Chirstmas Birthday

Stephanie - posted on 02/23/2009 ( 38 moms have responded )

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My daughter's birthday is the day after Christmas. Yuck!!! I have heard of people doing birthday's in the summer say a 3 1/2 birthday. What do you think? Any other suggestions?

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Tracy - posted on 02/25/2009

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My son's birthday is in January, and prior to this year, that is when we have always held it. This year however, we had three new babies in the family between December and January, and there was just never time to plan him a party. So, I asked him (he's 9 now) and he said he would rather have his party in the spring or summer when it's warmer. We still had a family party on his birthday, but the "friends" party will be in May or June.

Shelly - posted on 02/25/2009

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My daughter's birthday is also on the 26th of December. She enjoyed having it celebrated that day. She looked at it that she got more presents when others had kind of a let down day. We had her party on a weekend at the beginning of the month when she was younger and over break as she got older. Make sure to use birthday paper and can undecorate the tree and redecorate for birthday. One year had streamers and balloons and called it a birthday tree for her and her friends. They all loved it! I think most of the time it depends on the attitude of you how they will react to it as they get older. They can still swim at an indoor pool or chose to go ice skating which you can't do in the summer. My daughter is now in college and looks forward to a day of bargain shopping with her grandmother and mom. She knows she'll get twice as much and will get to pick it out besides. Of course we always have a cake and something special for her to open besides her day of shopping. She enjoys this time with family.

Malinda - posted on 02/25/2009

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Hooray for Capricorns!!



My birthday was December 29th and honestly I didn't have a birthday party until I was 17. I know my mom tried, but nobody would ever come. Even to this day it's like pulling teeth to get people out to dinner or something on my b-day. I love the Birthday Tree idea, and honestly always wished we could do the half-birthday thing. It might be a little confusing, but it's always fun to have a little party in the summer!



I think the important thing is to make your child feel special on her birthday. And I fully agree with the No combo-gifts or x-mas paper sentiments!!

Holly - posted on 02/25/2009

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My lil girls bday is 12/29 and I made it very clear the day I gave birth to her that she was to have her own special day each year. There were not to EVER be christmas/birthday gifts and that if they couldnt respect that then they need not waste their money. I make sure all the christmas decor is down before her party and it looks like any other normal day. As she has gotten older I try to plan things more to her taste due to the fact her sister has a late summer bday and gets to do all the fun outdoor stuff, so I try to plan her party at places like McDonalds or Chucky Cheese. Just as long as you focus on your child it doesnt matter what time of year their bday is because they will know that they are loved and special.

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My sons birthday is also the day after Christmas.   He is 14 now and loves his birthday.  We usually have his parties about two weeks before, just to make sure people are in town.  I have always tried to make his day special and away from Christmas by telling all of my family that they need to make a special trip to see him the day after Christmas instead of giving him his present on Christmas day to hold or to get him one big gift for both.  When he was smaller, we would take the Christmas tree down the morning of the 26th, so he would feel as if it were his day.  If you make it fun, then she won't know the difference.  Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 02/25/2009

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This thread has been great! I love the Birthday Tree idea-I think I will start that next year for my youngest whose birthday is on Christmas! I wish I had thought to do it since her first birthday, but she will be 4 next year, so she won't really remember birthdays prior to that anyway.

Ashley - posted on 02/25/2009

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I understand what you're saying, but I have to recommend celebrating her birthday on her actual birthday. My daughter was born last October, but MY birthday is Christmas Eve. It was hard growing up because Santa came that night and I could never have a slumber party on my birthday like other girls, but I never had to go to school and I was always with my family. Just make sure you make that day HER day, completely separate from Christmas. My grandmother used to set up her tree in her front living room and in her back family room she would have very few Christmas decorations and she'd set up my "birthday table" in the corner with a happy birthday banner over it about a week before my birthday. As long as she feels like it's her day, that's all that matters.

Jolene - posted on 02/24/2009

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My sons birthday is December 23rd.   He usually has "two" birthdays..........one is a party with his friends and extended family.  That party is usually the big one.  I have it either two weeks before  Christmas, or two weeks after.   The date is usually not important.  What is important is that on December 23 we celebrate him.  Its small, his favorite foods for the day, birthday cake and ice cream after supper.......and a present.  Usually we give him the one we knows he wants the most!!    I do it this way because he was soo heartbroken the one year we tried to do it on his actual birth day, and his friends were unable to show up due to it being soo close to christmas.  

