Aleksandra - posted on 05/14/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
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My daughter doesn't speak yet, probably mostly due to 2 languages being spoken at home. But she points to everything and anything she wants and whines CONSTANTLY! It gets to the point of me wanting to rip my hair out. Is this normal, and is there a way reduce her whining? My husband says she doesn't do this as much with him, but then again he sees her more on a daily basis.
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Tyneisha - posted on 05/14/2010
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Are you quick to respond to every noise she makes? If so, that's way. Babies are much smarter than what we give them credit for. She does it because she feels if she whines, you will do what she wants. My son does the same thing. He whines and shifts from foot to foot when he wants something. If you stop reinforcing it, it will go away.
Amy - posted on 05/14/2010
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My son's 21 months, and he has whined for a very long time. It has gotten a lot better, and I'm not sure if it's because he's getting older, or because of something we did. He doesn't whine because he doesn't have the vocabulary...he knows pretty much every word for everything he wants or needs or sees, and if he doesn't, he asks me, "what's that?" I think he just whines because it gets him attention. We started completely ignoring the whining when he was around 10 months or so, and that worked for a few months, but when he started it again, he only whined louder if we ignored him. Then we started something much harder - I would make him look at me (mid-whine) and I would tell him sternly, "No whining." then put him in his room. He would then usually start screaming, but I made him stay in there with the door shut until he stopped. After a little bit, he would start playing, then I'd go in there and tell him, "You are in time out in your room because you were whining. Do not whine. Say yes, mommy." I don't know how much of that he understood, but he said yes mommy, and after doing that a bunch of times, the whining has been significantly decreased. It was really hard because it sounded like he was dying in there! lol He really was just mad, but I hated to hear him cry! But seriously, it has gotten a lot better, so I think it helped.
Meghan - posted on 05/14/2010
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my son is 19 months...I found alot of the whining more when he wasn't talking. He has a very good vocabulary. BUT, he does still whine ALOT. lol, it is normal! They whine if they don't have the words, they get frustrated, and sometimes it does get a reaction more so than actually asking nicely. My suggestion would be to tell her that you don't understand her when she is whining, she needs to use her big girl voice then ignore her completely until she does.
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