DO YOU THINK HAVING A NICK NAME FOR YOUR CHILD IS WRONG OR RIGHT?

Joan - posted on 05/06/2009 ( 139 moms have responded )

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ME AND MY HUSBAND HAS NICK NAMES FOR OUR CHILDEREN... OUR SON WE CALL HIM CHUCK CHUCK AND OUR LIL GIRL WE CALL HER LITTLE BIT.... SOME FAMILY MEMBERS THINKS IT'S NOT RIGHT.

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Kate CP - posted on 05/08/2009

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Oh, good grief. I call my girl Sam, Sammy, Monkey, Munchkin. I think as long as you're not calling them Butt head then nick names are fine.

Stephanie - posted on 05/08/2009

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I also give my boys nicknames and I think it's absolutely fine! I think it's an affectionate and very private way to call your children. Don't feel pressurised by others as long as it feels right for you and your children like their nicknames.

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Rabecca - posted on 05/08/2009

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my 8 year olds son name is Caidyn Gage I have called him so many things from cadder tot, cadder gage, gager,cade, sweet pea you name it my father calls him butch thats only allowed by his popa no one else I think it just makes a special connection for them

Jana - posted on 05/08/2009

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We have nicknames for our three sons...at times..more than one! lol I don't think there is anything wrong with it. My sons answer to them all! lol. Bubba, Crazy, Big D, Boog Boog...(it goes on..lol) Why does it bother your family members so much?

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My son has a list of nicknams but I use Bub or Buddy or Boo most. When I was little my mom just called me 'W', not very creative but she still uses it to this day. My husband's father nicknmaed him Beauf (not sure where it came from), everyone called my hubby Beauf and he still answers to it.

Amanda - posted on 05/08/2009

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All my children have nicknames, my son did go through a stage of asking not to be called them but he grew out of that fast. My family were just joking about this yesterday, cause my 10 month old has a ton of nicknames, everyone calls her something different and it is truely amazing she responds to all of them.

Carol - posted on 05/08/2009

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both my children have nicknames and they r used all the time and now they are older they know not to talk to anyone who doesn't know there real names.

Heather - posted on 05/08/2009

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I use so many nicknames that I joke that it is amazing that our 6 year old ever learned her name. (Which she did know early on.) I think nicknames that aren't hurtful ones are really all about love. People who don't like nicknames can always feel free to use their "proper" names. I go right on calling Megan...Meg, Mega, Mega moo, Moo moo, Baby, Baby boo...

Kelly - posted on 05/08/2009

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no, i think its fine, i have 3 children the eldest kelsey i used to call her bean ?? lol alfie's nick name is freedo and baby georges nick name is gummy bear xx

Lisa - posted on 05/08/2009

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Its a great idea! If you came up with it, its a special bond that you and you alone can have. My son has been called "pumbaa" (from the lion king... long story) from 2 days old and now has family and friends calling it as well. Pick your time and place when older but it wont hurt, its just another special memory!!!

Melody - posted on 05/07/2009

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I think they are cute. My little boy has a few different ones depending on the person. I dont think they are at all a bad thing. It makes them feel loved and special.

Rachel - posted on 05/07/2009

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My husband always has nicknames for the kids and even the pets. The kids love it especially our youngest.

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Actually Rayna,,,I had the nickname Tilly as a child from my grandad and you are right...it does still make me feel special! He has been dead 27 years....but I am still his Tilly Flop!

Rayna - posted on 05/07/2009

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I like them. I had one and so did my husband. It's endearing and I agree that it makes the child feel special (eventually).

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My little man Bek is called Boo.....Bekedy Boo.... He loves it at the right time....he's only 5...so maybe NOT call him it when he brings his first gf home lol

Morag - posted on 05/07/2009

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??? :/
My eldest has asked me to stop calling her by her nickname so I have but my youngest is still lilmiss. :) If and When she says no more, I won't call her by that name anymore.

