Did you get your daughter's ears pierced?

Ashley - posted on 06/23/2011 ( 205 moms have responded )

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Did you get your daughters ears pierced? If so, at what age? If not, what were your reasons for not doing so?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/23/2011

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Nope, she is 14 months old, and I want her to ask for it to be done. We will have a nice mother and daughter bonding day.

I did not do it because I want this day with her, and I use to pierce ears, and I hated, absolutely despised doing babies ears.

Melissa - posted on 06/23/2011

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I let both my daughters choose if they wanted it and both of mine did at the age of 3 or 4.. I did not feel I had the right to make that choice for her. Its her ears and its her choice..

Heather - posted on 06/23/2011

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My daughter was 3 months old. She Barely knew what was going on. We love them. My niece got hers done then , too.

Mindy - posted on 06/23/2011

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I didn't want to do it to my daughter because I remember when I was 6 and going with my parents to get them - my daughter doesn't want them yet and she might not ever as it totally horrifies her - she doesnt understand why anyone would want to put extra holes on their bodies LOL

Lady Heather - posted on 06/23/2011

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Nope. She can't have them pierced until she is at least double digits. We have very sensitive skin in my family, and she inherited it. Infections are in her future. I'm a grown woman who obviously takes very good care of her piercings and I still get infections sometimes. It's crazy. I got mine done at 11 and let them grow in because they annoyed the bejesus out of me. Got them redone when I was 20.

Personally even if we didn't have the skin problem, I wouldn't have to done before she could ask for it. I just don't think it's my job to decide to pierce my kid. She's already asking for it now at 2 years old though...sigh...

Francesca - posted on 06/23/2011

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I got my ears pierced when I was 6 months old. I did the same for my daughter because it's easier to care for them and they usually will leave them alone. Plus they never remember getting them done. My other daughter wants them done just haven't gotten to it but I think she is going to play with them constantly.

Lisa - posted on 06/23/2011

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my daughter is now 14 and I asked with the doctor before I took her to get them pierced, I believe she was about 6 months

Kim - posted on 06/23/2011

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Yes, had my daughters done when she was just over 3 months. She cried for about 3 seconds because it surprised her, not hurt her. She doesnt even know they are there. If she decides at an older age she doesnt want them, they will close. I had mine done @ 5 and had to have them redone @9. But no infections. I think that was more painful for me@6 then her!

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My sister, cousins and I all got our ears pierced when we were 1 month old or by 1 year old, it's a culture thing.

Lisa - posted on 06/23/2011

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I think when they are old enough to make that decision they will. I have 2 daughters and I think if they want holes in their bodies, it should be up to them when they are mature enough to make a choice. I had mine pierced at 6, but I have always wished I'd had the choice.

Temma - posted on 06/23/2011

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I had my daughters ears pierced at 3.5 after she kept asking about my sparkles in my ears and was bugging to get hers done. I believe it is a good age when your child can make the decision that they actually want it done. I have a friend who is 35 and never has wanted her ears done

Kristn - posted on 06/23/2011

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Nope. Letting her decide. Secretly, I think it's kind of an initiation from being a "little" girl to being I guess a "big" girl. It's that first "grown up decision" I feel like a girl can make for herself and a real lesson of the consequences of making our own decisions. I remember getting mine done in the mall and HOWLING loud enough that I think everyone in the mall knew. Ugh! I remember thinking I just wanted to die, I thought it hurt so much. But I also remember it being my decision and my mom continued to remind me of that fact. I must have been like 6-ish. I had to take care of them and when they did get a little infected my mom explained to me what was wrong but I still had to take responsibility and continue to clean them even when they were all gross, crusty and pussy. I certainly learned what happens if I didn't take care of my body. I also learned how to care for a cut myself. To this day I have no fear of blood or cuts and don't get grossed out by much. That's not all because of the ear piercing, of course but I do think that was a starting point.

