Daddy finally got a taste of the "spoiled brat" tantrums!!!!!!!!!

Sharon - posted on 03/04/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Is wrong to be happy that your SO finally realized WHAT YOU GO THROUGH DAY AFTER DAY WITH YOUR LITTLE ONE AND THEIR TANTRUMS?

It started last night at 11:30pm when both of us where sleeping. DD woke up from her sleep wanting milk and TO SLEEP IN MOMMY'S BED. Of course I give her the milk and say no you are staying in your own bed tonight, daddy's been letting her up by me while he finishes his gaming late at night, so of course DD started screaming, kicking, and throwing things along with the tears flowing. My comment was: No, you cannot sleep in mommy's bed. and I turned to walk out after being hit by a flying minnie mouse doll and nearly being hit by a sippy cup both thrown at mommy by a very pissed off baby girl. Mind you this little one is 2 1/2 years old right now and I feel like I'm the only one doing the dicipline in the house.

Any way, it was an hour later and four trips out of bed for myself just to put her back in her bed so she'd get the idea. She's still throwing the tantrum described above this whole time and guess who FINALLY CAVED IN USING THE EXCUSE.........wait for it......HE WAS TIRE OF HEARING ME TELL MY DAUGHTER NO AND TO STOP. Tricks my MIL told me that works with my nephew on that side of the family. So DH let's her up on the bed and I decide that's it.....if she's not sleeping in her bed then I will and I take off across the hall to her bedroom. Trust me sleeping in a twin bed with my feet off the edge is a lot more comfortable then sleeping next to a child that toss/turns/ and kicks during the night.

Boy did that little girl throw a huge fit.....kicking, screaming, crying, hitting, throwing things at daddy, etc. because mommy left the room. Got to the point where he STARTED TO YELL AT HER to go back to her room......*enter giggle here*. So mommy decided to be nice and take her up off the bed.....that was when DD decided it was better to sleep in her own bed then to keep her tantrums going. It was 1 hour and 45 minutes later from the time she first woke up to the time she fell asleep in her own bed......I got less then 4 hours of sleep before work and DH finally learned exactly HOW HARD I HAVE IT DURING THE DAY WHEN SHE PULLS THIS STUFF. My MIL dubbs these tantrums the "spoiled brat" tantrums because they start over something they want and cannot have.......DH use to throw them when he was little, so did his younger sister and now his nephew throws them.....it's like a pattern...big brother no; DH yes: middle sister no; younger sister yes; younger sister's son no; middle sisters son yes and now the princess of the family as grandpas call her.

At least this little display of her abilities showed DH exactly what I deal with and how he affects the outcome of it all. He wants to sit down tomorrow with my sisinlaw and brother to go over discipline ideas that we haven't thought of seeing as mommy is at her breaking point.....I kept telling him the only thing stopping me from having a complete breakdown of the mommy mode is the fact that I get to talk things out with my sisinlaw on the weekends and she gets to help me discipline my daughter when I need a break.

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Good Day! - posted on 03/04/2010

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Yeah, it's soooooo important for mom and dad to be on the same page for discipline. Then things like this would be minimal. Glad he finally realizes!

Sharon - posted on 03/04/2010

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thank god something opened his eyes!!!

Sneaky - posted on 03/04/2010

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Ha, ha, ha! I think I remember you posting about this a few weeks ago and how your hubby just kept giving in . . . looks like the tide might be turning! I hope he sticks with it - for your sake and for your little girl who has been getting mixed messages from him :o)

Kristin - posted on 03/04/2010

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That's funny. I'm so sorry she's been putting you through the wringer. What do you do to discipline her?



I've got two boys who detest time out, since it's boring and they have to think about what they did that was wrong (against the rules). They get one minute for each year. I also have no problems removing them from something (play date, restaurant, a friend or family members home) if they start to act up. I'm also totally willing to put them into time out there. I guess I should have written that the other way, the time out is usually the warning about acting up. We leave if it doesn't get better. I have actually walked away from loaded grocery carts due to bad behavior. I go back later alone. They really like to "help" and being left at home is very disappointing for them because they can't help.



On the tantrum front, I don't know if this is awful or not and totally depends on where we are. If we are at home, I egg them on to the point of it being ridiculous. For example, I will say, "Really, is that it? If you are going to throw a tantrum, let's have it. I want the full deal. Let's see the fists and feet hitting the ground. Let's have the face all purple from the screaming nd crying. Let's go. I want to see what you've got." For about the first minute, they continue and then they look at me like I'm nuts. It's kind of like I hijacked the tantrum and they have been distracted from whatever set them off. Once the giggles start, I know we are okay to talk about whatever it was that started all of this. It will work with a two year old, but not as effectively. They just don't see the humor in it. With the two year old, I kind of just make sure he is safe and then walk away. I just keep leaving the site of the tantrum if he follows or comes to me and then starts up. He calms down and then we can figure things out.



If we are out, I just take the child home. No discussion, until they have calmed down. Then I tell them that we can try again another day when they think they can behave like they should. This works better with a two year old.



I applaude your efforts for getting her out of your bed. Good for you. When you and dad figure out what you are going to do, consistency will be your best friend. You can not back down at all. You've been pregnant, you have the strength to do this. Good luck.