Do you get forgotten at Christmas?

S. - posted on 12/15/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I've spent many years in the past (I am sure like many) putting the kids first, making sure the family get what they need, my presents from my parents for years has been clothes and shoes that I need because I could never justify spending anything on me.
Well things have changed, we are not well off but we get by ok, I start buying early and finish Christmas shopping end of November beginning of December my hb work bonus now gets split so we can go buy each other gifts, he moaned today that I am so hard to buy for and I am I know it, iv gone so long not wanting anything I don't just need it's a alien feeling for me to want.

What do you get for Christmas? If anything! or do you want everything like my husband dose and are super easy to buy for?

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Around November or so I stop buying for myself. When I see something I want, I take a pic on my phone and text it to my husband. This way, by the beginning of December, he has a nice little list of things to get me.

As for surprises, jewelry is always nice. We were rather low on cash when we got engaged, so one year he had a custom ring made for me to commemorate our time together and our story. It was beautiful and meaningful, but something I never would have done for myself. I also love pretty bracelets and necklaces that he picks out with my son. Almost all of my jewelry has a sentimental meaning for me because I never buy jewelry for myself.

S. - posted on 12/17/2012

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@Jessica that's sad and reminds me of when I was with my oldest daughters dad, it only stop when I left him. at Least your babies try to maje it special those present are the best! This year I took my 4 year old to the shop so she could pick out gifts for her dad and 2 sisters, she loved it her enjoyment was a gift in its self. Merry Christmas and I hope you have a better one this year.

@peggy that sounds like a lovely idea and defiantly something I will keep in mind for the future unfortunately I have a skin condition that's really bad at the mo and I avoid hair dresses and anything were people have to look at me closely but I won't be like this for ever. And I wish a wonderful blessed Christmas to you too :)

@ A Nora Newton I do the wish book with my kids, it never crossed my mind to do it myself :)

Thank you all for your replys, merry Christmas to you all :)

Louise - posted on 12/17/2012

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My partner bought me some smellys en I've saved mine I bought my partner some smellys to cos I felt bad but he's nearly used all his already lol

Candy - posted on 12/17/2012

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Same situation; my husband and I finally decided just to go buy our own presents with a reminder to spend it only on 'ourselves. Sometimes we wrap/sometimes not and most of the time we use our items right away.

Louise - posted on 12/17/2012

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I hope u get ur kindle.
There's a difference between needing en wanting those that say they don't ask probably do but they don't always get there's nothing I want I have it all ready my family its everything to me. But there are things I ask for but its for the house always needing things for the house or kids but every one benfits from it so if there r things u want personally want en not need go out en get em ur self en tel ur partner thanx for the gift it so much easyer its what my mate does every year so she always gets exactly what she wants then

Nicole - posted on 12/17/2012

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As in other replies, you were writing this for me. Kids are done, hubby is getting something he wanted, but used from Craigslist, and me...just got a heater for the house, and a grill...not really gifts for me, but for us...I feel your pain. Only thing I could want that is not a need is a Kindle Fire HD, but needs would step in its place first if I were to buy anything. Good luck, have fun picking out what you want!

Louise - posted on 12/17/2012

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I don't ask for things unless its for the house I always put my kids en partner first en I could never ask for anything greater than what I already have en get 4 beutiful children en the wonderful gifts en pictures they make at school en wen my 4 boys en patner give me hugs en kisses en tel me they love me that's the greatest gift of all my family.

Jessica - posted on 12/17/2012

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I get the beautiful school made gifts and the cute dollar tree gifts from their holiday shop from my 4 babies. A gift from my mom and dad and the end. I have been mentally abused every year for the past 4 Christmas by my husband if that counts as a gift. Im emotionally drained

Peggy - posted on 12/17/2012

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Get yourself a mani/pedi spa style. This special day will be so relaxing for you! You could add a shampoo and deep conditiin treatment for your hair and then have your hair done in a different style. There are style books in most decent salons in which to pick a new, flattering style. if more money is available, go to a store that has a sale and buy a new outfit. You will look and feel wonderful! Its worth your time and the money will be well spent! Enjoy!

A Nora - posted on 12/17/2012

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Why don't you suggest that you each make a list of what you'd like to receive for Christmas from the other or even Birthdays. The best time to do this is right after dinner when everyone is together. A long time ago, we used catalogs, you know the Wish Book.

Francine - posted on 12/17/2012

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myself I like to get gift cards. 2 years ago my oldest son gave me a day at the spa, last year my husband got me a gift card to my favorite restaurant. It may not seem like a lot but to me it was heaven on earth. So you can always suggest gift cards and you can do the same for others as well.

Miranda - posted on 12/17/2012

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Reading your post I saw myself! My parents always get me the practical things I need because I can never justify spending money on myself throughout the year. I always spend the money we do have on the kids. This year my husband has a new and much better paying job, and I went a little overboard on the kids and husband, but totally forgot about me. I can't even think of anything I really want! I better decide quick ;-)

Ashley - posted on 12/16/2012

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our kids always come first too. but we still try to get each other something. i usually just ask for things we need. like one year, it was a new set of pots and pans. one year was a set of dishes. one year he got me a crock pot, measuring cup, and electric can opener. another year i asked for towels and wash rags. this year i asked for a new vaccuum. other than that, he knows i love to put pictures up, and i love scentsy, and candles, so he will buy me picture frames, collage frames, candles, and things from scentsy. my mom also gets me clothes every year, because i never buy myself anything. the only new clothes i get are the ones my mom gets me every year, and the only new shoes i get are a dollar pair of flip flops or slippers. i still have tennis shoes that are 10 years old. i know exactly what your talking about. that is why i just ask for things that i need, and that i know i could use on almost a daily basis.

Michelle - posted on 12/15/2012

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My husband and I don't ever truly know what to get each other for Christmas as we both want to make sure the kids get their stuff and then both of our parents. I have a tendency to go and get something that we need (eg. this year my husband needed new winter boots so that is what he is getting) then we usually get him a couple of gift cards. As for me we need new tupperware and a new grill so that is what I am getting. Neither one of us get many surprises.

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