Co-Sleeping: to do or not to do.

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I am curious to see what people think of co-sleeping. What are the pros and cons? Do the pros out way the cons or vive versa?

If you do co-sleep with your child, when it is appropriate to start putting your child in their own bed?



I ask this because in my circle of friends, this is a very divided topic that comes up alot. I'm very curious what you guys might think.

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Cathelijn - posted on 06/14/2009

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I think it is funny to see how many people said they were never going to co-sleep but then when the baby came things changed a lot, The same happened with me when I was pregnant my husband joked to say that the baby will not need a cot because the baby will want to sleep in the bed with us and I actually said NO WAY!! the baby is going in the cot. When my daughter was born and we brought her home things where very different she wanted to be held 24/7 she would fall as sleep I would put her down she would wake up.. I was breast feeding and she wanted to eat every hour so I took her in the bed with me and she slept fine. I like knowing she is there and I can just quickly check if she is ok.. She is 6 and half months now and moves around a lot and she always ends up snuggling against me I love it. She goes to nursery during the day and sleeps fine in a cot there so I am not worried about moving her to her own bed when she is ready..

Ashley - posted on 06/14/2009

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Co-sleeping is not a terrible thing. My child slept on his own up to about 6 months. Then every night he started waking up a couple times a night screaming for no reason. I used to be very much against co-sleeping, with fear of suffocating my baby and never getting him out of my bed. The only way I could get him to stop with the screaming and waking through the night was to let him sleep with me. He is now 10 months old and sleeping from 9-7, most of it being by himself considering the work shifts in our house. But I've found co-sleeping to be so much easier than keeping him in his own crib. I'm a converted mommy! :)

Ashley - posted on 06/14/2009

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Co-sleeping is not a terrible thing. My child slept on his own up to about 6 months. Then every night he started waking up a couple times a night screaming for no reason. I used to be very much against co-sleeping, with fear of suffocating my baby and never getting him out of my bed. The only way I could get him to stop with the screaming and waking through the night was to let him sleep with me. He is now 10 months old and sleeping from 9-7, most of it being by himself considering the work shifts in our house. But I've found co-sleeping to be so much easier than keeping him in his own crib. I'm a converted mommy! :)

Shannon - posted on 06/13/2009

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My son slept in this bassinet for the first three months without a problem. Then he got his first cold and was super congested. Our doctor recommended that we prop him up on his Boppy to help elevate him when he slept. The Boppy would not fit in his bassinet so we put him between us in bed. That was when he was 4 months old. He just turned 7 months old and we are having a heck of a time getting him to sleep in his crib. I was always one of those people that said, " I will never let my child sleep in our bed." Things change quite a bit once you actually have a baby, however, I wish we had never let him sleep with us. It has made it harder on us and him trying to transition him into his crib.

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My son has slept in my bed and his crib. My husband works 3rd some nights so my son will sleep in my bed sometimes. He sleeps a lot better in my bed and we he needs me Im right there. Plus feedings and diaper changings are easier. I also think that I sleep better knowing that hes so close. You have to be careful especially when they are so young, but you have to pick whats best for you and do what you want to do, there will always be someone that picks on your parenting style. I know a person that hates the fact that I co-sleep sometimes... but yet she smoked while she was pregnant!

Jennifer - posted on 06/13/2009

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Quoting Tamara:

I am an vocal proponent of cosleeping in all its forms from bed sharing to room sharing. Of course as with as any parenting practice, there are right and wrong ways to do it. Never bed share if you are obese, over-tired, under the influence of drugs, alcohol, or medication, a smoker, or have an unsafe sleeping environment.

If you go over to the Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at the University of Notre Dame, you will see several studies that not only advocate cosleeping in its various forms but show that it is beneficial to mother and child, reduces SIDS, and facilitates the breastfeeding relationship. http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/articles...


Not to cause disension but bed-sharing is a known SIDS risk.....even if you aren't obese, medicated or a smoker. I have met too many parents who lost children tihs way. Please don't risk it.

Kim - posted on 06/13/2009

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It took me 4 years to get my daughter to sleep in another bed. Even then it was in the same room as her brother. It was the only way I could get some sleep and continue to work. My neice is 9 and has just started sleeping in her own room. She slept in her parents bed and in their room (on the floor) until April.

