DO GRANDPARENTS LOVE MORE THIER GRANDKIDS THAT THEIR OWN KIDS

VERO - posted on 03/09/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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WE HAD AN ISSUE LAST NIGHT WHERE MY SISTERS KEEP ON SAYING THAT GRANDPARENTS LOVE MORE THEIR GRAND KIDS THAN THEIR OWN I HARDLY BELIEVE THAT BECAUSE A SON WILL NEVER BE REPLACED WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK ABOUT THIS

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Karen - posted on 03/09/2010

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i think they love them the same amount but in different ways...i know my son gets spoiled beyond belief by my parents - things they would NEVER have done for me. they are very proud of him and show him off to everyone they can...however, they are proud of everything i have accomplished and what kind of person i have become. they get to love their grandchild without having the responsibility of raising them and i think sometimes that can get misunderstood by some people - suddenly everything revolves around the grandbaby and not so much the grown children. i think it's great to see the love my parents (and my grandparents) have for my son but i in no way think they love me any less

Bigmamma3 - posted on 04/10/2011

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Well my sister told me tonight that she loves her grandson more than she loves her own kids and more than her nieces and nephews! Her youngest niece is 7mths old and only 2 weeks younger than her grandson! I am not a grandparent and agree it would be a different love but I couldn't imagine how it could be more than another!

Blackwood - posted on 03/09/2010

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No , Grandparents love thier grandbabies a DIFFERENT way then there own children. My mom explained that they get too have all the "fun" without the worry, bills, feedings, sleep depervation ect... So they may SEEM like the love them more, but it's just worry-free and fun.

Morgan - posted on 03/09/2010

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I think its true lol!!!

my parents are head over heels for my daughter :)

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Dunno about ALL grandparents, but I think it's because their own kids have grown up & having a baby around again makes them think of when their kids were that age.
At least that's what I think it'll be like for me if I'm ever a grandma.... lol :)
But I won't love my kid(s) any less !

VERO - posted on 03/10/2010

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but as you can see their are different point of view some are felt that they where loved more by their granp'S THAN THEIR PARENTS

VERO - posted on 03/10/2010

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good answer lori that is the same thing i was trying to explain ti my sisters grandparents spoil them then send then right back lol

Firebird - posted on 03/10/2010

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I doubt that's true in most cases, But no two people are the same. I Know my parents love both me and my daughter. My dad loves us both the same. But I really have very little choice but to believe that my mom loves my daughter way more than she loves me. But I really don't care. My mom and I don't usually see eye to eye, and don't have the greatest opinions of eachother.

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As everyone has said, it's a mantter of loving differently, not more. I love my 3 grown up daughters - each differently because they're all different people and I love my 3 granddaughters. Hard to explain- I have a different relationship with my granddaughters than with my daughters.



But, you know, I love each of those people differently as they all have different personalities.Relationships change as people change.



Now that I've completely mixed myself up, I thing the best conclusion is, it's just about impossible to try and quantify love or qualify it.

Kate CP - posted on 03/09/2010

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I think grandparents love to SPOIL their grandkids more than their own kids. But a love for your child can't be replaced. It's not a matter of loving MORE just loving differently, I guess.

Tcordukes - posted on 03/09/2010

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i think Grandparents love the grandkids just as much their own, it's just different... They get to give them back at the end of the day...
However i do think that their are some grandparents that do love the grandkids more then their own child. it's sad but it happens....

Iridescent - posted on 03/09/2010

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Not more. Just differently. A child is a joy, but also a lot of work. Once your child is raised, if you've done a good job and have a happy adult, you'll be proud. But you can really enjoy a grandchild, and know they are in good hands for the same job they did with their children, so they only need to spoil and enjoy them. It's just a completely different relationship.

Keisha - posted on 03/09/2010

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LMAO!!!! I think so...LOL!!!!

Seriously though...a grandchild-grandparent relationship is something special. Not only is there new baby around now and they haven't had to care for one since you or your siblings were babies, this child is an extension of them. They can spoil and play and do all the fun things with the grandchild less all the drama that they would get from a grown up child of their own.LOL!!! Then after that...they can send the child home with their parents! LOL! Its funny...its a different kind of love. Its like when you have a baby and you go around family...everyone grabs the kid and forgets your there...LOL. They love you, but just are more into the baby right now! I wouldn't say its any more (or any less)...but boy i tell you it really seems like it sometimes...LOL! :o)

Sharon - posted on 03/09/2010

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good question as i have a granson who is 2 yrs old and a son who is 2 yrs old my grandson is 18 wks older than my son and i was there when he was born when i had my grandson put in my arms for the 1st time i had that same overwhelming rush of love for him exactly the same as i had with all my own children and my son who was born soon after i can honestly say i love all of them the exact same . hope this helps

Lorie - posted on 03/09/2010

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NO, grandparents just have a different relationship with their grandchildren then their own children.

Once they have grandchildren their job is over and they can enjoy them.

They don't have to feed them, buy clothes and they arn't raising them.

My children get much more from my parents then we did b/c they have the extra money now lol and they want to spoil them.

As I said, its just a different relationship.

I hope this helped

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