Can my 12 year old get S.S.I for having, O.D.D and A.D.D

Dove - posted on 01/14/2013

I don't have a kid with any special needs, but I do have a 'regular' 11 year old girl and I think I'd take it as a blessing if she would stop talking sometimes. lol

Nonie - posted on 01/14/2013

I have a son with ADD and ODD and he's 10 and big for his age. He has a fish, but just so you know it's against the law to have a monkey unless you have a special permit. I know that enforcing boundaries is not always easy with a child who has both combined types of things. It can make saying no pretty interesting sometimes. I"ve learned though that when it comes to the no talking thing they will talk when they have something they want. If they are hungry then have them say what they want to eat for dinner if they are hungry or tell her you won't make it unless she does and she can make her own dinner then. At 12 she is capable of making a sandwich; she won't starve. ODD kids can be very stubborn but I've found sometimes my son can be very selfish and eventually there will be something your child wants bad enough that she will decide it's not worth not speaking. So, let her not talk just continue to function as a family around her. She will have a fit eventually but there does have to be some kind of boundary set and I think not having a monkey is a good place to start.

Nonie - posted on 01/14/2013

I have a son with ADD and ODD and he's 10 and big for his age. He has a fish, but just so you know it's against the law to have a monkey unless you have a special permit. I know that enforcing boundaries is not always easy with a child who has both combined types of things. It can make saying no pretty interesting sometimes. I"ve learned though that when it comes to the no talking thing they will talk when they have something they want. If they are hungry then have them say what they want to eat for dinner if they are hungry or tell her you won't make it unless she does and she can make her own dinner then. At 12 she is capable of making a sandwich; she won't starve. ODD kids can be very stubborn but I've found sometimes my son can be very selfish and eventually there will be something your child wants bad enough that she will decide it's not worth not speaking. So, let her not talk just continue to function as a family around her. She will have a fit eventually but there does have to be some kind of boundary set and I think not having a monkey is a good place to start.

Kelly - posted on 01/12/2013

OMG, seriously?
Believe me, they all get mad. Don't YOU get mad? DO YOU hold your breath because you don't get what you want? Do you want her to grow up and be spoiled or responsible? It's your responsibility to raise a responsible child / adult. Teach her that she need only have a tantrum to get what she wants and your life will be hell every day

Lacye - posted on 01/12/2013

If you are having trouble paying for her medication, then you don't need to be getting her these animals. She's 12 years old, it's time to face the realities of life that just because you want something does not mean you always get it. She will survive without the monkey and will start talking again. She will get over it.

Jacquelyn - posted on 01/12/2013

My nephew is 7, granted where they live at they can go to the Dr and the Dr will basically say a child has something wrong with them so they can get more money, but he was diagnosed with ADD. All our family and friends believe his behavior is that of a normal little boy. When he was in kindergarten and already on medicine his school suspended him for doing stuff that other boys do when they play, but since he was on medicine for ADD and needed special attention the school didn't want to give it to him. My sister and brother in law wont get my nephew a dog as much as he wants one and they tell him no all the time. He is disciplined constantly, I think overdisciplined sometimes, getting in trouble for things his sister does and his structure is nothing to be desired. When he stays with my mother or myself and my husband he is usually without medicine because his mother doesn't send it and he behaves very well. I think a lot of what helps is that we take him to church and he doesn't get that at home. I believe going to church helps a child tremendously with structure.

Kate - posted on 01/12/2013

I have a sister who acted out when she wanted things and my parents said no but she was manipulative n made them feel bad and theyd sometimes just buy it so shed relax but that was hard earned money they really couldnt waste on non sense.. We had all necessities and never went without food and had PLENTY of love. We lived the same upringing but are TOTAL opposites. Shes almost 30 and blames my parents for her problems ( diagnosed with bipolar but is in denial) and uses every man she meets for all hes got and is soo selfish. My point is that every kid is different even in the same home but bending over backwards for silly things like a monkey is tooo much!! F.Y.I monkey are like having a baby which means youll b the one careing for it. I know u probably feel bad because she has these conditions but you gotta say no...continue showing her love and perhaps seek professional help. Her behavior didnt just affect my parents it affected my whole family I go to a therapist and my sister is 1 of my main topics and it really helps...Good Luck

Dove - posted on 01/11/2013

So what if she gets mad at not getting what she wants. That's life.... You don't have to give in to her every desire and I'd be willing to bet anything that her therapist would agree with me. ODD and ADD kids need more discipline and structure to learn to function in society... not less.

Jodi - posted on 01/10/2013

If you can afford to let her have dogs and a monkey, you can afford to pay for her medication and food. She doesn't need a phone.

Jamie - posted on 01/10/2013

no i mean her medication and her phone bill and her clothes food and other i would let that come out of my pocket i said she would get mad if i dont get her what she wants soooo

Jodi - posted on 01/10/2013

So you want SSI for your daughter to support her dogs and a monkey? And you wonder why she is hard to pay for? I think the reason she is hard to pay for is because you are having difficult with the word "no". Practice it. Given she is only 12, you will need it a lot in the coming years. And I am pretty sure SSI isn't for supporting dogs and monkeys.