Cry it out

Melissa - posted on 02/09/2010

Are you sure your baby isn't hungry? I know its not feeding time, but as babies get bigger they need more food, or when they go through growth spurts, even if you give your baby a couple ounces. I let my son cry it out at 2 months. It lasted 2 night, 10mins each and ever since has slept 12 hrs every night. No interruptions. good luck

Blackwood - posted on 02/09/2010

I feel 1 month is way too young too be doing this. I just started with my son who is 6 months old. A baby at one month needs something, even if it's just you to cuddle. I've always been told you can't "spoil" a baby younger then 6 months. Remember babies were with us for all thier little lives and now in a big world with new smells, sounds and it can be very overwhelming. Best wishes

Amanda - posted on 02/09/2010

She is too young to cry it out. When she is 6 months then you can start. Young babies need to know you are there. If you don't respond to her now, she will actually cry more because she won't be secure.

Ayla - posted on 02/09/2010

I have three children and I hve never let any of them cry it out. I tried with my first daughter when she was about 2 months and she would cre so much that she would vomit all over herself, so i would have to pick her up to change her clothes. I couldn't do it anymore. I felt like such a bad mother making her cry that much. Then i realised that they didn't need to cry. As long as they feel safe they should be fine. It is so hard for a baby to be seperated from it's mother so they just need comfort. You could try putting a shirt that you have worn in the crib with the baby so then she can smell you. I have heared this works well. All the best of luck.

Delaina - posted on 02/09/2010

Babies that young don't know anything but to cry when they need something.... so attend to their every need and if you still can't get them to stop, see her doctor.

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2010

I would let him cry until he stops crying then go check on him. Dont let her think that every time she cries someone is gonna come cause if you start that now she will get use to it and always do it. So when she stops crying go to her and let her know your there so she will begin to learn that when she isnt crying you will come.. at least thats what i have done with my son since i brought him home from the hospital and he is a month old and doenst cry at night and is just a very good baby :) Good luck i know its hard!!!

Rebecca - posted on 02/09/2010

i agree with brieanne, 3-4 months... it was hard and there was a moment when i found myself tip toeing across her bedroom floor to see if she was sleeping or had quit breathing... it was so scary at first but with our first child everything is. and too, every child is different along with every mother, so there is no right or wrong in these cases.....as the mother, you will know when it feels right

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2010

i also thought you were supposed to let your baby cry it out. but baby's cry because they need something. It is one of their only means of communication. Some parents worry that they will spoil their baby or create attachment issues if they attend to the baby every time he or she cries. Some parents also worry that their child is manipulating them. This just isn't possible. A young baby can not manipulate you! Rather if you pick your baby up when he or she is crying you are teaching him/her that you are there for them and that they can trust you to take care of them. Studies have shown that children that are given attention and love when crying or distressed are more likely to be independent children and young adults. This is because their basic needs of trust and comfort were developed early. These needs are the foundation of a strong and independent character. Therefore, don't let your baby cry! You are only teaching him/her that you will not be there when he/she needs you most.

Tara - posted on 02/09/2010

I also agree with Opal, that even if not hungry, a baby crying will need something..even if it's just attention or a cuddle (or something simple like that).

Iridescent - posted on 02/09/2010

There's no need at all until they are older. You'll know it's time when they laugh at you when you go in if they wake and cry (not a "happy to see you" but an "I got you out of bed" laugh). For us, it was 6-8 months. At one month they don't cry unless there is some need (hunger, diaper, uncomfortable and need help repositioning).

Opal - posted on 02/09/2010

A baby cries at this age not to be naughty but because they need something it is there only form of communication. She may need something simple like a belly rub or her dummy to suck on to get her back to sleep. She may be hungry but if it is not feeding time simply offer her cooled boiled water from a bottle or medicine dispenser.

Tara - posted on 02/09/2010

4 months is usually when they say it's okay to let them cry it out because at that age, they don't need to be up in the middle of the night to feed and such (I believe that is because at 4 months, cereal can be introduced and the baby will be fuller longer). At one month old, the baby still needs to feed every 3 to 4 hours (if not sooner), so crying it out should not be tried just yet.

Andrea - posted on 02/09/2010

its gonna be hard trust me my boyfriend actually had to hold me back so i wouldnt go get jasen out of his crib...i always let him cry for 2 or 3 min until he calms down a little bit and then i go check on him and he is usually back to sleep...at night if it wasnt feeding time and he cried and it just got worse we put his nuk in his mouth because it was just that he wanted something to suck on that felt like his bottle....stay stong it will get better

Brieanne - posted on 02/09/2010

I've always been told 3 months is a good age - my son started sleeping through the night then on his own...he doesn't do that now at 8mo, and I can't let him cry it out either...