cannot stand perfect mums

Heather - posted on 11/29/2012

i am not a perfect mum but i cant stand the ones that make it so easy when we all know its not that easy and they look so perfect 24/7 i hate that and they seem to smile 24/7

Andrea - posted on 06/30/2009

Quoting Amanda:

hahaha oh boy, looks like someone has a bit of jealousy going on that she cant hold it together like some of us can . what did you think life with a baby would be like hun?
I read your rude post in the thread about moms who expect their babes to sleep throught he night and I for sure sense some huge jealousy and resentment.
FYI chicky boo, not one of use on here thinks we are perfect ok. Just because we read the books, and educated our selves and do the VERY BEST for our children does not mean we think we are perfect. All the sacrifices I have made for my children have been tough. keeping a perfect germ/dust free house to help my daughters allergies, waking every couple hours to make sure my failure to thrive baby eats, I happily do these things without whineing and bitching because I knew when I was pregnant that life with a baby wont be a bed of roses. each child is diferent, some are special needs like mine and need an immaculate house and are not allowed to sleep through the night. I think that the moms like me who are given these hard lives to live are envious of the moms with normal healthy children and get really pissed off when we read of moms with normal children taking the easy way out (spanking for the immidiate reasponse instead of time outs that may take longer but have less damaging effects, rice cereal in bottles to make them sleep, cio ect, all these actions are to benefit the mother not the child and they are harmful) we get mad about moms with these expectations because they are so selfish and only want what is best for themselves. tell me, if you had a special needs child would you not want to make sure you do EVERYTHING right.

My daughter was born almost 10 weeks early... I have done the 43 days in the NICU, I have done the worry about weight with the scheduled feedings, I have done the re hospitalizations, I have done the not doing the baby cereal, I have done the waiting to give solids, I have done the having to clean my house because my daughter can get infections easily, I have done not going out when it was RSV season, I have done PT when she didn’t' want to and I have also gotten mad when she was older and wouldn't sleep, I have done putting her down and walking away for a few mins, I have let her use a bouncer to calm her down, I have let her watch TV, I have let her eat fries and take out Chinese food. I have worried about her health and weight gain all the time. I do understand what it is like to have a special needs child but I do not do EVERYTHING right. I feel for you and wouldn't want any mother to deal with a child like ours My daughter has different needs and I take care of her needs as best I can. But just because mom's don't have a special needs child doesn’t not mean they are not doing everything wrong or they are selfish. I DO NOT get mad at moms who parent different then my way but I DO get mad at moms who say my way is wrong and you are selfish or lazy because you do things differently. I think the OP added this post because she or someone she knew was attacked via thread post. I am not perfect mom and I do want to do EVERYTHING right. But just because I look at things different doesn't mean me or someone else is wrong!!! I will say I do get jealous of other moms who have healthy babies and children but I don't take my jealousy out on them either. I cherish my daughter being with us everyday and would do anything for her.

Michelle - posted on 06/30/2009

I think every mother is perfect... for their own child!! My house is always a mess, because to be frank I'd rather have a nap with my daughter then clean up!! Not everyday, but sometimes it's nice! I formula feed my little girl and I don't think it's wrong! As long as your doing the best job you can, who cares what the "perfect" people think?!

Jodi - posted on 06/30/2009

My kids are now 17, 16, 14 and 13 - anybody who acts like they're the perfect mom is just that...an actor. No such thing as a perfect mom....other than the mom that loves her kids unconditionally.

Jodi - posted on 06/30/2009

My kids are now 17, 16, 14 and 13 - anybody who acts like they're the perfect mom is just that...an actor. No such thing as a perfect mom....other than the mom that loves her kids unconditionally.

Sarah - posted on 06/30/2009

These so called 'perfect' mums are probably putting on a front! A perfect mum in my opinion is one who loves their child/children unconditionally! My son frustrates me sometimes, which child doesnt frustrate their parents? My son is naughty occassionally and yes i do smack him but not too hard but hard enough for him to understand that if he's naughty again, he'll get exactly the same ! Discipline is the only way to control your children otherwise they are going to rule you, when you should be ruling them. Breast is best apparently, but what about mothers that cant breastfeed? I breastfed for a month and it killed me, my son made me bleed and i use to dread him waking up for snap! So he's been on formula milk since he was a month old and he's fine! He's such a happy chappy! Fair enough he picks up colds quite easily but i pick up things very easily and i was breastfed for 18 months! So it cant be because i didnt breastfeed him for long enough! Im a young mum and constantly get nasty looks from people but i dont care because i know i'm doing a good job! My son is always clean in morning until he gets his hands on his food, he's very happy, i let him make my rooms a mess with his toys, he's well behaved! So for these so called 'perfect' mums, ignore them, they think they are perfect but their children r probably missin out on what children should be doing! A child isnt a child unless they have dinner around their face, toys everywhere, throwin tantrums etc! Us 'normal' mums are the perfect mums!! Stuff those 'perfect' ones!

