co-sleeping with a toddler.. how to end it??

Kristen - posted on 01/25/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My almost 2 year old daughter has been co-sleeping with us since the summer.... she always goes to sleep in her bed but wakes around 3 AM almost on the button every night and then ends up in bed with us. It started when she was majorly teething and would start and stop... but now its every night.... she goes right back to sleep in our bed but if I try and tough it our she will fully wake up and NOT go back to sleep at all.... sometimes we are able to move her back so she wakes up in the crib.... but thats not always successful... any suggestions would be welcomed!

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Julie - posted on 01/25/2009

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If she is in a toddler bed, I would suggest that you take her back to her room and lay down with her.  My son used to sleep with me from the time he was ready for bed until the next morning.  I started laying down with him in his bed and getting up once he was asleep.  Each time he would get up, I would take him back to his room and lay down with him.  After some time, he would go to bed by himself and wake up in his own bed the next morning.  After you decide what steps you are going to take, make sure that you and your spouse stick with it.....as hard as it may be.

User - posted on 01/25/2009

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I am going through the same thing with my son. He now gets up at 3 every night still but it only lasts for 5 mins. We had to endure a lot of crying, but it only lasted 3 days and then it got better. When we started my son had to sleep touching me, as soon as i set him down or move he would cry. My husband decided he did not want Andrew in our bed any more, so we rock him to sleep and then put him in his bed. If he wakes up we go rub his back for few min. enough to let him know he care and are here and then leave. At first he cried for an hour before going back to sleep and we would go back and comfort him without picking him up every 15-20 mins..but he was a fast learner. I have given in few times and brought him to bed....which made the next day even worse. I hve learned i have to stick with it as hard as it is. We also make sure to cuddle and play for 20 mins to an hour right way it the morning....

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Jacqui - posted on 05/17/2011

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My son is about to be 3 and is still a "co-sleeper" :( and I am having a heck of a time getting my son to sleep in his own bed he's still in a crib getting ready to turn it into its toddler bed "setting". Any and all suggestiongs would be lovely for myself also

Rebecca-Alison - posted on 01/25/2009

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We had the same thing with my 2year old son, It started when he was ill or teething and just became regular. But I stopped by cuddleing him at first and then putting him back in his cot and rubbing his back saying it was sleep time and Daddy was asleep and mummy wants to go to sleep. And he would moan a little as I left him but was tired so would soon go back to sleep. He now sleeps really well from 6.30pm to any time between 7am and 8am pretty much every night. Its only if he is ill or his back teeth are hurting but I go and rub his back and gently talk to him and then go quiet and keep rubbing his back for about 5 to 10 mins, then leave him and he is fine..

User - posted on 01/25/2009

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I would take the child back to their room and put them back to sleep. DON'T GET IN THE BED WITH THEM!!!! Then you will have to break the habit of you sleeping with them. Rub their back and tuck them in. If they see that mommy and daddy's bed is not an option they will begin to stay in their bed. The only time my daughter comes in our room in the middle of the night is if she is having a bad dream. I read her a story while she is in her bed and we say our night night prayers, I give her a kiss good night and tell her that i will come back and check on her...and when I come back to check on her she is fast asleep.

Tracy - posted on 01/25/2009

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We had this with our eldest its not good fun!  Our health visitor made this suggestion which did work but seemed a long way around.  We put her bed next to ours and let her sleep there and then a couple of weeks later put a bed side table between us and then later moved her back into her own room.  It seemed a lot of hastle with moving the rooms around but was worth it in the end.

Stacey - posted on 01/25/2009

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I am having the same problem with my almost 2 year old. I would love a suggestion as well.

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