Do Any of You feel The Same?

Sally - posted on 07/17/2010

Cuddling is lovely. Cuddle away as much as you want, my youngest son who is nine loves cuddles still. The only time you need to be firm with yourself and your child is when you need them to stand or walk, for example you have a sore back or its unsafe to carry her or you are very tired and need a rest from holding her, or you are pregnant and it could hurt you lifting her, but you can still give cuddles in a safe way.

Every child is different my oldest was never that interested in cuddling because he wanted to play, where as my younger son wanted to cuddle all day, which was yummy :)

Beatriz - posted on 07/17/2010

It sounds like u think she will out grow the cuddles... That is not going to happen... When she progresses in age she will learn to cuddle right back. It does not stop at a certain age. It is how you show the affection. By doing it soooo much the baby may just get tired of it and then push u away. She needs her quality of time to herself just like we all do. Mom it is kewl to be so affectionate but space is a nice thing even at her age. She will let u know when she wants the cuddles. Trust me!!!!!

Jenny - posted on 07/16/2010

Hi Marissa, you are right,
You know what your doing and you know that its you that needs the affection as much as your baby, and that it might make things harder for her to separate from you as she gets older.
But hey if your happy with that and the fantastic time you are having with her then go with it, as you can not go back in time, and I totally am with you about how special and lovely it is when they are little.
My youngest son is 9 mths and when he wakes in the night I take him to bed with me because its easy and I love the cuddles too. Like you I know I shouldnt in a way, but I just think I want to enjoy the moment before he's not a baby anymore.
So your not alone... dont worry just do as you think best.
Jenny x

Simone - posted on 07/16/2010

Enjoy her! They grow up way to fast. My husband didn't hold him a bunch when he was a new born, because he didn't do much. Now he's almost 9 months and wont sit still and my husband says. 'Where is my baby the would cuddle'. Enjoy! Enjoy!!

Amanda - posted on 07/16/2010

I am just like you. I hear the same things from people and I ignore them. My son is 3 1/2 months old and I hold him all the time. Sometimes when he falls asleep in my arms I hold him til he wakes back up or will lay next to him holding him and watching him sleep. I am right there my lil brother turned 5 and wanted no snuggles of any kind and my mom cried. I agree with you I am gonna have all the snuggles I can while he will still let me no matter what anyone else says

Ashley - posted on 07/16/2010

You cuddle all you want! A baby needs to feel loved and secure! And you can't spoil a 3month old....keep on keeping on!

Kathy - posted on 07/16/2010

Keep right on cuddling!!! You can't spoil a baby!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/15/2010

People who say you can spoil an infant annoy the crap outta me. YOU CUDDLE AWAY MOMMA!!! ROCK THOSE CUDDLES ALL YOU WANT! I am a pretty blunt person, so if someone said that to me, my responce would be "how is it going to effect you how often I pick up and cuddle my baby? What is the problem with how much I show my baby I love them?" That will shut up most people pretty quick. Good luck, you sound like a great mommy!

Angela - posted on 07/15/2010

I cuddle my little 5 mth old and love to make her laugh and squeal, and all of the beautiful, pure, baby energy just fills my spirit and calms me down after a day at work. Enjoy it while you can, although I sometimes wish my 3 year old wasn´t quite so cuddly, I´d like to be able to cook the dinner without her arms wound around my legs..... :o)

Joanna - posted on 07/14/2010

Take advantage of these short few baby months! My daughter is almost 3 and I kick myself for not enjoying her as an infant more. You can't spoil a baby that young, so cuddle away mama!

Saundra - posted on 07/14/2010

I think that you sound like a wonderful Mother! Keep up the good work, your baby is so lucky to be loved so much!

Julie - posted on 07/14/2010

Normal-yes and YOU CAN'T SPOIL AN INFANT.

Emily - posted on 07/14/2010

It's never wrong to cuddle when they need it. Personally I don't think you have to deny affection for the sake of "training." They gain independence on their own whether you want them to or not.

Monica - posted on 07/14/2010

well i'm pretty sure they play and run around alot more than when they were babies lol. Sometimes i bug my son when he's playing and squeeze him but if he's into something, he won't like it in that moment lol. my daughter LOVES cuddling but if she's playing, she's playing lol that's it. I think it's just important to remember that when they get past a year, they do need to start understanding right and wrong and how to behave and not always be babied anymore.

Sherri - posted on 07/14/2010

Sometimes they will Monica my four yr old son still loves to be cuddled all day long hugs, kisses, crawling on my lap.

Monica - posted on 07/14/2010

u can't spoil a baby. once she's a year, u can let her whine for a minute if you're busy, but for now when/if she wants you or if u want to hold her, that is the best thing!! it builds the bond and trust between you two!! that whole spoiling thing is ridiculous, it's just not true!! u know what ur feeling and it's for a reason, it's a good instinct!! :) keep it up!! :) :) believe me, the won't let u cuddle 'em all the time when they get older :P

Sherri - posted on 07/14/2010

Babies need cuddles but you also need her to be able to figure things out on there own. How to self comfort, explore etc. Plus kids still like to snuggle my oldest 2 are 13 & 11 and still love to snuggle with mom.

Jennifer - posted on 07/14/2010

cuddling a baby will not make them needy. babies need cuddles and when those needs are met, they actually grow into more independent, confident, and caring children. cuddling and holding a baby teaches them that they can trust you to take care of them.

Emily - posted on 07/14/2010

You're doing fine. You can't spoil a baby. Get as many cuddles as you want!

Sarah - posted on 07/14/2010

i don't thinks shes gonna wanna stop cuddling too soon! most kids i've seen still like to be cuddled until they are school age! i'm 23 and still like it when my mother hugs me when i'm feeling down! if your planning on sending her to daycare all the attention will probably make it hard on the daycare provider because if they have more kids to watch they can't be holding your daughter all day! i think its a normal feeling but i think its something you should try to tone down some!