Misty - posted on 06/30/2009

First,No way am I perfect! I never breastfed,my child does watch tv,but I am also that mother that makes sure the house is clean and I have never spanked my kid(I got the glare down to a T)and still got compliments on how well behaved my daughter is.I do tell people about my daughters accomplishments because I am very proud of her,she can get dirty with the best of them,but knows the right time to stay clean.I am not perfect but when you choose to be a homemaker thats your job,theres a difference in being a stay at home mom and just being lazy,

Gizelle - posted on 06/30/2009

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!



I HATE "perfect" mums that make me feel like an absolute FAILURE

Shereen - posted on 06/28/2009

Bec you are soooo right. I am totally with you I believe that a smack when required does not constitute abuse. and formula or breast is an individual decision and do not let anyone tell you different. and frustrated I have 7 kids I know where you are coming from on that one

Paula - posted on 06/25/2009

yha get y there a lot of mum out there that think there perfect ??? im by no means but work blomming hard i have twin girls and one son , my mum still say she learning !! and is 74 yrs now has 4 daughters !!! it never easy been a mum or dad !! luv paula ;) x

Katherine - posted on 06/18/2009

Here Here!!!! I actually believe that making all these statements does make us perfect Mums since it means we are human and have our own emotional limits. We are in the front lines with our children, we take care of them, look after them, and are the first to receive the attacks when they are upset. Having other parents/caregivers --and my personal pet peev 'non-parents'-- make judgments only makes us more upset and that truly isn't fair to us.

Christina - posted on 06/14/2009

hun there are no perfect moms. i know im not. i just choose to do what is right for my kids at the time. sometimes it backfires and sometimes it dont. thats why its called live and learn.

Erin - posted on 06/14/2009

oh thank god! another 1 just like me!lol!

it shit's me to tears! listening to all of these women in public & every where i seem to be talking about how freakin wonderful it is to be a mother!

i agree with you completly!

erin..........

Diana - posted on 06/14/2009

You would have been my bff when my kids were small! I belonged to a play group and it didn't seem like anyone wanted a negative word uttered! Well, now I am a full time grandma and part time weekend nurse. My daughter works full time so I am raising a baby again! Not anymore perfect than the first time.

Diana - posted on 06/14/2009

You would have been my bff when my kids were small! I belonged to a play group and it didn't seem like anyone wanted a negative word uttered! Well, now I am a full time grandma and part time weekend nurse. My daughter works full time so I am raising a baby again! Not anymore perfect than the first time.

Melissa - posted on 06/14/2009

I agree with both posts Traci. Thanks for sharing

Traci - posted on 06/14/2009

Quoting Donna:

You know what I hate? When people say they LOVE being a mom! As if there isn't times it's not what it's cracked up to be. I love my kids but I'm not great at it, I don't love it, I do what I can and hope they turn out alright.

My kids drive me a little bonkers from time to time, but I cannot fathom ever saying I don't love being a mom.  Wow.  I don't even know how to respond to that one....

I, for one, ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE BEING A MOTHER.  It is the single most important job on the face of this earth.  That's just me, though :)

Traci - posted on 06/13/2009

Quoting Ariel:

Lol, should I list all the ways I fail at perfection :)
My housekeeping policy is-- if isn't wet, sticky, or just nasty it can wait.
My discipline policy-- is it worth fighting about?...
I have thrown things, I have cried, I have bounced up and down screaming with my daughter when things were just too much for us to handle (it felt good too!).
I have pretended holidays didn't exist so I didn't have to make plans for them (my kid didn't know Easter was a holiday until kindergarten).
I have removed the tray from the high chair and forgotten she wasn't buckled in.
I have put her in the car seat and forgotten the car seat wasn't buckled in!
I have sent her to school in the same clothes she wore all weekend, assuming (smack forehead) that a 10 year old would have the good sense to change her clothes.
My daughter is overweight and watches too much TV...I am overweight and spend too much time on the computer.
I refuse to cook at least once a week, or just make a frozen dinner or mac and cheese.
Laundry only gets done when we run out, and cleaning only gets done when we have guests coming.
So yeah, not only an imperfect mother, but also an imperfect wife :D

(I haven't screwed up too bad with the second kid yet, but I have a lot more help this time around too.)

