Coping with the death of a family pet

Alicia - posted on 02/10/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My 3 year old watched his favorite dog, Daisy, get run over yesterday. Unfortunately, he saw the whole thing from start to finish. During the day he seems fine. He asks about his Daisy. He now says that Daisy is in Heaven with Jesus and this is what we go with. But at night is when he seems to have most of his trouble. He screamed her name in his sleep twice last night then he had a panicky cry. Has anyone ever gone through this before? Will his nightmares eventually subside? What else can I do to ease this transition without his dog?

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Alicia - posted on 02/12/2013

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It's hard to say.Trying to get him into our normal routine again. He still doesn't want to sleep and when he finally does he usually screams agian. He asked for Daisy tonight. He said he wanted her inside to lay down on the couch with him ( their normal nightly routine). When I told him that she couldn't , my son immediatly stopped talking and basically ignored anything else I had to say about his Daisy.
He hasn't gotten closure over her death. It is really hard for child to grasp the concept of death. I do believe we should visit her grave and where she was hit and place flowers or something there. Granted this does feel a little bit over the top but if it atleast makes him feel better and helps him accept that Daisy isn't coming back, then its worth a try.

Alicia - posted on 02/11/2013

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We already have 4 dogs, all living in the house. Getting another dog is not really an option at this point. I wish it were an option though.

Shawnn - posted on 02/11/2013

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Yes, the nightmares will subside. Eventually. Just be calm, and understanding. He'll always remember his Daisy, and at the moments when you least expect it, he'll burst into tears and cry "I miss Daisy"...

We lost our oldest buddy when my oldest was 6 & youngest was 3. The 3 yo wasn't bothered much by it, because Razz had always been brother's buddy. The oldest helped bury her, and we moved on, got another buddy to fill the empty doghouse, and keep the other dog company. We lost the 2nd one when my youngest was 5, and that was the one that the youngest was attached to...so we had the same deal. My youngest is now 15, and when he's having a really bad day, he'll still tell me he misses his buddy.

Is there a chance that you all could get a new friend to fill the void?

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