Considering getting my tubes tied, experiences?

Lindsay - posted on 05/19/2009 ( 34 moms have responded )

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If you've had it done, how was the recovery? Have you had any regrets?

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Tina - posted on 05/21/2009

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no regrets recovery was piece of cake. had it done 3 1/2 yrs ago.so problems at all

Toni - posted on 05/20/2009

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I had my tubes done when I had my c-section. I have a 9yr old, 6.5 yr old twins, & 2.5 yr old twins. I only chose to have it done cuz I was told that I would have twins again. I don't regret having done. My cycles have been very mild. However they don't tell you that for 3-4mths afterwards you have very, very heavy bleeding. It will go away, but it is pretty scary when you wasn't expecting it.

Bobbie - posted on 05/21/2009

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im glad you asked this cause I am thinking of doing the same thing. I have the Mirena IUD in and I have been having period issues with it, so when the time comes Im thinking of having it removed and having my tubes tied. I know I am DONE having kids, regardless of what happens in my marriage or whatever. I have a boy and a girl and love them dearly. Thanks for asking and thanks to all that answered!

Eve - posted on 05/21/2009

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I had a tubal ligation 6 hours after my 4th child was born. I was absolutly positive this was the last baby coming out of my body. I know that I am finished having kids. I didn't really notice much healing time, it was kind of like after the birth of my first one for a week or so ( the first one was a c section) . Additionally, one year ago I had a NovaSure procedure, because my periods were so heavy. When you do that they energize, or some such thing, to your uterus and in most patients it stops periods from coming back, and it is a form of sterilization as well. I was always worried that I would get pregnant after the tubal any way b/c I had heard so many stories of that happening. And apparently my sisters and I have proven to be fertitle Myrtle's. LOL My husband wasn't even really part of the decision. I knew he wouldn't get a vasectomy, he likes to leave his options open, but that is another discussion, and I knew no matter what, I had the 4 beautiful gifts from God that would be a complete family for me, I would have been happy at 2, but God had other plans.



You really, really, really, need to make sure that you are positive. If you aren't then the IUD is probably the way to go. I was positive without a doubt.

Missy - posted on 05/21/2009

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I had my tubes tied 2 years ago. The procedure was simple and I had a quick recovery. Some discomfort but not much. You have to make sure that you absolutly do not want any more kids. I have no regrets. I have a son with severe bipolar disorder. So I was positive that I did not want to take a chance of having another child and have them go through the same thing. As long as you are sure it should be a breeze.

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Taina - posted on 05/02/2011

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i had my tubes tied after my 5th child. some ppl may think im crazy but i actually regret doing it. my youngest is gonna be 3 years old i miss being pregnant n i miss having an baby in the house. i did the procedure because my family kept telling me that i should do it. i really thought in my head that i wouldnt have any regrets because i had so many children but i seriously do. it its not easy taking care of the five that i have its alot of work n alot of finances but i still love all my kids n really wish i could have more. i have read into the reversal but i am afrad that it wont work n i would be set up for disappointment. I know i should be thankful n greatful for the 5 i do have n dont get me wrong i am. BUT i really do miss being pregannt and all that excitement that comes from having a new baby in da home.. waking up late the learning to crawl the teething all of the stuff that comes wit having a newborn and after i miss.

Lindsay - posted on 05/22/2009

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Thanks to everyone for posting! I'm going to schedule the appointment early next week!

Michelle - posted on 05/22/2009

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i had mine tied 2 years ago, it is the best thing as we have 3 beautiful girls and we didnt want anymore.

just keep an eye and you will be fine

Amanda - posted on 05/22/2009

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Hi i got sterilised in 1992 and haven`t had any regrets what so ever . The hardest part was to make the decision. Although i did suffer pain in my shoulders afterwards due to the gasses they pump your stomach up with but it soon subsided.Its worth it as you no longer have the worry of getting pregnant.Best wishes Amanda x

Melanie - posted on 05/21/2009

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I had it done the day after my second son was born. my doctor wanted me to talk to my husband about a vasectomy, but i told her that it was my choice to do it. i didn't want any more children. i haven't had any problems yet, however my mom who had it done after i was born and when i was 18, she managed to get a tubal pregnancy. they of course had to get rid of it for her safety, but that's the only issue i have heard of.

Amber - posted on 05/20/2009

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I was informed by my doctor that they would be doing a "tubal ligation" after the birth of my son, by c-section. I looked up the complications and I told them that they would NOT be doing the procedure on me and they tried to force me into it. If I want to have another child in a couple of years, it is harder to reverse a tubal ligation. I have also heard of "accidents" where the body has reconnected the tubes, or loosened the knots.. as an example.. my cousin Kim.. who was born 5 years after my aunt had her tubes tied. I am just careful not to get pregnant when I don't want to.

