DCFS

Sharon - posted on 10/02/2009

I think you'll get off fairly lightly for your stupidity.



You did wrong BIG TIME. Yes hindsight is 20/20 but thats what you're going to be punished for. I have no idea how the judge intends to impart common sense to you but I hope he has something in mind.



But really, truly, honestly - I think you'll have to attend parenting classes, maybe your kids will wind up in foster care but its not likely.



The judge has to spell everything out for you. The appeals process, approach any clerk of the court and tell them you need to file an appeal. They'll give you the appropriate paperwork or tell you where to go to get it.



I think you need to count your blessings and walk away from this.



Your daughter was raped.



You've been labeled a neglectful parent.



You've been labeled an abusive parent.



You did all those things. By your own story - you broke the law, exposed your kids to danger and one of the worst things that can happen, happened.



Fix your kids. You've got a really damaged little girl who needs her mother to focus ON HER.



I keep reading that you need to fight this label. But you did everything they accused you of.



What exactly do you intend to fight and how? Were they wrong?

Melissa - posted on 10/02/2009

I have had people stay with us a couple of times and I have some trials and tribulations in all things , but this time I did a good one. I allowed a young man to stay with us, he came to us three days before Christmas 2008, and said he was sleeping by the gazebo in Cowden (where we live). We told him at that point he could stay for two weeks and he needed to make those arrangements to find another place to go. We also told him that there was no drugs of any kind in our house. And that he would have to help out around that house like chores that our kids did. Within that two weeks he decided to attend meeting and appeared interested in a new way of life started attending church with us And handled himself very well. But he wasn’t having luck finding a place to go and refused to go back to his foster care parents. Of course with a bunch of stories that was confirmed by someone else as well. So we agreed that (the kids, butch, and i) he was doing good and was pleasant to be around that if he continued with the meetings and worked at getting his GED, to get a place of employment we would be willing to work with him a little longer an gave a him a couple months. And he was doing good.

you know how hind sight is twenty-twenty, well looking back I can see the change and I can see that I was bullshitted. I wanted to believe that he was doing good and that we where doing good. My kids where still going to their counseling and meeting with our DCFS worker and was up front with her about him(Trystan) staying with us and she (DCFS WORKER) was ok at first then she came back and said that they (DCFS) don’t approve and wouldn’t say why. I asked Why and I was told that they could not share their information with me cause I didn’t have permission to know about his file. I asked for some kind of idea to know if it was anger issues or sexual issues or any kind of clue and nothing. So I asked him…. Hahah… he said that it was because his grandmother worked something with the judge to place him in foster care , so that he could get out of the gang life style. And I spoke with his grandmother and his mother and they confirmed this too. So we the family agreed to go against the DCFS warning. Because of this I now have been labeled an alleged perpetrator for abuse and neglect for my girls. Because he raped my younger daughter. He is able to walk the streets, because the police (county) got the horse before the cart as they put it. They had Trystan in custody, before they were able to interview my daughter, and of course he denied everything, and they let him free, back to Cowden where we live.

Jesus knows that I meant well for my family and anyone that I come into contact with, and that I would give anything that I have to help another, and that I feel that I am responsible for the pain that has happened, to my daughter/s and family. That I feel that she was wrapped in a pretty little package. I am not denying any part of that , I have continued to work with my DCFS worker and complied with every part of their whoops, and jumps. And have managed to keep the faith and composure that is needed to raise happy healthy children. I have My problems and work through them not run from them today.

I am writing cause I have appealed the DCFS indicated report, so I am having to prepare a case for myself before a court that is all DCFS. I have just been told that it would be a waist of my time and money, that I should just accept the labeling and go about my life. I believe that I have to stand for what I believe. If I don’t do this for myself and for my family that no one else will. I just know that I need as much help as possible. I refuse to be labeled the alleged perpetrator for however long they choose. Or at least the only one. This not only for myself but my husband has this tag as well. But I can only speak for myself. My children also are requesting to be heard in the court.

If this letter reaches people that are not willing to stand with me or write on my behalf please PRAY for my family. I don’t know what the outcome of this could be, I don’t know if they may try to remove the kids , I don’t know if they pass this on to the District Attorney or States Attorney, I just Don’t know, and haven’t found anyone that has the answers. Please pray cause I/ we are walking through that valley of shadows and death. I fear the evil that is all around me but In spite of that fear I am continuing to try, and I won’t stop, I can’t. Thank you for your time …..

Sharon - posted on 10/02/2009

Whats the story?