Child Support and Should to Get Full Custody 2?

Darnisha - posted on 02/09/2010

His stepmom runs a daycare and thats how he got RSV

Darnisha - posted on 02/09/2010

I live in texas

Nicole - posted on 02/05/2010

I don't have the answer but I do know that a LEGAL custody agreement must be made. Whatever agreement is made must be upheld and you need to keep a log of every conversation, every visit, any interaction that is made. The custody agreement is important because without it your childs father could move away with the child and you would have no legal document saying that he can't. I have a family friend who had a friendly relationship with her childs father (the child is 9) and she stayed with her dad for the summer. Now the mom is stuck in the court system because her daughter and the father moved away during the summer. This is an extream case but please realize that a custody agreement is important no matter what the agreement is.

Kendra - posted on 02/05/2010

I am in Colorado so laws may be different in your state but here is what I know.....You can NOT have one parent sign away rights unless there is another parent who will be adopting the child at the same time. You can get full physical custody and based on his history there is also laws in place that would consider Abandonment of the child in which case he would not get visitation! If you can buy diapers on your own stop calling him and asking for help, see what he does on his own! I have two boys ages 10 and 9 from a previous relationship and I thought like you did that the best thing for my kids was to have thier father. I was wrong, the "Shady" behavior that they show is not going to get better because you are trying to show him what a wonderfull blessing he has in his son. He doesn't care if he did he would be involved on his own you wouldn't have to force it. It is better in the long run for your son to have no dad and a wonderfull mother, than to have a dad he has to beg to love him. The older he gets the more YOU will pay for the actions or lack there of from his father. I now have a 10year old that has refused to see his dad since sept. 09 and actually calls my husband his "real" dad. And I have a 9 year old who is still trying to get his dad to Love him, my son is disrespectful to me and takes the anger he has for his dad out on me, while at his dad's he acts like an angel because his dad buys him something everytime he is there. My point may sound harsh and unkind, but I have lived this for 8 years and every year it gets worse. My 9 year old had refused to speak to or go to his dads right along with my 10 year old, until after 2 months the "dad" called and told me that he wanted me to release him of his rights and my husband could be thier dad!!!!! All about $$$$$ and I only recieve 287. a month for two kids that he only has every other weekend! Maybe if yours has to pay support he will go into hiding! In my opinion it would be the best thing for your son!

Brittney - posted on 02/05/2010

I think you should do both. My mom was a single parent and I did just fine without my dad. Maybe when you little one gets older you can ask him if he want to see his dad thats what my mom did but till then you get full custody of him

Katie - posted on 02/05/2010

I would go down to the court house and fill for everything. He make be acting shady like this now, but you need to have custody orders in place incase he pulls something down the line. If he is given vistiation and chooses not to use it document it, and everything up to this point.

Sheldon - posted on 02/05/2010

you should go and see a lawyer and get coustoy sorted so you have the day to day jub of raising your son the Dad will get some visertation rights but that is ok as long as he's looking after baby and keeping him safe if not that again is wear you bring in a lawyer a good thing about you having coustody means your ex cant just decide one day to keep im and not bring him home one day and then there would be a coustody battle (this happend to a mate of mine) and also even though they cay he can have baby for this and that day or weekend dont mean he will get off his arse to have him but at least you can record the times he dont bother for any firther problembs with courts or things and as for child support why shouldnt he pay it has to show some responcibility for his actions :)

Meagan - posted on 02/05/2010

Hunni get urself a lawyer and look into what kind of legal action u can take! I don't see why a judge wouldn't grant u full custody especially if he hasn't been there. no offense but he sounds lyke he is irresponsible and he only saw him one time when we was sick? thats so wrong! u have every right to try and get full custody he's had all that time to try and be a father & so far it seems lyke he's not making a real effort. do what u feel is right for u & ur son.

Jennifer - posted on 02/05/2010

Gaining full custody is a challenge. You will have to prove that he is an unfit father. Unfortunately, they are allowed to be rotten fathers and still be considered fit by legal means. If you can afford an attorney for yourself, get one. It helps immensely. Once your case goes to court, the jugde will most likely order you and the father to pay for an attorney whose sole purpose will be to represent the childs best interest. If the court will not grant you full custody, the only other way I know of to get him out of the childs life is for him to sign papers giving up his parental rights. He may just be willing to do this once he's forced to pay child support. Good luck.

Tah - posted on 02/05/2010

ok, the RSV''he prob didn't get it from his house, lots of children get it, usually premature babies, but not always..in case it happens again, ok...if you want custody by all means file, but the courts wont allow him to be all yours. they may give you full physical custody and him visitation and if he doesn't use them, then that is on him. You haven't said he is abusive, he just isn't a good father right now, so the courts will look at it that way. best wishes.