do all 2yr. olds scream at the top of there lungs for evry lit

Vanessa - posted on 07/20/2011 ( 39 moms have responded )

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my son screams at everything as if everything bothers him he could be playing and then just screams ...

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Jennifer - posted on 07/20/2011

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If it gets him attention, yes. That's usually why they scream, to get attention, and if you or anyone come running every time, he will keep it up.

Nikki - posted on 07/20/2011

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Sorry I forgot to briefly explain my answers sources but don't worry I'm not a crazy google mom lol, I am actually a nurse that works for a large pediatric practice in nj. I see plenty of children daily who do indeed have sensory issues. They obviously dont like shots or finger pokes but they are very sensitive to other simple things, stepping om the scale without shoes, blood pressure cuffs, looking in ears, or just simple touches. It's just easier to ask the doc. Good luck!

Nikki - posted on 07/20/2011

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On the medical side he could have some sensory issues. Every little feeling or sound could bother them. If he seems bothered by things easily ask your pediatrician

Kimberly - posted on 07/20/2011

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Sad to say but I have a 14 year (yes, that's years not months!) old who will still screams at the top of her lungs like she is fatally wounded over every little thing her brother does! Over the years we have tried various consequences, etc. For quite some time she has been old enough to understand that this is inappropriate behavior and to articulate why she does it ... in her words, "It's just a reaction. I don't really think about it." Fortunately this 'reaction' is limited to her brother and to times when we are at home (for the most part, but there is the occasional shrill wailing at the store or another public place). And I still deal out consequences, big sigh! And I have a fairly normal, respectable son as far as behavior goes. Not to say that occasionally he isn't just picking at her because it happens like with most siblings, but she will let loose with the screaming if he accidentally bumps her arm passing in the hall, takes her empty glass from the living room to the kitchen sink, changes a TV channel when she is working at the computer, or even if he suggests that she might help him with something like tidying up the living room before bed. I know this is not a solution or the encouragement you are looking for ... but for the record screaming kids is fairly normal, unfortunately. And hopefully, since it is generally for attention, sympathy or to avoid a negative consequence, they will outgrow it ... unlike the screaming teen in the other room at the moment ... gotta go :)

Nikki - posted on 07/27/2011

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My todder does the exact same thing. There isn't anything apparently wrong, he just drops what hes doing and starts screaming. It's starting to subside a bit but for example, he whined and cried all day yesterday, until about 1:30 am. We still have no idea what was wrong. Don't worry, it will subside soon.

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YES it's a phase though if it makes u feel better the screaming slows down and by the time they r 3 they cry over nothing all the time. I know this sounds mean but ignore the creaming and tantrums and they slow down much sooner.

Chrissy - posted on 08/05/2011

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You are NOT alone, I have a 19 month old that screams at the top of his lungs and has done it ever since he figured out he could make that sound. In the begining we thought it was funny & made a little game out of it ...... BIG mistake because now when he gets mad or frusterated (which is pretty frequent at this age) he screams. In the past few weeks his speech has gotten better and he is communicating better with us = less screaming! Of course we still have a bit of a problem with it, and his pediatrician and a friend of mine that is a therapist recommened that I start using time out when he hits, bites, or screams without reason. We have a little circle time-out rug, and he KNOWS what it is & that he sits on it for his minute & a half when he does something bad. When his timer goes off I explain to him in a very short sentence why we don't do that, hug him & tell him I love him. I keep telling myself that persistance will pay off in the long run.
On the EAR part I have to say that I personally noticed that "J" started screaming alot more after he started having problems with ear infections @14 mos. so I would def. take him to the pediatrician or an ENT. Good luck!

Erin - posted on 07/31/2011

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Talk to you son's doctor about it. Video tape him so you have a sample to show to make you point easier. There could be a simple answer or a very serious problem. Good luck.

Erin - posted on 07/31/2011

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Talk to you son's doctor about it. Video tape him so you have a sample to show to make you point easier. There could be a simple answer or a very serious problem. Good luck.

Erin - posted on 07/25/2011

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My 18 month old does that too and it drives me crazy! lol I think most of the time they do it for attention. My daughter will look at me and do it, while smiling because she knows that she is not supposed to. It's getting better though, now that I have started spanking. She is starting to learn that no means no. Kids definitely know what they are doing from a young age, don't underestimate them! They are very smart, and you have to take care of the problem right away before it becomes habitual and gets out of control.

Joanne - posted on 07/24/2011

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Oh yes my 2 1/2 yr old does the same thing. I call him the loudest kid in the land.. It has been better since he has been talking more though.. :)))

Misty - posted on 07/23/2011

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Bless your heart, I have a 2 yr old girl. She is Miss Drama, but most of the time, she does it for attention. You are not alone!!! She usually does this when I am not 100% devoted to paying attention to her. She don't like for me to unload the dryer, vacuum, or clean house in general... she will find something to scream about so I will come watch tv with her, play or read to her. I usually give her a little TLC, and it soothes her screaming till the next time!!!! But if she continues to scream for no reason, she sits in time out or the corner, and for some reason... this works... She can outscream any child I have ever heard before too!!!

