Child Protective services is a headache

Amanda - posted on 11/11/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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3 years ago, My Daughter fell and hit her head pretty hard on the floor and a hairline fracture occured on her skull. CPS got involved when i tried to get medical care for my daughter, They tried to charge me for Physical Abuse/Neglect and the case was closed as unfounded. I'm Thinking like do they always get involved when a child gets hurt. Doesnt children get hurts all the time or was i targeted because i was a single parent that goes to work and school full time.
My daughter is 6 years old now, she started kindergarten, anyway, to make long story short, I get a call from a case worker, stating she got a report of physical abuse. I'm thinking now, what is it now, she has no injuries not what so ever. she finally came to my home with some pictures of my daughter's back (pictures without my permission of my daughter) which was taken at her school. I'm staring at the picture realizing exactly what this false alarm was all about. Those are her birthmarks, they are called "MONGOLIAN SPOTS" very common skin discoloration. and with previous records i was forced to get documents concerning the Mongolian spots of my child. Really? That is like saying your freckles are cigarette burns. I am constantly getting harassed by CPS, and its really starting to piss me off. They got a report on false bruises and they are still coming to my home and checking up on my daughter. Is this legal, can they really do this.

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Kelina - posted on 11/11/2011

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A hairline fracture on the skull isn't a common injury for most kids but is a good indicator of abuse. you said she hit her head pretty hard, try putting yourself in the doctors shoes-you know how hard this child would have had to hit their head and while there's the chance that it was an accident it's far more likely that someone threw this child or hurt them deliberately. I know it's a pain but that doctor did the right thing because if he hadn't that means he's probably not calling in for things like that on other kids and that could mean a child could get seriously hurt or die at their parents hand because he thought it was just an accident. What you have to remember is that parents who hurt their kids LIE. they tell the doctors it was an accident, that the child fell, that they ran into a wall while playing etc. The same thing goes for the school. I'd never heard of Mongolian spots until this post so I went and googled them and they do look a lot like a fading bruise. now if this bruise never faded completely that could be an indication that it's getting repeatedly injured at home, so the school did the right thing, the same as the doctor. And CPS did their job by making you prove what they are because once again bad parents lie. they will make up any excuse under the sun, oh it's a birthmark, or dirt or whatever. CPS isn't harassing you because it's their idea of fun or a good time, they are trying to make sure that your child is safe. I agree with Annie, invite them over, don't be afraid to show them anything or answer their questions and above all don't refuse to allow them in your home because what would that tell you if someone refused to allow you in their home? probably that something was wrong and they were hiding something. don't get angry because they're doing their job.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/11/2011

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Yes it is legal, and yes they can really do this. If they have a report of child abuse, someone is calling them on you. I would be calling a lawyer to deal with this. Don't take chances.

Katherine - posted on 11/11/2011

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I work in daycares and schools and have NEVER heard of these, I am actually googling them right now!!!



That being said, I've had to take pictures of a child in my care, I had worked in the center for only a couple of weeks and everyone told me that this family was FANTASTIC, loving, would never hurt their child. I took the pictures, kept them in my room as a just in case, nothing else ever happened, no more bruises nothing so when I left the center I handed them over to the next teacher, just in case.





Have you thought of educating the teachers/educators and the CPS workers about these?

Amanda - posted on 11/11/2011

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I completely understand that CPS is doing there job, I am more upset about the one that reported this false accusation. Mongolian Spots is a very common skin discoloration. They are clearly not bruises and doesn't look anything like them. I believe that all schools should be aware of this type of birth mark, we are all aware that CPS can just take your child away from there loving homes due to false accusation such as these.

Annie - posted on 11/11/2011

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I don't know about legalities but i too have been targeted by social services in the past (also when i was the one seeking help for an illness of my child) and i understand your annoyance and maybe even fear.I always worry,what if they get it wrong?I know i am a good mother,but they see what they want sometimes.When i was under their scrutiny,i just did my best and invited them over.It seemed to work.No more visits.I would advise you not to let them get to you or even show annoyance or they may misunderstand.Keep your cool,eventually they will have to back off if there is no substance to their claims.Good luck!

Katherine - posted on 11/11/2011

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Schools and other child care places are LEGALLY able to take pictures of your child without your consent if they feel that child is being abused.

Amy - posted on 11/11/2011

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The school did what they are supposed to do if they suspect abuse. If it's nothing then you have nothing to worry about. I'd rather have them be over reacting, you hear all the time about children who slip through the cracks and are seriously injured at the hands of their parents. I'm sure it's a big pain in the butt for you but they're doing their job, just like you do when you go to work everyday.

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