Did you have a good labor/delivery experience?

Brittany - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 56 moms have responded )

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I hated mine. The doctor that delivered my son was a rotten rotten woman. She was covering for my doctor because he was out of town (just my luck, right?) and she was the most unhelpful, mean, rotten lady I have ever met. When you're taking part in such a great occasion you should be courteous and you should at least act half way joyfully. She was just a big b------- (well, never mind that word)about everything.

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Mandy - posted on 12/21/2011

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I had a doctor that was filling in for my doc too. He was pushy, wanted to rush through my delivery to the point that I tor. I was not happy w/ him n the nurses were better w/ me n were there more. I met him when he came in the room to deliver my son...WTF r these people thinking? I'm going to be complaining to my doc on my first visit. Its my my body, my baby, my way! :)

Isobel - posted on 01/22/2010

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First...Sabrina, I am soooo sorry that happened to you. I know that having another baby must be terrifying, I wish you the best.

I was going to get on here and bitch about how long and hard my first labour was...how rude the anesthesiologist was...I think I'll just say I was lucky all around.

Brittany - posted on 01/22/2010

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I think next time I might go with a midwife. Most of the good experiences I've heard of were with midwives.

Venessa - posted on 01/18/2010

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It sounds like alot of you had very unpleasant experiences .... I guess firstly being in Australia, we don't automatically have a Dr involved in our preganancy (unless high risk), most dealings are done with Midwives including delivery unless complications arise...... I had been advised since 6 months to expect a 11 lb baby (minimum) ... I had an ante natal appointment scheduled Tuesday February 17th (Due date March 1st), and as the measurement were still coming back extremely big, they then rang and suggested I go back Wednesday for a Stretch & Sweep (not sure if it refered to differently in the US), they advised me then the discomfort in my back over night were probably contractions given I was already 3 cm dialated (1.2 inches) and when I started feeling the contractions again, start walking, and try to encourage them, and my baby would probably be here by Thursday latest. That night the contractions started again - without any pain - and were 5 minutes apart but then stopped again by 0800 Thursday. The Midwife checked said I was only 5 cm (2 inc) and to go home ... I feel asleep and woke at 1500 with contractions again now 4 min apart - still no pain - Back to hospital at 1800, by 2200 the contractions were 2 min part very strong, however with no pain and my waters in tact they decided to send me to the ward for monitoring, and said I would be reviewed at 0600 Friday if still there. No one showed until 0830 at that point I was 6cm (2.4 in) dialated but the contractions had dropped back to every 5 mins. The decision was made to induce me, and advised they would find me a birthing suite and then move me for a induction about lunchtime. By this time I hadn't slept since 1500 Thursday and was relieved. At 1630 Friday no one had come back so I decided to go to my ante natal appointment that was already scheduled given I was still waiting.... Well imagine my surprise when the midwife told me that I was (according to the computer) already in the birthing suite having an induction. At this point my sleep deprived and agitated fiance blew his top .... By 1830 we were in the birthing suite where we waited until 1930 when the midwife arrived and said I was 6 cm still and contraction were 2 every 5 minutes - still no pain. At 2030 my waters were broken, and due to the awesome organisation of the hospital, the mid wife had to go and find someone to organise the syntocin (?) .... after 20 minutes the contractions had sorted themselves out - AND THE PAIN!!! - and at 3 every 5 minutes, they decided no syntocin was required after all - but the guy still showed up an hour later to administer it and was less than happy when - mid contraction - I told him it wasn't required anymore. By then I was dialating I would say 1 inch an hour, and the gas mask became a very dear friend, because someone had decided to make me feel like they had beaten my lower back with a plank of timber. At 2300 I said I need to push, but without even touching me, My clairvoiyant midwife assured me I was wrong, for the next hour my fiance insisted that she check just to humour the person that was actually giving birth and thus maybe a little more atune to what the baby was doing .... finally she decided that she would humour me and have a look just to prove that I was wrong, and low & behold baby was nearly crowning - 3 pushes later, my son was in his Daddy's arms at 0229 Saturday, February 21st weighing in at a meagre 8lb 8 (sure beats 11 lb) and 50cm and 19.7 in. As happy as I was that I got away with no tearing, grazing and a reasonably short pain period, I was slightly annoyed when the midwife wanders off to do paperwork, forgetting I had just given birth on my knees and couldn't see my baby without falling off the bed - AAAHHHEEEMMM!!! - After rolling her eyes she helped me over and continued with her paperwork. But despite the 36 hours without sleep, and the stuffing around, and disorganisation, the minute I looked into my Baby boy's eyes I forgot all that had passed over the last 2 days and looked forward to every day following. My fiance is still amazed that I actually did the whole thing without getting agitated or annoyed, or angry with any one (I am reknowned for my impaitence and fiery temper when incompetence is at play).... Although the delivery was short and sweet, the lead up to it was extremely nerve racking but no matter how bad it got the precious gift at the end, made it easier to look back and laugh. I figure there is no point allowing someone else destroy this momentus occassion, just another hurdle to bypass ..... Now that I have bored you all with my tale I have an 11 month old that is due to wake up soon, so CONGRATULATIONS to you all enjoy the time you have with your children, it passes so quickly. Best Wishes and Happy New Year to you all!!!