Suzanne - posted on 06/23/2011

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My daughter had hers pierced at 9. I told her when she passed minute math which is the multiplication and division tables each in one minuteshe could get her ears pierced. Make is a reward for a big accomplishment!

Hanoi - posted on 06/23/2011

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I am form Venezuela, in my country you do it to all baby girls when they are born, at the hospital. We use special gold irrings, I have never know listen about a problem using them.

Babay - posted on 06/23/2011

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My mother wouldn't let me have my ears pierced until I was twelve. I never understood why. Three years ago I let my daughter get her ears pierced when she was 6. I was so excited. (A month later my mom told me that she hadn't let me pierece my ears sooner because she knew I would lose the earrings. She thought that at twelve I could keep up with them.) Sure enough, my own daughter has lost at least one of every earring she has. She fails to put them in because at 7 and 8 a little girl just doesn't think about earrings; she's just lucky to have on matching shoes before we walk out the door! As a result, her ears have grown back together. We have shoved earrings through the grown over holes every other month when she remembers the earrings in her jewelry box. Then her ears bleed and hurt, so she doesn't wear them for a while. Turns out, 12 might be a good age to start this stuff. I never had any of these problems. In 7th grade I was so ready to get up and pick out earrings every morning, and responsible enough to keep from losing them.

Sarah - posted on 06/23/2011

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I got my little girls ears pierced when she was 6 months.I didnt have any problems with her messing with the ear rings till now she is 14 months.She plays with the ear rings every once in a awhile but not all the time.I have a 3 month old little girl and when she is six months I will be getting her ears pierced to.

Christine - posted on 06/23/2011

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Yes, both of my girls have their ears pierced. My older was about three or so and my youngest was 7 mos. Some people like the idea of letting their little one tell them when they are ready-my oldest saw my youngest with her ears done and immediately wanted hers done too!

Tomie - posted on 06/23/2011

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We got our daughters ears pierced at about 3 months. We got them done at that age so she wouldn't. Play with them while they were healing and wouldn't play with them or try to pull them out they would just be part of her for as long as she can remember. We are also going to get our second daughters ears done when she's about the same age for the same reasons.

Kellie - posted on 06/23/2011

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I thought about getting my daughters ears pierced, I think she'd look megga cute with them but It's not my body it's hers. So when she's old enough to tell me herself that that's what she wants to do with her body I'll consider it then.

Ashley - posted on 06/23/2011

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Thank you everyone for your comments! I still haven't decided exactly what I want to do yet. My daughter is only 6 weeks old so I still have a while to decide.

Jamie - posted on 06/23/2011

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I got my daughter done when she was 3 month old. The younger the better so she won't be pulling on her ears

Sherri - posted on 06/23/2011

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I got both of my daughters ears pierced, but not until they were old enough to want them and old enough to take care of them after having them pierced. It was my way of teaching them how their ears and the earrings needed to be taken care of and respect of their own body. Of course I overseeing the process and made sure that they took care of their ears, but ultimately it was their responsibility.

Pattie - posted on 06/23/2011

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I have four girls...they had to wait until they were 10. I thoought it was an age were they would be old enough to care for the piercing. I found holding each milestone to a date, made it easy. I didn't have to have the discussion with every child about when they could do various things, for example ears pierced, shaving legs, etc.

Brandi - posted on 06/23/2011

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My daughter was 3 1/2 the first time I got them pierced. I had to wait until her adoption was finalized because her foster care caseworker wouldn't let me do it any earlier. We got to the point were we could switch them out, but at some point didn't put them back in. She just got them repierced about a month ago and she'll turn 7 next month.

Aimee - posted on 06/23/2011

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I got my daughters ears pierced when she was 6 months. They did them with a gun both at the same time she whinged a bit but was fine as soon as I picked her up. Getting them done at that age was so easy as they don't play with them. She never had an issue with hers & I've changed them a dozen times since then with no problems at all. I'm so glad I got them done then instead of her deciding at 4 or 5 she wants them n then them getting infected!!

