do you let your children SIP your drinks?

Kelsey - posted on 07/09/2012 ( 84 moms have responded )

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I read an article about an Arizona mom who put beer in her child's sippy cup and a restaurant and a table of on lookers called the police and she was arrested and charged. I was just wondering what everyone thought about this. I have a 3 year old daughter and I have let her take sips of wine and beer because most children*and adults* do not like the taste. I do not however allow my child to taste sips of coolers or anything mixed with pop because it is sweet and tastes just like juice most of the time. NOTED*** IM NOT TALKING ABOUT ALLOWING MY 3 YEAR OLD TO DRINK A WHOLE GLASS AND GET DRUNK OFF IT. A SIP IS DIFFERENT FROM A "DRINK"



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Jessica - posted on 07/09/2012

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As far as I know most adults DO drink because they DO LIKE the taste of beer and wine... But no I would never let my 3 year take a sip. Even knowing she wouldn't like it what would be the point in giving her a sip?

Jennifer - posted on 07/09/2012

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I would never let my daughter have a sip of alcohol, but also I dont drink at all, my dad let me have a sip of his beer when I was three years old and there is a theory that if you give a sip to a child when there little there's a chance that they wont like it when there old enough.

Kelina - posted on 07/09/2012

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Honestly I don't see the harm in a small sip. Sure they have to put on helmets when riding their bikes, but sitting stationary on their bikes while they put their helmets on is ok. My son has tasted beer-I ripped a strip up one side and down the other off my hubby for that since he left it unattended and we had no idea how much he'd actually consumed. And for now we do tell him that it's an adult drink, and he can't have it. But when he's a little older, maybe between 5 and 7 a taste here and there won't harm him.

Zandra - posted on 07/09/2012

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There is absolutly no reason to give your child a sip of any type of Alcohol. I totally agree with what you say Alexandra Omoike!!

Alexandra - posted on 07/09/2012

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no, i never allow my children to drink alcohol and i do believe that is child abuse. I am sorry I don't want to offend you, but this is just my belief.
And I do not understand you rational: you let your 3 yr old to sip wine and beer because children and adults do not like the taste? Huh?

Irene - posted on 07/09/2012

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Sips or any type of achlol is a no no. never give your kids at any age a sip or a drink of achocol or caffiene. it will eat there insides. and hurt them. if you ever give them pop. it has to be water down. but that is only for the ages 2 and above. 1/8 7 up and the rest water is ok. but I would wait tell the child is at least 5 yrs before you give them soda straight, then they still need it watered down. better not give kids fizzy drinks for a while either, unless they our water down.
acholhol is never ok. never do it. never at any age. no body should be drinking it. it tears up your insides, caffiene does the same thing. but ahocohol is worse than caffience both hurt your body. and for kdis, it will really hurt there body. worse than adults.

Sarah - posted on 07/09/2012

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No way would I ever do this. There is a reason alcohol should only be consumed by adults. Even by that, most adults shouldn't be drinking it. You don't know how a sip could effect her. Personally, I don't drink around my kids anyways.

Stacy - posted on 07/09/2012

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I don't really see the harm in giving sips on rare occasions. When I was about 4 or 5, I saw my uncle drinking a beer from a can. I thought it was pop, so I asked for a drink. He allowed me to take a sip, knowing I wouldn't like it -- and he was right! I hated the taste and that thought was enough to get me through high school without ever drinking. My mom would allow me to have one wine cooler on occasion with her after I turned 15 or 16, but I never even had the desire to go out and drink beer with friends, or to get drunk, as I never saw the point in being drunk. I literally didn't start drinking socially until I was 21. That one little sip as a young child did me no harm; rather it helped me to avoid the peer pressure of high school adn underage drinking.

Melissa - posted on 07/09/2012

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One time when i was a toddler i picked up a glass on the table that was left unattended of scotch or something that looked to a toddler like apple juice, and took a sip, and screamed. It was never offered people weren't thinking. After that, people learned! That would be the only time i would ever think of my children ever thinking of taking a sip. My 6 year old son will not even think of taking a sip, i don't even drink very often myself, i do on the rare special occassion! I never was allowed to even have a sip until i was a teenager in my own home all except 1 time in a friends home for her 16th birthday after she was 1st diagnosed cancer free as a celebration with 4 adults in the home and the alcohol was 1 glass and stayed in the home. It was a double celebration! I don't believe anything would be right at a very young age, i believe the police being called was a very wise decission!

Melina - posted on 07/09/2012

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More than the fact that it's alcohol, children need to learn that there are some things they can't have. If they are allowed to touch or have everything they want, they'll grow up with a false sense of entitlement. Children need to learn boundaries, since once they're adults there will be things they can't have & it's never too early to learn that.