Gina - posted on 06/13/2009

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I'm no expert but we did bring our son into our bed for quite awhile. I was breastfeeding and he was eating every 45 minutes for the first 2 or 3 months, and every 2 hours until he was 10 months. I did it just because I was so exhausted. My husband supported the decision but he did go into the other bedroom quite a bit because he didn't trust himself not to roll over on the baby. I never felt like that would happen with me. While he was in the bed with us I slept very lightly and I was aware of every move and sound the baby made (probably contributed to my exhaustion). I cannot say it will or will not work for anyone else but it worked for us.

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Both my children now 11 & 14;slept with my husband & I. I believe it was the best thing for them. They are both very strong, secure people.

Steffany - posted on 06/13/2009

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It is personal preferrence. We let our son sleep with us for 2 years. Then we would let him fall asleep in our bed...and move him to his own bed. When he hit 3, he acutally asked us if he could just sleep in his own bed for the night. He is 4 now and still sleeps with us some nights. It can be scary sometimes without a sibling, alone in the dark. I will let him sleep with us until he no longer wants to.

Steffany - posted on 06/13/2009

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It is personal preferrence. We let our son sleep with us for 2 years. Then we would let him fall asleep in our bed...and move him to his own bed. When he hit 3, he acutally asked us if he could just sleep in his own bed for the night. He is 4 now and still sleeps with us some nights. It can be scary sometimes without a sibling, alone in the dark. I will let him sleep with us until he no longer wants to.

Steffany - posted on 06/13/2009

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It is personal preferrence. We let our son sleep with us for 2 years. Then we would let him fall asleep in our bed...and move him to his own bed. When he hit 3, he acutally asked us if he could just sleep in his own bed for the night. He is 4 now and still sleeps with us some nights. It can be scary sometimes without a sibling, alone in the dark. I will let him sleep with us until he no longer wants to.

Lee - posted on 06/13/2009

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Hey gals.......lets just cut to the bottom line.......it is not about us parents.....it's all about the child......each one is different.........and you have to stay flexible enough to meet each childs physical and emotial needs........this is no different from the pacifier vs. thumb sucking debate.......the breast feeding vs bottle feeding debate......what works for one child does not necessaryily work for others...............So love your precious gift..spend as much time as you can getting to know that gift.....and then do the best you can for that day..............good luch and God bless.......

Heather - posted on 06/13/2009

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I have had all three of my kids sleep with me for the first 2 months for at least part of the night. They sleep alot better that way and it gets them used to sleeping through the night. I've never had a problem getting them to switch over to there own bed cause I've always had them sleep in there bed for naps through out the day so they would get used to there own bed too. My husband had my step son sleep in the same bed with him until he was a yr and a half and he did have a hard time sleeping in his own bed cause he had never sleep in his own bed before that. So I think as long as there in there own bed a lil to get used to it and u don't co sleep too long that it can be benificial for u and baby

Liwah - posted on 06/13/2009

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Hi, my almost 5 month old son slept on me or on my arm for the first couple of months of his life, and afterwards slept in our bed with me and my husband. I had been all prepared to put him in his bassinet but he didn't sleep well at all and we couldn't sleep properly either until he started sleeping with us. We didn't have any problems with co-sleeping, although I understand that intimacy with my husband will be put on hold for some time. I think in our case, our boy is the one making the decisions! Recently, he has started sleeping in his bassinet for the first part of the night, and after waking for breastfeeding, I'll lay him down beside me until morning. I guess this really is about what works for each individual child and family. I didn't plan on our son sleeping in our bed and I tried letting him cry it out, but it didn't work and I decide that it's more important that he's happy.

Kat - posted on 06/13/2009

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My Daughter slept with me for the 1st 2 months which moved my Husband into the guest bedroom. Month 3 we put her in the crib and never had ANY problems with her sleeping on her own. We just recenlty moved her to her "big" girl bed with our son coming next month and the transition was easy. Just my thoughts. I hear its easier when you're breastfeeing which I did but also I coudln't wait to get my Husband back in bed with me.

Heather - posted on 06/13/2009

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Co-sleeping can be done successfully and safely. I have successfully and safely co-slept with my daughter until the age of 5. I have never experienced any anxiety (it should be mentioned that separation anxiety is something that all children experience, regardless of where they sleep. If your child never went through that developmental milestone, that it is due to lack of paternal attachment, not sleeping situation). A child will be ready to sleep on his or her own based on the child, as personality, temperament, come into play. The only way my daughter would sleep without constant waking was when she was near me. I try to always put things into an adult perspective. I do not like sleeping alone, I prefer my boyfriend with me, as I feel more safe. So I cannot expect an infant or even a young toddler to be able to transition into nightime without fear or anxiety, for I, as an adult, have not been able to do so.