Please tell me this is all sarcasm....all that simply cannot be true.  I would hope not, at least!

Amanda - posted on 06/13/2009

Quoting Catherine:

Quoting Melissa:

Quoting Guggie:

Actually, formula was originally created for orphans. The World Health Organisation lists formula last on the list of foods for babies. first the mom should try to nurse, then try to pump. then they should try for a wetnurse and if you can't find a wet nurse next you should get donated/bought human milk. if none of those options are available the WHO then recommends formula after checking with a doctor.

OMG - would you get over it alrady. i hate breast feeding nazies. formula is not poison it helps babies meet thier milstones quicker and more important FTT babies would die if it wasnt for formula. formula is more important then you realise do you know how many underweight babies there are out there. theres enough stupid people like you in the world who think breast is always breast so we hear it all the time i dont think we need to read about it in stupid internet stuff that probably isnt even true. who cares what you feed them milk is milk. mine is formula fed all the way has been since 2 weeks old and next will be formula fed to if i chose to express as well it will only be for a week or two to make sure the baby doesnt get constipation from it and to see what agrees with it

 

Actually a wet nurse sounds like a pretty good idea, somone else can feed my baby at night and I can benefit from the extra sleep, win win situation!

Wet Nurse Wanted:

Hungry 5 month old requiring fulltime wetnurse to provide 30-40ozs of breastmilk a day, no holidays or time off allowed, must be available 24 hours a day and at 5 minutes notice. Night shifts mandatory.  Will pay £50 a month.

Any takers??????????

thats funny! about what it would be like to. hahaha

Helen - posted on 06/13/2009

I, too, am not a 'perfect mom'. Actually, I don't think the perfect mom exists. We all get frustrated with our kids. Me, more so lately, as she is 12 and entering puberty. If this child is not PMSing, I don't know who is. She started to talk back, and be generally obnoxious at times. I too, have smacked her on the butt a time or two. This past week, after grounding her, I threatened her with a talk with our pastor if she doesn't shape up. (I'll grasp at anything I can.) LOL I think the key thing to parenting is to be consistent. I never would've threatened a talk with the pastor if I knew I wouldn't follow through with it if necessary. And, Katie knew that. So far, the rest of this week-- ok. BTW-- I bottle fed both of my children too. Don't sweat it when you read about some who think they are perfect. I bet eventually, even they will say something to their kids that their parents said to them that they swore they would never say to their own kids.

Betsy - posted on 06/13/2009

Quoting Donna:

You know what I hate? When people say they LOVE being a mom! As if there isn't times it's not what it's cracked up to be. I love my kids but I'm not great at it, I don't love it, I do what I can and hope they turn out alright.

So for those who actually do love it, should they lie and say they don't? Many people love careers, including parenting, that also include hard work. Some soldiers love being soldiers, though they aren't thrilled during dangerous events and risking injuries or death. Many doctor's love practicing medicine, though it's horrible to lose a patient and difficult to work insane hours. So why does it sound crazy that many moms love being moms, even though there are not so easy times that go with the joy? I know that's true for me. I wouldn't have 5 kids and want 3 more, if I didn't truly love it, good and not so good moments. The true love of it makes any job completely worth it, even when it tests you.

Donna - posted on 06/13/2009

You know what I hate? When people say they LOVE being a mom! As if there isn't times it's not what it's cracked up to be. I love my kids but I'm not great at it, I don't love it, I do what I can and hope they turn out alright.

Donna - posted on 06/13/2009

You know what I hate? When people say they LOVE being a mom! As if there isn't times it's not what it's cracked up to be. I love my kids but I'm not great at it, I don't love it, I do what I can and hope they turn out alright.

Kat - posted on 06/13/2009

There is no such thing as the perfect Mom! We do the best we can. As long as we love and care for our children and look out for their best interest and protect them. It is not the easiest job but it is the best job we will ever have.

Catrina - posted on 06/13/2009

My 2 year old get her butt smacked (even just once works most of the time) and we expect her to act a certain way. I know we aren't perfect but no one is. I breastfed for 4 months and then she stopped breastfeeding. I felt bad at first but it was also kinda nice to have others help me out with feeding her. Everyone has their own parenting style. what's right and what's wrong is all in how you feel. Although beating and neglect are never good things.

