do you thibk a child should have a Bday party for every Bday?

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Jodi - posted on 11/05/2009

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We have something for our kids each year to celebrate, but that doesn't mean we do a big birthday party for them. Sometimes we send little cakes to school, and they do a little party in class, and we then have a full birthday cake at home with the family. My son is now 12, and he doesn't have a birthday party, but had a couple of friends over for pizza and a movie on the closest weekend, and a birthday cake with the family on his actual birthday.

Personally, I don't understand people who invite the whole class to a circus in the backyard every year. It really isn't necessary. You don't have to have a big party every year. You can choose different things to help them celebrate their birthday and they will be happy, as long as it is special for them in some way.

Hilda - posted on 11/05/2009

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i beleive that every child shoul get a cake on thier b-days, but they should have a b-day party on thier milestones such as 1,5,10,15.or 16 18 ,21

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I think it's fine to have a party for every birthday, as long as you keep it small and budget friendly. They don't need a huge bash with tons of people, just a few friends/family to celebrate.

Sandi - posted on 11/05/2009

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Well, yes of course, but within reason - my twins have been invited to soooo many parties at bounce houses and movie theatres and this and that - they are only 6, there's no reason to go to a huge expense. When we had our house, we had this blow up pool that was like 2 feet deep. We would invite their friends over and let them splash in the pool and feed them a hot dog. My kids said they had more fun doing that than going to the bounce house. So, yes, a party for every birthday, but it doesn't have to be big or elaborate or expensive. It can just be a few friends and/or family, a bag of chips and a cake. Turn them loose to play in the kids room and poof! Instant party!

Katie - posted on 11/05/2009

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i would have to say that i think they should have a bday party..it dont need to be no big fancy party...maybe just invite a few people over and bake a cake instead of buying one..things like that..make it less costly...i know they can become very costly but its nice to show them pics when they get older and show them every bday party...but then again there isnt much to do when the babys are infants so just maybe have a party for them every other year and the years that you dont have a party just bake them a cake and take lots of pictures..also you could take them to chuckee cheeses or something like that when you dont have a party..but do take lots of pics so u and your kids will remember the joys they had when they were younger :)

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Christi - posted on 02/14/2011

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My sister and I always did. We didn't have huge ones, usually just a sleep over with pizza, lol. But we got big one for big bdays.

Emma - posted on 02/14/2011

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While they are young i think they should have a birthday party every year with friends and family. But when they are older having a birthday party that includes friends should be every second year. For example: One yr with friends and family and the next just family. But still making them feel special on their birthday. And in a way you are still celebrating their birthday when its just family but just on a smaller scale then when friends are included. =)

Carolyn - posted on 11/16/2009

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I celebrate my boys birthdays every year. I have tried to have just family parties and have done the big birthday with friends. Our school system has a rule that you can not invite people at school unless you are inviting the whole class. This has become a competition for who can have the biggest and best party. I started telling my boys that they can only invite a few friends for a smaller party. It has worked to our benefit, especially since the bigger parties always turned into some kind of disaster.

Lynda - posted on 11/14/2009

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Nope. We have a family party each year, and we do a special dinner with just our immediate family on the actual birthday, but we don't do kid parties, except on milestones like 13, 16 & 18. Our kids have no problem with this. It keeps the milestone parties very special. I get tired of buying gifts for kids who have a "friends" party every single year because even the smallest of gifts can become an unnecessary expense. My kids know they're loved every day and don't require a big blow-out to boost their self-esteem. The family parties seem to be their favorites, even on the yearss where they have the choice.

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We rarely had parties as kids and I'm not damaged in any way from that. My daughter didn't have a "party" as such until she started at pre-school but we have always had a cake and made sure there was something special happening to make the day special. I don't believe a child needs the traditional party every year but the day day does need to be made special in some way.

Joanna - posted on 11/13/2009

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of course, up until a certain age. I had a birthday party every year until I was 10, and then I got to choose what I wanted to do every year after that. One year I took a friend to the movies and then to dinner. one year I had 3 girls over for a sleepover. One year me and 2 friends went to the skating rink.

Bambi - posted on 11/13/2009

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my son is now 14 and is not into parties. however when he was about 7 he wanted everything, party, sleepover, games...you name it. i gave him a choice....a party with one special gift or he could have dinner with his dad and i and have 2 friends stay the night and gifts....he chose dinner and we have done it ever since. i think it depends on the child. some don't like a lot of people around and others do...it also depends on budget. if your child is old enough give them a choice it will let them feel like they are making the decision and more involved in their own birthday. just because you don't have a party doesn't mean you can't celebrate. i hope this helps! =)

Charlie - posted on 11/13/2009

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Yes i think so , a birthday is a day of celebration , to celebrate their life and the day they were born personally i think that's the most important celebration in my book.