It should also be noted that the sleeping medication (over the counter only) is a billion dollar industry in USA, therefore, I believe it is unrealistic to assume that infants should be able to navigate nighttime sleeping without problems when adults can't.... Also, those individuals who are reporting the "dangers" of co-sleeping should know the following: Those commercial/ads regarding the "dangers" are funded by the companies who produce Cribs (what do you think their bottom line is $$$$$$$$). Also, almost all co-sleeping deaths were due to adults who were intoxicated, under the influence, or overweight. There have been very little to no deaths when it is done properly.. There are more deaths caused by cribs/cots than co-sleeping. So please people don't spew paranoia, do some research......



My advice: Do what works for you and your family.. If your loved one can successfully sleep on his or her own, by all means allow them to do so. However, if no one is getting any sleep expect when you are all sharing a bed, then don't feel guilty about co-sleeping... Co-sleeping does not produce a clingy, overly anxious child. It actually does the opposite. It helps lay the foundation for relaxing stress free night time routine. Bedtime in my house is enjoyable and my daughter (5) has a healthy attitude towards sleep. Also when you co-sleep your child follows your sleep bio rhythms. As adult we spend less time in Deep sleep (which is suggested to be a link to sids) and more time in REM, where as infants and children are the opposite. But when you co-sleep the child tunes into your bio rhythms and spends less time in Deep sleep and more time in REM..





I truly can go on and on...... What I can say is my child is healthy, happy, and very independent. Co sleeping does not scar a child and DOES NOT make them reliant upon always needing to sleep with you. I assure you, there is not one person who has co-slept with their baby or young child that says 10+ yrs.later they are still sleeping with their now teenager. They move on! Usually those who say you shouldn't co-sleep, has never co-slept.



Do what works for your family....

Angela - posted on 06/12/2009

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Hi. We have 4 children and from the time they were born at night they would start in their own beds when they came in for a feed during the night we just kept them in our bed till morning. The kids are still welcome to come in during the night if they wanted reassurance or a cuddle, sometimes the youngest who is 6 year old will come and hop into bed during the night if she needs to but now it is probably only a couple of times a month. I guess for us it has never been an issue infact we have all enjoyed the closeness. We have always put the kids to bed in their own beds though and I think this has helped. To people that criticised our choice i have always just said "How many 16 year olds do you know that still sleep in their parents bed" We did what made us and our children happy and that is what is most important.

Karla - posted on 06/12/2009

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Shortly before the birth of my daughter a friend of mine had her 6 month old daughter in her bed with her. She rolled over and her daughter was suffocated. I have never had my daughter in bed with me and her crib is in her own room. I have a monitor at my bedside and have slept in the extra bed we have in her room a couple of nights when she was not feeling well. I am fortunate that she has always been a good sleeper but I do think that is partly because there is no outside interference or noise since she is in her own room.

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I did co sleeping only while my kids were nursing...I NEED my sleep!!! haha

When they were about 5mo I would put them in there bedto start the night, and when they would get up for the 1st feeding, they stayed the rest of the night with me.

Once they were about 7ish mo, I started putting them in there own bed for good.

Leslie - posted on 06/12/2009

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I have two children. Due to circumstances, I had no crib for my first baby girl so she slept with us. She slept with me and my husband for about the first 6 months or so before I needed room. I was worried to how she would take to being alone after sleeping with us but there wasn't any transition problems at all. In fact she's two and a half and has been sleeping in her own "big girl" bed since just before she turned two. Ironically, my second girl seems more needy and demanding than her sister was, and she's been sleeping in her own crib since birth. I've always heard that it was the ones who slept with the family that would be the ones who were needy but that wasn't the case with me. I hope that helps you some. But ultimately it's up to you and what you feel right with, with baby number one i wanted to hold her with me, with baby number two i needed my space... no matter what they'll turn out fine in the long run.