. - posted on 06/13/2009

Quoting Nicola:

if breast feeding was best and they advise not to give artiffical milk why make it.... altho i do not belive in smacking but a tap on the hand or the bottom as a child is still fragile no body is the perfect mum no one in the world not even the experts cos even tjhey come up with different stuff like when i had my daughter it was ok to feed them jars at 3 mnth but now its 6 month

Then why when I was in hospital (after giving birth at 37wks+1day) with severly inverted nippels which prevented me from breastfeeding, why did the nurses offer to feed my son a bottle of formula since I hadn't expressed that day? I mean hey, there were plenty of breastfeeding Mums down in the NICU that day, they could have said "why don't you just pop your son on one of the other mum's boobs so he can get real milk? I also had some nurses joking with me telling me the night I had my son that I had enough milk on my to feed all the babies in the hospital that night. From what I understand a mother's milk is specially designed for the mother's baby.

Here in New Zealand we have cereal brand called Farrex (made by Heinz), the baby cereal starts at 4 months.

There is no such thing as being a perfect parent, we raise our kids to the best of our abilities, give them the best possible start to life, love them and protect them, feed them, cloth them, give disapline when needed and we shouldn't be judged on that.

Meegan - posted on 06/13/2009

Well i must be a really bad mum because i didnt even try to breast feed, i had no inclination at all, just wasnt me, and you know all three of my kids were and still are completely healthy, as for the smacking i gave my eldest a smack on the butt when he was young in the super- market, when all else failed to stop the tantrum, and these to older women said to each other, loud enough for me to hear " these young girls just shouldnt have children they just cant handle them," i couldnt beleive it, your child your right to choose how to deal with bad behaivour.

Dubravka - posted on 06/13/2009

In my opinion all of us are the perfect moms for our young ones!!!

Neshamah - posted on 06/12/2009

"Not being perfect" is not a good enough excuse to hit your child. No one's perfect but we should give our children the best when it comes to 'teaching' and not punish them for being on this earth and not yet knowing how it all works. Hitting only teaches your child that hitting is ok.

No one's perfect. We all know it. Even those who look like the perfect ones are maybe looking at you thinking you're the perfect one. Quit worrying about it and enjoy you're children. Also make sure you take a break once in awhile for yourself.

Ilona - posted on 06/12/2009

Maybe we should create a group-UnPerfect Mums. Yes, I have feed my kids chips for breakfast before. I don't care if my kids have dirty faces and their clothes don't match all the time. My kids have been spanked. They have heard a lot of cussing in their short lives. But they are good kids who know the difference between right and wrong, and I don't think I need to give them an unrealistic idea of what a mom is. A mom is a person just like everyone else, and we make mistakes. We get mad, we have flaws. We are lazy a lot. No I wasn't able to breast feed either but I gave it a damn good shot. At least they didn't starve! My kids know love and life and that's all that's important! So to all those mom's who tell their SCREAMING fit throwing children in the store."Mommy would like it very much if you would please use your indoor voice"-just swat that childs rear-the rest of the world doesn't mind and if they do-oh well.

Betsy - posted on 06/12/2009

I still find this thread hillarious. Perfect is subjective and individual. One person's perfect is not another's, as one's happiness and contentment isn't another's. Some people are immaculate with cleaning, by nature. Some hate clutter (I do), while some thrive in it and have what I would call orgainized clutter. Some are slobs by nature. It's called individuality. Some one may buy a small home they adore and feel is so perfect, while another might have a 15k s.f. mansion they find to be perfection. People live different lives. If you are going to waste time measuring your life by another human beings, you have a long road ahead of you. If you are going to criticize someone you deem as "perfect", all you are doing is wasting your precious free time to do so and live with bitterness. All you can do is find happiness, pride and contentment in you, your own life, and family. The rest is just immature cattiness that is only wasting minutes of your life, and your life is too precious for that. Stop criticizing perfect and those you deem as perfect and find your perfect. It's a better use of time.

Maite - posted on 06/12/2009

Kudos to you. It is the most difficult job in the world to be a mother and I can't imaging doing it at your age. I do know of very successful and well adjusted adults that were raised by teenaged parents and it looks like you're on your way to raising a great child!

Chantel - posted on 06/12/2009

Quoting Martha:

I think you're all ridiculous. Of course I'm perfect and so are my children.

