daughter almost 4 and not toilet trained any ideas or suggestions?

Kyla - posted on 01/12/2009

Licia used 2 walk around wiv no nappy on n weneva i went 2 toilet she came wiv me n sat next 2 me on her potty, it was like a game in the end iut just naturally came 2 her n she started goin the potty!so try n make it fun n she'll follow. but try n let her c u go cuz kids all wana b like their parents n b big xx

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2009

That's wonderful Susan. I hope that you and your little girl have much success and it will all be a distant memory soon!

Susan - posted on 01/12/2009

Hello well the diaper fairy made a visit to our house last night! We talked about it and got all her diaper together. We put them out so if the daiaper fairy came she would beable to find them and take them away. We then picked out special underwear for her to start wearing when she got up!! So far so good so hopefully the day will be a success and we will be on the way to being a big girl!!  I will keep you informed!! Thanks for the great advice and help!!

Rhiannon - posted on 01/11/2009

i have two girls one boy. My daughter was so simple. I NEVER allowed pull ups, only lil panties. this way she could feel the wettness and be a lil uncomfy, it only took two days. Now with my son, that was a whole different ball game. he wore undies right away too, but didnt mind being wet. It took him a good month. Neither one og them ever wet the bed either. I went to a nursing home and got the pads taht the elderly lay on at night, I put that under them, and they knew something was there .

Francine - posted on 01/11/2009

I used a sticker board to and reward him when he went to the potty for entire week with a matchbox car.  I also did not use pull ups.  Put them straight in underwear.  Once they get sick of being wet and dirty they will catch on.  Just be prepared to clean up lots of messes.  Don't get frustrated it will come

Michelle - posted on 01/10/2009

With my daughter I tried everything as well and thought that I would be changing her diaper in high school LOL....I put all the diapers I had left for her into a bag and told her that she was a big girl and that babies were the ones that needed the diapers. I told her that we were going to give the diapers to little babies that needed them and that she should start using the big girl potty. Of course, I just stuck them in a closet so she couldn't find them and she realized that she couldn't go in her diapers anymore because she didn't have anymore. Of course she had a few accidents but overall she did really well. Good Luck!!

Pam - posted on 01/10/2009

Just remember, you will survive potty training!!!   When my oldest was finally trained I wanted to through a huge party and tell the whole world that we finally did it!    I'm working on training my twin girls right now so I feel for you.

Susan - posted on 01/10/2009

Thanks for the advice i have no problem cleaning up messes at all i jusst need her to do it she knows when she has gone in her diaper, i just have to get rid of the diapers and stick to underwear and go from there. I like the idea of the diaper fairy coming to take the diapers though! I am going to try that ASAP!!

Susan - posted on 01/10/2009

yes i have tried the whole school thing but its hit and miss she says one day she wants togo to school then teh next days he saiys i don't want togo to big girl school, i think the plan is getting rid of the diapers and sticking to underwear, once she sees no more diapers then there is no choice right? Thanks for the advice hopefully it will happen!!

Susan - posted on 01/10/2009

Thanks for the advice! I really think i will just have to get rid of the diapers and stick to it! I iwll let you know how were making out!!

Melissa - posted on 01/10/2009

My son was almost 4 before he would use the potty for #2.   He wasn't afraid to use the potty,  he just didn't care. I couldn't even bribe him!   Would change his own underwear and even sometimes try and clean the dirty ones himself.  I finally told him if he went in his underwear one more time he would have to wear baby diapers, not pull-ups.  He started using the potty that minute and hasn't had an accident since. 

I'm not sure if your using diapers or pullups,  but maybe you need to just put her in underwear.  I know it's a pain to clean up but sometimes they just need told this is what they are going to do.  My son still wears pullups at night so don't worry about accidents at night just yet. 

Good luck and don't be afraid to bribe or take things away or( even a little threat)

Nicole - posted on 01/10/2009

My youngest refused to go too. She turned 4 in August and was potty trained shortly after. I had to just stop buying diapers! I made her wear underwear and put a whole lot of sheets on the couches. She wore pullups at night until very recently. I had to wake her up a few times a night to get her to go until she figured out she could get up and go on her own. Anytime she had an accident, I made sure she played an active role in the clean up. After a while, she hated helping me clean up her mess! It takes consistency though and not giving in which is the most frustrating! Make a show of getting rid of the diapers. With my oldest, I literaly opened up the back door and chucked the bag outside telling her NO MORE! Good luck to you! I know what it's like to be frustrated about potty training!

Tami - posted on 01/10/2009

I am in the same boat. My daughter will be 4 in March, has NO care in the world when it comes to potty training. She knows what to do but has never actually done it. We have had her in panties all day, nothing but a dress (naked undernieth), she doesn't care if she pees or poops. I am at my whits end, I know she will do it when she is ready but when will that be?

Sarah - posted on 01/10/2009

My daughter was almost 4 (to be exact 3 yr 11 mo) before she was completely trained. She did fine with pee but poop was another issue. We gave all of her pull-ups away to the "diaper fairy" and went straight to underwear. This takes much patience and underwear soaking but after a few weeks it helped. We also took away game privileges to that she absolutely loved to do and boy did that get the message across. We didn't make it a punishment more like if you potty in your pants you don't get to play your video game tonight. So after a few weeks of losing and earning that privilege it finally sunk in for her.



We tried stickers, treats, calendar with stars, everything imaginable but the privilege thing seemed to do the trick. Good luck!

Idelissa - posted on 01/10/2009

I followed the book how to potty train in one day.
She was not trained in one day, i used the tips for about a week, and the training continued for about 6-8 months, thill se was wearing plain undies at night. But the initial imersion, was about a week, cleaning up pee pee, and running to the potty during in between training sessions.

Once you start you should not stop.

But my biggest wepon lollipops, she would eat one and stay on the potty, she also did most activities except for eating on the potty, waiting for a chance to praise her good work. The book is about 5 dollars and is a quick read, i would reccomend it to anyone just starting out.

Also, getting her on the potty at consistent times, in the morning after waking, after naps, and ever 20 minutes in between, i would set a timer so i would not forget.

Good Luck!

Michelle - posted on 01/10/2009

With my second child I had problems with potty training, he just did not want to go on the toilet either. He was 3 and 1/2, and pre school for 4 year olds would be the next school year ahead. So we just kept telling him he could not go to pre school (He was excited that he could go to school like his brother) unless he went on the toilet all the time. It took two weeks,but we had it. Still wore a pull up to bed, but not during the day. So, find something she is very excited about, and tell her she can not do that now until she starts going on the toilet. Well, it worked for us. Good Luck.

Connie - posted on 01/10/2009

i have two boys and thought girls are much easier and faster...what i did for both of my boys is to let them walk around the house with no underwear for the weekend and have the potty close where they can run to it when they have to go...they were both potty trained by 2 1/2 yrs old. try not to make a big deal out of it. lots of clapping and encouragement worked really good and sometimes little treats like special stickers and toys from the dollar store everytime they told me they need to go peepee in the toilet really worked. best of luck!