janis

Jenny - posted on 03/18/2009

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Quoting Becky:



Quoting Jenny:




Alot of babies dont sleep through the night at this age. Some kids wont sleep through the night till they are 2 years old. You could always try sleep training, when you do this you do not give him a bottle at night, you just let him cry it out, other then that there really is nothing you can do.










I whole heartedly disagree.  A child by the age of 7 months has the capability to be sleeping very well at night.  The trick is to stop feeding him during the night and teach them how to fall asleep on their own.  By 6 months of age, they are old enough to sleep through the night without feeding.  Sleeping through the night is classified as 7 hours of continuous sleep. 






Also, alot of the time, babies at this age wake in the night because they don't know how to fall BACK asleep on their own.  Sleep training is the key.  I have two children and both of them were sleeping through the night by about 6 months.  My first did it all on her own, mostly.  But my second one I started sleep training at about 4 months and at 7 months she sleeps 11-12 hours straight through the night.






The reason your son is waking at night is he knows he'll get a bottle and get to play with his mama.  What you should do is first eliminate the feedings during the night.  For the first few days, only feed him once during the night.  Then after about 3 or 4 days of that, eliminate the feedings all together.  I'm warning you, he will cry...but a 10 month old crying doesn't mean there is something wrong.  He's just communicating that this is different and he doesn't know what to do.  Check out this website... http://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-sleep-t...   it has EXCELLENT guideance on the modified CIO (cry it out) method.  As far as I am concerned, its the only way to go.






Also, by 10 months, babies should be taking about only 2 naps per day...try cutting back on the number of naps and you'll find he'll sleep longer.






I pretty much disagree here too, I dont believe in sleep training at that age, I believe that they are way to young and need to be nurtured. but to each its own.

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We have swaddled our son since he came home from the hospital.  He won't stay asleep without it!  (check out http://www.swaddledesigns.com/swaddle_ti...)  If that doesnt seem to help, try to limit his naptime during the day and set him up with a routine.  Do the same things at the same time every night.  For example, at like 7pm give him a warm bath, let him play in the tub, dress him in his PJ's, give him his bottle in a quiet room thats dimly lit and then rock him to sleep.  Hopefully after a few nights of doing this it will help.. Good luck!

Becky - posted on 03/18/2009

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Quoting Jenny:



Alot of babies dont sleep through the night at this age. Some kids wont sleep through the night till they are 2 years old. You could always try sleep training, when you do this you do not give him a bottle at night, you just let him cry it out, other then that there really is nothing you can do.






I whole heartedly disagree.  A child by the age of 7 months has the capability to be sleeping very well at night.  The trick is to stop feeding him during the night and teach them how to fall asleep on their own.  By 6 months of age, they are old enough to sleep through the night without feeding.  Sleeping through the night is classified as 7 hours of continuous sleep. 



Also, alot of the time, babies at this age wake in the night because they don't know how to fall BACK asleep on their own.  Sleep training is the key.  I have two children and both of them were sleeping through the night by about 6 months.  My first did it all on her own, mostly.  But my second one I started sleep training at about 4 months and at 7 months she sleeps 11-12 hours straight through the night.



The reason your son is waking at night is he knows he'll get a bottle and get to play with his mama.  What you should do is first eliminate the feedings during the night.  For the first few days, only feed him once during the night.  Then after about 3 or 4 days of that, eliminate the feedings all together.  I'm warning you, he will cry...but a 10 month old crying doesn't mean there is something wrong.  He's just communicating that this is different and he doesn't know what to do.  Check out this website... http://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-sleep-t...   it has EXCELLENT guideance on the modified CIO (cry it out) method.  As far as I am concerned, its the only way to go.



Also, by 10 months, babies should be taking about only 2 naps per day...try cutting back on the number of naps and you'll find he'll sleep longer.

Samia - posted on 03/18/2009

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I am haveing the same problem with my son. he use to sleep for atleast 5 hours when he was 2 months old but since he started theething around 7 months it got worse. sometimes i just give up and bring him in to our bed ( which he loves). If any one have any other tips please let me know

User - posted on 03/18/2009

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As hard as it is, you have to let your little one cry for a little while instead of giving him his bottle. Once in a while show up at his crib, talk to him, tell him that you love him, caress his hair, give him a kiss and then walk away. Repeat if necessary.. That way he will know that you are there to comfort him, but that he must go back to sleep on his own. I had to do this with my daughter and now I could put her down awake and she goes to sleep on her own for the whole night. Good luck with everything. .

Jenny - posted on 03/18/2009

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Alot of babies dont sleep through the night at this age. Some kids wont sleep through the night till they are 2 years old. You could always try sleep training, when you do this you do not give him a bottle at night, you just let him cry it out, other then that there really is nothing you can do.

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