cannot stand perfect mums

Bec - posted on 06/07/2009 ( 445 moms have responded )

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OMG - am i the only mum out there that gets frustrated at her kids when they are naughty, or talk back at you, or dont sleep through the night? Am I the only mum who has fed their baby "artificial milk" yes, formula and not been able to breastfeed, and still believes that a smack to a naughty child is ok? I read so many posts on "perfect mums" totally hanging it on mums who dont follow their way of parenting and are totally bagged for it!! Well im here to bag out those mums of you who think you have it all together - teach us all the error of our ways - please - we are just not as good as you!

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Jessica - posted on 06/07/2009

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We may not be perfect mothers in societys eyes, but we are perfect in our childrens eyes and thats all that matters

Charmaine - posted on 06/07/2009

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I agree with you 100%! I also find it with people around me and it is so frustrating to look at them without wanting to tell them where to go! My daughter started crawling at 8mths, I didn't see anything wrong with that but to those around me their children were quicker and my child was a late developer! You know the ones, they fell pregnant straight away without any problems, and had the perfect pregnancy...and the perfect children. No one is a perfect parent and I can't stand people who make you feel inadequate as a mother. I try to keep my distance from those people nowadays because it became upsetting and I hated doubting myself as a Mother.

Mel - posted on 06/07/2009

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oh and yeah my house is a pig sty too every night until her nap time and i clean like hell the next day haha. toys everywhere dirty washing our alcohol bottles empty of course all over the longue room , baby bottles and cups, dirty pram and high chair, dirty dishes unmade beds yep im normal haha

Mel - posted on 06/07/2009

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im soo with you. some of the morons on here act like they are so perfect and post this crap on how good of a mother they are because this is their routine and they never let their baby CIO and take alll this time out to tell us how they dress thier baby when they take them for walks etc. i reckon these are the ones you have to worry about. dont worry most of us are all with you especially mothers of more then one child. i formula fed, i would be angry if my little one woke up over night, i would get frustrated and smack my child if they talked back and yes alot of us good mothers who know about discipline get bagged on here. so dont worry about it! ignore them , nobody is a perfect mother!

Wendy - posted on 06/07/2009

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Hiya, I'm a 34 year old mum of three kids aged 7, 4 and 21 months and I certainly aint perfect! All three of my kids are telly addicts, they have been known to have crisps or biscuits for breakfast, they go to bed late (which means they get up late), my house always looks like a bomb site and I chose to bottle feed all three of them. The worst of my crimes? Giving them solids around the ten week mark. My goodness do people go mental over that one! However, on the plus side my kids are all clean and healthy and we have tons of fun together. At the end of the day kids remember how much fun they have with you rather than how clean your house was or that you only fed them organic food. I'm enjoying my kids right now but I'm looking forward to the future of an ALWAYS spick and span organised home x

Alex - posted on 06/07/2009

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Wow Gemma I wouldn't have picked up you're a teen mum. I'm 27 and I can tell you, I didn't have your maturity when I was your age. Good on you, and good on your partner for doing what he can :D

Bec - posted on 06/07/2009

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Quoting Gemma:

well im a teen mum yes i had my little girl at 16 and i dont care what people think i didnt breastfeed iver, and im not the perfect mum but i see my self as a good mum as i do everything a can for my little girl and no your not the only 1 who get stressed with everything your kid does wrong im the same but i dont take it out on my little girl i run off to the bathroom to carm down my partners the same same things our little girl does really gets to him like when she dont sleep or wont eat but i think every mum and dad are like that and if they say they dont do that they are lieing but it hasnt stopped me and my partner having another baby, i get really fed up with people judging teen mums im not saying all teen mums are great coz they aint but i dont see what im doing wrong my partner works 6 days a week so we can be a happy family but people look at us and think oh they dont work and judge you and i dont think its right at all so your not alone on this?


Hey Gemma - im 34 and i used to run a youth group for teens yrs ago. One of those girls got pregnant and had a little baby girl and she is a fantastic mum. I think teens who have babies are amazing! She comes round often and i often wonder how she does it. It would be hard to manage all the things that go with being a teenager then suddenly having to shift ur mindset and grow up to look after a child - good on ya!! And ur right, as long as you dont take out ur frustration on them, its ok to feel that way - it doesnt make us bad mums - just human!



 



 

Alex - posted on 06/07/2009

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You've done well to have three - I have my hands full with one!!!!

