Dear Hubby,

Jessica - posted on 09/18/2010

All I can say is pick your battles... my husband takes care of the vehicles and garbage/recycling, and household repairs. Sometimes he does laundry, but rarely will he even think about emptying or reloading the dishwasher. I don't say anything, although it would be nice if he helped, because he works at least 12 hour days most days, not to mention he does the cooking. Plus, he is very understanding about revamping his work schedule in the fall when I coach soccer and need to have him pick the boys up from daycare on game days. He also understands, especially now that we have two kids, that I need my me time.

I agree that we shouldn't have to put up with it, but weigh out the pros and cons... is it worth arguing over? Good luck!

Holly - posted on 08/24/2010

i try not to argue with mine because he is going threw what i went threw. before our third angel arrived it was crazy! we get in a huge argument over the house being cluttered and stinky to where i am doing 5% of stuff then i have to relax being 9M and he is finishing up and lucky my 8 yr old helps out sometimes.. its funny, our 2 yr old is now helping. before, NO! now, out of all this he some how is potty trained! have no clue what happened. my house is mostly dirtied by daddy and son!!! as soon as he gets home, every where is his laundry area, sink and also trash, toys, dirty cloth diapers, missing snappys to my 2 yr olds cloth diapers, old cups from two days ago. it annoys me to see this! when i have the time to my self, i dont. i spend some of my free time trying to starting up and clean but that only last for 30 mins... my life at the moment is filled with no free time work work work mama! lol

Donna - posted on 08/16/2010

When my hubby and I first married and he left his dirty laundry any place but the laundry hamper I would throw it in the garbage. When he started to run out of stuff he learned to put stuff where it belonged.

Phyllis - posted on 08/16/2010

Dear Hubby, thanks for putting your clothes in the hamper. However if you choose not to empty your pockets first, I will consider all money found while doing the laundry to be 'tips'. That includes the $200.00 cash you left in them that was supposed to be for your paintball trip on MOTHERS DAY!

Brianne - posted on 08/16/2010

WOW! It makes me extremely happy to know my husband is not the only one who truly doesn't get how hard we work. He swears I have time to do all the stuff I did before the baby. To this day he hasn't spent an entire day with her without me present. He has a high-stress job, sure, but so do I. Why does it always have to be that I am the one who has to sacrifice my days off? he sleeps in on days he works in the afternoon, doesn't get up in the middle of the night, and has 2 weekdays off that he doesn't have my daughter to run errands, clean the yard, work on his motorcycle and fly planes. I have a fulltime job and weekends off with my daughter, when was I supposed to get that pedicure, haircut, have a life? Seriously! Any suggestions?

Flo - posted on 08/15/2010

I also have the most amazing husband in the world. He loves me no matter what, cleans, cooks, fixes things around the house, is a wonderful father, and also works so hard to support us so I can be a stay at home mom... He is the ideal husband for me and I would never complain about him..

Lori-Ann - posted on 08/15/2010

Wow, I thought I was the only one priviledged to these things, lol. Thanks for making my day and letting me know I am not alone.

Terralyn - posted on 08/15/2010

Well I was married at one point to a guy who is described in numerous posts here but thank heaven the second time around is sooooooooo much better. He remembers to take out the trash, cleans up after himself and the kids, cooks and fixes whatever needs fixing. Yeah I am bragging a little bit but I am so thankful for my guy and so happy that I met him, I had begun to think all men were totally useless when I met the one i am with now and he restored my faith that there are good men out there. He is the most amazing, wonderful man alive.

Gina - posted on 08/15/2010

Renee this is what I do to my hubby and daughter: I pick up everything and put it in a garbage bag then put the bag away in a broom closet or back porch. When they ask where it is I tell them to check the garbage in the broom closet or back porch. They go check and I tell them they have 2 more chances then it will be put to the curb for pick up. It;s never failed so far, although it works quicker with children than adults. Try it and see what happens.