Julie - posted on 07/09/2012

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You mean Alcoholic Beverages? Ummm, NO. And my next word is, WHY? Why even give a sip? What is the point? That's right, there is none. Don't do it. Dumb Idea, I have two boys and the thought has NEVER crossed my mind.

Carol - posted on 07/09/2012

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We always allowed our children a sip. The are currently 35,33 and 31 all are grown contributing members os society. ( employed and paying taxer) none of them care to drink. Forbidding something makes it more desirable.

Shari - posted on 07/09/2012

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Johnny - while it is true that a person with a propensity to addictions may become an alcoholic later in life, it still begs the question: Why start them on that road to destruction when they are young?



The brain doesn't fully develop until approx age 18-21, so why would anybody want to rob the proper brain development of their children? The "buzz" that one feels from alcohol is what happens when the brain is being robbed of oxygen; it is a type of brain damage that the person is actually feeling.



I make my kids wear helmets when they ride their bikes to protect their noggins until they are adults. Likewise, if I know that alcohol can impair their brain development (and it does), why would I want to encourage drinking it?



When my child becomes an adult, the decision to drink, to not wear a helmet, or numerous other choices will be theirs alone - however, as a parent, I am responsible to ensure that I provide them with as much safety as I possibly can until that time.

Lori - posted on 07/09/2012

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When I was a kid, 4 or 5, my Dad used to let me have "first sip" of his beer. He would ask me to go get him a beer from the fridge and once I brought it to him he would open it and let me have the first sip and then I would go off and do whatever I had been doing before. It very seldom happened and he did it only once when I was a teen and of course I asked for "first sip". My current step-mom flipped a wig. He told her to just watch. I brought him his beer, opened it right in front of him, took a sip and then went about my business. My Dad has never been a big drinker so throughout my life this kind of thing happened only a few times. Now that I am an adult I am not big about drinking. I might have one drink a year on average, if that. I even worked in a liqueur store for 4 1/2 years. After seeing the people that are dependent on the stuff it was enough to make me really not want a drink.

Now that I have kids of my own I am undecided on how I would feel about them even sipping an adult drink before they are at least 18 - 21. I don't even want my kids to have any soda until they are at least 5. I do know that some people use a bit of alcohol on their finger to rub on a baby's gums to help sooth them when they are teething.

Christina - posted on 07/09/2012

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Hi ladies! These type of topics are interesting because it shows the differences in our cultural norms. In Germany (at least 25 yrs ago) this would not be an issue for the most part. They would give their children beer (Kinderbier) if they wanted. I would have to agree that I believe that mom made a very poor choice, especially in such a public setting, to give her child any measure of beer inside his/her sippy cup. We don't know if she gave only a little amount (without researching it) equivillant to a sip or a full cup, but still....poor choice on her part.

I completely respect those mom's whom have very legitimate concerns regarding alcoholisim running through their family, so even the idea of a sip is just not ok. I agree...why chance it. In general though, I'm not against a mom/dad giving their kids a sip of beer or wine, but hard liquor is probably too much. The Italians give wine (watered down when kids are young from my understanding) with their suppers, but there again is a cultural difference.

Personally, I might give a sip to my child, but since I don't drink much (maybe three times a year) and I don't encourage him to take a sip, it's a non-issue. I think he should be fine enough with his Cool Aid and Tang or Milk so that he doesn't need to have a sip of mommy's drink! It's bad enough that when he was smaller he would eat my food....little bugger! (haha).

Thanks for the though provoking post Kelsey! Christina

Dove - posted on 07/09/2012

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That is a good point too, Johnny. I just don't see the reasoning in giving a YOUNG child any alcohol at all (though I know you didn't advocate that). If I drank alcohol I may feel differently about offering a taste to a teenaged child, but I don't drink any so I have no clue. ;)

Johnny - posted on 07/09/2012

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An alcoholic is pretty likely to end up that way regardless of when they start drinking. My great-uncle was a terrible alcoholic despite not trying his first drink until his mid-20's. He grew up in a family that totally abstained. Whereas the vast majority of people in our extended family don't have problems with drinking, despite the fact that it is common for teenagers to be allowed small amounts on special occasions. It's our responsibility to educate, however, if a child has a serious addictive personality, it's likely that they will find something, alcohol, drugs or other things, to become dependent on.

I have a strong addiction to caffeine, physically and mentally, despite not having had my first drink of coffee until my 20's and I didn't start drinking it regularly until my late 20's. Whereas, I haven't had a drink in 6 months (trying to conceive and now pregnant) and probably won't have any for the next couple of years until I'm finished nursing. I miss a glass of fine wine to compliment a special meal, but otherwise, it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

Ciara - posted on 07/09/2012

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ok just answering ur question and changing the post to a critism of people..but yes i have given them a sip once or twice no more and as u said most kids dont lik the taste of it so if nothung else it turns them off it...

