Do People have baby showers for there second child just curious?

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Laura - posted on 02/21/2009

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I think it is pretty normal, especially if your second child is of the opposite sex as the first child or if you are having mulitples. Also, if your friends and family decide to have one for you then it has to be okay.

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Tami - posted on 02/21/2009

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Absolutely, 2 of my daughters had showers for their 2nd children.  There's always new things out to try and things you want for the new one.  Hand me downs are incredible but you always want to show them off in something new or even a new blanket or two in case the first one is attached to what is theirs.  Older kids don't always want to share when a new baby comes along!  BEsides it's a nice support group for the mom & gives the mom something fun to look forward to before the endless feedings & loss of sleep start over again!  Have a Party what will it hurt??



Enjoy your new baby!

Stephanie - posted on 02/21/2009

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my children are 2 1/2 years apart  i didnt care either way about a second shower but my sister was due 5 months after me and everybody was giving her a shower and as an after thoght they threw me one but i insited on no gifts just a potluck if they really wanted to bring something and we had lots of fun and a few people just brought gift cards which really help with the diapers

Melissa - posted on 02/21/2009

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I don't see anything wrong with wanting to celebrate the birth of your second child with a party. If you have a lot of things from the first baby and don't need much your registry will reflect that. As far as rules of etiquette does anyone even follow that stuff anymore? You should do whatever you, your family and friends want to do. If you need things or if they express a desire to do it then I say go for it! A baby shower is not just about presents--it is about celebrating this new life. I had two showers, one at my college and one my family gave me. My college shower was a diaper party where everyone was just asked to bring a pack of diapers. It helped me get stocked up on something you need for every baby and was inexpensive for my friends who are on a limited budget. They could not come to my big baby shower and WANTED to celebrate this special time with me.

Kathy - posted on 02/21/2009

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I don't see anything wrong with it. I had one with my son Brandon. I ended up giving all of his stuff away. when I got pregnant with son Andrew I didn't have anything. I was lucky there was people giving me stuff. I have a friend at church that gives me all of her little boy clothes. My boys are 6 years apart. I don't love Brandon more then I do Andrew. I do cherish one thing more of Andrews then I do Brandon's baby stuff, a lady I go to church with made Andrew a homemade baby quilt. Who would say if I had been going to church when Brandon was born that he wouldn't have one too. I love both of my boys the same.

User - posted on 02/21/2009

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I am currently expecting baby #3 and I don't plan on suggesting that anyone throw me a shower, BUT my sister has been offering and I plan on letting her. Why not? Where is it written in stone that you can only have ONE?? So If someone offers to have you one, I would ACCEPT & good luck!!:)

Katie - posted on 02/21/2009

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We do here no matter ho many you have.  I really think it is all on personal prefrence.  But remember you are celebrating the upcoming birth of a "NEW" child so I think it is a great thing.

Michelle - posted on 02/21/2009

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Why not? You will always have someone make an inappropriate comments but this is for you! Get together with your friends and some family! Enjoy life!!

Jenni - posted on 02/21/2009

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i dont think so usually.... but im sure some ppl do... i dont plan on having one for my second b/c i already have everything i could possibly need (saving it all) other than a few things if it's a girl :) maybe some ppl do when the kids are far apart in age and saving things was just not practical... maybe have a celebration but tell ppl not to buy nething over $20 or watever... if u need big things ask parents or close family members to help... but ya u should celebrate somehow! maybe just dont make it as big as the first baby shower

Rachel - posted on 02/21/2009

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My friends threw me one because I had off-season babies...my first was born in the spring in Florida...my second was born in December in Germany...BIG difference in clothing needs for a newborn...so I guess it just depends on your situation.

Danielle - posted on 02/21/2009

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I think the generally accepted rule is that no, you don't get a baby shower for your second baby. However, I have never known my group at work to not give a baby shower for subsequent pregnancies. I wouldn't expect one from your friends and family, but if you work there's a good chance your coworkers would do something for you. I am on my second pregnancy and would definitely not be surprised if my coworkers throw one for me (especially since I couldn't attend my first one they threw since I was already out on disability!)

Linda - posted on 02/21/2009

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Absolutely, why would it be different for your second, or third child. I think that the experience will not be as exciting as the first time, but as many other things it should be just as important.

User - posted on 02/20/2009

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I think having a baby shower for every child is ok. I see it as a celebration for mom. your having a baby woo hoo. I think not having one emphasises the only the first child counts for anything cycle.