Darlene - posted on 02/24/2009

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hi, my son's birthday is 12/27/05 so I do run into that problem as well, HOWEVER that is when he was born so thats when we celebrate- it turns out it is nice because more family is either home for the holidays or off of work or something so everyone is able to be there-



if you think its too close to christmas or even New years or just too busy of a time to have another party...have his party either in the beginning of Dec or after the chaos- like 2nd week of january...people will understand but it is your child's Birth-day!



 

Donna - posted on 02/24/2009

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My b-day is also on the 26th of Dec. I remember as a child celebrating either 2 weeks earlier or either in Jan.  My first sleep over with a bunch of friends when  I was 13 was toward the end of Jan.  Due to no school, and a lot of friends were with their family.  As a child it can be pretty rotten.  Just make sure you make it a big deal for her, always use birthday wrap paper.  I remember that use to bother me when friends or family would use the Christmas paper.   Good Luck. 

Kirsten - posted on 02/24/2009

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My coworker shared a nice idea with me on this subject today. 2 of his 4 kids (now teenagers) have birthdays within a week of Christmas, as does my newborn. In his family, each of the kids gets a "birthday tree" in their bedroom in addition to the Christmas tree, and their birthday presents get piled up there to be opened on their birthday. As they got older, they got to choose when they had a party with their friends...birthday or half birthday, and it worked out nicely.

Jessica - posted on 02/24/2009

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my daughters birthday is the day after christmas as well. She just turned one this year and we decided from the day she was born that her first birthday would be on the day of her birthday. It was very hard because a lot of people couldn't make it to her party. Most everyone was worn out from christmas that they just didn't get around to her party. We discussed it after that, that it isn't fair for her to not have a birthday party that people can come to so we are going to have her party at a different time with the family and friends and then on her birthday have something a little special just the four of us...her brother and her and then my husband and I. I think it will be the hardest when they get older and are in school having the birthday parties with friends staying the night and stuff so I am all for a 1/2 birthday. Then again a lot of people thought I was crazy because both of my kids had a 6 month birthday party. When Imli gets a little older we are going to actually let her pick her birthday (with her friends) and that will be the day that we have it every year. Hope this was helpful...

Karen - posted on 02/24/2009

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My son was born on 12/21.  I tried the half birthday thing once and it was too confusing.  My other kids with summer birthdays wanted half birthdays too.  What I do to make it special is a birthday tree.  I bought a small artificial xmas tree and decorated it with birthday favors and over the years special school crafts he had done.  It is in his room.  We put it up 2 weeks before his birthday and leave it up till the other xmas decorations come down.  He is 19 years old now and still appreciates it.   Also,  I treat his birthday like it was any other birthday.  Lots of gifts, cake, parties, etc.  And Christmas is Christmas.   It is a little extra work for mom during the busy holidays but I know my son has never felt slighted because of Christmas.

Tricia - posted on 02/24/2009

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My birthday is 12/24 and growing up I remeber how hard it was for my mom to plan a birthday party for me around Christmas.  My dad would not let her give me a party in the summer because he said it was not my birthday then.  Would it have been great to have a pool party or whatnot yes, but there are all kinds of fun things you can plan for a winter birthday party too.  You can always have her birthday party the week before Christmas or the week after New Years.  Kids don't really care when their party is as long as they are not forgotten.  Good luck!

User - posted on 02/24/2009

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Quoting Stephanie:

Chirstmas Birthday

My daughter's birthday is the day after Christmas. Yuck!!! I have heard of people doing birthday's in the summer say a 3 1/2 birthday. What do you think? Any other suggestions?



My daughter's birthday is on Christmas Eve.  We only do a party for her every other year.  For her birthday, I usually get her a gift that is significant to her getting older (ie. jewelry instead of a toy).   If we do a party, it's usually after Christmas and it's fine with her.  She just thinks that she celebrates her birthday for 2-3 weeks.  Her birthday party that we did a month ago was a pool party at the YMCA.  We brought a summer theme into the winter blahs.   But if it makes you feel better, do the 1/2 birthday party.  Then you can have more options during the summer.  Best wishes on whatever you decide!

Sonya - posted on 02/24/2009

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My daughter's b-day is Dec. 22. We have not had a problem so far. She likes her birthday in the winter because she likes the snow. But a lot of my family is born in the winter, so when their kids started school they would do something the weekend befor winter break. But if its weather that you are worrid about do a her birthday party at a hotle with a pool. Its just like having their birthday in the summer and usually doesn't cost that much, just the pool fees. Hope it helps

Kelly - posted on 02/24/2009

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Wait, wait, wait, I think I've got you all beat...LOL, of my 4 kids, three are in December! We have a Dec. 13, a Dec. 15, and YES, drumroll...our youngest was born on Christmas Day. Our other one is in February, so no summer birthdays for us. We have always done a party or outing or whatever with their friends a week or two before the actual birthday (individually of course), and then we have a party at home with the grandparents for all three together. The one that was born on Christmas was born at 4:50 in the afternoon, so for her first birthday, we had Christmas all day (house full of people), but at 5:00 in the afternoon, Christmas was over and it was her birthday. But since then, other than telling her Happy Birthday, we just do it another day. Another funny part of this story, is that both of my sister-in-laws are Dec. birthdays (11th and 24th), and my oldest son's girlfriend of the last 3 years is also Christmas Eve. I say he might as well go ahead and plan on marrying her, she fits right in! I never cared for the half-year birthday thing personally, just seems like trying to change something vital about them.