Rita - posted on 07/23/2011

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Wait until he's 3-years-old he'll talk very loud about everything. I just don't understand why . . . perhaps it's a stage.

Barbara - posted on 07/22/2011

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At that age it could be that he is discovering what else he can do with his voice. If its not part of a tantrum, I wouldn't worry too much about it : ) with my son, just ignoring it did the trick because he did it to get attention, and when he didn't get it, he didn't do it anymore.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/22/2011

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My son did that in the past but for the most part has "outgrown' it. He is about two and a half now.I was concerned until his speech teacher told me that they are at an age where it's hard for them to describe to adults what is bothering them. This in turn causes the frustration and screaming. Hope this helps!

Carla - posted on 07/22/2011

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I had the same problem with my 18 month old getting frustrated when things weren't doing what he wanted them to do, or he was having trouble achieving whatever goal he had in mind. I taught him to say "help" instead of screaming in frustration. This has been a godsend! No more screams out of nowhere. He has learnt that just by saying that one simple word, Mummy will come rushing to help :)

Trudi - posted on 07/22/2011

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My almost 2 yr old tried tantrums but she didnt get any reaction from us so now she sceams as you are never sure if she is hurt or just screaming for attention. I am trying to ignore it if it is just an attention scream, and they have dropped a little. Its a hard age when they cant communicate and get frustrated easily!

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Yes almost all 2 year olds scream, then they turn 3 and they scream even louder lol. I would always just tell my kids calmly you don't need to scream, use your words or I can't help you. It helped for the most part but we have to understand that toddlers are not rational. Screaming is how they rationalize frustration or excitement. It gets better as they grow, just keep being patient.

Jes - posted on 07/22/2011

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I don't think physical punishments are a wise choice, I read not to hit them or other things since it just teaches them to do the same. I have a 2 yr old that screams and squeals just to hear herself do it since it's new to her. It also gets her attention. If his screaming is of a nature where he is totally upset or irritated try figuring out what is bothering him, if it doesnt stop I'd take him to the dr. if the child is just squealing or screaming out of fun I wouldn't punish him, but try to make him understand when and where he should use his outside voice and where he shouldnt.

Barbara - posted on 07/22/2011

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Does seem excited or spooked? My daughter who just turned 2 on June 15 is like that. It's at the top of her lungs and high in pitch. There is nothing wrong at all. She just gets excited. Screams and keeps going on with what she was doing.

Kathy - posted on 07/22/2011

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hi i have a two yr old girl and she does the same thing.i sometimes expect the neighbours come running in to see if theres something wrong. i just try to distract her with something else when she starts but now shes teaching our 1 yr old to do the same.

Nicole - posted on 07/21/2011

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Lol. Some kids are just louder than others. They can also just go through a loud phase but it should get better. I used to give my son an idea of some other silly (but not so loud) noise to make in place. Although you say the scream sounds like something is bothering your son. Does it really, or is it just because it's so loud it sounds like it's bothering him, but really he's just playing? Good Luck!!

Shana'e - posted on 07/21/2011

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2 year olds understand almost everything you tell them. They KNOW when their being bad....dont underestimate them. I have 6 kids. 5 boys & one 2 year old girl. When she screams, it's hard to tell if she just broke a limb or if she's just upset that someone took her 'blanky'. Of course, you have to go & check it out, just in case. But I usually tap her mouth & make her sit down for 2 minutes....while explaining that she scared mommy & daddy & she is never to use a scream like that again unless she's really hurt or if it's an emergency. Now when I come in the room while sheals screaming, she stips immediately cuz she knows she's doing wrong. THEY DO KNOW....dont let anyone eber tell you thay 'they're too youn' cuz that's a straight out untruth. It's taken a couple months but she's a lot better now & she went from having about 10 scream sessions a day to about 1 a week. Give it a try....what will it hurt?? It just might let you et back ur hearing b4 you go totally deaf from those ear piercings screams. Lol Let me know hoe she does! (facebook - Shanae Ledbette Brewer) I habe a lot of new moms, old moms & wanta be mom's on there.... (:

Elizabeth - posted on 07/21/2011

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It's behaviorally normal for screaming to occur for attention, but if you suspect there's other things going on, like he might be in pain and unable to articulate it, see your doctor.