Amie - posted on 02/20/2009

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I don't think there's anything wrong with it if it's what the parents wants. My family and friends asked me with each of my children and I said no. I preferred to just have them come over when they could to meet the new baby when they were born than put all the time and effort into it. We still ended up with a load of gifts with each child, every time someone came over there was a gift. It was quite annoying for me personally. We had everything we needed and told everyone specifically, don't buy anything just come have coffee and see baby. I dunno, some people just get way to into other people's kids. I was happy they were so happy about the kids I just wish people had respected our wishes more. Just more crap to store and eventually get rid of. =)

Kiwana - posted on 02/20/2009

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I think it is fine to have a second baby shower and even a third.  I had a second (my girls were three years apart).  I had gotten rid of all of my baby gear two months before I gor pregnant and it turned out great.  A different group of friends threw each shower though.  It's up to you.

Angie - posted on 02/20/2009

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I think its ok to do a second babyshower. Why not, if you need help with things or have a different gender the second time then you should have a second one. I loved my babyshower and I think everyone should have one for each of their kids. Its one of the perks of being preg!! good luck! :)

Ann - posted on 02/20/2009

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I did or each of mine. Each child should be celebrated. Each should have their own party. And moms are always going to need stuff for the extra new addition. Bring on baby shower #2!

Kelly - posted on 02/20/2009

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Just a side note on showers-we adopted #3, and she was placed with us at 17 months old. The ladies at church had a shower for her, and it was the greatest because the baby got to open all her own gifts (and eat cake)! I think it was maybe the best shower I ever had (and by the way, I had showers for all of mine, and was eternally grateful). That is a thought-sometimes when a baby is early for instance, the shower will be held after the baby is born. That way people can see the baby, which is a huge hit, and are sure of the sex and size. That is kind of a nice way to play it when it is a second baby and maybe you don't need everything ahead of time.

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From what I understand is if you are on a child other than your first and someone would like to throw you a shower it is called a "sprinkle" because you are usually not in as much of a need of items therefore you are not being showered as previously. I had one with my first but not my second. On the otherhand I just threw one for a friend last year and it was her 4th child. Hope this helps!!

Ashley - posted on 02/20/2009

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i am currently pregnant with my 2nd but my first is only 9 months old. they are only going to be 14 months apart so there wont be another one for me!...being so close in age i have absolutely everything i need and would just end up with a whole bunch of stuff that i wouldnt need so in my case it would be pointless. my first was a boy and even if this one is a girl there still wont be another one. i just feel that in my case it would be greedy seeing as my first baby shower wasnt even a yr ago. my sister on the other hand is having her 3rd child and her first baby shower was 6 yrs ago so we more than likely will throw her one. i think it depends on how the person feels on it and also how far apart your children are....

Kelly - posted on 02/20/2009

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I didn't read all the posts above, but I just have to say, here in the South, we love to throw a shower! We quite often do showers for each baby. Even if they are close in age and you kept everything, you will need diapers and wipes. Bibs often are worn out after one baby. If they are quite close in age, you might need more crib sheets and bath towels as you would still be using them for the first baby. While you might not need all the big things, there are still lots of things that you can use, and it is also nice for each baby to have some new things, not just sibling hand-me-downs. I couldn't imagine ever asking someone to throw you a shower (for any baby), but if someone suggests it or offers, I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. We all love to buy cute baby things!

Amber - posted on 02/20/2009

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I think it all depends on how close in age, etc, but do agree that all children are special and deserve their own recognition, celebrations, etc . .   it's not something I would ask for or expect, but my son's are going to be 8 years apart (we're currently expecting) and I have nothing from before as was divorced . .  I certainly appreciate that my friends and family are excited and want to throw a party to celebrate our new family member and it is my husband's first baby, so it's exciting for him too . .  also my older son will be included and is looking forward to it . .

Ashley - posted on 02/20/2009

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i've recently found out that most people say no to the second baby shower (if it is same dad) i think it's silly. if there is a different dad, there is a whole new set of grandparents/aunts, etc, so there usually is a shower. either way, i always try to get something for each of my friends' babies regardless of the baby daddy situation!

Kathi - posted on 02/20/2009

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Yes- we do here in the east coast.  Gifts lean more toward diapers and infant clothes though since the expecting mom likely has all the big stuff already.

Danielle - posted on 02/20/2009

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I have two children and they are 10 years apart.  I saved nothing from my first child so I was not prepared at all for the second.  A close family member planned a baby shower for my second child and it was great.  It was small with only close friends and family but that's what made it all the more special.  I don't think I'm going to get rid of anything this time.