Brandi - posted on 05/20/2009

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I had mine done 6 hrs after my 3rd child. recovery is nothing these days. the new tech they got out now its an outpacient surgery you go home the same day. i knew i would have regrets. I was with an awful man and i knew i didn't want any more kids by him. 3 was too many but i didnt know if i would ever beable to get away from him. But God blessed me and I did and now I am with a wonderful man and knowing i can never have anymore children kills me. I love my 3 I have just wish God gave them a better father.

Toni - posted on 05/20/2009

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I had it done when my son Gregory was born. He was delivered by C-Section, prematurely, not that anyone could tell, 8 pounds 5 oz. 19 inches. I was 35 at the time and really did not feel that I could do another pregnancy and major surgery after this-the third. (My oldest two girls-now teens) I felt the common discomfort that goes with recovery but I also felt my age! I did feel some deeper aching that I did not have with the previous two c-sections and I attributed it to the tubal proceedure. Nothing really bad or traumatizing. Now that my son is 5, I still have longings for a baby again. Sometimes I do regret having it done but most of the time I am content with my family as it is and I must admit that the freedom from worrying about birth control or the changes that may have to be made for a family addition is a really nice benefit.

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I have three very healthy boys - I wanted a girl every time and the answer was "no"...I had a tubal ligation (actually cauterization) after my third was born. I have baby lust every once in a while but I have NO regrets about having the procedure done. I had always thought I wanted four children...until I had three and realized we were a complete family at 5. I had minimal bloating after surgery, recovery time was short and I was able to go to a meeting the next night. (The meeting was all women and they were impressed that I was there...but it really wasn't a big deal.) The only thing that bothered me was that he pulled too much of my skin together with the stitches and they wanted to separate, so I experienced some burning and itching, but was fine after the stitches were taken out. If you opt to have your husband go through the "snip snip" procedure make sure you get him a frozen bag of peas...my brother and I had our procedures on the same day and I think my recovery time was faster than his. (Either that or he milked it for all he was worth!) Good luck in making your decision!!!

Melanie - posted on 05/20/2009

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I havent had my tubes tied, I had the Essure procedure and I would strongly reccomend it. Essure is an outpatient procedure and is more effective then even having your tubes tied. Far less complications and you can go back to doing everything the same day. As far as regretting it, I have not. I have two wonderful, healthy children and I am very grateful for that.

Edris - posted on 05/20/2009

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Have your husband do it....I have seen so many friends have many problems afterward. Why take a chance? My husband recovered in 2 days. My Dad said he was out mowing the lawn the next day....It's the least he can do after all you've put your body through...My husband doesn't regret it!

Ami - posted on 05/20/2009

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How about an IUD? I have one that lasts for 10 years, no hormones, took less than 5 min. to put in. Was done in my doctor's office. The best part is that it was only $40 with insurance. And should I change my mind, I can have it taken out just as easily as it was put in.

Teri - posted on 05/20/2009

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I had it done, but it was done at the same time as my c-section, recovery was about the same as just the c-section. No regrets, had four sons.

Lindsay - posted on 05/20/2009

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I've had a mirena for close to three years now. I thought about getting my tubes tied when I had it put in but just didn't want to make such a big decision on the spot. These years have gone by so quickly so I've been trying to decide if I'll just replace it when it comes time or do something more permanent. I'm done with having more babies( I have a girl and a boy) but I just don't want to be in a long recovery and not able to properly take care of the two I have for a while. Thanks for the responses, girls!

Libby - posted on 05/20/2009

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I have regrets and I haven't even had it done. LOL. Seriously though, I don't think I could so something so permanent. And I would probably never be in the financial situation to have it reversed if I changed my mind later in life. My hubby and I were joking about a vasectomy the other day. We have 2 living children, 1 angel baby, and 1 on the way in October. We are both going to be 30 this year. And while I feel we are *probably* done, I just can't be sure. How do you know?? He was the one who made a joke about getting it done and I joked that I thought we were going to have a 5th child. I also made a comment about if he had discussed it with me and he made some silly reply about his girlfriend was ok with it. Then we joked about a friend who told his girlfriend that (while married to his wife) and got his girlfriend pregnant. Anyway, the whole thing was in good fun. HOWEVER, I do know he probably feels like we are done. But he also felt that way 2 kids ago. LOL. So, I'm just not sure!!

Mimi - posted on 05/20/2009

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I had mine tied after my 2nd child (C-section) and got pregnant five years later! Turns out that was a known risk and my ob-gyn never told me. So be careful and make sure they've resolved that issue (my son's almost 20). No regrets at all and VERY fast recovery!

Jen - posted on 05/20/2009

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I had my tubes ties almost 11 yrs ago. I have since divorced and remarried - and there is a huge regret that my DH and I can not have our own kids. My ex would not get a vasectomy so he has gone on to have other kids. If there is another alternative for you - I would consider it highly.

Linda - posted on 05/20/2009

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I also had my tubes tied after my last c-section (third child) I did regret doing it. I followed the advise of hubbys mom, when I should of went with my own instinct.