Hazel Anne - posted on 01/04/2010

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I was pretty lucky, I consider my birthing experience to be pretty cool - anesthesia rules! My OB is a friend of my Mom's and was pretty considerate. She had a great team working with her too.

When they brought me to my room (where family and friends were waiting) I was so chatty about the whole experience that they couldn't believe I had just given birth! This was about 3 hours after the whole thing...

EVELYN - posted on 01/01/2010

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I am sorry that happen to you ,That should have been a joyful time. my delivery went fine except the pain was very bad i just kept thanking it had get better but i was wrong ? It did not get better so after seven i quit.

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every woman deserves the right to process, vent and grieve their birth experience - and doing so here helps them do just that, as well as any other woman who may learn something from reading these responses.
I have been lucky to go down a path that led me to finding the midwifery model of care. My first was born in the hospital with and OB and doula (unmedicated, beautiful birth), second was born in the hospital with a midwife (intense short labor unmedicated and amazing), and the third was born at home by firelight in a warm tub of water with a midwife (spiritual, peaceful, incredible)...

Michele - posted on 01/01/2010

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How awful! I hope you reported her. I was blessed with a sweet ob/gyn and her great team.

Sheryl - posted on 12/31/2009

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my labor was 7 hrs. for 1st one........only because she was a month and half early so they were trying to stop contractions......4 hrs. for second one and 1 1/2 hrs for 3rd one......

Patti - posted on 12/31/2009

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I just had this very conversation with a pregnant woman in my office. All she heard were horror stories (I was in labor for 86 hours, horrific pain, bad experience, etc) so I shared mine.



I didn't even know I was in labor. I didn't feel well and had been on and off monitors for the last trimester, so I woke up that morning and call the doctor cuz I felt not good, but not bad. He told me to go to the hospital and get hooked up on a monitor. Well, I needed to wait on a phone call so I hung around the house until about 10 or so then I went to the hospital. My mom took me and couldn't find a parking place close and I didn't want her to drop me off and then we get separated in the hospital so I stayed with her. We walked all the away across the parking lot to the er. While we were going upstairs to get hooked up a nurse asked if her student could "check me out", at that time I didn't care who saw what so I said yes.



We get to the room and the student starts to check me out and says that I am no where near ready to deliver. My nurse double checks and then started asking me questions, am I in pain, do I feel the need to push, etc. I was starting to get a little scared when she said that I was between 8-9cm dilated and they needed to get me to L&D. About 45 minutes later I was holding my daughter.

Jenna - posted on 12/30/2009

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I had a fabulous labor and delivery. I started Labor at home around 2:30am and stayed home until my water broke around 6:00am. i checked into the hospital and was given my room. By then i was already 4cm dilated. I had 2 great coaches (my mother and mother-in-law) and one okay coach (my husband) labor pains weren't as bad as i had anticipated and i did not use any drugs. This was our firs baby and i wanted to experience as much as i could without being numb. There was a woman across the hall from me who was screaming her head off throughout her labor and all I really wanted was for her to shut up because i was trying to watch the tele in between contractions. At one point i was in a whirlpool tub, which was great. I was ready to push at 4pm and was told that it could take up to 2 hours to push my baby out. (I was not having that) 40 min later I had a baby boy in my arms getting ready to nurse for the first time. the euphoria was fantastic. The Dr was really only in the check on my a few times through out my labor and he was there just in time to catch the baby. The screamer across the hall had her baby 10 minutes after me... and they thought that she was going to go first. Over all, I would definately have another baby at that hospital and try it again without drugs!