Cindy - posted on 06/12/2009

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my daughter did ask me at about age 3 why mommy,daddy and nanny,pawpa sleep togeater and you are big and why does she have to sleep by herself and she is little. what do you say to that

Cindy - posted on 06/12/2009

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i use to lay down with my daughter then go to my bed for about a hour or so then she would wake up and i go back to her bed a so on up until about 5yrs. then my husband went to work on the road so now when he is gone she will sleep with me i like knowing she is in the same room as me when he comes home she goes to her bed no prob

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Both of my sons had their own bed in their own bed from the moment we came home from hospital as I didn't want to fall into the trap of not being able to separate sleeping arrangements later on. Daddy & I had a falling out and separated with a view to fixing our relationship (which we did in 3 mths), and during this time the boys and I slept in the same room, in our own beds. Since coming home to Daddy, my toddler no longer sleeps through the night, and frequently comes into our bed, or sits shrieking at the top of his lungs in his bed - I regret room sharing! My opinion (and it's only one) is let your children learn to sleep alone in their own bed - with a sleep toy or blanket (have 2 or 3 of identical item so child is not distressed when one is in the wash)

Laurie - posted on 06/12/2009

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It worked out great for our family for the first 4 months of Ryder's life. Until he started to roll around he slept on my chest or tucked beside my husband's belly. We don't regret it and it took us a week before Ryder was ready for his own bed. He never liked his basonette and we loved this closeness with him. I still miss sleeping with him.

Angela - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Sarah:

My oldest who is now 6, slept in the bed with me until he was 2. It was an easy transition into a toddler bed for him and he is an excellent sleeper. My other three children, 4 and twin 18 month olds, slept in their own bassinets, cribs or beds from the time they were born. Every night I will be woken up in the middle of the night to one of those 3 trying to get in my bed (usuallly the 4 year old.) I really think the fact that I didn't cosleep with them has something to do with that. But, who really knows :)



Wow thats very interesting. My daughter co slept with us until she was 8 months and now she sleeps great in her own room. I would love to see some studies done on the cosleeping-confidence-self soothe relationship.

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I have mixed feelings on this topic too. However, with my first child I was a single mom and nursing which made co-sleeping very easy and I got plenty of sleep in the beginning. As she got older she had difficulties sleeping in her own bed since she missed the security of having mom there and didn't know how to go back to sleep without me. She had difficulties sleeping on her own and always woke up to sneak in my bed until she was about 5. My second child slept in her own crib and sleeps really well on her own. She usually sleeps 8-11 hours without waking up. Basically I think co sleeping is more for the convience of the mother especially when they are little and waking up more often. Children need to learn to feel secure on their own. In the long run, a child receives more benefits by sleeping alone.

Tracy - posted on 06/12/2009

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my 18 mth daughter has never slept with us and is brillent in her cot and has just statrted sleeping in a bed, l think you end up with alot of problems later xxxx

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It really is mainly personal preference. I've looked into all the research I could find on the topic (I have access to alot of journal articles through the college I attend) and the "laying over" and suffocation occurs mainly in families with very heavy sleepers and those who drink heavily before bed. Also, I remember reading one study that showed a lot of infant deaths from SIDS were ascribed to laying over (SIDS is controversial too and there are many more factors than you would think behind it). Anyway, one thing you do need to take into account is whether your bed is safe for an infant- does the headboard have slots he/she could get their head stuck in? How high off the floor is it ? Etc. Also for the concerned there are those special little pillows to lay in your bed for baby. I think the real issue is: do you want to lose sleep now getting up to feed them, or later when they are old enough to crawl in and kick you in the kidneys in the middle of the night? And are YOU comfortable with it? If you or your partner are gonna be up all night worrying about squishing baby maybe it isn't for you, y'know? Personally I started out with my daughter in a co-sleeper (little bassinet next to bed) and ended up with her right in there with me. She is three now, has her own bed, but doesn't use it much. I'm not pushing it too hard though, either. I'm treating it like potty training- not pushing too hard just keep presenting the option. I'll crack down harder as she gets older, I suppose, but she has been more interested in her own bed since her little friend stayed the night (there was a family emergency at her house) and slept in my daughter's bed. So I don't think I'll have to. Ah, the wonders of peer pressure.

Sarah - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Abigail:



You will also be putting them to sleep the rest of your life because they will not be able to fall alseep on their own!






I tend to disagree with generalized statements like this. I think it really depends on the child. As I stated in a previous post, I only coslept with one of my four children and he is the only one that will go to bed at night and not get up until the morning. The other three are the ones wanting to get in bed with us in the middle of the night. 