Elizabeth - posted on 07/09/2012

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No, no, no. No "sips" of any adult beverage. No beer, no wine, no wine coolers. Adult beverage means just that. Especially no to a sippy cup full of it. She should be jailed and good for the people near her that called.

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No I wouldn't, we don't even let our daughter take sips of soda. Now at 13, I could see allowing a sip after her showing interest, and using it as a way to open up a discussion on drinking. Personally then I'd pick the most disgusting drink I could find. I don't drink, alcohol freaks me out a bit. Alcoholism runs in my husband's family. His father is a recovering one, and his sister is in denial about hers.

Both my husband and myself have addictive personalities. Although we don't smoke, do drugs, or drink, we have other vices. We keep a close eye on our children because of this.

My nephew at 2.5 was offered a sip of coffee, he then started asking for a sip daily. By 3 he was addicted to caffeine. My mom and sister cut him off cold turkey. Now at 6 he doesn't look at it at all. A sip can be all it will take, especially with such a small child.

Rebecca - posted on 07/09/2012

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When my toddler asks I just tell her no, that it's an adult drink and she understands.

Shari - posted on 07/09/2012

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One thing I have seen Dove, is that there is a misconception that all alcoholics are raging drunks or binge drinkers. What makes a person an alcoholic is the dependency on it - you feel you can't cope in some form without it - whether it's having that one after work beer "to relax", that one gin & tonic at the party with friends "to fit in", or that once a month binge to "forget your troubles" - they are all forms of alcoholism. There are a lot of people that are in denial that they have a problem because they don't go into rages, don't end up in the hospital, don't "pray to the porcelain", etc, yet the very fact that they "need" that drink to unwind says it all - they have unhealthy dependency on it.

Dove - posted on 07/09/2012

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Good point Shari. There is a history of alcoholism in my family. I am grateful that I have no desire to have any alcohol whatsoever because I know the 'genetic risk' and that I have a tendency towards an 'addictive personality' already. ;)

Shari - posted on 07/09/2012

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I'm a former alcoholic, so here's my view: you are doing your child, any age, a disservice to allow them even a sip. My parents brought me up with the belief that allowing a sip at just special occasions (Christmas & Easter) could do no harm, but for me, those little sips were all it took for me to crave alcohol - the first time I got drunk I was 14. When I was 21 I finally figured out that I couldn't tolerate even one sip, as once I start, I can't stop. Since you can't know if your child might be susceptible to alcoholism, why take a chance that you might be the one to lead them on that destructive path?

Kelsey - posted on 07/09/2012

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see and thats another thing kerstin people do tend to go crazy over little things.my family is from holland and ukraine and its not uncommon to see my younger cousins having wine at dinner time with the family because its just normal to us and our grandparents

Kerstin - posted on 07/09/2012

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I've dipped my finger in the drink and let the kid have a taste of beer or wine. I think we've gone a little cookoo over the top freaking out about stuff like this in our culture, and I think the taboo of it is why our teenagers are some the worst binge drinkers in the world. A tiny taste does ZERO to them. The processed food all the "no way!" people are probably feeding their kids is way worse for their little bodies.

Katy - posted on 07/09/2012

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My husband let our 4 year old have a sip of red wine once (at home of course) and I was surprised. He hasn't done it since, but we just tell our kids they are grown up drinks. I grew up in a household that always had beer so I have no problem with a taste. I would never ever give more than that and especially not in public.

Rebecca - posted on 07/09/2012

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no. I tell my 6 year old they are adult drinks....when he is old enough, he can try them.

Johnny - posted on 07/09/2012

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No, I don't. My daughter is almost 4 and I see no need for her to have alcohol at all. I will allow my post-puberty child to have small amounts of a special drink (like a bit of wine etc.) on a special occasion if they demonstrate maturity and responsibility. Same family rules as when I was growing up. My daughter knows that booze isn't good for babies and children and I certainly would not want her thinking any differently.

Elfrieda - posted on 07/09/2012

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My husband gave our 2 year old a sip of his beer so that he would realize that he doesn't like it and stop asking, but he liked it. :/ So now we just say, "No, that's my drink, it's yucky for boys."

Krista - posted on 07/09/2012

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I don't give my kids sips, but I don't judge a parent if they let their kid have ONE tiny taste.

But the mother who put beer in the kid's sippy cup? She fully deserved to be charged. That's enough alcohol to cause SERIOUS damage to a small child.

Dove - posted on 07/09/2012

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Just answering the topic question... yes, of course I do. Of course, I also never drink anything with alcohol in it and if I DID... they wouldn't be sipping

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/09/2012

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Nope. Their bodies are so little, I would not want it effecting them adversely, including getting them drunk. Absolutely not.

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