Jayme - posted on 12/30/2009

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I vote for natural birth all the way. Both my babies were born in the water at a birth center and then the 2nd at home 3 mo. ago now. I highly recommend the midwife model of care experience! My 1st labor was long (2 days) and difficult but the warm baths cut my pain in at least half and it was a very emotionally fulfilling and certainly empowering experience when our son was finally born. The 2nd time I knew so much more about staying relaxed that early labor was actually restful, plus I trusted my body and in turn my body knew how to open for the baby. So when my water finally broke, our daughter "flew" out in less than 2 hours and the midwives walked in about 5 minutes after the baby was born. Daddy was on the phone with them while he caught her! We often hear how painful natural birth is but I'm pretty sure that all birth is painful and interventions often hinder instead of instead of help the process. There is actually a fairly powerful cocktail of chemicals, oxytocin for instance, that assist the mother in getting through natural birth, adjust to nursing and even caring for a newborn. I believe that natural birth actually nurtures and supports the mother and baby through a very intense time in their lives. I hope that didn't sound preachy. I just feel very lucky to have "enjoyed" both of my children's births, in so much as that is possible.(:

Katya - posted on 12/30/2009

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When my partner and I became pregnant, we also decided to do a home birth. It was our first child, so the labor was long and intense (around 25 hours), but it was all an amazing experience. Being at home, I could do as I wanted, which mainly consisted of walking, and wear what I wanted (barely nothing). The midwife and her assistant were supportive and understanding, and our daughter emerged into our candlelit bedroom. I would change nothing and would do a home birth again if we decide to have more children.

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Quoting Delmma:

I felt like a total Earth goddess the first time, all natural and in tune with myself, my child. the second time I thought I was going to die, all control was yanked out of my hands, I was induced, then stopped, then c-section, baby whisked away for vaccines, and they brought me back an autistic child who wouldn't look me in the eye the 2 years I nursed him.



This is one of the most disturbing things I've ever read, and not because "all control was yanked out of your hands."  It sounds like you're blaming your son's autism on a c-section.

Anne - posted on 12/30/2009

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I have 3 beautiful children and my midwives were all wonderful.They were normal delivery,i had no drugs just the help and encouragement from my fantastic midwives.Dont mean to brag but maybe im one of the lucky ones.BTW my hubby was fab too.

Missy - posted on 12/30/2009

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I loved it. Went smooth as it possibly could and was not in any pain with the Epidural My water broke at 5am and I had her at 4:24pm..I pushed for abut 40 minutes and she was here...I just hope it goes so well next time!!!!

Patricia - posted on 12/30/2009

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oh and I forgot to say that my doc was also a wonderful plastic surgeon!! :)

Patricia - posted on 12/30/2009

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OMG!!!! seriously i had the best doc and treatment ever!! I was so terrified of what was going to happen but my doc was so awesome and his nurse was cool and calming. I delivered by a scheduled C-section (my choice) and wud never do it any other way. My doc knew that i was scared to death so he made a special cd for me to listen to during the proecedure. I felt so safe and secure with him and his team. They were incredible to me! I went in at 2pm and was wheeled out at 2;30pm. The care that I recieved after was unbelievable!! anyway I only wish this for other women and for those that had bad experiences i'm sorry.

Jennifer - posted on 12/30/2009

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I had a wonderful one!
The last couple of months I had been very uncomfortable and baby showed no signs of coming. So the day after my due date my doctor scheduled a induction (which I was sad about I wanted the excitement of going into labor) My neice took me to the hospital since my husband was working and I told him not to worry it would be a long time. I got there changed and sat on the bed, I said oops I just peed and the nurse and I laughed...then I said oops I did it again! She said maybe we should have a Doctor come in...she checked me and I was 6cm!! I told My neice to call my Husband and she was born 3 hours later :) Yeah Lainey just wanted to come when she decided!