Jayde - posted on 08/14/2010

far out i love you ladies!!! haha i don't know why i thought i was the only one. So i am not a whinger i dont even need to write anything because you all covered mine haha i didn't see this though
Dear Chris, it wouldn't be nagging if you would just listen to me the first time! (more with the clothes dropping where he stands & only putting his uniform in the wash when he could also may be put the other stuff from the hamper in the wash to make a full load & blah blah blah you ladies have been there said that haha) I've been getting up at 530 every morning for a year & half, i would love a sleep in

Patricia - posted on 08/14/2010

....this dear hubby thing...kissing up..has really gotten on my nerves..when something is wrong,you HAVE speak up.,!!!no wonder most of you women out there look much,much older than your husbands,actually like his GRANDMOTHER..because you REFUSE to seek your own indentity and independence and rely TOTALLY on him for EVERYTHING...i am married for 36 years and this is how things go in my household - if i do something that is not appropriate,i am told by him and vice versa..think of what will happen if this DEAR MAN picks up and leave..will you be able to survive on your own?P.S.I raised 4 children on my own - he was here and still is - and with god's blessed guidance,they came out very,very well,even my friends tell him that if it was not for me and my persistance,things would have been different with the children..so there,get your own identity...still love you guys..!!!

Patricia - posted on 08/13/2010

...are you REALLY SERIOUS,sher kirkpatrick....??what battle is there to pick?a right thing is a right thing...and it also sets a good example for the children...!!

Patricia - posted on 08/13/2010

..this just seem to be MEN,young and old alike..!!!
a short time ago,someone came to do repairs in our bathroom,make a guess where MY BIG CHILD,put his WET TOWEL.?over the HEADBOARD....!!!!!!

Lilian - posted on 08/13/2010

SO TRUE! LOVE IT! I TOTALLY AGREE!

Lilian - posted on 08/13/2010

right? men are such boys...they talk like being a mom at home is just sit back, relax, do nothing.....when it's a million things all at once. The list would be endless if we sat down and really thought about it,...
So hubbys, quit whining, and make your own plate, and for god's sake, take the belt off the pants before you put them in the dirty laundry basket!

Emily - posted on 08/13/2010

I would say one thing Just come home we love and miss you

Aiyana - posted on 08/13/2010

Dear Hubby,

Thank you so much for everything that you do! I'm not the greatest house keeper and don't claim to be but I try. I love the way you show that you love me by helping me with the house even after you have come home from work! I love the fact that you are the best Father to our 5 children! If I haven't had a chance to do something you just jump in and help! You can cook, clean bathrooms, wash dishes, iron, laundry, vacuum, help with the kids, and you are so handy, I don't think there is anything you can't do! You can lay flooring, fix the plumbing, work on our cars to keep them running, lay roofing and just about anything else that needs to be done! You are such a wonderful man and I just wanted you to know!

Miranda - posted on 08/12/2010

i hate that. our room is always a mess too!

Michelle - posted on 08/12/2010

Hello!!! He moved the bowflex into our bdrm-"I'll work-out more if I see it there everyday..." Yeah...Everyday I have to take whatever he wore the day b/f off of it and put it in the laundry(or his wet towel). & H2O bottles & the junk mail all over the table or the floor in the bathroom right next to the trash can.

Carisa - posted on 08/12/2010

I am not picking on you when I say that the counter/table/high chair is part of the kitchen when you are cleaning up after dinner.

Kirstie - posted on 08/12/2010

They can never find anything and get mad at us when they dont put their stuff away, I have to tell him that yu acctually have t pick something up to find it. And why is it when they lose something everyone has to stop what they are doing to look for it but if we lose something we're told ''it's no my probluem'', or ''I don't know''. Haha men are to funny

