dna tests

Rebeca - posted on 11/22/2012 ( 30 moms have responded )

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my old social worker is trying to get my new 1 to dna test my partner just because she dose not beleive him to be the farther and we have not had the baby yet due on the 12 of jan wondered if they could make him do this as he is dosent want 1 or need 1 and will be on the birth certifcate

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Michelle - posted on 11/24/2012

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Did u proof read what u wrote....I had no idea what u are trying to say

Amanda - posted on 11/25/2012

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The social worker can get a court order for your partner to have a paternity test. Perhpas the reason she is insistent on it is because you do not have custody of your other children?

Kendra - posted on 11/23/2012

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Are you two married? Do you receive any type of government assistance? If you aren't married and you do receive assistance then he will probably be required to take a DNA test to prove he's the father and thus set a child support order so that the government can recoup some of the money they are paying to help support the child.

Brittany - posted on 11/23/2012

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No one ccan force him to get a DNA test, but a judge. So no the social worker cannot make him do this, without taking him to court to prove there is reasonable doubt as to whether he is the father or not. However depending on what type of social worker she is, she very well may take him to court. Need more info.

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Laura - posted on 01/14/2013

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I didn't have insurance when I got pregnant with my fist child 10 years ago and I went and signed up for Medical. I was able to get it but we had to wait until my daughter was born for my then boyfriend could also get Medical as well. I wasn't asked to get a DNA test but after she was born, the hospital and what not paper work was done, I went in with the Birth Certificate to prove paternity. I am not sure why maybe you're in a different state. Did you inquire the reason why?

Rebeca - posted on 11/27/2012

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he is going to sigh bc not due till jan 12 and i was asking as he dosent want dna so i just wanted to no were i stood and i am in the uk and my old soical worker is on a power trip i think and tbh i dont react to anything she says i just nod and agree and as she is christain i think she belives she is better than me even though i go to church just as much as her funny really i dnt think she belives ive changed even though thats in the bible but i wont quote it her she might get pd of

Alexandra - posted on 11/25/2012

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Hmm, why do you need one? There is not enough information on your paragraph.

Aileen - posted on 11/25/2012

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i cant see what her problem is...the guy says he is the father so whats the problem

Mary - posted on 11/25/2012

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no she has to have just cause to order a dna test. did he sign paper at birth if he did it does not matter if he the father or not he sign paper he legal the father

Pamela - posted on 11/25/2012

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Old scare/fear tactics of the state! If she is your "old" social worker why are you even having a conversation with her? Rather than "react" which is what she's looking for, simply say to her, "I believe I have a new worker. I have been told that my worker's name is_____________, and I will speak to her about this information. Thanks for your attention to it." Hang up and go on your way. If your current social worker asks just say, the father's name will be on the birth certificate.



To my knowledge, the only way a court can order dna testing is if there is a question of paternity. I could be incorrect so check with your local legal aid. Call them and say, I simply have a question. Ask your question or get a referral to someone who can answer. You can always go online to ask legal questions as well......you just need to know how to pose the question properly to get the correct answer.

Jonell - posted on 11/25/2012

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If he voluntarily agrees to sign the birth certificate she shouldn't be able to pursue it. You, as the mother, get the choice of putting him down or not. I am assuming you're in England on this one.

Lisa - posted on 11/25/2012

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No disrespect here. But were drugs, abuse, neglect involved with the other children being removed? This may be why the worker is looking into DNA just incase they would need to intervene (hypothetically) in the future. If he is not the father of this child then they would need to place the child in some form of foster care - either your mom again or an outside placement. She may just be getting her case log in order.



Even if you're married and have a child during wedlock the DNA can still be challenged. The laws are definately changing! My husband *thought he had 2 children with his ex. When DNA came back he was only the father of 1. They had been married for 6yrs. The judge cited his ex with Paternity Fraud and ordered her to re-pay him all of the support that he had paid after their divorce.

Rebeca - posted on 11/25/2012

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the deal is she is not this babys soical worker and she basicly calling me a slag and im fine with doing it its my partner who dosent want to and its his dna she needs

Theresa - posted on 11/25/2012

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If you are married before the baby is born then the baby is born of wedlock and most the time that trumps DNA tests. I have seen many soldiers sign a BC because their wife said it was theirs and then tried to get DNA test later and had VERY hard time changing BC.

Shereen - posted on 11/25/2012

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Honestly, if they are willing to pay for the DNA test, I would just do it when the baby is born. It's a simple swab( I work in a lab where they are done). At least you will be able to look at the worker and say I told you so! If there is nothing to hide I don't really see what the big deal is.

Sarah - posted on 11/25/2012

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If this man believes himself to be the father of this child and is willing and able to take responsibilty for him, there should be no need for a DNA test. Those are generally reserved when the man denies or questions the child to be his. If at Birth, you have HIM sign the birth certificate, as well as give him the fathers name, that should be all the social worker needs to establish paternity. Beyond that is a waste of the state (taxpayer) money. Stand your ground.

Rebeca - posted on 11/25/2012

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im am getting money assiatance but only for me as i cant work due to being preg but when child s born i wont be getting anything just living of his wage

Ellen - posted on 11/24/2012

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In the 4 states I have lived in, if a man is willing to say he is the father and claim the child as his, then Socail Services will not force him to have a DNA. Only if the mother isn't sure who the father is, or the man she is claiming to be the father says it's not his child will he be taken to court and be required to have a DNA test. If he is willing to claim the child, and you are getting assistance, he will have to pay support. To get a judge to order DNA she will have to have a good reason. Only a judge can force someome to have a DNA test.

Rebeca - posted on 11/24/2012

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no they didnt hun and my partner is saying he is the farther its the soical worker wiv the problem

Angele - posted on 11/24/2012

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Did one of your other children's fathers say that they did not feel like the father of one of your children

Lilly - posted on 11/23/2012

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wow that's very rude of the social worker ! why does she even care if he is claiming to be the father that's his business either way !

Teri - posted on 11/23/2012

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We have done that very thing. Must have an attorney, if the so called father doesn't show up it is like admitting that he is responsible.

Rebeca - posted on 11/23/2012

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ok thanks i am going to seek legal before my child is born any way cheers peps

Kendra - posted on 11/23/2012

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Generally speaking, if you two are not married and you receive assistance then he can be required to take a paternity test. If your circumstances change prior to the test being done then you might be able to avoid it...I can't say for certain bc all laws are different, so these are just general statements about how I have seen it play out.

Rebeca - posted on 11/23/2012

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we are engaged and we live together and my other children live with my mum thats y i have a worker and i am only on income support but in jan when baby is born i will come of it so he can get working tax credit so i will no be on goverment money just his wage and she is just tryin to score points as both my other children dads dont have anything to do with them so no reason i can think of at the min i am trying to change her as she has breach confedecialty

Michelle - posted on 11/23/2012

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I agree with dove. With so little information no one can really make a comment.

Dove - posted on 11/22/2012

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I have no clue why you have a social worker, so their department and/or a lawyer would probably be better able to answer your question.... since they will know your situation and the laws in your area.

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