Raquel - posted on 06/23/2011

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I say the earlier the better - they less likely to play with them , you can keep them clean and they dont remember the pain - my daughter was done at 7mths but had a friend had her daughter done a 2 mths. My daughter has never complained about them nor played with them etc and its never been an issue. My niece had hers done at 10 yo and tho happy she had them done hated the pain.

Susan - posted on 06/23/2011

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No. My mother waited to have my ears pierced until I was old enough to want it done, I was 7, and I am doing the same with my daughter. If and when SHE wants to have them pierced we will do it then.

Amy - posted on 06/23/2011

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I had all 3 of my daughter's ears done when they were infants. They are too young to mess with them and less likely to mess with them when they get a little older. I figured when they were old enough to decide if they wanted to wear earrings it was up to them. For years they didn't but the holes are still there. Now most of the time they do. One has sensitive ears so I had to be careful and watch what earrings she wore. Now they each have a daughter of their own. Two of them got their daughter's ears done as infants for the same reason. The third one's baby is 5 months. She wants to do them but her husband doesn't so they are at a stand still on that one.

Deanne - posted on 06/23/2011

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Ashley yes i got both my daughters done @ the drs.office when they were only 2mths. By far the best dicision i have ever made. How old is your daughter? I tell every1 if your able 2 do it as early as possible. Wish you luck...

Carrie - posted on 06/23/2011

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My daughter is 6, going into 1st grade and has been begging me only because a few of her friends have had theirs pierced in the past 6 months or so. Although I think it's adorable on babies, and pass no judgement on those who have their babies pierced, I wanted to wait until my daughter wanted it so badly she couldn't stand it. That's how I felt when I got mine done at 12 and had been begging for years. I also know someone who did it as a right of passage for her daughter and waited until she started her period and took her for a girls day at the spa and got ears pierced. I don't think we can hold out that long...but we'll see ;) When we do it will be at the peditrician's office though.

Rosalie - posted on 06/23/2011

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My daughter wanted them done for her 6th birthday. I thought she was too young, but she really wanted them.
She screamed the chemist down when they did them, and she doesn't like me cleaning and twisting them.
Personally I wish I had waited until she was ten, but all in all she loves them and is very proud of them.

Rebecca - posted on 06/23/2011

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Nope. It's way too much of a hassle, plus who knows if she wants them pierced? If she decides to play sports they must constantly be taken out. Plus, tons of kids pull/take their earring out which means they get lost easily and they can be swallowed or stuck up a nose. I also feel that it should be sort of a reward for her, showing that mom and dad feel she's old enough and responsible enough to handle making a choice about what she does to her body.

Donna - posted on 06/23/2011

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no it's their decision if they want it done. they can make that choice when she is mature. i got my ears pierced for my 16th birthday

Angel - posted on 06/23/2011

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i got my daughters ears done when she was 1 month old and she got her second hole when she was 7yrs old she loves them she gets really excited when we change different earrings. i chose to get it done then because its alot easier to take care of!! an it was my daughters choice to have them pierced a second time shes already talkin about getting it done again lol its cute but no more holes for a while!!!

Ashleigh - posted on 06/23/2011

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Nope, I am leaving that up to her when she is old enough to take care of them. I was 13 when I got mine done the first time, but some people never want them.

RENAY - posted on 06/23/2011

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yes I did but she was a baby at the time,I think she was 6months. Really it was her great grandmothers idea cause she didn't have any hair at the time.

Lisa - posted on 06/23/2011

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No did not get my daughters ears pierced as i did not want to and she is 6 now and still no holes in her ears, I feel if she wants to get them done when she is older then she can.

Sobina - posted on 06/23/2011

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Yes I had my daughters ears pierced day afta her first birthday as it is family tradition.

Stifler's - posted on 06/23/2011

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My daughter is 4 weeks old so no. I'm not getting them done until she asks if she can. I think it's cruel and unnecessary.

