Can I have a baby shower for my second?

Sarah - posted on 03/25/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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I have a baby that was born in June, and I am pregnant with another due in July. My mom says that I should not have a shower because it is bad etiquette, but I am broke and still need some things like crib, mattress, etc for the new baby! What do I do? I don't want to seem greedy, but we're really broke and cannot afford these things!

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Kim - posted on 03/25/2009

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sure you can!!!! everybody needs things for babies when they have them!!! you dont want to give the new baby all hand-me-downs form the first baby,he/she deserves some new stuff!!!! baby things cost money and in these hard financial times, i dont think its greedy to have a shower so you can get some of that stuff you do need, whatever you get, it saves you buying it!!!

Rhonda - posted on 03/25/2009

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of course you have a second one.. every child deserves to be celebrated. I had two boys had a shower with both although the second one was smaller but still was great. YOu could use these saying for invites:



 



 This is a baby shower poem idea for a "sprinkle" (a sprinkle is a toned-down version of a baby shower, usually for a 2nd or 3rd child)
Pins, Diapers, Bottles Galore
(mothers name) and (fathers name) are having one more
Big (sister/brother) has plenty to share
This is only a "sprinkle" to show that we care
Please join us to celebrate before baby is due



 



 “A baby shower for the first, but a sprinkling for the second [or subsequent]. Please join us on [date] to sprinkle [mother’s name] and baby with a few presents [or special items like disposables that are needed new for each child or new gender] and a whole lot of love - a sprinkling, not as large as a shower but just as much fun!”                                                           If mom has a specific kind of item she needs, the invitation is an appropriate place to mention it.



 



Or you could have every guest bring a pack of diapers and have a raffle.



It may have have been wrong 20 years ago to have more than one shower but this is the 21st century just about every is having them. Even if its a small or just a pamper the mom party. Like I said every baby deserves to be celebrated... here are some other ideas for party types for second time mothers.  



 



http://ezinearticles.com/?Baby-Shower-fo...



 



 

Karen - posted on 03/25/2009

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Yes, you can TOTALLY have one for your second! Ask a close friend to have a casual shower for you. She should ask people to contribute a small amount of money towards a gift card for you to somewhere you could get the stuff you need.

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P.S. As for having another shower, I say why not?  Like everyone said, every baby is a gift...why should just the first get that "special treatment"?  If I have any other babies, I fully intend on having a shower for each one....bad etiquitte or not.  Things have changed.  For example, I'm getting married in 2 weeks.  When the day for my wedding invitation rsvp came and went there were still a TON of people who hadn't taken the time to put my PRE ADDRESSED AND STAMPED rsvp card in the mail.  So I called each and every one.  Bad manners?  Some would say yes, but it was also bad manners for them not to respond.  Things are different these days...etiquitte changes with the times and I think you should have your shower.

Tracy - posted on 03/25/2009

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Of course you can! You always need new stuff for a new baby, even if you tell your friends they can clean/wash up anything that you might need and they don't need anylonger. Also new stuf works too!HAVE A BABY SHOWER!!! It's also important to do things that makes you fill special and you need that as your body and hormones are changing.

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Quoting Sarah:



My first was a girl, and I am having another girl, so I don't need clothes, but I need a crib, mattress, sheet set, etc..  I have been spying craigslist for deals, but in my area, they are few and far between.  Thanks all for the comments. 






I don't know where you live but another website that you can get free stuff from is www.freecycle.org The idea there is basically that "one man's trash is another man's treasure".  It's through yahoo but all you have to do is go to the above link.  I've given away all kinds of things on Freecycle...toys, clothes that no longer fit my son, lots of other stuff.  You just join the group in your area and post a "Wanted" message.  For example you can say "Wanted : Baby Items" and then post a message saying what items you are looking for.  If anyone has any in your area, they email you and you arrange to pick them up or have them drop them off at your house.  Personally, I don't like the idea of strangers coming to my home so I always meet at a public place to pick up and drop off.  Unless it's someone I've dealt with a few times and feel comfortable with them coming to my home.  There are many people who have things they no longer use and this website is awesome...keeps stuff from piling up in landfills and helps those who need it.  Hope this helps.  I wish I had some things I could give you...I totally would.  But right now I need what we have and it's all boy stuff anyhow.  But I've gotten several bags of boy clothes from the Freecycle thing.  Most used and in great shape and some were even new with tags still on....you know how excited moms tend to "over buy" lol.  Anyhow, I hope this helped a little and good luck.