To add to my less than perfectness, I've become quite competitive (which I was hoping not to do). Nothing really worse than a mother constantly boasting about how fantastic their kid is. However since I've admitted it - vote for my little Lucy in a NZ comp - if she wins she gets on the cover of a magazine (would do my ego a world of good!!!! :D)



http://www.coverbaby.co.nz/ViewEntries.a...



(you won't get any unsolicited emails by voting :D)



What a great thread - it actually feels really good to get out all the things you're not quite proud of :D

Gemma - posted on 06/07/2009

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well im a teen mum yes i had my little girl at 16 and i dont care what people think i didnt breastfeed iver, and im not the perfect mum but i see my self as a good mum as i do everything a can for my little girl and no your not the only 1 who get stressed with everything your kid does wrong im the same but i dont take it out on my little girl i run off to the bathroom to carm down my partners the same same things our little girl does really gets to him like when she dont sleep or wont eat but i think every mum and dad are like that and if they say they dont do that they are lieing but it hasnt stopped me and my partner having another baby, i get really fed up with people judging teen mums im not saying all teen mums are great coz they aint but i dont see what im doing wrong my partner works 6 days a week so we can be a happy family but people look at us and think oh they dont work and judge you and i dont think its right at all so your not alone on this?

Bec - posted on 06/07/2009

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haha - well ladies, u have made me feel better about myself - there are other people out there like me!!!! I love my kids (3 boys) to bits and im not perfect, i make mistakes and i get things wrong - that why iv had 3 kids!! iv gotten a little better each time!

Alex - posted on 06/07/2009

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So true - how can too much tv be bad when she's only 8 months old. It stops her grizzling when I'm getting her bottle, and nothing else will do it. It's so funny to hear her chuckling at the tv - but then I feel terrible because everyone says tv is evil....



Bec at least your kids don't spend too much time on the pc as you're obviously monopolising it (hahahaha :D)

Sarah - posted on 06/07/2009

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Quoting Bec:

oh and my kids are hyped up on sugar and watch too much tv too!! Man i think i failed the good mother of the year award. I dont suppose any of the perfect mums will post on here though, they probably dont sit at the computer because they are too attentive to their kids every movement - oops failed again!


hahahahahaha *pauses to inhale* hahahahahahaha!!!



fair play! it's great to know that there are other mum's out there like me!! :)

Jodie - posted on 06/07/2009

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I was just thinking the same thing the other day - but to me everyone is a perfect mother - all those that try their hardest - no matter how they bring up their children - do a good job - I personally am surprised my neighbours don't come by on a regular basis to check my bubba :)

Bec - posted on 06/07/2009

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oh and my kids are hyped up on sugar and watch too much tv too!! Man i think i failed the good mother of the year award. I dont suppose any of the perfect mums will post on here though, they probably dont sit at the computer because they are too attentive to their kids every movement - oops failed again!

Sarah - posted on 06/07/2009

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Quoting Alex:

Oh my house is messy pretty much all the time - doesn't help that my little one hates the vacuum (excellent excuse really). I only tidy it up when I know someone's coming over - the suprise visits really catch me out!!! :D


phew!! glad i'm not the only one!! hahahaha!! those surprise visits are a pain!! haha!! :)

Alex - posted on 06/07/2009

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Oh my house is messy pretty much all the time - doesn't help that my little one hates the vacuum (excellent excuse really). I only tidy it up when I know someone's coming over - the suprise visits really catch me out!!! :D

Sarah - posted on 06/07/2009

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ssshhhhhh, don't tell anyone, but sometimes, my house is messy too!! ;)

Bec - posted on 06/07/2009

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thank you ladies you have restored my faith in humanity!!! Its nice to know that we are all just human and not altogether perfect -as long as we love our kids, then the way in which we raise them is up to us!

Alex - posted on 06/07/2009

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I'm definately not a perfect mum - my daughter gets formula as my supply ran out when she was 4 months old - yes I got the guilts, but not anymore. I get fustrated, although she's not old enough to be naughty enough to be smacked (she's only 8 months).



Completely believe that we are all human and just doing the best we can :D

Tracey - posted on 06/07/2009

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I agree with u......totally. Altho i did breast feed for as long as i could....not till the child entered school but when she turned 1. I had a house to paint. Perfect mothers--- I give u 3---I had a mate harangued by her partner's sisters and mother about walking out onto the footpath outside there home instead of losing control and possibly killing her child after 3 days of hell with no assistance from these people or her partner!

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