I gave birth at home with no medical intervention or medication. (That was my first child. My subsequent children were delivered at Elizabeth Arden where I went to have a facial and manicure. Needless to say, my make-up remained intact.)

I breastfed them until they were old enough to prepare meals for the entire family.

They never watched television but now they are making feature films (when they aren't writing novels and composing symphonies.)

They never required spanking, merely reprimanding when they failed to use the correct modifiers for their verbs.

My house is immaculate, I am a CEO of a Fortune 500 company, and my husband and I have sex constantly.

I will soon be the star of a reality television show featuring my perfect and extraordinary family for which we will be paid a six figure salary.

Boy, am I tired of all you whiners.

HAHAHA!!! Thats hilarious:) Whats your show called? I gotta see it;)

ASHLEY - posted on 06/12/2009

Wow, the lack of education and the plethora of insecurity in this group is ridiculous. I had to stop reading replies lest I get upset. Solids at 10 weeks, teen moms who can't even properly write in English, burgers and fast food, spanking under 2 years? WTF? I get angry too, but spanking doesn't teach a baby anything but fear. When they are older, maybe. Babies - NO! UGh. Some people disgust me. Messy houses are part of the mommy job description. As are sleepless nights and learning to deal with temper tantrums!

ASHLEY - posted on 06/12/2009

Someone sounds a bit insecure. I say, do what works best in spite of a different opinion on parenting. Stop caring how other people feel and what they say and have some confidence in yourself. Otherwise, you are inadvertently teaching your children to be insecure.

SHAWNTRECE - posted on 06/12/2009

I AGREE IM NOT PERFECT BUT I DAMNSURE DO THE BEST THAT I CAN NO ONE IS PERFECT IF THEY SAY THEY NEVER GET MAD OR FRUSTRATED THEIR LYING TRUST ME

Jacki - posted on 06/12/2009

Anyone who thinks they are a perfect Mom doesn't have teenagers. I have 4 great kids one who I already experienced teen years with and two more on their way too. My son as great a kid as he was and is broke my heart a couple times. I received some great advice from a friend who had already been through the teen faze. She said don't ever take anything personal that they say to you and that one day as long as you keep loving them that child will come back to you and love you like they did when they were little. It was true! The one thing I have told all my children is, I am Mom not God and I too make mistakes. I believe my children have a lot more respect for me knowing that I don't think I am without fault. All parents make mistakes... it is a learn as you go process. Every child is different and nobody knows your child the way you do. So their approach may work for their kids but maybe it wouldn't work for yours.

Martha - posted on 06/12/2009

I think you're all ridiculous. Of course I'm perfect and so are my children.



I gave birth at home with no medical intervention or medication. (That was my first child. My subsequent children were delivered at Elizabeth Arden where I went to have a facial and manicure. Needless to say, my make-up remained intact.)



I breastfed them until they were old enough to prepare meals for the entire family.



They never watched television but now they are making feature films (when they aren't writing novels and composing symphonies.)



They never required spanking, merely reprimanding when they failed to use the correct modifiers for their verbs.



My house is immaculate, I am a CEO of a Fortune 500 company, and my husband and I have sex constantly.



I will soon be the star of a reality television show featuring my perfect and extraordinary family for which we will be paid a six figure salary.



Boy, am I tired of all you whiners.

Jackie - posted on 06/12/2009

Post a reply! II am ritght there with you, like butter would not melt, Oh i never smack my children. Oh my jason eats spinach, or Tilly absolutely adores kiwi, you just want to slap them, end of. xxx

Jenny - posted on 06/12/2009

You go girl's as a 43yr old mum of two and now a grandmum of 1 with 2 more on way. I felt like I couldn't live upto other's expectations, I was a young mum and that in itself was frowned upon. It caused me to become a depressed anorexic mess which nearly killed me but then I had the revelation of just being me and being able to do what I knew was good for me and my kids, and now they both happily married having kids of their own and are a big part of my life and still come home and want to hang out with mum.

Sarah - posted on 06/12/2009

I didnt know there was such a thing as a perfect mum??!!??



I dont believe you should want to be a perfect mum, as there should always be room for improvement. If your children have a roof over their head, are loved, fed, warm and happy thats all that matters. These women that believe they are perfect mums are probably their own worst enemy as they put unrealistic standards on their efforts that they can never achieve and in the end they miss out on the relationship with their child cause they are too busy trying to look great. I have 3 kids, one is on the Autism spectrum, I do my best for them but I'm sure its not "perfect". But then....who is the ultimate judge?? The child I think.