Tarina - posted on 08/12/2010

Dear Hubby... I know it is common place for women to complain about the toilet seat, but you are an odd man. Why oh why do I have to beg you to put the seat UP so you dont dribble/miss and just leave it there for me to sit in??? Yuck!! Also, I appreciate that you have broken your habit of blowing your nose on your socks... can you please work towards finding the baskets and not just dropping them on the floor in piles under your computer, or the couch? When your clothes have been washed, dried and folded and placed in a basket ON your dresser, would you mind moving them the last 2 feet to the appropriate drawers? Please note: Cheez-its are not an acceptable dinner for a 19 month old. Flat surface syndrome is an unacceptable excuse for never putting anything away. I fill countertops with photos on purpose. I want to see them, not a giant pile of your crap pushing them out of the way. Leaving your dinner dishes on the arm or the back of the couch is really getting on my nerves. Im not sure how YOU dont knock them down... but I always seem to and Im tired of it! I love that you make me smoothies but for the love of GOD will you learn to wipe up the counter when you are done?? Lastly, the front door is not a shoe rack. Neither is the kitchen doorway, or the living room floor. Please please please when you come home, kick your shoes to the side when you take them off so I stop tripping over them daily no matter what room I am in! Kthanks!

Tanesha - posted on 08/12/2010

dear hubby, lol..
would it kill you to let me have a break from watching,feeding,bathing and playing with OUR daughter.. yes you work but i do laundry wash dishes vacuum ect. while your at work. I need a break to..

Mandy - posted on 08/12/2010

ps hubby Im not the only parent and it would be nice if you atleast tried to put our son to sleep once and awhile not just after I have been fighting with him for an hour.

Danielle - posted on 08/12/2010

Hahahahahaha, here goes,
dear hubby,
your dirty socks do not belong on our new couch,
sticking your stinky feet in my face, not cool,
the thousands of cans on the night stand do not make an additional building on our taxs , sitting on the couch with your junk hanging out ALL THE TIME does not turn me on, p.s it's not a toy and if you keep playing with it you will lose an eye, the house is a disaster, don't tell me to make you a list of stuff to do to help then file that list in the never ending pile of good intentions
sex, ha what the hell is that? Perhaps if I wasent pissed off that you have made a permanent indent on our couch you would see me naked more then once every 3 months!
We have 5 kids, DO YOU NOT REMEMBER THIS? Newsflash!!!! That many kids are bound to speak every once in awhile this does not mean they " need to be quiet" while you are watching the dame movie for the tenth time!
When in a small space like our vehicle with the kids it WILL get loud no matter what and telling them to be quiet on a 1 1/2 hour drive is just cruel perhaps if you spent more time in a vehicle with them you would learn to tune it out as I do or sing along!
I love you but if I wanted another child to take care of I would have had another one! Do your part and then see what happens
p.s
it's not YOUR MONEY and if you feel that it is then you can start paying me for all I do which will be $4000 bi-weekly please oh and it's tax free and I only accept cash payments!

Mandy - posted on 08/12/2010

Dear Hubby

Thank you for cooking dinner the majority of the time but please stop acting like I do nothing. When a 16 month old if running around the house tearing it apart as I clean please remember that I try to keep the house clean but our son has another plan. And also please stop leaving your smelly socks in the living room. The door to the basement where the washing machine is, is literally a foot away if that alls I ask is you throw them in the basement as your feet smell after a long days work and your socks are no exception. Remember my job is just as important as yours if not more and if I do a bad job it has far worse consequences

Cheryl - posted on 08/12/2010

LOL sorry I can't be of help here.. HUbs is the neat one I am the messy one! He's a great housekeeper! I say buy multiple laundry hampers and trash baskets and put them in all the random places you spoke of!! better to have a lot of hampers and trash cans than a lot of mess!! Good luck!..

Flo - posted on 08/12/2010

Good for you Elizabeth!! If we pick our husbands apart what would we accomplish they could do the same to us.. But instead we should concentrate on all the positives. I will tell you there are far more positives with my husband than negatives Praise God for such a wonderful husband.

Malinna - posted on 08/12/2010

Dear Hubby,
We miss you everyday. Your warmth, your humor, your affection, your support. Visiting your graveside while the kids were still young just wasnt in the plan. I even miss the dishes and clothes left wherever you were, because it meant you were still here with us.
Love always....

Deanna - posted on 08/12/2010

dear hubby, where are you? I see you sitting there glued to the screen day after day but I feel like you're no where to be found. I realize you're stressed trying to find a job, but your family feels neglected when we come second to baseball games and politics. when you're ready to talk, I'm here.