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Quoting Sharon:



Quoting Cinnamon:

Maybe everyone needs to let go of their birth experience. I realise that it is a huge thing to go through (I have done it five times!), but it's time to switch the focus, your baby is here now and you need to concerntrate on that precious little bundle of joy and remember that no matter how bad your birthing experience was there are many many women out there who would go through a whole lot worse to be blessed with what you have!






Wow!  That's rude to say that all of us with negative birth experiences should let go!   It's personal to me, whether is was wonderful or awful.  Time allowed me to accept the experience I did have and I no longer feel angry, but why should I let go of  my son's birth?  It's an event I will never forget and it ticks me off when people make blanket statements such as yours to "just let it go".





I wasn't trying to be rude and I'm sorry if you took it that way. I had just sat here reading all these experiences (and I'm not saying I had great experiences myself) and it was depressing how negative so many people were feeling. I was just pointing out that no matter what your experience was, there is usually something positive to be found. Every birth is different and it's good that this forum gives people a voice, I just prefer to look for that silver lining, which I wasn't seeing in so many of these reponses. If you took offense, then I apologise.

Cynthia - posted on 12/29/2009

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Everybody's experience is different...sometimes good, sometimes bad, but the child is what matters....remember what you have out of it, not the experience. Know that a new experience can wipe out the memory of a bad one. It's like focusing on a wedding instead of the marriage, which is what is important. The birth is just a beginning, but to have a healthy happy baby out of it is miraculous...and trust me, they grow up fast, so cherish every moment. Cheers!

Tessa - posted on 12/29/2009

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I had a good but horrible one in one package. My husband and I decided to put my labor in our own hands and had mattress time one night. I woke up the next morning spoting so I called the doc and he told me to go to the hospital right away. Well they checked my blood pressure and I was admitted right away. I was about to have a stroke(I was only 24) They induced me about an hour later and put me on blood pressure meds so I wouldn't have a stroke or a seizure. Turns out I had full preclampsia, I gained 65lbs and I was only 5'9" and 128 before I was pregnant. The meds they put me on made me silly and I was so hard headed. When you are on those meds you can not get up and if you do your blood pressure goes up. Well needless to say and I ripped out the catherter(however you spell it) twice. lol Doc was going nuts on me hehe...So I had my husband walk to me to the bathroom every hour. By the next morning I was finally ready to have my water broke and I went into hard labor for an hour of PAIN. Like I said I am totally hard headed and I refused the epidural. NO ONE is sticking a needle in my back plus I have migraines and I have heard many many stories of them getting worse after they have a epidural. II was sooo mad no one would hold my legs that was the worst part of it, trying to push a watermelon out of you and hold your legs just doesn't work. Finally he came out perfect doctor said he has never seen such a clean baby. I told doc husband has OCD must be genetic lmao. After they took him away I hemorrhaged twice, the last one I had the lady had to pretty much jump on my stomach after she finished I smiled at her said thank you and passed out. lol I was stuck at the hospital for five days so I could recover. I ened up having a D&C two months after because I couldn't stop bleeding and then a partial hysterectomy because I still wouldn't stop bleeding. Turns out my intire utures was filled with cysts. My baby also had a surgery on his tummy because he had pyloric stenosis which is a condition that causes severe vomiting and they can not get enough food. but now we both are happy and healthy for the most part. I still have problems with my cervix and I pee when I laugh or cough which is normal lol. If I could I would do it allll over again. but now we plan on adopting :)

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Quoting Cinnamon:

Maybe everyone needs to let go of their birth experience. I realise that it is a huge thing to go through (I have done it five times!), but it's time to switch the focus, your baby is here now and you need to concerntrate on that precious little bundle of joy and remember that no matter how bad your birthing experience was there are many many women out there who would go through a whole lot worse to be blessed with what you have!