Cara - posted on 06/23/2011

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I got mine done at 7 and my sister was 9. We went together. I had been asking for about a year and my sister had jsut started wanting hers done. I told my husband I wanted to let our daughter get hers done when she started asking but she needed to be at least 7. I was quite responsible and I think that is the youngest I couldve coped with taking care of them on my own and I figure my daughter is quite similar to me. About 6months before her 7th birthday she mentioned it and then when all the birthdays were happeing leading up to hers in her class at school she bacame quite insistent! Off we went for her 7th birthday. SHe was bawling afterwards and after 10months can finally change them almost by herself and no tears. I jsut let her do stuff in her own time so I cleaned them for the first week then when she felt more comfortable and knew how to do it she took over. I think it is a good experience for them to learn to look after themselves. It's also a good incentive to keep them behaving! lol

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I am with those who say it should be her choice whether or not to make a permanent change to her body. Unless you come from a culture in which all babies' have their ears pierced I think it's important to let them decide for themselves when they are older.
My girls would both probably have had trips to the ER multiple times if we had pierced their ears because they fiddle with everything, tear everything apart and put everything in their mouths. Everything.

My older girl is six now and I got some stickers in the scrapbook aisle at the craft store that are little round rhinestones. I let her stick them on her ears for special occasions. They're perfect as a substitute for real earrings and when she starts fiddling and pulling them off or putting them in her mouth, I just toss them and don't let her have them again for a while. It's teaching her to treat jewelry in a proper way.

Melissa - posted on 06/23/2011

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i had my daughter's done at 8 months!! i took care of them made sure they were clean etc.We never had any infections and she never bothers with them at all.While i had mine done 3 times starting at the age of 7 mine would get infected ( because i didnt clean them properly etc plus i didnt have an attentive mom).My daughter cried for maybe a minute then was fine!! i dont see it as mutilation or anything like that!!

Ashley - posted on 06/23/2011

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our girls Don't have their ears done... we had thought about with with the oldest when she was a baby but never got around to actually doing it... then by the time we were going to we figured she would just pull at them and that so we figured we would wait til the day comes that she wants it done herself and can take care of them herself... and as for our youngest we figured since we were waiting for the oldest we would do the same for the youngest ... also this way we avoid the annoying questions from the families going on about well why did you get hers done and not the oldest ??? do you favour her more?? and so on .. yes our families would say that crap

Cynthia - posted on 06/23/2011

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I had my ears pierced at 13 and I had to beg my mom to do it, my daughter is 13 and she has no interest in doing it but if she ever asked I would do it. I have worked in a store where I pierced ears and it was HORRIBLE to pierce a babies ears it is incredibly painful and unnecessary they don't understand why they are having to go through the pain and plus keep them clean so they don't get infected is a chore you don't need right now. Wait until they are old enough to want to do it and then make sure there are two piercers on duty so they can do it at the same time it is quicker and easier that way.

Deb - posted on 06/23/2011

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No, I haven't had my daughters ears pierced and she doesn't want them done either! She'll be 13 in November and I believe it should be her choice not mine. I had my ears pierced when I was 17 and that is only because my Dad allowed me to. My mother was furious to say the least when she found out!!!

Sherri - posted on 06/23/2011

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I don't have a daughter but if I did as soon as they got their first shots I would have it done. I did however, have my sons ear pierced.

Jenni - posted on 06/23/2011

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Nope. (she's 13 months)

Don't have any desire to.

Don't want to put her through unnecessary pain for myself and cosemetic purposes.

Don't want to alter her body without her permission.

Would like her to make the decision herself to get them pierced and have something to look forward to as a right of passage.



Oh, and my step daughter's mom did hers when she was a baby and had nothing but problems with it. She kept pulling them out and yanking on them. She had to take them out and got them repierced recently when she was 3.5 years old. I still think that's too young.

Minnie - posted on 06/23/2011

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No. Not my body, not my choice. It's nothing but vanity, and isn't justified. When they choose it (IF they choose it) and understand it, then we'll go have it done.

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