circumcision,pros and cons???

Megan - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I have an 8 month old boy who is very healthy and happy, uncircumcised as its not the done thing these days,his father is very pro about circumcision because he is circumcised and i dont think that it is nessesary and have heard that it is better not to be.Im interested in anyone who has views or personal stories about this topic.

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JuLeah - posted on 11/27/2010

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Why? There is no reason, save 'we have always done it this way' to ask an infant to under go such a thing. Adults says, "It doesn't hurt"
How do they know? I have heard professionals say declawing cats doesn't hurt, cutting the tails off of puppies doesn't hurt them, tagging a ear, branding .... it doesn't hurt. See, I think it'd hurt.
The only down side is that so many people, including doctors, don't know anything about an uncircumcised penis. Doctors advice parents to pull back the skin and 'keep it clean' not understanding that the skin (for most) is meant to attach to the penis (natures protection) and doesn't pull back until the child is about 8 years old. So parents pull back the skin, creating an open wound (and causing a lot of pain) and then infection sets in so the doctor says,
"Well this is why we recomend circumcision in the first place."
God (or nature) depending on your belife system, made boys this way. Who are we to mess with that?

Charlene - posted on 03/07/2010

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my ob did it on my son and everything was fine for the most part but as i found out in FEW cases it can readhere to the head then you have to "pull" it apart but my son was so young when we even did that, he dont remember. Yes it is your decision but do some medical research on the subject. There are many views on this. Talk to your partner and doc and then make a decision. Good luck.

Yentl - posted on 03/01/2010

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Hey, I got my son done at 2 weeks - I wanted to get it done at 8 days but the doctor was booked out. they say the 8th day is the best as there is the least amount of blood and it is the least painful. Make sure you find a good doctor who does them all of the time, if you do this it sure should not bleed lots and should not be painful or deformed as others seem to be. My husband was done so that was a big influence on our decision, also religious reasons, also BIG reason was that we have 2 friends who had horror stories - one bub had to have it done at 3 year as it blew up into a baloon on the end and got infected - he can still remember it now as a grown man. And another friend had to have an emergency circumcision done at 16 in the emergency helicopter as his did the same and he was going to die - or loose it all together. So it was a no brainer for us to get it done. He was not upset at all - and it healed quickly and perfectly. This doctor also did a 2 week check up - so that if there were any problems or not enough was taken off they fix it up then.
However at the end of the day - its up to you. If you do decide to though there deffidently should not be any problems if you find the right doctor.

Caroline - posted on 03/01/2010

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Hi, My husband's a nurse, he worked in a nurseing home for five years (often having to help shower and clean elderly patients), during that time we had a son and when we came to having to decide about circumcision my hubby mentioned all the problems men can have when they don't/can't clean themselves properly and how painfull that can be..so we decided even if that was the only thing we did it for it was worth it!!

Quza - posted on 02/28/2010

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Belinda, I read and saw on television where they claimed that when women are circumcised, it takes away the pleasure a woman receives during intercourse. As for guys, it's mostly about religion and cleanliness, it does not take away from their pleasure during relations.

My two sons are circumcised, and both were done when they were about two to three days old. They have had no problems with this procedure. Good luck in your decision.

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Nancy - posted on 11/27/2010

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re: the comment that it "hurts less" when they are younger-- this is actually NOT TRUE. it hurts way MORE when they are younger. for a couple of reasons: 1) babies feel pain MORE intensely in general and 2) doctors -- particularly OBs who perform circumcisions in hospitals on newborns -- are likely to use NO pain relief.

Kelina - posted on 11/27/2010

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check these out if you haven't already

http://www.cps.ca/caringforkids/pregnanc...

http://kidshealth.org/parent/system/surg...

http://www.canadiancrc.com/Circumcision_...

We chose not to have our son circumcised, as my husband isn't and he's never had any problems with it. It's no different to clean than any other part of his body at the moment, and as he gets older his dad can teach him how to clean it. My midwife put it best, "If he needs it when he's older, at least he knows why it has to be done." He'd also have a choice in having it done as opposed to having it done now, he has no choice and it's really not medically necessary. Good luck!

Nancy - posted on 02/28/2010

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there are so many reasons not to circumcise. did you know that the foreskin is a highly erogenous zone for men? some say the male equivelent of the clitoris in women. circumcised men have no way of knowing this. it is an extremely painful experience for a baby. many many medical complications can follow a circumcision. google "buried penis" or "meatal stenosis" to learn more about just a couple of the many complications.

circumcision is not medically necessary according to every medical association. it is, essentially, a cosmetic procedure.

perhaps the most important reason to not circumcise a baby is that it is HIS body, not yours and not your partner's. doing unnecessary cosmetic surgery on an unconsenting infant is really not very ethical, don't ya think?