Esmeralda - posted on 02/24/2009

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The whole combination gifts is a definite no,no.  Before my son was born we made sure everyone new that combination gifts were not acceptable and not fair.  No problem with the hubbie's family since my brother in law's birthday is 5 days before christmas.

Kelly - posted on 02/24/2009

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My daughter was born on December 20th.  It was never a problem.  I planned birthday parties in early December and had great Winter themes.  On the actual day...we would have a small celebration.  A winte baby is a winter baby!  Enjoy the season.

Kate - posted on 02/24/2009

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I have heard of a few people doing this...it's such a hassle, on top of all the Christmas rush, to get a child's birthday party together too. And the child is stressed too because it is Christmas. I agree with using the KISS method..whatever works...I hav enever heard of a child minding when thier birthday is celebrated, just that it is celebrated.

Amy - posted on 02/24/2009

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Oh, and when my son gets older (teen years) I'm sure we will give him the option to celebrate later, if he wants to do something to celebrate his b-day when it's warmer out (but I think b-day gifts should be given near the b-day, and no double gifting :) haha

Amy - posted on 02/24/2009

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I agree with Tessa....sucks that my son was born on the 27th of December...but that's the day he got, so we have a small family dinner together with cake on that day, then I usually have a party for him a month later when everyone has recovered from x-mas....I always get him something big for christmas and something big for his b-day (amoungst other small gifts of course) It would be lame if I had a december b-day for my other son who was born in the summer....gotta be fair :) just my opinion :)

Kim - posted on 02/24/2009

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i had a December baby too, 5 days after Christmas. We are planning on doing the half birthday thing once she is old enough, right now shes only 8 weeks old, so we probably won't start until about 2 1/2.

Ashley - posted on 02/24/2009

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I feel your pain, my Xander's birthday is also the day after Christmas. We actually decided to hold off and just have his birthday at the end of Jan. We also thru around ideas of having a party on new years since the family would already be together.

Kerrianne - posted on 02/24/2009

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My mom's b-day is on Christmas.  I grew up with b-day cake on Christmas and now that I am grown and away from the house it just isn't Christmas without b-day cake.  I buy b-day cake even if she isn't with me for Christmas.  We made sure the celebration of her b-day was seperate from the Christmas activities.  B-day cake and icecream after dinner and yes a seperate gift and card for her birthday in Birthday wrapping paper. Anyways,  it really doesn't matter what day it is on as long as you make sure you acknowledge the B-day and she will feel just as special as if it was in June.  Only parents get hung up on these things believe me this thought will never enter your daughter's mind just as long as you put as much thought and emphisis into her special day as you did Christmas or if it was in June.  I think hav a seperate 1/2 birthday in the summer cheapens her actual birth date.  To me it sends a message that the original day is not good enough or convienant enough for Mom and Dad.  Just my thoughts.

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My sister's birthday is the 23rd and growing up I always thought that was a terrible time to have a birthday but now I think it's great and I know she always loved it.  She doesn't like to have all the attention focused on her anyway.  We still had parties and sleep overs around that time of year.  It wasn't always on her birthday but I think it worked out well because the parents then had a chance during the party to do some last minute shopping or wrapping.  And I don't even think she minded the combined gifts because she would always get something bigger for her birthday than we did.

Nicole - posted on 02/24/2009

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My oldest's birthday is Dec 30. I always just have a family party near his birthday. When he gets older I think I'll do the kid parties at the beginning of Jan. I think it's important to celebrate as close to the day as possible, I would never do a 1/2 year bday.

Amie - posted on 02/24/2009

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Jennier your right. I forgot to add that. Please don't do the combination gifts. Christmas and birthday are two different things.

Jennifer - posted on 02/24/2009

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Well, I grew up with that Birthday (Dec. 26th) and it wasn't easy in the preteen/teen years. Friends could never do sleep overs because of the holidays so my Mom did do half birthday parties for me  in the Summer.  She continues to make a big deal out of my Birthday, I'm 38 now.  I would advise staying away from combination gifts - I still require "preapproval" for those!