Wow!  That's rude to say that all of us with negative birth experiences should let go!   It's personal to me, whether is was wonderful or awful.  Time allowed me to accept the experience I did have and I no longer feel angry, but why should I let go of  my son's birth?  It's an event I will never forget and it ticks me off when people make blanket statements such as yours to "just let it go".

Delmma - posted on 12/29/2009

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I felt like a total Earth goddess the first time, all natural and in tune with myself, my child. the second time I thought I was going to die, all control was yanked out of my hands, I was induced, then stopped, then c-section, baby whisked away for vaccines, and they brought me back an autistic child who wouldn't look me in the eye the 2 years I nursed him.

Delmma - posted on 12/29/2009

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my first child's birth was FABULOUS, we had a water birth with a midwife in a dimly lit room at Prentice Women's Hospital, Northwestern Hospital, Chicago. 2nd birth, was a nightmare.

Brittany - posted on 12/29/2009

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I understand why some of you would say, "you got to take your son home, isn't that enough" but you weren't there.
They thought my son was going to have neurological problems (he doesn't, turns on there was just a shadow on all of the ultrasounds) the doctor was sitting there giving me the absolute WORST case and telling me that's how my son was going to be for the rest of his life. She pretty much said my son was better off dead. After she got done scaring the hell out of me with that she proceeded to tell my and my boyfriends families that I waited to get prenatal care because I was in denial. I waited because I'm young and I was scared. I hadn't known that woman for even 45 minutes. I had never spoken to her in my entire life. I just lost that experience because of her. The pictures of me crying in the delivery room (those tears that should have been tears of joy) were full of tears of pain and fear. She was totally out of line.
Sabrina, I'm sorry about your baby. I wish you the best with your next one!!

Ronda - posted on 12/28/2009

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Plus I had THEEE most wonderful nurse, she had a soft and calm voice and was very encouraging. Even after I yelled at everyone because the pain was so bad. The whole team was very supportive and I couldn't have asked for any better.

Ronda - posted on 12/28/2009

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Even though this was my first child and I'm not really sure what the difference was between a good and bad labor is, I would have to say mine was pretty good and "easy". I actually had my last doctors appointment that day and drove myself 30 minutes to my hospital while having contractions, I didn't know what the menstrual cramp like pains were! By the time I had gotten there I actually tried to check myself into my appointment until my sister, who was with me, told them I was having contractions 3 minutes apart haha. I went to labor and delivery, got my water broke and had my daughter 4 hours later. I had slow contractions for about 3 1/2 hours of those 4. I only pushed for 15 minutes and out she came! My nurse actually delivered her because she came out so fast the doctor ran through the door as she flew out of me.

Gwen - posted on 12/28/2009

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Awesome. I had a terrific labor nurse! She was helpful, encouraging and supportive of my decision to have a natural childbirth. We even laughed a few times, which I hear is rare at 9 centimeters :-) She said it was the closest thing to a "natural" birth she'd seen in a LONG time. The nurses during my stay were wonderful. They all complimented me cause they had heard what a great job I'd done.

The worst part was the IV girl. They want a port there "just in case" and when she messed it up, she blamed me for having my hand at the wrong angle....um, hello?? I had no plans for an epidural anyway, so instead of trying to put in a new IV port I signed a release that, in case of bleeding, they could give me meds by injection.

Rachael - posted on 12/27/2009

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My labor wasn't bad at all. My water broke naturally when I was taking my food off the stove. I decided to eat anyway because I knew they wouldn't let me eat. haha my fiance, mom, and dad were freaking out and I was just sitting there eating my food. When we got to the hospital they checked me and I was only 2 cm dialated so they put me on pitocin. The contractions came hard and fast but they didn't bother me much. I just dealt with each one and watched George Lopez on tv and talked to my best friend. haha

I didn't get an epidural until close to the last moment I could. And I rested quite a bit with it.

The only thing that got to me a lot was the feeling of pushing. That was pretty bad. And I'm pretty tiny so even my 5 pound 15 ounce baby ripped me some. And when the doctor was stitching me up my epidural was wearing off so I felt half the stitches.

My afterbirth pains and recovery was pretty painful. But I was in labor for 12 hours and pushed for about 45 minutes and the labor only felt like a few hours.