Krista - posted on 02/28/2010

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A lot of people will try to scare you with tales of infections, but if you research the actual statistics, the rates of UTIs with uncircumcised boys is only a fraction of a percent higher than that of circumcised ones. There is actually a HIGHER risk of surgical complication during the circumcision than there is of your boy getting an infection if he's not circumcised. If it's not medically necessary (i.e. if he doesn't have phimosis or some other condition), then why take the risk? Your husband has his pecker the way he wants it -- let your boy decide for himself when he's older.

Belinda - posted on 02/26/2010

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It is great it worked out for you, But as recently as a month ago I heard of a doctor cutting off a part of the head of a babies penis. They can also cut vessels and do other permanent damage to a male. Why do we fight the cultures that practice this on women but think its fine for males?

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From previous comments, I'd like to note that my son is almost 8 and has never had an infection. We have had no trouble at all. I feel so bad that April's son has had to go through that. Hope it works out for you guys. Just leave it alone is all I have to say.

Pamela - posted on 02/26/2010

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Oh, poor little guy! That sounds horrid! I think if a doctor botched something like that on my baby I'd smack them one! lol Although I suppose its better than taking too much? ;)

April - posted on 02/25/2010

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I still don't have the asnwer for this myself...I had my fist son circumcized and all is fine but with my now 11 month old they didn't take enough off of his and now it bleeds on ocassion and they said it will probably have to be redone and he will have to be put to sleep for this or I can leave it as it is and see what happens. I think I'm gonna wait it out.

Nikki - posted on 02/25/2010

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My son was circumsized at 8 days old for religious reasons on my husbands side and for hygeine purposes.... at first I was hesitant... he cried for only a couple minutes and in within a week he was completely healed..... I am EXTREMELY thankful that we made that decision it is sooo much better for them. I have heard way too many problems from other moms who's sons were not and two of our friends had to have it done later on due to infections and TRUSTME you do not want to do it then... right now they will never ever remember this happening... when they are older they will... they will have to be constantly careful in cleaning it and why put them through the hassle when you can avoid all this right now... I am not one to see my son in any pain I cried but he was frozen and after 2 minutes he was perfectly fine.

Vanesa - posted on 02/25/2010

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I have 3 boys, a 9 yr old, a 2 yr old and a 2 month old and none of them are circumcised. I just dont think it's really that big of deal as doctors make it out to be. None of my boys have ever had any infections and in fact I've even heard of circumcised boys getting infections too. In the end I think it just comes down to cleanliness.

Belinda - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hi, I am the Mother of 10. 4 are boys.my oldest son was do soon after birth, but thats becouse I did not know any better. I saw the board they strap them to and that wa eough for me. My other 3 sons are not. They are 22, 20, and 18 years old. The key in not having it done is Cleanliness. Teach him to pull skin back and clean around the head, don't you feel creepy about doing this. My grandson (3 yrs old) has no problem cleaning himself, we taught him.
Other than cultural reasons or infection, it has been proven not to be necessary.

Charlene - posted on 02/25/2010

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HI. I asked alot of advice before my son was born on this exact subject. One of the things that i heard and asked my doc about was if they are not, they are more likely to get urinary tract infections. My doctor said that it is common for that to happen because, you know how boys CAN be, they dont clean as good as they should. And that will cause an infection. And if that occurs frequently enough they will have to do it later in life and that hurts them more. I hope this helps.

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I always felt that I would not have it done to my baby boy. As it turned out my husband isn't either (I'm sure he'd love me to say that on line - but anyways). I thought it would be too painful and really unnecessary. He is 8yrs old now and we've never had any trouble with it. Even if my husband was circumcised I'm sure the result would have been the same. Some men feel like their son's need to look like them, but really - does it matter??

Pamela - posted on 02/25/2010

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I'd say unless it was decided it was needed for a medical reason, just leave it for now.

Personally though, I babysat a baby who'd been circumcised that day, his mother didn't inform me of this before she left, and I had no way to contact her.
Long story short, I was stuck with a poor baby who hysterically screamed himself to sleep after wetting his nappy (as I'm sure many mums are aware, urine and open wounds don't make a great combination!). I opened his nappy up to blood and urine, and trust me, he was not the only one who was crying. I spent the better part of two hours sobbing right along with him.
I could never have it done to a baby.
If my boys want it done, they can make that decision for themselves, and will probaby be able to figure out how to not pee on the incicsion. lol

Hope you and your hubby reach a decision you can both live with. :)

Janine - posted on 02/25/2010

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HI,

My son was circumcised when he was 8 days old, also due to his father's persistence on religious grounds. I did it when he was very young due to it being less painful when they are younger, not that it is not painful, it is horrific to watch as well. He is turning 8 now and seems very happy, he never had problems after. A definite pro would be hygiene, but as they grow older they know how to wash properly. I can not really give you a yeah or a neah, but I think in terms of pain it gets worse the older they get, so you would need to decide soon.

Regards.

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