Cindy - posted on 05/20/2009

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I worked in Labor & Delivery for a number of years and had about 2-3 women a year come in to deliver at full term after they had their tubes tied.

When men get their "tubes" tied:
1) the risk is a pregnancy
2) in office procedure
3) if done on Friday, he is back to work Monday

When women get their tubes tied:
1) the risk is a tubal pregnancy
2) is major abdominal surgery with general anesthesia (unless you do Essure)
3) takes about 4-6 weeks to heal (again, unless you do Essure)

Also, I believe that the surgical tubal has a higher failure rate for women than for men. Not sure about the failure rate of the Essure procedure, but I believe it is 0%.

Note of caution: If for ANY reason, you think you may want to have another child : one of your children die or your husband dies/leaves or you re-marry and you THINK you may want to have another child at that time - DO NOT have a tubal. It is considered irreversible; you can pay out of pocket to have the surgical procedure reversed, but it is difficult and may not restore fertility. (hope that made sense! :)

If you have ANY doubts, go for something in between - I have a Mirena IUD that has Levonorgestrel that is released locally that prevents ovulation and periods (I have PCOD and need to take something or have my ovaries removed). It lasts 5 years and is done in the office. We, also, opted to have my husband go under the knife and he had his 'tubes' tied. No regrets, no problems.

Hope this helps.

Amy - posted on 05/20/2009

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I had my tubes tied after my last son in 2001. The surgery and recovery went well. There was little to no pain and only a bandaid to cover the incision site.
All went well for the first 5 yrs. However, I have had a few miscarriages since. The longest I have been able to carry since is 9 weeks. I do regret having the surgery because 8 yrs later, not only am I faced with having to prevent pregnancy again, I now have to question and worry whether or not I will continue to have painful, heartbreaking miscarriages if pregnancy does occur. If there is one thing in my life I could take back, it would be this surgery.

Monique - posted on 05/20/2009

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I had mine done during my 3rd ceaser. Because I had it done while being operated on I can't comment on recovery. But after 10 months I still have no regrets. My sister had a bub yesterday and although I am a bit clucky again, I know that 3 kids are all I ever wanted. If you are SURE you have 'finished' your family, I wouldn't hesitate to recommend getting it done. I tried other methods of birth control but for reliability and no side effects, it's great!

Beth - posted on 05/20/2009

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cont. Recovery time.

I walked out of the Doctor's office when it was finished. I went home and laid on the couch for the rest of the evening with moderate cramping(similar to menstraul) and bloating from the water instilled during the procedure. They next day I went to Six Flags with my 17 year old. I only had minimal discomfort which lasted for a couple days.

Beth - posted on 05/20/2009

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I just had the essure procedure. It is also permanent birth control but can be performed in a doctors office. The procedure can take about 15 mins but the prep takes about an hour. As long as you have enough local anesthesia(gel) and meds prior to the appt, I would highly recommend it. For me, the local anesthesia was the only difficult part. The procedure involves placing nickle inserts into your fallopian tubes. The fallopian tubes scar and close off. After 3 months they insert die to verify sterility. Once they verify sterility you stop your regular birth control.

Charlene - posted on 05/20/2009

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I had my tubes tied after my 3rd child because of medical issues. Because I was still young my doctor sent me off for councelling first to make sure I was making the right decision because usually they wont allow it. I was told that although I had medical issues, I could still go on to have another healthy child like my other 3 boys but it wasnt just the medical side of things, I was happy with 3. Despite not having a girl, I have no regrets. I have my neice who I dote on so I'm happy.

As far as complications go, when you get told not to do anything for a week or so.. DONT DO ANYTHING! LOL My wound started to reopen and I had to have it glued which was a set back in my recovery.. otherwise everything went fine :)

Tabitha - posted on 05/19/2009

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I considered having my tubes tied after my 2nd girl and told my husband we would try once more for a boy. We were blessed with 3 girls. I have no regrets having my tubes tied after the 3rd. Wish I could have had a boy but it wasn't in God's plan. I had little pain after and healed rather quickly. I did get a infection in my inscision but the doctor gave me antibiotics and it healed within about 3 to 5 days. Just remember to keep an eye on it and keep it clean.

Sara - posted on 05/19/2009

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I had my tubes tied while I was having my c-section. I have had no regrets. But I have 5 year old twins and a 2 year old. I also do foster care and have 3 teen girls with another teen on the way soon. After fertility treatments and 3 and 1/2 long years waiting for my twins, then my surprise baby!! I could myself lucky and know that I am done have kids (biologically at least). I love having my foster kids and they fill any gap I could possibly think of.

Sara - posted on 05/19/2009

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I had my tubes tied while I was having my c-section. I have had no regrets. But I have 5 year old twins and a 2 year old. I also do foster care and have 3 teen girls with another teen on the way soon. After fertility treatments and 3 and 1/2 long years waiting for my twins, then my surprise baby!! I could myself lucky and know that I am done have kids (biologically at least). I love having my foster kids and they fill any gap I could possibly think of.

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