Brandi - posted on 12/27/2009

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Quoting Sabrina:

My first birth experience was AWFUL!!!! We found out in July that my pregnancy was not "viable" she had something called Limb Body Wall Complex. We went in for our 5 month ultrasound and all the Tech kept saying was... "oh this is bad." "This isnt good" when I asked her what was going on all she said was that "the doc would tell me." Then proceeded to do the ultrasound... "I used to work for a specialist so I know what they are looking for"... "oh man this is not good" for 20 more min. VERY UNPROFESSIONAL!!! Then when I did finaly get to talk to the doc all he said was that he was not sure what the problem was... it could either be A,B, or C and that I am going to have to see a specialist. And left the room. I went to the specialist (had to drive 3 hours) and was informed of the condition and given my options. A- abort within the next 10 days (because in my state u cant after a certian time) or B- continue and let nature take its course. We chose option B. We continued to see the same doc... we saw him for EVERY appt. and when I went into labor in Sept. at 27 weeks and called the hospital to talk to the on call doc it was my OB, I went in even tho he told me not to. and had to inform the nurse as she took me upstairs what was going on (she didnt believe I was in labor) when she got me into my room and i was dressed and in the bed after an hour of waiting for the doc she decided she would check me... found that I was fully dilated and just as she finished checking me my water broke. 10 min later the doc walked in... all happy... "LOOKS LIKE WE ARE GONNA HAVE A BABY TONIGHT" I mean give me a break... its not like u DONT know what is going on here... ass... then he had me start pushing (would not give me ne thing for pain). had the legs out of me (she came out feet first) and left the room for half an hour. The nurse ended up delivering the baby and the after birth. when he finaly did come back in the room he glanced at the baby quivered and walked over to me... checked me for clots (with both hands) and walked away. I didnt see him again until he discharged me the next afternoon.


I will say tho that my nurses were AWSOME!!! I had the same nurse all night and she came into my room the next morning and gave me a beautiful box with a few pictures of my daughter, a blanket and booties, and hand prints (couldnt do foot prints as her legs were fused together) and let me cry on her shoulder.


I am now 37 weeks and scared for my labor experience this time around. I have informed my 2 doctors that if that specific doc is on call when I go into labor this time I will personaly be calling them at home.


I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how distraught you must have been after such a sad outcome. Best wishes for you and your new baby. I hope your story hits home the fact that the only BAD labor/delivery experience is one where you DON'T get to take home your beautiful, healthy baby.  I think any labor/delivery that ends with a trip home with your new baby should be perceived as a good one.  Good luck once again and I hope this time you get to experience taking your healthy, happy, beautiful baby home.

Krista - posted on 12/27/2009

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Oh Sabrina -- I'm so very sorry to hear about your little girl. What a devastating thing to have happened. I truly hope that your current pregnancy results in a beautiful, healthy baby.

Sabrina - posted on 12/27/2009

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My first birth experience was AWFUL!!!! We found out in July that my pregnancy was not "viable" she had something called Limb Body Wall Complex. We went in for our 5 month ultrasound and all the Tech kept saying was... "oh this is bad." "This isnt good" when I asked her what was going on all she said was that "the doc would tell me." Then proceeded to do the ultrasound... "I used to work for a specialist so I know what they are looking for"... "oh man this is not good" for 20 more min. VERY UNPROFESSIONAL!!! Then when I did finaly get to talk to the doc all he said was that he was not sure what the problem was... it could either be A,B, or C and that I am going to have to see a specialist. And left the room. I went to the specialist (had to drive 3 hours) and was informed of the condition and given my options. A- abort within the next 10 days (because in my state u cant after a certian time) or B- continue and let nature take its course. We chose option B. We continued to see the same doc... we saw him for EVERY appt. and when I went into labor in Sept. at 27 weeks and called the hospital to talk to the on call doc it was my OB, I went in even tho he told me not to. and had to inform the nurse as she took me upstairs what was going on (she didnt believe I was in labor) when she got me into my room and i was dressed and in the bed after an hour of waiting for the doc she decided she would check me... found that I was fully dilated and just as she finished checking me my water broke. 10 min later the doc walked in... all happy... "LOOKS LIKE WE ARE GONNA HAVE A BABY TONIGHT" I mean give me a break... its not like u DONT know what is going on here... ass... then he had me start pushing (would not give me ne thing for pain). had the legs out of me (she came out feet first) and left the room for half an hour. The nurse ended up delivering the baby and the after birth. when he finaly did come back in the room he glanced at the baby quivered and walked over to me... checked me for clots (with both hands) and walked away. I didnt see him again until he discharged me the next afternoon.