Capricorns rock. Good luck

Amie - posted on 02/24/2009

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My niece birthday is the 26 of Dec. She's older now, so she likes to have her party in the summer. But we always have a party on her b-day for family. Plus it helps us all get together. We didn't start the summer parties untill she was old enough to start making friends. I hope this helps.

Esmeralda - posted on 02/23/2009

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My son's birthday is also the day after Christmas.  I did his first on the 26th, but for now we do just go to dinner, someplace fun, then we meet the grandparents and godparents for cake at home.  This way he still gets his special day with us and we are not runing around like made play host and hostess.  We are planning his half birthday in the summer.  Good Luck and have fun.

Kate - posted on 02/23/2009

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Quoting Sue:



Hi... My daughter's bday is 12/21 and we have had the dilemma with what to do too. We have tried a couple different things. The one that seems to work the best... we celebrate on her birthday with the family because that is her "special day". So we give her a gift, go out to dinner to a place of her chosing and share a nice dessert. Then we have a "friend" party for her half birthday. She likes that better because the weather is nicer and we have more to chose from of what we can do, she also likes the fact that we can pick a date when families are not away on vacation.






Hope you find a solution that works for you and your family!





This is what my mother always did for me...My birthday is Christmas Eve...



 



We would gave dinner out and/or family over on my birthday...Have gifts...NO CHRISTMAS ON MY BIRTHDAY though!  And then (sometimes, not always) I would have a "half-birthday party", but it wasn't a birthday party in the gifts and whatnot, only in that I got to have a party and have all of my friends over...And ice cream cake!



 



The biggest thing...Never, under any circumstances, wrap a birthday gift for a Christmas birthday in Christmas paper!!  Wrap it in newsprint if you must, but NO CHRISTMAS WRAP!!!  Other than that, no worries...

Andrea - posted on 02/23/2009

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My birthday is also in December, although in the beginning. I remember wanting a pool party and watermelons for my birthday. Of course, this was not practical. My mom did always wrap my birthday presents in birthday paper. It was a big deal to me. I told her one year, "I'm not Jesus. I don't want Christmas paper. I want birthday paper." You could have a small party in the warmer months and celebrate her "un-birthday" like in the Disney movie (I think Alice in Wonderland). I keep thinking of the song "and a very merry Un-birthday to you..."

Sue - posted on 02/23/2009

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Hi... My daughter's bday is 12/21 and we have had the dilemma with what to do too. We have tried a couple different things. The one that seems to work the best... we celebrate on her birthday with the family because that is her "special day". So we give her a gift, go out to dinner to a place of her chosing and share a nice dessert. Then we have a "friend" party for her half birthday. She likes that better because the weather is nicer and we have more to chose from of what we can do, she also likes the fact that we can pick a date when families are not away on vacation.



Hope you find a solution that works for you and your family!

Angie - posted on 02/23/2009

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My birthday is Chrismas Eve and I never had a half year birthday. My family celebrated my birthday on Christmas Eve and Christmas on Christmas day. One did not run into the other. Christmas was always about Jesus' birthday and not about gifts so I never felt cheated at all.

Laurie - posted on 02/23/2009

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My daughter is on the 26th also. We do a summer bday party for all three of ours together. (Dec 12, 26. ad Jan 15)

One thing I have made sure is noone in our family gives her bday presents on Christmas. It is not only not fair to her but it is not fair to the others who don't understand why sheis getting more presents then them.

I try my best to make it a seperate day away from the holidays. We make a cake in teh morning and make the whole day about her. I try my best to make it seem like everyone elses bday even though I am exhausted from christmas.

I feel for ya. good luck.. Any good ideas learned I would love to hear:) lol

Jenny - posted on 02/23/2009

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My step son's birthday is December 19, so far, we've had a party every year the week before Christmas...I realize you are a little closer to the big day! It probably depends on what day Christmas falls on...like if it's on a Wednesday...you should be able to have a fun party the Saturday after....1/2 birthday parties are great for any winter baby I think...that gives them the oppurtunity to play outside activities.

Tessa - posted on 02/23/2009

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My sons b-day is 12/27,so I feel your dilemma. I even suggested the half b-day in the summertime to my husband,but he made the point that a b-day is special because of just that-it's your day,and it only comes once a year. Not twice just cuz its happens to be on a not so good day. Plus,kids can't begin to think the world revolves around them(even if we know it does!). So,it's a little more work for me,with planning around holidays and such,but I think it's worth it. Whatever you decide to do,remember to have fun,thats what it's all about anyway. Good luck!

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