Samantha - posted on 06/12/2009

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I could never get any of my kids to sleep in a crib the lack of sleep won in the end and all three have slept at some point with us, but all have got into their own beds with no problems, I think it actually helped the transition into their own beds because they were used to sleeping in a bed already instead of a bed with bars.

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while i was pregnant i swore up and down my daughter would never sleep with us...boy was i wrong! from the time she was born she has slept with us...at least me...and it's been the best and worst things. the bad part is now that she's 9 months old i'm trying to get her on her own for everyone's sanity...but it is a tough go of it and she is not a fan of it. she is a great sleeper all through the night...till you put her in a crib. on the plus side, she knows she's loved and that our bed is safe. i grew up knowing that to go to mom and dad's bed was a safe place (even if they weren't in it) and now i think she knows that too. also if you search a bit deeper you'll find cosleeping is safer from the risk of sids. everyone in the US tells you differently but if you do a bit more and look for yourself, the rate of children dying from sids is almost non-existant in countries that still have co sleeping as the norm....so all and all i'm glad i didn't listen to the "experts" and have put my girl next to me...i'd do it again if there are more children in my future!

Felicia - posted on 06/12/2009

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I have two kids and thay bolth sept in our bed for the first 2 years . We have had no problems moving them to ther own beds.Co-sleeping was the most wonderful thing to do for me with my new babys I got more sleep and could brest feed with out having to get up.I feel I bonded more with my children that way and all the benifits of having them so close was for me.My daughter is 4 now and is so confident in sleeping in her room and bed I think giving her the closeness she needed in the begining was the right start to her life.

Kathy - posted on 06/12/2009

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I have twins, sometimes there are 1,2,3,or 4 in bed. We aimed to self settle in bed. When sick, sometimes had in with us, or Father went to spare bed. If just needing extra comfort often allow to stay awhile and then send back to bed. Odd night won't wreck their routine, and provided you can sleep then why not share the odd night if it gives them added confidence. We just remembered it was our bed, they had theirs, and explained reasons why allowed to stay. If babies, go with gut feeling, providing you/partner are getting sleep. If you fall into bad routine, change it. Nothing is set in concrete, no two kids have same needs or wants.

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It is hard to give up once you start. If they have a bad dream try staying in their bed until they fall back asleep or the couch. If you do not start it your kids will not continue to climb in your bed until they are teenagers and your hubby will be grateful!!!! My one sister bought a king size bed because her three kids climb into her bed at night. They are 10, 7, and 6 and they still do it. If anything think about you relations in your room with your hubby/boyfriend it will be all over once you start. You will also be putting them to sleep the rest of your life because they will not be able to fall alseep on their own!

Ashley - posted on 06/12/2009

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i personally would never do it. my son slept in a basinette when he first came home then at 2 wks had to be hospitalised for 2 months and both hospitals (where i had him and the childrens) do not allow you to sleep with your baby. right after i had him i was told that if i felt the least bit tired to put him back in his bed right away. when he came home we put him right into his own crib and that's where he's been sleepin ever since. the next baby is due in 5 wks and it will be the exact same way for him as well. i think it's however you feel on it. i feel it's important for them to have their own beds and mommy and daddy have their own. i have put him in bed with us a couple of times when he's been sick and it was a horrible night for everyone. he did sleep well and neither did we. like i said it's what ever works for that family!

Cyndi - posted on 06/12/2009

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All three of my boys have spent quality time with my husband and I. Yes it takes time to get them to sleep in their own beds, we started the process by allowing them to sleep on the floor next to our bed and then my husband and I sometimes would lay with them for awhile in their rooms. My 9 - 10 year old will occassionally find their way onto our bedroom floor. That is okay with us. And my two year old has his crib in our room. My husband and I actually enjoy having him in our room, plus if he fusses in the middle of the night. Sometimes I don't even have to get out of bed, he just hears my voice say, "It's okay baby go back to sleep". and that seems to work.

Growing up myself, I was terrified of the night and found myself sleeping on my parents floor up to age 17, then when I moved out on my own I had to get a dog to nurse my night fears. I think it is totally up to the couple to decide what works best for them but be ready to deal with whatever lies ahead patiently and understandingly.