Kasha - posted on 03/25/2009

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My mom and I just had this convo..(she was hoping my friend was having a shower, even though it is her second). As she said, every baby deserves a celebration...and its nice for them to have a new soft somthing to wear. For future reference...those that dont need anything can just have a get together, or some will do a bring a gift to donate. In your case, its appropriate...some may come, and some may definitely want to help. Good Luck.

Vinnie - posted on 03/25/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

Can I have a baby shower for my second?

I have a baby that was born in June, and I am pregnant with another due in July. My mom says that I should not have a shower because it is bad etiquette, but I am broke and still need some things like crib, mattress, etc for the new baby! What do I do? I don't want to seem greedy, but we're really broke and cannot afford these things!


   You can and should  have a baby shower.  It doesn't  matter  which baby this is.  Every baby still needs their own things and especially if their born so close together.  Besides every baby is special not just the first,  so celebrate.

Sarah - posted on 03/25/2009

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Quoting Jenny:



Quoting Sarah:




My first was a girl, and I am having another girl, so I don't need clothes, but I need a crib, mattress, sheet set, etc..  I have been spying craigslist for deals, but in my area, they are few and far between.  Thanks all for the comments. 









If you have a pack n play, you can use that for the newborn until she's about six months.  That can give you a little more time.






I don't have a pack & play (my house was too small to fit one), but I have a bassinet I will be using the first couple months, so I do have some time.  Unfortunately, my first couldn't stand the bassinet and the noise (SNORING) my husband made, so we only ended up using it for a week with her!  Hopefully , this next one will be able to stand it!

Jenny - posted on 03/25/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



My first was a girl, and I am having another girl, so I don't need clothes, but I need a crib, mattress, sheet set, etc..  I have been spying craigslist for deals, but in my area, they are few and far between.  Thanks all for the comments. 





If you have a pack n play, you can use that for the newborn until she's about six months.  That can give you a little more time.

Jenny - posted on 03/25/2009

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I don't think it would be appropriate, especially the way the economy is right now. In my opinion, a second shower would be acceptable if there were several years in between children. Look at second-hand stores or ask friends and family if they have any baby items that they are done with. I agree with looking on craigslist too.

Sarah - posted on 03/25/2009

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My first was a girl, and I am having another girl, so I don't need clothes, but I need a crib, mattress, sheet set, etc..  I have been spying craigslist for deals, but in my area, they are few and far between.  Thanks all for the comments. 

Samantha - posted on 03/25/2009

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Girl have that baby shower...even if it was your 7th kid have a baby shower!!!! I have 3 and had a baby shower for the first two and then a "meet and greet" with the third. A friend of mine has 6 and had a baby showe r for each of them! Its to welcome the baby and show you support...do it!!! Have the baby shower!

Sunshine - posted on 03/25/2009

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It's not about being greedy...it's about celebrating.....each baby about to born is a reason for a mother to celebrate :)

Laura - posted on 03/25/2009

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Go for it if you need to. I refused the offer when someone offered to give me another one. But I'm having another girl, seasons match and I kept EVERTHING from #1. I had all the stuff so there wasn't anything for people to get me. I would have let my sister in law give me one if there was stuff I needed. (especially if I was having a boy)

Amie - posted on 03/25/2009

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Its absolutely ok! I had a baby shower for all 4 of my children! We did this for all of the women in our church, every baby got a baby shower. If people think its bad taste they don't have to come, but I have found most people enjoy celebrating the life another baby!

Bret - posted on 03/25/2009

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its totally ok to have a shower for the second one! especially if the things you are asking for are things that you are still using with the other one, and just need a second one for the new baby. Let me also recommend checking craigslist in your area for baby furniture and other things in good condition for a great deal! I have had some great luck on the one in my area

Heather - posted on 03/25/2009

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My mom says the same thing about having a shower for a second child, but I think if you need the stuff you really dont have a choice, I would do it if I were you. Most ppl love baby showers anyway and I'm sure your family and friends would love to help you out anyway they can.

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