LISA - posted on 11/13/2009

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yes... birthdays are like when someone brings you flowers for a child... they feel special and get to see the celebration of being given their life... and your excitement to have them in yours... children don't get to experience their first day of life and how everyone drones on them... it's like celebrating how far they have come and their achievements .

Cydney - posted on 11/13/2009

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Every Bday should be special. We do about 3 fun parties per kid in their youth. On other years they can have a couple friends sleep over, go on a special date.... Our family is an active crew in itself.

Noreen - posted on 11/08/2009

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Randale, I have for children and six grandchildren. We celebrated everything in our house. Birthday parties don't need to be expensive. We never had a party anywhere but at home and they were always fun. We travel when we can to be with the grandchildren on their birthdays too. Nothings better than seeing eyes widen when you walk in with candles lit on a birthday cake!

Deborah (Deb) - posted on 11/08/2009

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How do you define 'party"? We acknowledge each of our childrens birthdays every year with afternoon tea at home for friends and family with birthday cake etc, but only have organised parties eg bowling, ice skating etc for milestone birthdays.

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I have 4 children and each year they always have a family party which is really just having grandparents and cousins over for dinner with a cake. Occassionally they are allowed a friend over to join the family dinner. Then every 3 years they can have a birthday party with friends from school etc. (I have twins so they celebrate together hence every 3 years). So it works that I only pay for 1 party a year. Childrens birthdays should be celebrated every year but that doesn't mean they need a party every year. Unfortunately children stop appreciating the specialness of a 'party' and begin to take them for granted. It can also be difficult for some parents not to be caught up with rivalry of whose had the biggest/best/or most expensive parties and find themselves spending rediculous sums of money just to keep up with their kids friends. Draw a line and a budget. There are plenty of ways to make the birthday child feel special for the day without yearly kids parties. ie. they get to choose their favourite cereal for the week (one they normally can't have!). Let them sit at the head of the table. Make their favourite meal. Make a treasure hunt for their birthday present.......you will only be limited by your imagination. Good luck!!! ;-)

Krista - posted on 11/07/2009

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I have a lot of kids and bday parties are expensive but we always have some kind of party for them. If there's a lot going on with us or if its a date that not very many of their friends can come then we will sometimes have a party with just family but we always do something... Always a cake and presents for sure! I have taken them and a friend to the movies for their bday or we've gone somewhere they wanted to go, a trip...sometimes out to dinner... You know, you may not alway be able to or want to have the huge party with lots of kids and big water slides and stuff but you can always mark the day with some kind of excitement. And My kids dont always want to have the big kid party. Just be creative and you will be able to find some way to make the day special for your kids. Good luck!!

Susan - posted on 11/07/2009

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Yes. But I do not think you have to BUY one every year in some expensive place. Just bake a real cake (pineapple upside down is easy and practically foolproof, and some recipes don't even require eggs, in case you are out) and have a few people over. Sing happy birthday and blow out the candles. Honor the child- let's em know you are still glad you gave birth to them, but don't feel the need to break the bank. Or if you've got a little more money than time, go out for a birthday dinner at a restaurant and invite one or two of his friends. Good luck!

Jill - posted on 11/05/2009

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I have a party every year for my children's birthday with friend's and family. Your only a kid once and as you get older it become's just another day.

Angie - posted on 11/05/2009

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Mine didn't. We have a family dinner with cake & ice cream and gift opening and that's it. Each of my 3 children have had 1 real birthday party and I don't think they feel deprived.

Firebird - posted on 11/05/2009

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For the first 4 birthdays my daughter had we didn't do much.... cake, relatives, presents. But not an actual party really. For the rest of her birthdays though, I will definitely be throwing parties for her. I grew up with 2 siblings and all three of us had birthday parties every year.

Brandy - posted on 11/05/2009

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Yes! No matter how big or small, it should be their special day! It's the little things that count. Maybe you couldn't afford to feed 20 people, but at least you spent some extra time personalizing the cake. Don't you remember getting excited for your birthday every year? It makes them feel good to have a day dedicated to them, especially if you run a busy life where you don't get the opportunity to spend a whole day with your child.