I will say tho that my nurses were AWSOME!!! I had the same nurse all night and she came into my room the next morning and gave me a beautiful box with a few pictures of my daughter, a blanket and booties, and hand prints (couldnt do foot prints as her legs were fused together) and let me cry on her shoulder.


I am now 37 weeks and scared for my labor experience this time around. I have informed my 2 doctors that if that specific doc is on call when I go into labor this time I will personaly be calling them at home.

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Maybe everyone needs to let go of their birth experience. I realise that it is a huge thing to go through (I have done it five times!), but it's time to switch the focus, your baby is here now and you need to concerntrate on that precious little bundle of joy and remember that no matter how bad your birthing experience was there are many many women out there who would go through a whole lot worse to be blessed with what you have!

Rosie - posted on 12/25/2009

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all three of mine were pretty great experiences, especially my first one since the doctor that saw me throughout my pregnancy was the one who delivered the baby, my other two, i just got whoever was on call(although they informed me that this would probably happen). everyone was nice, and caring and competant, although with my last one, one of the nurses was paging the wrong number for the doctor to come, so he ended up coming whilst my sons head was hanging out of me. although this happened, i felt completely confidant that the nurses could've delivered him safely- their knowledge and bedside manner was amazing.
so sorry you couldn't of had a better experience, but not all doctors and nurses are rude a-holes, hopefully next time, you'll have a better experience. and just remember you got your wonderful baby out of all of it, so it was definitely worth it!!!! :)

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both mine were aweful. the sitz bath rms were never cleaned. I had to ask each time for towels, the linen carrier was always bare. my old towels were always right where i left them an hour prior. when i'd ask fo rmy baby, they'd make me wait for no less than 30 minutes. I asked for tylonol for pain, i was forgotten, my boyfriend who was comingup to visit and called prior had to bring me some. list goes on and on. both times, I went home crying with not a soul askin me if i wa sokay or what was wrong. I even wound up writing a letter to my midwife that her staff was rude and unprofessional. she wound up leaving and going into law. laf. one reason of a few that I won't have more kids. both times I was crapped on.

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I didnt like mine overly much, but was glad in the end of the day I got my daughter. I thought it would be awesome, my husband got me from his work at 4 am, then rushed to the hospital, woke my mom up to drive an hour to come and be there. My water was very dirty, wasnt told anything about it. My mother in law decided she was going to be there whether I wanted her to be or not. After 4 hours of her being there and me not understanding when I said only my husband, my mother and my best friend (who couldnt actually be there) was all who I wanted in the room and I made that perfectly clear from the beginning of my pregnancy. I had his entire FAMILY come and see me while I was in labour, PISSED ME RIGHT OFF. The doctors would not tell me a goddam thing nor would the nurses. Though I liked my nurse cuz she was very sassy and entertaining. When I finally got a drip to start my contractions really going 5 hours later I told my mother in law to get lost cuz i didnt want her in there ( actually i made my husband) and They gave me gas but kept asking me if i wanted pain killers and at hour 5 i said fuck it give me them and they wouldnt! They kept offering them and didnt give me any. THey never told me how I was doing nothing... But I had the nurse in there every second of it looking at my charts. My best friend didnt have that unless she had contractions really close together. Then at 9 at night they told me they were getting a surgion to check on me and I was going in for a c-section cuz I hadnt dialated more than 2 centimeters. I still to this day do not know what the hell happened during my labour.
I seriously hope others dont have bad times giving birth, it should be a wonderful thing even if it is painful!