Jennifer - posted on 08/12/2010

I am loving reading some of these. I could go on and on about this! My hubby and I just had it out two days in a row about this kind of behavior! I know how you feel...the laundry being placed right next to the laundry basket, underwear left on bathroom floor, dishes being set on the counter above the dishwasher, trash being left right by the trash can and not taken out, hunting gear left out so the kids can play with it then he will complain when it's broken, not picking anything up, when I ask for just 5 mins of peace not keeping the kids away from me! Oh the joys. At least I know I am not the only one! I do have to say this too, when my clothes do not fit, my roots in desperate need of being done and I can't look the greatest because we need to catch up on bills please do NOT go buy something that costs over $100 and say to me that you wanted it...I would like a lot of things including clothes that aren't falling off, but I do the responsible thing and do NOT spend money!
I love you honey....your wife

Patricia - posted on 08/12/2010

Sorry, I know you didn't ask, but if you have health problems, borrow a puppy or babysit all day before you decide to have children. I have rheumatoid arthiris, and I have a 15 month old, I love him, but some days when I can hardly move, it breaks my heart not to be able to do anything with him.

Kristen - posted on 08/12/2010

Dear Hubby, The dishwasher is empty and ready for your dishes, you would know that if you looked. So why did you leave them on the counter? As for empty cans and bottles, the can is under the sink, so why put them on same said counter?

Krista - posted on 08/12/2010

LMFAO @ Carol!

Jackie - posted on 08/12/2010

Dear Jon, (no punn intended

Can you please stop dropping the F Bomb every other word in front of our 18 month old daughter. You know she speaks VERY well and picks up everything. It's not cute when a baby curses and I wont stand for it. Can you also please treat me with some respect. I'm not just here to be your maid or when its convenient for you.

Can you also stop drinking so much? And stop acting like you're entitled to drink because you work all day. I have news for you... I WORK ALL GOD DAMN DAY TOO and then, when I get home my job doesn't stop. I'm afraid to even take a Tylenol PM because somebody has to be on point and if it clearly not going to be you, then it's me.

I appreciate that you bust your ass all day to pay the bills. Allison and I never need or want for anything other than the things you cant buy. Please refer to the first paragraph.

Love Always - Jackie

Regina - posted on 08/12/2010

mine walks in the door n strips stuff off from the garage to the bedroom...it's so annoying i feel like a maid i can't stand it

Barbara - posted on 08/12/2010

The garbage I have no solution but as for the dirty laundry I fixed that one. Mine used to leave his boxes behind the bathroom door every morning. I like the idiot would pick them up and put them in the hamper. One day I said no more. Told him if it doesn't make it to the hamper by laundry day it will not be washed. Guess what he ran out of underwear and was in a real rush to wash them HIMSELF. He has never ever left his boxes behind the door again. Simple and no arguing. Cause and effect teaching,

Elisabeth - posted on 08/12/2010

Dear Sargon,
I love you with all my heart. You have your vices but so do I, i love you anyway. Thank you for working so hard so I can say at home and raise our children, I promise to show my appreciation for this by overlooking those vises and I hope you can do the same. You are a perfect husband, father, lover and friend. I can write about how wonderful you are all day, but I'll tell you instead when you get home tonight.

With all my unconditional love forever,
Elisabeth. XXXXXXX

Nicole - posted on 08/11/2010

Same as the original post.
Can't you put your dirty clothes in the launfry basket, and put your dish in the dishwater and clean up after yourself with everything else.

Flo - posted on 08/11/2010

I hate to say this but if those are your biggest complaints about your husband than you are doing pretty well... Thank God for a wonderful husband and concentrate on all the good things about him...