Betsy - posted on 11/05/2009

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We have 5 kids aged 2-19, and we love doing parties for each every year. Once they become older teens, they tend to prefer other things (outing, dinner, etc), but we enjoy celebrating with parties and like to celebrate any child's birthday. They only have so many birthdays as children, and trust me those yrs go by fast, so I wouldn't want to miss those memories by skipping those special days.

Jolene - posted on 11/05/2009

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Oh I give them family ones with cake and ice cream. They get to pick what they want for breakfast in bed and for family dinner that night, but I only give friend parties as I mentioned above.

Jolene - posted on 11/05/2009

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NOPE! I give my children birthday parties only at 4, 8, 12, & 16.
As a parent I get tired of the birthday invites to the same children year after year. It gets expensive for parents especially parents who have more then one child.

Casey - posted on 11/05/2009

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Oh Definetly!!! Birthdays are YOUR special day. No one elses, thats the day you were born and being a Mom thats one of the best days ever. So yes celebrate away!

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A party every year!!! Make their day special even if you can't afford a lavish party. Just invite family, make a cake, and celebrate their birth! They won't remember all of them, but they will feel the love.

Renee - posted on 11/05/2009

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Yes Yes Yes!!!!!!! I have two children and we make a HUGE deal of their birthday. The saturday closest to their birthday we have a party where we invite family our freinds and theirs. Then on their actuall day we plan a day all about them. We celebtared my daughters bday this past month the day of we attended church since it was sunday and like we do every year we invited our family to join us for bday lunch. After that we headed to the bowling alley for a few games. We came home carved pumpkins and then spent the rest of the evening in our pj in my and my husbands bed eating junk and watching movies. the following sat. (Halloween) we had a costume party before trick or treating. We didnt really spend that much money and really i dont think that should be an issue. We dont make that much as I am caring for my grandmother so we did what we could. Don't feel the need to do it all but yes celebrate with family and freinds every year no matter what you never know what tomorrow may bring

RANDALE - posted on 11/05/2009

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well my 11 yr. old jut wanted a cellphone and no party bc she undrstands that weecan't aford it right now but this is the1st year and hopeully the last that we weren't able to have her a party. By the way the cellphone was about the price a bday party would cost

Rits - posted on 11/05/2009

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Of course, so after the years have passed you show your child pictures and all the happiness of that special day!

Amanda - posted on 11/05/2009

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AS A MOTHER OF 3..2 BOYS AND 1 GIRL..AS DO THINGS GET VERY EXPENSIVE.I DO CELEBRATE WITH A BIRTHDAY PARTY EVERY YEAR.IT IS THEIR DAY AND THEY ONLY STAY LITTLE FOR A SHORT TIME...BUT EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT AND IF YOU CHOOSE TO ONLY HAVE A PARTY AT CERTAIN TIMES THAT WOULD BE UP TO YOU.AS LONG AS YOUR CHILD KNOWS THAT YOU LOVE THEM AND THAT NO MATTER HOW MANY PARTIES THEY HAVE YOU ARE ALWAYS THERE FOR THEM AND WILL BE EVERYTHING YOU CAN BE AND DO WHAT IS RIGHT AND BEST FOR THEM,THEY WILL BE JUST AS HAPPY AS ANY OTHER CHILD...

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Absolutely! Their birthdays only come once a year. I only invite my family but since it's huge, that's enough for me. Maybe when he's older he'd prefer to have friends from school instead.

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We have family parties every year for our kids. Our oldest said next year she wants a party for her friends too, so we will be throwing one (she will be 8 next year). I figure we don't need friend parties until they're old enough to ask for one (they do have parties at their daycare, and I consider that their friend party since we don't know any other kids their age).

Taryn - posted on 11/05/2009

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I have never heard of a child not having a party every year. I had a huge party every year and so do my kids. I am not well off but I know what to spend my money on..my kids ofcourse and their memories.

Claudia - posted on 11/05/2009

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yes. We have a party for our kids every year. It's only one day a year and it makes them feel special.

Sharon - posted on 11/05/2009

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Yes.

We celebrate our childrens' births every year with a party of their friends and our family.

Cristi - posted on 11/05/2009

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Absolutly! Celebrating a day that is just about them and how important they are lets them know they matter and gives them confidence and self esteem. Plus it gives the parent a chance to celebrate the beautiful child they were blessed with.

Zoe - posted on 11/05/2009

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because i have 2 children i give them a milestone bday. their 1st 10th 16th 18th and 21st. because things can cost alot. but i tend to make every year as special as possible i do have little tea parties for them every other year where they get to invite 2 friends home for a special tea and they still get their pressies too.

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