Lisa - posted on 07/21/2011

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my son just discovered screaming too. Sometimes he'll just scream, smile, then scream some more. If I scream back, then we have a screaming contest and he loves it. So as long as he isn't acting like he's in pain, he will eventually stop. If it really bothers you, put him in time out for one minute and tell him that he's in time out for screaming. We use quiet voices inside and loud voices outside. etc. Good luck

Brandy - posted on 07/21/2011

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My son is 19 months old and also screams. I know he has good hearing because he hears a train, a bird, anything that is nearby. I am comforted knowing my son is not the only one. My husband just CANNOT take it, It is the only think he has absolutely no patience with. I tell him to stop and he looks me in the eyes and does it again. I would love to figure out how to get him to stop. I am opposed to spanking and definitely that snapping him with a rubberband.

Amy - posted on 07/21/2011

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Not to worry you to death, but my friend's daughter did the same thing and it turned out that she has Sensory Integration Disorder. You may want to discuss his behavior with your pediatrician. I too have a strong-willed 2 year old who screams when she doesn't get her way but my friend's daughter would scream without any obvious provocation.

Minnie - posted on 07/21/2011

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Everyone has a different personality. We're not born 'blank slates.' Some children are mellow and complacent, others are intense, even extreme and very sensitive.



My oldest is a very intense personality. It's not a -fault- of hers. She's five and often shrieks when she gets frustrated. At two it was screaming all the time. Things get better as communication improves.



It helps to look at those child behaviors that so many see in a negative light and project them into your son's adult body. Perhaps he will be eager to speak his mind as an adult. He'll put forth his opinion readily. Maybe he'll change others' minds for the better. He won't be afraid to speak up when he should. :)

Vanessa - posted on 07/21/2011

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thanks for all the post everyone it really helped im thimking of making an appointment with his pedia. soon because now that i hear the medical stories it reminds me of when they did the hearing screen for newborns when he was born and on one side he couldnt hear so well almost to the point she wasnt sure to pass or re-test could this possibly be ?? i really hope not he is the healthiest toddler ever besides ocassional minor colds he never got sick and to think if its medical it would break my heart cause i never thought of that !!!! agian thanks alotttt for your posts ...

Christine - posted on 07/20/2011

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Do all 2 year olds scream at the top of their lungs? No. Definitely not. Does it mean something is wrong? Not necessarily. It might be something he's doing for fun or curiousity or whatever and just experimenting and playing around. Might be something more like maybe something is bothering him that you don't know about such as a high pitched noise you can't hear or a charlie horse in his leg. Not sure try to keep track of when they occur and talk to him about them. I would look into it and observe it but yeah might just be something he's experimenting with. Not sure.

Shannintipton - posted on 07/20/2011

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That sensory thing is interesting. I have very sensitive hearing. I am always using ear plugs. I also get startled easily. Does this happen to your little one. It just might be something to think about. Interesting. Good luck. :)

Shirley - posted on 07/20/2011

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He may be deep in thought and then suddenly realize he is alone and he may be asking for someone to chat with him or play with him. He may also just enjoy the sound that is new to him. With gentle guidance and encouragement he will learn that such loud sounds usually mean that someone is in trouble. That they are hard on the ear and hurt the throat.

Shirley - posted on 07/20/2011

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Many two year old children scream. Especially those with older sibblings. My daughter screamed to make sure she was not ignored due to the attentions being sought by her older brother. I always acknowledged my childrens' needs and helped them to understand how to better make their needs and wants better understood. We are today, all three of us the very best of friends and love each other more than life itself.

Angela - posted on 07/20/2011

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I think 2 year old can be loud. They dont understand or comprehend when and why to be quiet. I think that you should still remind him to be quiet and enforce that esp at times when its reallt necessary. My 2 year old can be loud also. If you think its abnormal, I would possibly have his hearing checked. Maybe he's having trouble hearing because of fluid in his ears.

Jaslyn - posted on 07/20/2011

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Kids Tat screams likes the attention they got whenever they scream. It becomes a habit when they grew up. It's a very bad habit Tat needs to be stopped. My 2 year ols used to do Tat. But Everytime he does Tat I would make him face the wall as a form of punishment. There was a couple of times he screams even higher n louder. Since the soft approach doesn't work, use rubber band. Every scream = 1 shoot on the hand. The whole episode can last a couple of minutes, he eventually realize that I won't give in to the screaming anymore. He stopped and I successfully break Tat habit once and for all.

Donna - posted on 07/20/2011

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Have you had his hearing tested? It's possible he doesn;t think he's screaming.

Shannintipton - posted on 07/20/2011

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My four year old did that and still does. I wear ear plugs. she hates that. i think that is worse than a spanking although i dont spank, a few times but that just makes her scream more so what is the point. i have also been able to tell the different screams and or cries. so that helps a lot if i should go running to her or not. it can be frustrating. especially if she is having an off day. yikes. i wish i had a magic trick to give you but i wanted you to know you are not alone. good luck. :)

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My 2.5 year old nephew has the most ear splitting scream I've ever heard... though it's a close comparison w/ the 10 month old girl I watch. You don't want to be near EITHER of them if they get hurt or ticked off.... you could lose your hearing. ;)

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