Margaret - posted on 08/11/2010

i wish he would get off his butt and actually give me a break and let me take that nap instead of him sleeping in till 1 in the afternoon and then calling me lazy! I wish you he would get off his game and actually watch our daughter and I wish he would help me period around this house he is such a dang slob

Amanda - posted on 08/11/2010

Dear Robert,

Thank you for taking the kids at eleven in the morning while I am at work. Also thank you for doing all the things you do and caring for me. You truly are an amazing man. (Even when I am freaking out about the mess that was made after I just cleaned the last one up.)
Love Always Amanda

Johnny - posted on 08/11/2010

Dear Steve,



Would it be at all possible for you to stop walking like an elephant? I realize that you are 6'4" but there are dancers who are that height and they manage not to land every jump like a rock plummeting to earth? It is really tiresome to have to go in and put a crying 2 year old back to sleep twice every night after she has been awoken by what she thought was thunder when you passed by on your way to the can. You don't need to tiptoe, but it might be helpful to softly and gently place your foot on the ground from heel to toe rather than one giant thud. I appreciate that this is "how you've always walked" and that you "don't feel like changing" who you are. But I am beginning to fear that one night you will just shoot right through the floor and end up stuck in a hole with your feet dangling in the living room and your head in the bedroom. Otherwise, you're doing an excellent job as a hubby & a daddy and I appreciate your crazy mad vacuuming skillz!



Love,

Your super hot wife!

Kylie-Jane - posted on 08/11/2010

I appreciate that you work so hard so that I can stay at home with our daughters. I am so impressed that you will willingly tell people that I am basically a single parent and you appreciate how hard it is for me sometimes. I love that even at the end of another long day you don't care if I tell you I'm never cooking a meal again. I am grateful that you accept that most days, dealing with the chaos of our home is more than I am capable of doing. I do notice that if I go to the supermarket when you are home, you will take the opportunity to vacuum for me. You are an amazing father and an incredible husband. But.... If you don't start rinsing your freaking glass out after using it to drink milk then I won't be held responsible for my actions.

And no court in the country would convict me.

Jessica - posted on 08/11/2010

Dear Hubby,

You are the love of my life, but you really get on my nerves sometimes. You do waaaaayyy more good things than bad things, but there are days when I am like "Really? You just played XBOX until midnight and then try to fool around with me when I want to go to sleep? You tell me to be more confident and feel sexy yet you go get your hair cut at Lady Jane's where all the stylists are skinnier and prettier than me. If you ask me again if we have _____ in the fridge I am going to put all the groceries on your side of the bed so you can keep an eye on the inventory because opening the fridge door and looking seems to be too difficult for you. Right after I clean the sink is not when your nose hair needs a trim or you need a shave. If you can't remember to send your sister a card after knowing her for 28 years, don't expect me to remember after knowing her for 5. You are the one snoring like a chainsaw, therefore, YOU should be the one to sleep on the couch."

You are a wonderful husband and I will love you for the rest of forever if our biggest probelms are only these little annoyances.

Liza - posted on 08/11/2010

could you pls help me taking care of the kids while you have time, rather than sitting infront of the computer playing GENERALS or riding your motorbike going anywhere... could you pls put your used socks inside the laundry basket rather than on the floor near the laundry basket... could you also pls be fair, when kids are outside, you want me to follow them wherever they go, while if you are with them, you just let them play without your eyes on them...
and pls stop saying you are i a rush when i want you to do something in a minute... and i would like to remind you, i am not a perfect mom but i am trying to be a best mother i could be...

Natasha - posted on 08/11/2010

Thanks for allowing your laundry to pile so high it touches the ceiling. I refuse to wash it because it just gets that way again in a matter of days and all the clean gets mixed in with dirty anyway. Also, thanks for commenting about how good the baby slept last night, when she woke up 3 times and you snored through the entire thing.

Cassandra - posted on 08/11/2010

... can you also put your dishes in the dish washer, the table does not clean its self and maybe even unload it every now and then? If not it would be fine just to put them in the dishwasher, I can handle the rest. It's a start!!

Annie - posted on 08/11/2010

I know what you mean...My husband does the same thing...I have to clean up behind him and my son..It's as if I have two children..lol....I guess at times, husbands look to their wives as being more than a partner..I think mines look to me as being a motherly figure also...I fuss at times and it does good for about a week, then it's back to the basics..Wives, put your husbands on punishment to see if that would help.....lmbo

Alisha - posted on 08/11/2010

Husbands may do little annoying things even after you have asked them a lot to please do it how you want. These small things in life really aren't worth getting upset and fighting over. If that's the worst he does, than you have a great husband! I know it can be annoying but just pick up where he leaves off and enjoy all the wonderful things he does do!