Amanda - posted on 06/11/2009

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My little fella sleeps in our bed when my hubby goes to work. he is in a portacot at the end of our bed for now as he is 9 weeks. He is propped up on a u shape pillow with a sheet wrapped around it so he cant slip under it and suffocate. It is the only way he can sleep like my 3 year at that age due to reflux. I also put a pillow between us as well for extra peace of mind so I still think hubby is in bed and I dont roll any further. Worked for two kids so far. Easier on a chilly night too to feed. I bottle feed so it is heaven with cold floor boards.

Sarah - posted on 06/11/2009

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My oldest who is now 6, slept in the bed with me until he was 2. It was an easy transition into a toddler bed for him and he is an excellent sleeper. My other three children, 4 and twin 18 month olds, slept in their own bassinets, cribs or beds from the time they were born. Every night I will be woken up in the middle of the night to one of those 3 trying to get in my bed (usuallly the 4 year old.) I really think the fact that I didn't cosleep with them has something to do with that. But, who really knows :)

Sonja - posted on 06/11/2009

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We used a baby monitor, too, when we put our boys in their own room in cribs. They worked well for us.

Jessi - posted on 06/11/2009

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i no that co-sleeping is so looked down on now a days but seriously any mom will tell you that if that is the only way that you baby is going to bed, trust me i no, you will do it. i always said how i didnt want to but my 2 mnt old does otherwise she just screams all night and with working and scool i do what i have to do to get even a lil sleep even thought it is not good sleep cuz i am so aware that she is there and i dont want to hurt her.

Courtney - posted on 06/11/2009

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I co-slept with my daughter, and plan to do it with my next child too. I co-slept until my daughter was about 10 months old, then she got her own room and we put her crib in her room. I chose to co-sleep because I breastfed and she was up every 2 hours to eat; so having her close was convient and very sweet. I sometime take naps with her in her bed...now she is in a twin size bed, because I miss sleeping with her!! SHe gets all cuddly with me, something that she doesn't do with her daddy and I think it is because we co-slept and he slept in our guest bedroom...so she didn't get rolled on or smooshed. It was nice getting him back into OUR bed though! lol!

Paula - posted on 06/11/2009

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I work at a hospital and have seen infants come to the ER dead from co-sleeping. It is very easy to roll onto the baby and he or she can not get enough air and suffocate. it would only take one time for you to see a dead baby to decide to never ever sleep with an infant.

Laura - posted on 06/11/2009

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We have co-slept with all four of our children, and without a moment of regret! It is the most bonding, security building thing we could have done. The kids decided on their own at ages 3, 21/2, and 21/2 to move to their own rooms. We did some co-sleeping in their own beds and then transitioned out. We have never had a problem. You just need patience, the belief that what you are doing is right, and the faith that it will all work out:)

Guggie - posted on 06/11/2009

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To have a family bed or separate beds...it all depends on your family. Some kids will not sleep if anyone is touching them, such as a food brushing their leg. Some adults are like this too (likely they are the kids grown up lol). Separate beds might be a lifesaver for mommy and baby.



That being said, I would gamble that the majority of babies need to be snuggled at night and this would make them sleep better.



Personally, I didn't make a choice. I just knew our daughter was going to be sleeping with us. She sleeps in the middle, with one hand on her daddy's shoulder and one hand on mine.



She will go into her own bed when she expresses interest to do this. I know from experience that they won't stay in the bed for a long time. There is a pre-adolescent awareness stage where the child begins to become aware of his or her independence and body. Usually around that time they pay attention to personal belongings and personal space. That is a very good time to offer a separate bed and the transition can happen without tears if you wait until then (typically 3-4yrs).

Brittni - posted on 06/11/2009

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So happy we had our girls sleep with us the first few months we have such a close bond we had no trouble getting our oldest to sleep in her own bed we just made is fun and special for her we both feel that our girls have so much trust in us because they know we will be there for them no matter what how ever with the second we just had her sleep next to us in a cradle it is just not as safe with the second you train yourself to sleep through noises by then! as least we did! :) good luck

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my little girl slept in our bed for 10 months,i loved it but now she is in her own cot night 27 of controlled crying routine going really well.think i needed her more than she needed me!.

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I totally agree with you. When each of my sons were first home from the hospital they each were in our bedroom in a cradle for about a month or so then they went to their own bedrooms. I don't understand moms who cannot let their little babies cry for a couple of nights until they get adjusted. I mean, it doesn't do them any harm and I think they adjust quicker to sleeping alone. Besides it gave me and my husband some much needed sleep as well.

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