I can't remember the culture it came from, but there was this myth that nicknames should only be used after dark. Dark spirits watched children play in the day, and when it got dark they'd try and entice the children from their beds by calling their names in their mothers voice, but the children never responded because they knew their mothers would call them by their special names after dark... silly I know, but I always loved the ideology behind nicknames :)

Tamara - posted on 05/07/2009

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I think it's a personal family choice---as long as it's not demeaning in any way. Most childhood nicknames are expressions of affection. So long as you don't embarrass your kids by calling them by some childish nickname that they've outgrown or don't want to be called (or at least not in public) anymore--then it's fine. My son is sweet pea or tiger and my daughter is sugar plum or princess or pumpkin....and there have been no ill effects. My parents had nicknames for all of us: Punkin (that's me), hot dog, honey bunny or bug, JP $%^%& ( I won't put the rest as it might embarrass my baby brother who just became a daddy for the first time!! That part dropped off eventually anyway and got shortened to just JP--which is funny because the P has no relation to his middle name which has given my mother pause on occasion trying to remember what the P stands for--ha ha) Anyway, point being, we all lived to become healthy productive members of society with no ill effects for the nicknaming. The only time it has been crucial to us is when our son was born and he was named William after his great-grandpa and we were very specific up front with everyone that under no circumstances, at any time, in any way shape or form was he EVER to be called Bill. If they felt it necessary to shorten his name, the appropriate and approved form would be Will....and some of them do call him that. So if it is anything like that where there is a short form of a common name that you do want used, I'd recommend just being very up front and assertive about it as we were. It seems to have worked.

Tonia - posted on 05/07/2009

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I agree that it makes them feel special. My dad used to call me Stump because I was so short as a child, it was probably the closest he came to telling me he loved me back then. I've called my dd Boog from the day I got my BFP and it's stuck. She smiles at it now, though she may not like it when she's a teen. LOL.

Heidi - posted on 05/07/2009

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I think nick names are completely harmless. At a young age the kids love it and as they get older they tend to rather be called by there real names. My boys have nick names.

Donna - posted on 05/06/2009

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I think it is fine, my 3 female cousins were called, Cyril, George and Arthur and the male was called Nancy, they are all fine, its harmless I suppose depending on the name

Lindsey - posted on 05/06/2009

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I completely agree with April.. I call my little girl Moo-mee. I don't know why I started calling her that but it's like a special thing I have for her.

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LOL yeah my older children when they went to school told their teacher their brother was named Little....but they know understand the situation being older.

Carly - posted on 05/06/2009

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We call our daugher goose. As an infant I worried she wouldn't know her name but that didn't happen.

Antoinette - posted on 05/06/2009

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I have no issues with nick names...my son's name is Bowdy and my mom loves to call him her little Bo-Bo. When i was yonuger everyone called me Toni for short but my family called me toot-toot.



Personally I think it is the parents choice. weather someone else likes it or not, too bad for them it is YOUR choice as a parent!



My questions is how do the children respond? do they like it? if they like it why not do it then....also I think that if children have nick names they have a sence of being "extra" special. hope this helps. Best wishes.

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My second son has the same name as his father- arent we mean- we call him Little- when he gets older we are thinking to call him FJ so as not to confuse him with Dad.I call my daughter "Blossom" all the time. Her name is Grace- sometimes to get her attention we call her Gracie- I also call her "sweetness" when she is being so. I think it is just another way of showing affection?

Maleasha - posted on 05/06/2009

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I think nicknames are great! We call our daughter bug and for our son we use tank. My dad also calls my son turbo.

Lurleen - posted on 05/06/2009

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I think it's fine also my son I call TT for Tanner and Kizzy for my daughter.. They might be jealous because they don't have one... :)
Lurleen in Minnesota

Starla - posted on 05/06/2009

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I dont think nicknames are bad I have to say that I dont think I ever gave one to my son, but my daughter is Tay Tay. There was a time thats all we called her then she got to a point where she didn't want to be called that. She is back to being called it by some but shes fine with it, I call her my Chickie Girl.

Kirstin - posted on 05/06/2009

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My sons nickname is Gouba no idea how or why he got it, but grandad played a big part in it. lol my daughters name it lawrenique so people dont tend to say her full name there for her aunty and unlce came up with squeak as she is a rather loud squealy baby hehe

Amy - posted on 05/06/2009

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Why not? My 15 month old has been half pint, lil bit, bug, munchkin, and a host of other nicknames. As long as they are loving and aren't hurtful (fatso, chubbie, dumbo) they are just how you express how special they are to you!

User - posted on 05/06/2009

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I think it depends on the nickname - it has to be something that can easily follow the child into late childhood and teenage years without embarrassment. Case in point: my parents had nicknames for me and my two siblings - my youngest sibling is 22 and we STILL use her nickname!

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