Cimika - posted on 02/20/2009

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I did because i was in a different state and had different friends then i had when i had my first shower.

Krysti - posted on 02/20/2009

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I'm having my second baby and my family is throwing me another baby shower!! This time around it's so much about getting stuff for the baby but celebrating for the baby and getting together with friends and having a great time!! That's how I see it atleast! :)

Kiwana - posted on 02/20/2009

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I think it is fine to have a second baby shower and even a third.  I had a second (my girls were three years apart).  I had gotten rid of all of my baby gear two months before I gor pregnant and it turned out great.  A different group of friends threw each shower though.  It's up to you.

Stephanie - posted on 02/20/2009

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i did...my first was a boy and my second was a girl, so a shower was needed.  and now i am pregnant with #3 and i just donated all my maternity clothes, baby clothes and furniture right before christmas...my daughter is almost 4 so i figured it was time to let it all go and then....SURPRISE!!!  so if i can help it, i will be having a shower for my 3rd!  :)



 

Samantha - posted on 02/20/2009

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Well, I think you are all lucky! I must admitt I was a little sad (ok, a lot) when no one offered to have one for my second child! I had gotten rid of some of the stuff from my first child and they were born in different seasons (first in july and second in january) even if they are both girls. My girls are 4 1/2 years apart, and even if people did not want to "shower" me with gifts, my husband and I had tried for a few years with many infertility treatments for our second child. I believe that was something that needed to be celebrated!

Goldie - posted on 02/20/2009

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I felt bad at first when the ladies at church wanted to have me a shower but I am so happy I agreed. I didn't realize how much I had gotten rid of even though my daughter is just 22 months old. Our second is due in May.

Jennifer - posted on 02/20/2009

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I've had a baby shower thrown for each of my children (3 so far). None were my idea or suggestion, but it was nice. With 3 girls in a row, they asked if there was anything in particular I needed, and I just asked for clothes and diapers and wipes with the 3rd. Now if #4 is a boy, a shower would be appriciated as I have nothing for a boy!

Wendy - posted on 02/20/2009

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It definetly depends on if you have willing participants....personally, I believe that unless your kids are far apart in age, we shouldn't expect our friends/family to throw a baby shower for us. Alot of what I had with my daughter, was still in very good condition and could also be used by my second child.



I did have two showers - one for each of my children - but they were thrown by two seperate groups of friends.

Jill - posted on 02/20/2009

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I didn't with my second (they were only 11 months apart) but I did with my third. I have given "diaper showers" for friends. We usually have it after the baby is born so everyone can meet the new baby. I make a diaper cake, diaper wreath, and/or diaper babies to use for decorations and hint that the baby/mommy doesn't need anything, except diapers. We usually put in the invitation that we will have a raffle. Every pack of diapers or wipes that they bring gets them in the raffle. You can pick whatever "prize" you want to have. We have 2 raffles, a bigger prize for diapers and a smaller prize for wipes. The reason I like this is because every baby is going to need diapers, you can't reuse those like you can with clothes and toys, unless you use cloth diapers. I think that there should be some sort of celebration for every baby, whether it be your 1st or your last. All the baby books I've seen have a page or two to fill out about the shower. I didn't get to fill out my 2nd sons page and now I feel bad for him and wish I would have had something to celebrate and record for him to keep when he gets older. Hope this helps you a little.

Krista - posted on 02/20/2009

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I was always under the impression that proper etiquette is to only have a baby shower for the first pregnancy. The idea behind a baby shower is to get all of the baby gear you don't have before having children. I have known people to have them for their second pregnancy, because that baby was of the opposite gender as their first, but I'm not too sure I agree with that. I think it's acceptable to have a baby shower for your second baby if you have him or her years after your first one, then you probably don't have any more baby gear left. I'm pregnant with my second child and I am not planning on having a baby shower this time around.

Christina - posted on 02/20/2009

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I had one for my first, second and third....and i had them each two years apart.  With each child there was a family member or friend that wanted to throw me one, and i wasnt going to turn down a celebration for my baby.  they each deserve it.  Plus, i truely did need the items. things get worn out and need to be replace.

Eron - posted on 02/20/2009

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Hi i live in england (sorry dont know where your from) we dont traditionally do baby showers but if you did with your first then why not with your second? i think you should, we all like to spoil our closest friends when they are having a baby so go for it and enjoy x

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