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I was depressed over my son's birth experience, pre and post delivery. It's the sole reason why I chose never to have more children. However, I do credit the doctor who actually delivered my son, who was a colleague of my OB-GYN. I met her for the first time right in the delivery room and she had a wonderful and caring bedside manner. There were a few incompenent nurses, but the actual nurse who assisted in the delivery was also wonderfully supportive. The rest of the hosital staff post-delivery sucked. In fact, the whole birth experienced completely turned me sour that I haven't even been back to the OB-GYN since a 6 week check up in April 2005.

Lauren - posted on 12/24/2009

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I was lucky. No meds and felt great after. During it I never even felt the need for them at all, although I've always had a high pain tolerance. The doctors and nurses make the experience though and I had an amazing mid-wife (which I recommend over a doctor because from my knowledge and personal experience they are more personable, helpful, and stay with you during labor not just at delivery). My midwife was so nurtuting and helpful and truely helped me... and my husband through it!

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It's so hard when things don't go as planned. I think there is a huge lack of respect for woman and the birth process in the medical community.

We try and prepare as best we can (get a doctor. read up, watch videos, follow classes, etc), but we are often let down, by the doctors, nurses, etc. I feel often we're not consulted, considered, explained, acknowledged !

Doctors and nurses have a protocol to follow, and I feel some of them don't even bother to explain what they are doing (or will do) to you, what drugs they are giving you, what you can expect, what choices you have, they just "do", and in my case, some of them seemed annoyed when I wanted to know what they we're doing and why. Even though they are professionals and know why they do what they do, don't I have the right to know what's going on?

As grateful as I am for the great job they did at bringing my daughter to life safely, I do wish I would have been more included in the process. I did feel like an object at times.

The worst for me however was the nurse who "showed" me how to breastfeed afterward. My daughter and I we're bonding so well. I had tried several breastfeeding positions, and found the best that worked for both of us. It was going so well. Both of us "got it" right away. She had been breastfeeding succesfully for days when this nurse walked in and started telling me how to breastfeed, insisting that I should change positions, etc. She was really pushy and made me feel very uncomfortable. At first, I felt intimitaded and kept trying it "her way" without succes. Luckily I ended up telling her firmly I had things under control and she got the message.

Anyway, I just want to say I think it's too bad you had such a bad experience, it's stressfull enough giving birth without having inconsiderate poeple around you...

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My labor experience was one of the worst Ive heard because of two factors:I was deathly ill and my epidural didnt work. I came into the hospital because I was very sick and having trouble breathing, and was diagnosed with pneumonia and forced into delivering my son. The doctors were very nice but the nurses were rude and stressed me out. The man who gave me my epidural was just about the meanest person Ive met and was telling me to stop cringing when I was in the middle of labor, which was brought on way too fast by the overdose of pitocin they gave me, and he was basically talking smack to me for not being able to handle the pain. I was only dilated to four and having contractions less than a minute apart for an hour before he got there! Needless to say the jerk did something wrong and it didnt work at all, I felt everything but was assured by the doctors I couldnt be feeling everything (I guess groaning like a dying cow doesnt tell them Im in pain) They sewed my tear with no general anesthetic, and wow...I was screaming at them. After having my son because I was so sick they took him from me and I held him for all of five minutes before I didnt get to see him again for five days because they didnt know what was wrong with me. I was in isolation with my only visitor allowed being my boyfriend. It was a very lonely and unjoyful experience. They promised to let me go home for two days before we were leaving the hospital. I didnt even get my sons first photos because they never came to ask me!

Teela - posted on 12/24/2009

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Well i was lucky b/c of my delivery's went great..and i loved both of my doctors..I'm sorry that you had to experience that..

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It is a shame that more doctors don't make an effort so that the delivery experience is a beautiful one... My doctors were okay when my son was born, but because he was so early, I had to have him in a surgery room, and not the beautiful delivery room I was expecting, and they wisked him away before I could touch him or see him really well.

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I was induced at 41 weeks and the medication they gave me to soften my cervix threw me into rapid dilation and effacement with coupling contractions. I had to have an emergency c-section when me and my daughter's heart rates dropped (mine was 70/40 and hers was down to 50). I had a totally complication free pregnancy and never expected myself to need a c-section. I was all set to have a routine vaginal birth. The gas pain that trapped in my chest and shoulders 2 days later was worse than labor itself!

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