Rebecca - posted on 06/12/2009

I agree, Im a young mum myself, when I had my 19 month old daughter I could not breatfeed because my daughter split my nipple inhalf because she couldn't latch properely, So I formula fed but still people look down apon me, kid's go from the baby toddler to chilhood stages every step learning new things and they just want's to get into everything and explore they are bound to get into mischeif and be naughty! It is ok to smack your children if they are naughty you are the parent you make that deciscion no one else has the right to stick there nose in.What the law doesn't believe in is belting your children and I'm sure a majority of you agree, I hate it when people stick their nose up at the way another mum disciplines there child because it doesn't meet their believe's or it's not the same way they do it. Or it's not ok because they have motherhood experience so they no better and no it all. Well Im a very strict mum I didn't grow up with a mum myself, I only had my father who was a very tough, strict man to get on with so I go by the experience and guidence that I was given by him.



I think all you so called perfect mum's ot there should worry about your own kid's not anyone else's, your not working hard enough if you have time to give Perfect Mummy Parent Lesson's, and you don't know why mother's parent they way they choose and every parent is different rememeber we go by what we have learn't ourselves, So you can all step down from your royal thrownes, your advice isn't wanted.

Jane - posted on 06/12/2009

Go to www.loveandlogic.com. For teens - I recommend: Shaping self-concept and Hormones and wheels. All of the stuff is good and you might be able to find some material at your library.

Kellie - posted on 06/12/2009

Is there such a thing as a perfect Mum ?????????????????????

Francesca - posted on 06/12/2009

Sarah who would ever criticize you for the spelling of your babies name?? thats pathetic!!!

Sarah - posted on 06/12/2009

I would like to pount out that just because we bottle fed doesnt mean we are bad parents... some babies just dont latch I had this one mom tell me I mean actually yell at me cuz I didnt wanna make my own baby food for thoughs moms that have enough hours in the day thats great but I barely find time to take a shower. by the time my daughter is in bed I'm to tired to even lift my head. then there was one that critisized the spelling of my daughters name it made me so mad...

User - posted on 06/12/2009

No one is perfect in my opinion!!!! I could only BF for so long until my milk dried up, my kids are perfectly fine ;) Yes, a naughty child deserves a smack, I didn't say a beat-down I said a smack!!! That's what is wrong with a lot of kids these days, they don't get the discipline that we got a children. I'm going to stop there b/c I could type forever on this topic.

User - posted on 06/12/2009

No one is perfect in my opinion!!!! I could only BF for so long until my milk dried up, my kids are perfectly fine ;) Yes, a naughty child deserves a smack, I didn't say a beat-down I said a smack!!! That's what is wrong with a lot of kids these days, they don't get the discipline that we got a children. I'm going to stop there b/c I could type forever on this topic.

Rebekah - posted on 06/12/2009

I am no perfect mum. I now use formula. I let them cry at night to see if they re-settle before I will get up to them. What else... :) Oh they weren't sleeping through at 8 weeks like "they should be if you're parenting right". LOL

Cathy - posted on 06/12/2009

Quoting Melissa:

Quoting Guggie:

Actually, formula was originally created for orphans. The World Health Organisation lists formula last on the list of foods for babies. first the mom should try to nurse, then try to pump. then they should try for a wetnurse and if you can't find a wet nurse next you should get donated/bought human milk. if none of those options are available the WHO then recommends formula after checking with a doctor.

OMG - would you get over it alrady. i hate breast feeding nazies. formula is not poison it helps babies meet thier milstones quicker and more important FTT babies would die if it wasnt for formula. formula is more important then you realise do you know how many underweight babies there are out there. theres enough stupid people like you in the world who think breast is always breast so we hear it all the time i dont think we need to read about it in stupid internet stuff that probably isnt even true. who cares what you feed them milk is milk. mine is formula fed all the way has been since 2 weeks old and next will be formula fed to if i chose to express as well it will only be for a week or two to make sure the baby doesnt get constipation from it and to see what agrees with it

Actually a wet nurse sounds like a pretty good idea, somone else can feed my baby at night and I can benefit from the extra sleep, win win situation!

Wet Nurse Wanted:

Hungry 5 month old requiring fulltime wetnurse to provide 30-40ozs of breastmilk a day, no holidays or time off allowed, must be available 24 hours a day and at 5 minutes notice. Night shifts mandatory.  Will pay £50 a month.

Any takers??????????