Divorce tips? Moving out of state.

JODI - posted on 02/06/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hello. I am getting ready to go through a divorce and I wanna try to keep things as nice and simple and easy for my sons sake. I will be moving out of state away from his father as well. any words of advice/wisdom?

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JODI - posted on 02/07/2010

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Thanks...yes I have a support system there tahts why I am leaving because there is no support system here and I cannot afford to stay. He says i can go and actually kinda pushing me...but i do have an appt with an atty this week to try to get the proper paperwork etc. i guess I am more worried about the legal dos and donts and such. Hopefully he will hold his end of the deal and still be a good father...=/

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IDK the whole situation, but my advice from personal experience would be to never speak ill of his father in front of him. Regardless of the turmoil you may have had to face with his father, it is still his father. You don't want to make him feel like he is responsible for anything, or unloved. be supportive of him, and help him to adjust with all the new changes. Make extra time for him, he needs to feel especially secure right now.

Kathy - posted on 02/07/2010

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When I went through my divorce with my ex-husband I had to have the courts permission to move the children out of the state. The only way it was granted was if 1. it was in the best interest of the child to move the child out of state. 2. you had some kind of support system in the state you were moving ie family, job, betterment of your life in general.

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The best thing you can do for your son if you really want to get him through this is to put him in counseling so he has an unbiased person to speak to about this.



Some states it's mandatory to hire an attorney to represent the child in a divorce, but even if it's not mandatory in your state, I would recommend you get one for him. Do what's in your son's best interest even if you have to fight for it.

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